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One of my friends has "conversations" with food. She looks at something and says, "I like you, but do you like me?" If it's not good for her, she treats it that way--as an enemy to be avoided. It doesn't matter if you like cupcakes, say, do they like you? No . . . no, they don't.
I'll admit that I'm still in the process of retraining my habits. I have eaten all kinds of things that I shouldn't--but I do know I feel better when I eat correctly. That's something to remember all the time.

The first month after surgery just sucks, except for all the weight loss. That part is good. But trust me . . . it does get better. Slowly.
If you are going to have something a bit past your current liquid phase, make sure it's soft, like eggs or cottage cheese or yogurt. I would definitely not advise a Protein Bar or anything similarly solid, no matter how you break it up or chew it.

One of my friends has "conversations" with food. She looks at something and says, "I like you, but do you like me?" If it's not good for her, she treats it that way--as an enemy to be avoided. It doesn't matter if you like cupcakes, say, do they like you? No . . . no, they don't.
I'll admit that I'm still in the process of retraining my habits. I have eaten all kinds of things that I shouldn't--but I do know I feel better when I eat correctly. That's something to remember all the time.

Here I am, still over 300 (I think: I don't have a scale at the moment). But I was 302 when last I weighed myself, and I've been doing some adjustments on what to eat where I am now (living in a motel without a proper kitchen--I started with a microwave, but have added a toaster-oven, an electric kettle, and a crock pot!).
I don't know if I'm losing more slowly than some other people because of my starting weight, my age/being post-menopausal, my diabetes, or the incorrect choices I've made. I don't spend a lot of time comparing myself with others--this is my journey and it's all about me, me, me!
I'm happy about what I've lost so far, but I'd certainly like to lose at least as much again. I'd like to really see a difference--I sometimes see myself in mirrors and think yeah, maybe there's some difference . . . but it hardly seems remarkable to me. I've thrown away four or five pairs of pants that seemed very loose and stretched out at the waistline, but I don't really think I've gone down more than one size, maybe. I've ordered three new pairs of pants, the first new clothes since my surgery nearly eight months ago. Will they be the right size? I should find out tomorrow.
One thing that is a bit discouraging is to see people who have lost about the same amount of weight as I have who are now only 20 or 30 pounds from their goals. I wonder what that is like? On the other hand, I'm not married to my goal--not the one in terms of numbers. My goals are more in terms of cutting medications and having my knees stop hurting (or be able to get them replaced, if that's the only option) and maybe, someday, being able to sit in an airplane seat and be relatively comfortable.
All that aside--am I glad I had this surgery? Hell, yes!

Here I am, still over 300 (I think: I don't have a scale at the moment). But I was 302 when last I weighed myself, and I've been doing some adjustments on what to eat where I am now (living in a motel without a proper kitchen--I started with a microwave, but have added a toaster-oven, an electric kettle, and a crock pot!).
I don't know if I'm losing more slowly than some other people because of my starting weight, my age/being post-menopausal, my diabetes, or the incorrect choices I've made. I don't spend a lot of time comparing myself with others--this is my journey and it's all about me, me, me!
I'm happy about what I've lost so far, but I'd certainly like to lose at least as much again. I'd like to really see a difference--I sometimes see myself in mirrors and think yeah, maybe there's some difference . . . but it hardly seems remarkable to me. I've thrown away four or five pairs of pants that seemed very loose and stretched out at the waistline, but I don't really think I've gone down more than one size, maybe. I've ordered three new pairs of pants, the first new clothes since my surgery nearly eight months ago. Will they be the right size? I should find out tomorrow.
One thing that is a bit discouraging is to see people who have lost about the same amount of weight as I have who are now only 20 or 30 pounds from their goals. I wonder what that is like? On the other hand, I'm not married to my goal--not the one in terms of numbers. My goals are more in terms of cutting medications and having my knees stop hurting (or be able to get them replaced, if that's the only option) and maybe, someday, being able to sit in an airplane seat and be relatively comfortable.
All that aside--am I glad I had this surgery? Hell, yes!

You look amazing! Well done!
Toomanytacos, I know how you feel--I've lost less than many other people on here. I know some of the reasons (it's been a rough eight months or so in ways having nothing to do with the surgery), but I just keep thinking about what I can do to change my eating habits and get *some* exercise going forward. This is a marathon, not a sprint, as the saying goes. The real goal is to make sure you maintain your losses long-term, not that you lose super quickly now.

You may not be be able to kick him to the kerb yet, but are you able to be assertive as in "you want breakfast? The eggs and bacon are in the fridge, the frying pay is on the stove, I'll leave you to it while I walk and feed the food, then I am off for my shower."

If it's liquid, it'll basically go through you. Once you start regular food, you'll find you feel full very quickly--but you mostly won't feel full until then.

My Hisband doesn’t want me to have the surgery either, but like I told him I’m doing this for me, my health and my family (including him). I have 4 grandchildren and I want to do whatever I can to be around to be their GeeGee! Now I told him I love you but I love me too!! Believe me I have always been the person who just goes with the flow and not rock the boat to cause an argument, but over the last few years I have found my voice and I’m gonna use it to take care of me!! Good luck to you!!

Might be the time to find an acceptable agnostic if the christians are failing to appear! :-)

I'm not sure how long ago you had your child, but your hormones could certainly still be affecting your ability to lose, I'd guess. (*I am not a medical professional of any kind.*)
I'd suggest maybe changing your routine to see if that works--do a week or two of Protein Shakes for two meals and a lean and green meal for the third just to see if that makes a difference.

Frustr8, I hear you loud and clear. I've recently been "chatting" with quite a few guys on a dating website. It has taken me a long, long time to get to the point where I can just say what I want and wait for someone who is worthy of me (!!) to answer or to step up to the plate. A guy I had a lunch date with today emailed me this morning that he couldn't make it, "too much going on." Really? He's the one who picked the time. Next!!
Another guy wanted to come to my motel room (where I'm currently living, waiting for an apartment to become available) with some wine or beer, even after I told him I don't drink. I've made it clear that I'll meet someone for lunch, but I'm not inviting someone I've never met into my room! And so it goes--I won't give out my phone number (too many scammers out there) and I won't join Hangouts or whatever the latest online chat thing is.
I'll protect myself as much as necessary, and the right guy will understand that. This isn't rocket science: say you want to meet and show up. We can go from there . . . if you seem compatible.
Good luck to all on this journey. I bought new clothes for the first time since my surgery and I think I could have bought a size smaller. Woo hoo!

We should keep this thread going! I like the idea of being able to support each other and see if there are any trends, ect.
Thanks Frust for putting it together!

Here I am, still over 300 (I think: I don't have a scale at the moment). But I was 302 when last I weighed myself, and I've been doing some adjustments on what to eat where I am now (living in a motel without a proper kitchen--I started with a microwave, but have added a toaster-oven, an electric kettle, and a crock pot!).
I don't know if I'm losing more slowly than some other people because of my starting weight, my age/being post-menopausal, my diabetes, or the incorrect choices I've made. I don't spend a lot of time comparing myself with others--this is my journey and it's all about me, me, me!
I'm happy about what I've lost so far, but I'd certainly like to lose at least as much again. I'd like to really see a difference--I sometimes see myself in mirrors and think yeah, maybe there's some difference . . . but it hardly seems remarkable to me. I've thrown away four or five pairs of pants that seemed very loose and stretched out at the waistline, but I don't really think I've gone down more than one size, maybe. I've ordered three new pairs of pants, the first new clothes since my surgery nearly eight months ago. Will they be the right size? I should find out tomorrow.
One thing that is a bit discouraging is to see people who have lost about the same amount of weight as I have who are now only 20 or 30 pounds from their goals. I wonder what that is like? On the other hand, I'm not married to my goal--not the one in terms of numbers. My goals are more in terms of cutting medications and having my knees stop hurting (or be able to get them replaced, if that's the only option) and maybe, someday, being able to sit in an airplane seat and be relatively comfortable.
All that aside--am I glad I had this surgery? Hell, yes!

One issue is that you won't feel full on liquids, even with the much smaller stomach--liquids still mostly just go through you. You will notice a much greater feeling of fullness when you are eating solid food again.

I have put a goal weight of 140 but I'm not terribly convinced I'm going to get there. I change my mind from time to time about what would be acceptable--I'm not that crazy about the massive skin sagging and wrinkling, but I am happy that I can occasionally glimpse my collarbone for the first time in decades.
I'd really like to have my diabetes go into remission instead of simply taking less medication (which I am now, and which is great, but . . .). I'd like my knees not to hurt horribly, which they do when the cortisone shots wear off, which has taken longer last time than previously. Accident or weight loss? Don't know.
But numbers are just a fantasy game in a way . . . I'm currently just trying to get under 300. Then I'll see if I can get to, say, 250. If I get there, then I'll focus on getting under 200. I can't even imagine what I'd look like. I have no idea what size clothes I'd wear. So I'm kind of open to re-evaluating along the way, rather than shooting for a number that kind of seems ludicrously out of reach now.
Bottom line, I'm still working on changing my eating habits for the next however many years there are. I kind of think I'm getting that figured out, surprisingly.

I have put a goal weight of 140 but I'm not terribly convinced I'm going to get there. I change my mind from time to time about what would be acceptable--I'm not that crazy about the massive skin sagging and wrinkling, but I am happy that I can occasionally glimpse my collarbone for the first time in decades.
I'd really like to have my diabetes go into remission instead of simply taking less medication (which I am now, and which is great, but . . .). I'd like my knees not to hurt horribly, which they do when the cortisone shots wear off, which has taken longer last time than previously. Accident or weight loss? Don't know.
But numbers are just a fantasy game in a way . . . I'm currently just trying to get under 300. Then I'll see if I can get to, say, 250. If I get there, then I'll focus on getting under 200. I can't even imagine what I'd look like. I have no idea what size clothes I'd wear. So I'm kind of open to re-evaluating along the way, rather than shooting for a number that kind of seems ludicrously out of reach now.
Bottom line, I'm still working on changing my eating habits for the next however many years there are. I kind of think I'm getting that figured out, surprisingly.

I have put a goal weight of 140 but I'm not terribly convinced I'm going to get there. I change my mind from time to time about what would be acceptable--I'm not that crazy about the massive skin sagging and wrinkling, but I am happy that I can occasionally glimpse my collarbone for the first time in decades.
I'd really like to have my diabetes go into remission instead of simply taking less medication (which I am now, and which is great, but . . .). I'd like my knees not to hurt horribly, which they do when the cortisone shots wear off, which has taken longer last time than previously. Accident or weight loss? Don't know.
But numbers are just a fantasy game in a way . . . I'm currently just trying to get under 300. Then I'll see if I can get to, say, 250. If I get there, then I'll focus on getting under 200. I can't even imagine what I'd look like. I have no idea what size clothes I'd wear. So I'm kind of open to re-evaluating along the way, rather than shooting for a number that kind of seems ludicrously out of reach now.
Bottom line, I'm still working on changing my eating habits for the next however many years there are. I kind of think I'm getting that figured out, surprisingly.

It's the totally normal 3rd week stall a bit early. If you do a search, you can find around 10,356 posts about it. Seems around 98% of us experience it. There's a science-y explaination for it, but in laymens terms it's just our bodies taking a break from the initial large losses. You'll continue to lose once it passes, I promise. It also won't be your last stall

Well my acceptable weight<200lbs
At 195(and 21) maybe legally,obese but I looked so fine
plenty guys chasing me all,the time
If not six-pack abs -only a tiny keg
a 2 handful backside, go-on- forever legs
Still small enough to be swept up in a guys arms
Sweet as honeycomb were my charms
Might not be able to return to those days
But willing to give it a shot anyway
Perhaps when I get down to that size
I'll have still enough charm to catch the right guy's eye.
Well dang it, I'm giving it the ole📣 college try!!!😝👍😛

Let me just say that if you overeat a couple of times, you'll decide to stop when you're full after that! I don't crave more of something when I'm full, and I get full a lot sooner than I used to. But a couple of times I've eaten too much (or drank coffee with my Breakfast because I was out at a restaurant, say), and I regretted it for an hour or two afterward. Not doing that again if I can help it!
But you can eat things you like and you'll be satisfied with less of them, that's all. If, eventually, you can eat more and more, you'll have to make some decisions about how much you want to eat and what foods you want to make a regular part of your diet.

That is precisely what my surgeon told me to do at my first follow-up--not worry about weighing myself. I chose to do so, but I'm pretty good at rolling with the stalls and so on. I'm currently living in a situation without a scale, and I'm not happy about that, but I know I can buy one if I really feel the need. I like to keep myself in check--but I salute you, because if you know you are following the rules and you see the sizes going down, you KNOW you are losing weight. If that's the case, does the number matter that much? You go!

Are you still pre-op? If so, a glass of wine probably won't hurt. If you are actually post-op, I'm not sure how long you should wait--your information from the bariatric practice may say, but you are no doubt aware that it may affect you more than before, right? Besides being empty calories . . .

Hey! I’m on holiday! Just took some long haul flights from Australia to USA. Losing weight is like giving yourself a free flight upgrade! No seat belt extender, extra room, not having your butt wedged against the arm rest. So much more comfortable! I could have wept with happiness!

The other weird thing is, I went from looking very much like my youngest brother (who is overweight but not obese) and not at all like my older brother (who runs marathons) to nothing at all like the younger brother and very much like the older one. We're not twins or anything but we have a strong family resemblance now.