LadyDarkness415

I am 10.5 months post op and I can do a glass of wine. I don't do beer anymore at all. Liquor is strange with me because I used to drink before with no problems but I tried a mimosa for my birthday when I was 6 months post op and ended up in the emergency with anaphylaxis. It has totally changed my taste buds, my tolerance for things, and even my allergies to foods and beverages. I drink maybe once a month and i'll have a glass of wine but that's about it. I get no real joy out of drinking hard liquor anymore. I hope that helps!

Honey there is nothing easy about this and it's possible to go back to your old habits and gain it all back and more. But you're on the right track and in the right place. I wish you all the best. Message me if you need any guidance or help!!

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I absolutely swear by the Vitamin Patches and have had nothing but great Vitamin levels at each blood test.
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I absolutely swear by the Vitamin Patches and have had nothing but great Vitamin levels at each blood test.
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Protein promotes healing. Doc told me to up it and it worked for me. But give your body time to heal as well. Some people heal quicker than others.
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Hi Everyone,
Just wondering how I fare against others. I'm 6 months out and have lost a total of 70 lbs. (80 counting the 10 lbs I lost on my own before) Still have 84 more to go. I know that everyone is different but I am a numbers person and want to do a general comparison. I havent started to work out yet (joining gym tomorrow) and want to try and hit my goal of 95 lbs by my birthday.
Also what have you found to be your most effective weight loss work out regimen? Thank you!
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I'm almost 3 months out and I still feel pulling on the sutures inside. Doc told me it is completely normal. And as far as the stall, you're still healing. I didn't really start to drop until over 2 weeks out (swelling and such can prevent it). I started my 2 week liquid diet on July 18 with surgery on Aug 4 and as of today, I am 2.5 lbs away from being down 60 lbs! Don't worry, you'll get there! I did the same worry thing but quickly learned from doc and people on here that you must be patient and let yourself heal. Also, increasing Protein to at least 60g per day increases weight loss! Get good Protein packed shakes.
~~ LadyDarkness415 ~~

I know I won't do rice but I think I'll definitely do sashimi when I'm ready to do a full solid diet. I miss raw fish.
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Premier Protein. I hate sweeteners too but these I like. They're cheap in a case from costco.
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It's not the skin, it's the fat still in my arms. I will get some hand weights this weekend!
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Nope. Sorry. You can use weights to tone but it won't do anything for the skin - though it might help fill out the skin a little if that makes sense.... Your body will shift around a LOT during your loss phase. You just have to dress as best as you can and realize that it is all for the better in the end. I reached goal several months ago but even though my weight has stayed the same, people keep saying I look thinner - and it is just the "parts" shifting around.
PS - My brachioplasty is in 5 weeks. Can. Not. Wait!!

I've never been to a support group either. None close enough to me to warrant me going. But I'm doing well. Do you. Don't worry about her. And if you're worried about her negativity and stuff and you're not too close to her, don't worry about associating with her. Do you.
~~ LadyDarkness415 ~~

I've never been to a support group either. None close enough to me to warrant me going. But I'm doing well. Do you. Don't worry about her. And if you're worried about her negativity and stuff and you're not too close to her, don't worry about associating with her. Do you.
~~ LadyDarkness415 ~~

Afternoon all.
I wasn't quite sure where to put this post, but it seems here is the best place, as what I'm going to be talking about today is a huge part of the wls journey and I'm betting everyone here can either relate because they have experienced it, may experience it in the future, or can sympathize because, honestly, I don't know a single overweight person who has not had to deal with the pile of bullsh*t that I've been dealing with lately at some point in their lives.
Last night, I posted a new selfie to Facebook. I've been updating them right along because my face is still changing so much, and I really like being able to see my progress and to quietly share it with my friends and family. I guess this particular selfie made my weight loss especially noticeable, because I woke up this morning to a message from a "friend" on Facebook that essentially said "wow! I'm so happy to see you're getting so healthy! It's so bad that you let yourself get that fat though."
Upon reading this horribly cruel message, I was shocked, humiliated, and for a moment I felt myself blown right back to the place I was two years ago, a place I've worked tirelessly in therapy to climb out of: I felt that I was a worthless, hopeless human being who deserved to be treated this way. When people were cruel to me before, it devastated me because deep down, wayyyy deep down in the darkest and most painful parts of me, I agreed with the horrible things they said to and about me. I must be disgusting, gluttonous, lazy, pathetic, not even worthy of any kind of basic human kindness. After all, I led myself here, right? It's my fault that I'm super-morbidly-obese. I deserve this treatment.
Now, two years later, I more or less look like a normal person. I wear a size 12/14 jeans, a large or medium shirt. I've even gotten to the point where I can sometimes look in a mirror and think "hmm. I think I may feel beautiful today." But messages like the one I got today derail me in a fantastic way, and remind me of that raw, horrible feeling that I'm still struggling with every single day to overcome. His message was almost conspiratorial; like, oh, you're not fat anymore, so we can ridicule and shame your former self together. Like I would agree with him and say "OMG you're right! Fat Me was f*cking disgusting and pathetic. I totally agree with you." Like I was not a person before and now that I am "normal", I am. I hate it more than I can even begin to describe.
I hate that to many people, fat people not only deserve to be treated this way, but also need to be treated this way. There are whole (densely populated, I might add) forums scattered around the internet dedicated to posting pictures and videos of fat people for the sole purpose of shaming and hating them, and the excuse is to somehow motivate fat people into not being fat anymore. That's ludicrous, of course. The real reason is simple. It's pure hate, ignorance, and insecurity on their part. I know this. I believe this. But there is still a little part of me that feels nothing but shame and humiliation in situations like this. Will I always just be "Fat Abby" to the people around me? Am I ever going to escape her? And why should I even hate her in the first place? "Fat Abby" was incredibly sick with a severe hormone disorder, so poor I starved just as often as I gorged on cheap white Pasta and bread, and suicidally depressed. "Fat Abby" had no hope and so did the only logical thing in her mind: she tried to speed up the process of dying young by eating more. That doesn't sound like a lazy, gluttonous piece of crap to me. That sounds like a person who was suffering intensely, every moment of every day. I want to be kind and loving to that hurt former self, not look back and think "man, you were gross. Good thing you're skinny now!"
I've said it before and I'll say it again many times, I'm sure, but I love where I am now. I am so, SO happy that I've made it here, and grateful to everyone and everything the led me here, including my own strong self. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. But it's also important for me now to express these things here, to people who have or will experience them. Losing hundreds of pounds is a completely incredible feat! But it's just the tiny tip of the iceberg compared to the changes your life will go through after surgery. Do these experiences somehow negate my progress or my pride and joy? Absolutely not. They are just part of the story, and part of the journey.
I am not who I was. I will never be that person again. HOWEVER, being happy that I am not there anymore does not mean that I hate "Fat Abby", nor does it mean that I should be ashamed of her. Nor does it mean I deserve to be treated like an object that everyone gets to stare at and judge. Old Me, and I suspect all the Old Yous who are reading this, were just people who were doing the best they could and were suffering, and so we sought weight loss surgery to heal ourselves. We've done amazing things and changed in ways most other people have not even fathomed.
Remember the Old You without the hate and stigma attached to him/her, and the shame and pain that surrounded living as an obese person in a world that absolutely despises and dehumanizes obese people. Love the Old You just as much as you love the New You, and maybe someday you'll reach a point when you see the entire You with the kind of hope, love, and clarity that will keep you healthy and happy forever.
Attached is the selfie that started this. I love you all.
Cervidae

Hey JT. I HATE Protein Drinks but my doc recommended one that I really kind of like. The brand name is Premier Protein and they are ready-made drinks in cardboard bottles. They have 4 flavors I think. I have the chocolate and vanilla ones. They have 30g of Protein in them,which is awesome! Maybe you can try those if you haven't already done so. I had my bypass on Aug 4 and am still having problems with solid foods so i'm on these things now. Good luck!!

Hey JT. I HATE Protein Drinks but my doc recommended one that I really kind of like. The brand name is Premier Protein and they are ready-made drinks in cardboard bottles. They have 4 flavors I think. I have the chocolate and vanilla ones. They have 30g of Protein in them,which is awesome! Maybe you can try those if you haven't already done so. I had my bypass on Aug 4 and am still having problems with solid foods so i'm on these things now. Good luck!!

Sounds like the doctor is being negligent. I would be livid. If it were me, I would def get another doc and see if I can get some legal action going if it's warranted. That is definitely personal preference. But first and foremost, you deserve to have good, quality care.
~~ LadyDarkness415 ~~

Ok so I'm just expecting too much then. I need to adjust my mental framework and expectations.
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Ok so I'm just expecting too much then. I need to adjust my mental framework and expectations.
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Ok so I'm just expecting too much then. I need to adjust my mental framework and expectations.
~~ LadyDarkness415 ~~

I know I won't do rice but I think I'll definitely do sashimi when I'm ready to do a full solid diet. I miss raw fish.
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Hey JT. I HATE Protein Drinks but my doc recommended one that I really kind of like. The brand name is Premier Protein and they are ready-made drinks in cardboard bottles. They have 4 flavors I think. I have the chocolate and vanilla ones. They have 30g of Protein in them,which is awesome! Maybe you can try those if you haven't already done so. I had my bypass on Aug 4 and am still having problems with solid foods so i'm on these things now. Good luck!!

Hey JT. I HATE Protein Drinks but my doc recommended one that I really kind of like. The brand name is Premier Protein and they are ready-made drinks in cardboard bottles. They have 4 flavors I think. I have the chocolate and vanilla ones. They have 30g of Protein in them,which is awesome! Maybe you can try those if you haven't already done so. I had my bypass on Aug 4 and am still having problems with solid foods so i'm on these things now. Good luck!!

UCSF Dr. Jonathan Carter in San Francisco. He's an awesome Dr. ~~ LadyDarkness415 ~~

74 pounds since April 18
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