ElleJ

Yeah, I'm scheduled for October 26th. I have started getting everything I need together but I'm not really nervous, just ready!☺ Sent from my SM-T350 using the BariatricPal App

I start my pre op diet on Oct 12th. Going shopping for everything this weekend... I'm so excited!
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October 26!
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@@Jess31581 my first day trying all liquids was so hard and I ended up having a salad for dinner. I usually do one shake and one Protein bar per day. Some days all liquids and then a solid dinner. Went from 226 to 207 since the end of July
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Mine is October 26th!
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Will let you guys know how I get on after surgery
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I'm October 25, 2016 and excited for revision from band to sleeve.
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October 26th and so ready!!! ????
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20 days til surgery!! Eekk. Excited and nervous all at once. Start pre-op diet next week
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Oct 4 here so excited preop diet it's going well I am excited to start my new life good luck all
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Everyone else has made great points, particularly that *you* seem very clear on what has to take priority (YOU) and whose turn it is (YOURS) and that this is a big deal. I understand the insecurities you refer to - I bet we all do - but you sound like you have your house in order, mentally, and that's a great indicator for your future success and happiness. The easiest thing for us to say on our app here is that he's a selfish d**khead and that you should kick him to the curb. But we all know life is more textured than that, and that if the time is right you'll do exactly what you need to do.
To your question of whether it's normal that he's not that excited about it: I think it's normal. Doesn't mean I think it's GOOD. But I think a lot of the time partners are not very in tune with the process, with everything it took to get us to this point and to how big a decision and an opportunity for change it is for us. Could be because they're self-centered, could be because they're insecure about the prospect of your losing weight and gaining body confidence, could be because they haven't learned enough to distinguish in their minds between getting highlights and getting most of your stomach removed. Could be because they are scared for us but don't know how to express it. It's easier to say some dopey thing like "remember that outdoor festival on the 14th" than to contemplate things from your perspective or to question his own possible ambivalence.
At 25, having spent a long time taking care of his young child, you have probably grown up a lot and learned a lot at a young age. It took me a silly brief marriage, a bunch of relationships good, bad, and in between, until I met a truly compassionate and generous (and flawed, like we all are) guy when I was 40, who is good with my young son but respectful of the boundaries I need around my son (basically that my child comes first and the boyfriend doesn't get to experiment with playing stepdad). And he has been tremendously supportive through this process. Not everyone has the bumpy path I did, and I'm not saying mine's over! Who knows where I'll be or who I'll be with in five years? I'm just saying that relationships are a learning process too.
Sorry to go on so long! It sounds from your other posts like you have a wonderful support system in your family, and you might find yourself turning to them post-op if any of them are good with this stuff day to day. I have no doubt you'll do what's right for you, and you know everyone here has your back.
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Sweetie, this is all about you. Trust me, he can replace you for another babysitter. I hope you value yourself as a human being to stand up for yourself. He will be very threatened by your surgery and weight loss. No matter, so long as you expect it. There are many women her who have experienced this and will reach out to you. Be firm, be strong, do not waffle. If he is the love of your life hopefully you will know it soon. You can do this, you will find your strength I promise you. You won't be the same, you will demand more for yourself as a partner in life.

Will do and thank you lmao Im at the point where I have to be selfish and maybe that sounds conceited but Im tired of worrying about everyone else. Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

How much you wanna bet when this guy gets a cold, he acts like he's on deaths door?
Yet having 85% of your stomach removed is "minor".
Some people.

Oh yeah. Im pretty good at taking care of myself but I have friends and family who are super supportive. Im just not feeling that secure with our relationship at the moment. Theres a lot going on so I dont really know how to handle this. I see so many stories of people who break up after surgery and its hard to think about. But at the same time I gotta do what makes me happy and losing weight and feeling good about myself will get me there so Im not letting anyone ruin my happiness anymore Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

@@krazykristen
Can you cover the rent if he is gone? I mean honestly it already sounds like this relationship has an expiration date.
When you lose weight, feel better, and have more confidence, he is not going to be able to hang.

I would talk to your doctor to make sure it is safe for you. For most it is very safe but there are exceptions to that and only your doctor knows your underlying health conditions. Assuming it is safe it worked wonders for me. I got to goal weight in about 7 months. I am no longer in ketosis but most of my carbs are veggies, fruit and some potatoes. No wheat sugar or rice. I still keep my carb lower than the average person and Protein first. Beating the carb addiction has changed my life!

I am just over 8 months post op, down almost 170lbs. I've been eating pretty much only Protein, and very little veggies the whole time. I have about 18lbs to lose until I'm at my goal. Once I'm there, I plan on adding different things like some fruit and yogurt. But until I'm at goal, I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing...it's worked for me
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@@cbonet I take two tablespoons of chia seeds and mix them with 1/4 cup of a Premier Protein shake (whatever flavor you like) and let it sit in the refrigerator for about 20 minutes. That has 11 carbs, 14 grams of Protein, and 160 calories (it is my dessert ) Adding 2 tablespoons of chocolate PB2 adds 6 carbs, 45 calories, and 4 grams of protein.

Post op 15 days today. Had my lap band since 2009 before my revision on Sept. 2, 2016. I'm 15 lbs down since I had my surgery. I average 597 cals, 60 carbs per day since the surgery. I talk a daily walk for 20 minutes.
Super fast weight loss is almost always Water weight. People just don't lose 5 lbs of fat per day. The way I look at it, if I intake 600-800 cal a day, I'm going to lose weight at a good rate unless I'm retaining Water for some reason. If I'm not losing, then I have to figure out why I'm retaining water. That's the way I look at it.
Btw, the sleeve makes it easier to cut back on calories/carbs, way easier... I'm really happy with the switch.
Really happy.

Thanks all - sleeved and feeling great! Very low pain so far (knock wood)
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Can't wait to get in to a suit . Go on a ride at a amusement park , buy cloths at a normal store learn to scuba dive

I can't wait to go shopping in a regular size clothing store and know that anything I see and like, I can try on. I don't have to go searching for the largest size on the rack, and hoping they have it.

I was constantly on a diet so often times I call myself going to salad bars where you pay per pound. I like all the different selections so I always wanted a little of this and that and well, my eyes are bigger than my stomach so I always overdid it and end up paying over $10.00 for lunch. Well when I am on solid foods after surgery, I can't wait to be able to go to a salad bar and get very little and be satisfied. I always admired the people who get the small containers and have very little in them. I can't wait for that to be me. lol