mskittykat03

I rarely take pictures but when I realized how much different I looked I had to.
I feel like a different person after 6 months.

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So....you took permanent steps to give you leverage over being in better control of your health and well being.......and your wife has bugged out on you.....and you've found someone you really like.
I would think it would become fairly evident that something was different in that your way of eating and ongoing weight loss is effectively shedding pounds. If you really saw future times with this person it seems to be one of the things you'd share with her. Supremely doubtful that she'll judge you by this...if so, then....better to know now and move on.
I think we all feel somewhat defined by our wls in the early days as it's such a huge change for us. As time passes the new ways of eating and hopefully the increased activity just become the norm and we don't feel so compromised by our health. I think it becomes much easier to share with people as time passes.

My husband is already trying to limit my weight loss and is obsessing about my losing to much. For my height i can literally weigh 88lbs-124lbs. I have a heavy type bone structure. Not bird like at all. When i was 18 i weighed 104 and you could see my clavicle. So I know i am never going go win. Either people will say I am too heavy or too thin. Just how it is. I have wide hips so for a reward I am going to even out my bottom half with some a new tatas. Lol. And then i know I am going to get even more negativity. Find the balance that works for you. But most of all love your inner self and focus on feeding your soul. We aren't just about weight loss after the surgery. Although I fear that is an obsession I am going to have.
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A bodybuilder in my gym saw that I had been working hard....burning off weight.
He approached me one day and congratulated me on the progress. I thanked him and asked if he had any magic wisdoms for success.
Turns out....he did.
He said, "Look around....everybody in here....well almost everybody in here.....is working hard....busting their ass. That's super. Not all of them will get the results they want, though. We work hard while we are here, but it's what we do the other 23 hours of the day that allow the results to shine".
I don't get how you having your sleeve is the worst decision of you life.
You have a tool that can help you combat your obesity.
Seems to me the worst decisions are all those choices you make during the day to eat poorly and in a way that doesn't support your desire to loose weight.
It's a process and it's good that you are seeking professional help.
Hopefully you can find a way to flip that switch that's inside of you......your own personal "GO" button......and be able to gain control overall through winning those numerous choices that you make throughout each day.
For me it took experiencing a great deal of back pain and fear from an injury and a circulatory condition that was developing. I began to realize that I wasn't going to be around much longer if I kept living like I was. That pain...and that fear were enough to flip my switch. Priorities were shifted really damn quick and my actions....for the most part.....now are aligned with my priorities.
I hope you can get to this point soon.
You can turn your life around.

Maybe this won't be upside down
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So I'm just over a year from my surgery day. And just under 2 years from when I made the decision to make a life change. In October of 2014 I attended my first class about bariatric surgery. This class is the initial class that helps you decide if it is for you or not.(or to at least go on to the next step) That first day my weight was 422, and I decided to go forward with the bypass.
I had to then wait to be assigned to a class, a class that lasts 12 weeks. It tought me everything about the surgery and new life I would be expecting. This class began in January of 2015.
Well after completion in March I had lost about 10lbs to 412. Then came the long waiting period. One that they made clear. "Don't call us we will call you!" So I waited, and waited and waited some more. Then got the call the 2nd week of August, 2015. And the wheels got going and fast! Less then two weeks later I was at the hospital on August 24th having surgery.
On the day of my surgery I weighed in at 409lbs. The surgery went great. Afterwards I had little to no pain and was up walking immediately. The year has been a great journey. Today I weigh in at 208lbs and feel great. It has been a fantastic journey. I have no regrets and qould do it again without a doubt. I have been around temptation plenty. Several trips to Vegas including a stay for 9 days. I've been to winery's. All the time not touching alcohol and steering cleer of the food that ruined my life.I'm thankful for the tool I was given and plan on using it to the fullest. Best of luck to anyone thinking of having the surgery, and continued success to those who have had this life changing experience. As for me last year I changed my health, this year I change my job. Think positive????
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Lol. No. Not my Momma. This is- she looks good for 71!!!

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6 months today, 26th February 2016, I had my VSG. Best thing I ever did! 85lb down and feeling great! 75lb to go.....
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I tend to take a non-verbal approach with idiots like that.
A deep breath.....inflated chest cavity.....cross my arms and give 'em a squinty eyed stare. A slight nod of the head back and forth is my clue to them not to push things further.
Some don't get it though.....they thrive on being stupid.
One....a younger upper manager at work (who's on the fast track for world domination with my employer)......kept on badgering me about my weight.
The last time he did it was at the salad bar in our cafeteria.
I had just finished a fast lunchtime workout in the gym and was grabbing a Protein loaded side salad from the bar. Minding my own bidness.....just trying to get what I needed.....grab and go.
So he comes over and asks me, "Well, well, well.....look who we have here. Salad huh? So, guy, what are you up to now ? What's your weight up to now ?"
He keeps on with this while getting my eggs and chicken chunks.
I should add at this point that he's one of those pencil necked nerdy types who thinks that cross country running is the only fitness that matters.
Again with the questions about my weight.
I turn to him....lean over so nobody else can hear and say, "Why don't you ask your wife what I weigh, Michale.....she's felt all of it".
Then I go back to my salad.
He slammed his dayplanner down on the counter and made an odd noise with his throat and walked off.
We have yet to speak again.
A little more to the story is that this guy is on an unprecedented career trajectory.....My boss reports to the person that reports to this guy.
His wife, who I've never met, is a saint of a woman. She's very active in their church and plays in the local symphony. They are puritans and live a clean life and are great family people.
I probably should've handled the situation differently....but I'd enough of his badgering.
Clearly he pursued the matter because I was asked by a member of HR about any "conversations" between us. I couldn't recall any real specifics and stuck with that. Seemed to satisfy them.
I'm probably screwed, but I'll certainly not be bothered by his stupidity again.....at least not in the area of my weight.

Before and after! Sleeves on April 13,2016! Down 60 pounds and several inches! I feel amazing !!!! Anyone on the fence about this surgery, just do it!! I wish I did it sooner!
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I am 7 weeks post op and the for the first month, I never thought about food and loved that. Now I do think about food but mostly what I can have or want that will help me continue on my weight loss journey. So far, I have stuck to my plan and don't feel deprived. I eat out a lot while socializing and have found it easy to find something on the menu I can eat or adapt. Then when I begin to eat and realize, again, I can't eat much, eating just isn't much of a big deal anymore. This is a good journey so far!

Screw him! Oh wait, don't. Screw someone who wants you.

Augusta, Georgia.
Sleeved in mid October, 2015

individual results will vary
you will, in some ways, get out what you put in - so follow your plan. some days it's hard.
I was almost 240 at surgery and have lost 37 at three months, so roughly 30% of my excess weight.
but, as has been said, it's a rest of your life kind of thing, so don't worry about it too much. it's more important to relearn a new relationship with food and moving your body.

@@Dub hot chix pix!

Grilled chicken breast ????
Oh yeah.....I'm a fan. Great & tasty source of Protein for a sleever. Sliced, diced or shredded with rubs and/or sauces. All good.

Dear HFFM,
I haven't been on this site in quite awhile, but I logged on today & your post caught my eye. I'm 3 years out this month. Six months after my sleeve surgery, my husband was killed in a fire. The fact is, any one of us could die today, tomorrow, next week, or next month. We get in cars, cross busy streets, fly in planes, and do many other things that expose us to risk. There's no way to control all risk. You sound like a loving, committed husband and father. You are having this surgery to increase your odds of having more time with them. You have prepared for the possibility of something happening to you, and you have provided for them if/when that day comes. You have controlled for as much as you can, and big kudos to you for doing so. The rest of it is simply out of your control. Take a deep breath, kiss that beautiful wife and son, and keep moving forward. Best of luck to you!

When my stomach decides to gurgle loudly during a team meeting, and won't shut up ......

I also have anthem and was originally denied. They said I didn't qualify (I certainly do). Anyhow, the woman who processes the insurance paperwork at the surgeons office called them and discussed. Turns out, that Anthem is very picky. They want the paperwork done in an exact manner. My denial was turned into an approval in 2 days (over the weekend btw). Surgery completed on time in April 2016.
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82lbs pounds lost here!

I was looking at this thread and as your picture came up, my husband walked in, saw it, and said, "who's that guy holding this d&&k?"
Dude, a little cropping....

@@samararousse - I don't think this is a given. Many people do change old negative habits for new positive ones. But not always.
I will take advantage of the relative anonymity of the web and just say initially, I was really into sex. It was fun and novel. Being much lighter and in much better shape in my 50's it was more abundant and not as strenuous.
Things have calmed down now. I am in committed relationship...oh heck sex is probably still my new favorite addiction, but at least it is with the right person.

Sausage is good. Bigger sausage is better.
I don't want a gentleman, though...

Mine was a regular diet until the day before. That last day was Clear Liquids, Jello, popsicles, etc. Sent from my XT1080 using the BariatricPal App