Dknal2

I was approved by Cigna within 5 days of submitting . I received my Dec 5 surgery date a couple of days later from my surgeon's office, Dr Clayton Frenzel. I will be traveling to Plano, TX. I live in Alabama but this office has made this process really smooth. I did my psychology Eval and all my dietician visits online, which was approved by insurance. I'm still in shock because Cigna usually turns down everyone at first.

So, let me first say happy Mother's Day to all of the moms on here. Secondly, I want to let you all know that I'm currently 161 lbs... which is 11 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 lbs.
👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 round of applause for that being that this is month 5 for me.
Tjirdky, let's discuss the topic at hand. Anyone who has followed me know that my journey with my husband has been bad . Well , it's reached an all time low. We were asleep 3 nights ago and the phone kept vibrating. I told him to answer and he wouldn't. Well we have 2 kids that are outside of the home right now so I said let me make sure it's not the kids texting him. But my gut told me this is gonna be bad. But I checked anyway. This is what I saw " You left your rubber in my bed and my baby found it""" with lil joking emoticons. OMG... my heart dropped to my toes. I felt he was cheating but didn't know for sure. Let me also put this out there. My husband had not slept with me in 3 1/2 weeks at the time. So I knew something wasn't right. I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around. Heck I had just caught him maybe 1 month before that trying to hookup on Facebook. So, needless to say I told him I want a divorce and this was it. No more will I be the hurt wife who is trying to sacrifice herself for her husband, nope. Already have been consulting legal counsel because it's over. Now, he swears he is gonna do right and wants his family. I told him he had 21 years to do right and if he wanted his family his penis oils have stayed in is pants.
Ohhhhhh.... here's the agonizing part for me. This is the same woman he had an affair with on me 13 years ago. Same dirty tramp. I'm like oh no that means this never ended. Which he swears it was only one time. Yep I believe that like I believe in Santa Claus. I cried for 2 days straight. Then I said forget this , on Mother's Day I put on a backless sundress ( in my new size 8 yassss) went out shopping ,had a great time with friends and felt like I was coming into my new, happier peaceful self. I am still very hurt but I thank God for revealing his evil because I don't want an std or aids because he is a hoer.
This surgery has truly changed my life. The old me would have cried and just took him bk and dealt with the pain. But not the new confident, strong Diana that this surgery helped to bring to surface. I posted before that I knew we were gonna divorce , just didn't think it was gonna be like this but it is what it is. There is someone out there who will cherish me and love me for the jewel that I am.
Thsnk you guys for all your support throughout the months. You have truly become my family.😊

So, let me first say happy Mother's Day to all of the moms on here. Secondly, I want to let you all know that I'm currently 161 lbs... which is 11 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 lbs.
👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 round of applause for that being that this is month 5 for me.
Tjirdky, let's discuss the topic at hand. Anyone who has followed me know that my journey with my husband has been bad . Well , it's reached an all time low. We were asleep 3 nights ago and the phone kept vibrating. I told him to answer and he wouldn't. Well we have 2 kids that are outside of the home right now so I said let me make sure it's not the kids texting him. But my gut told me this is gonna be bad. But I checked anyway. This is what I saw " You left your rubber in my bed and my baby found it""" with lil joking emoticons. OMG... my heart dropped to my toes. I felt he was cheating but didn't know for sure. Let me also put this out there. My husband had not slept with me in 3 1/2 weeks at the time. So I knew something wasn't right. I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around. Heck I had just caught him maybe 1 month before that trying to hookup on Facebook. So, needless to say I told him I want a divorce and this was it. No more will I be the hurt wife who is trying to sacrifice herself for her husband, nope. Already have been consulting legal counsel because it's over. Now, he swears he is gonna do right and wants his family. I told him he had 21 years to do right and if he wanted his family his penis oils have stayed in is pants.
Ohhhhhh.... here's the agonizing part for me. This is the same woman he had an affair with on me 13 years ago. Same dirty tramp. I'm like oh no that means this never ended. Which he swears it was only one time. Yep I believe that like I believe in Santa Claus. I cried for 2 days straight. Then I said forget this , on Mother's Day I put on a backless sundress ( in my new size 8 yassss) went out shopping ,had a great time with friends and felt like I was coming into my new, happier peaceful self. I am still very hurt but I thank God for revealing his evil because I don't want an std or aids because he is a hoer.
This surgery has truly changed my life. The old me would have cried and just took him bk and dealt with the pain. But not the new confident, strong Diana that this surgery helped to bring to surface. I posted before that I knew we were gonna divorce , just didn't think it was gonna be like this but it is what it is. There is someone out there who will cherish me and love me for the jewel that I am.
Thsnk you guys for all your support throughout the months. You have truly become my family.😊

Maybe they aren't jealous but it's been my experience that 9/10 there are envious feelings that lead people to make the comments that they make regarding this surgery. But if they are just clueless, then try educating them on why you have to make different food choices and the size of your stomach and all that good stuff. Good luck.

Yes, people will be very CONCERNED ( in my sarcastic voice) about your eating habits now. I know most of the time it's jealousy because you were rave enough to take the bull by the horn and change your life for a healthier lifestyle. Brush the haters off and keep working. You owe no one anything . I have had so many co workers/ friends make little snide remarks about my food choices and surgery as well as my clothes being too big and I just say something bk to them to shut them up. This is my journey and will not be interrupted by jealous people who want to take me down.... not gonna happen. FYI, if they had opportunity to switch places they would in a heartbeat. Stay strong n keep pushing to goal.

Trying so stay positive and push through. I'm just mentally preparing myself for the worst in my marriage after this surgery. Thanks for encouragement

OMG... hit the nail right on the head. Why can he not just embrace what's to come with a healthier, happier wife? Fear is getting to him but I can't change that. I asked him to educate himself on procedure with literature that I have and he is like I want no part of it so I'm like ok it's whatever then.

Thank you for encouragement. My bible tells me that my God will never leave me or forsake me. So as long as that is true, I'm alone physically yes but God has this all in his hands. I'm noticing strength that I didn't notice before in myself. It hurts but hay, I will be okay sooner than later.

Thank you. I have talked to him all that I can. I'm just done with the insults and all the arguments. He can deal with it or he can leave.

Well , to update everyone. I am totally shocked that my hubby did a 360. He said that he was really impressed with how I look so far and he is excited to see end result. I have lost total 44 lbs so my body has really changed and he can't keep his hands off me. I told him that he is very superficial but he insists that he used to tell me how pretty I was at my heaviest as well ( yeah like twice a month compared to like 4 times a day since I lost all of this weight). I try not to focus on that too much due to I have so much going on . But it's bittersweet to me, sounds crazy but it is because I feel like oh now you find me irresistible but before , what was I ? Oh well... this is my year to focus on Diana and that's what I'm doing.

So amazing! Thanks for the inspiration

Hi , how are you... I am currently 16 months post op and my weight is 147 lbs., My clothing size is a 2 - 4 ....... my weightloss was so slow then it started literally melting off... so stay focused n keep pushing. Im attaching a photo for an update... dont lose sight of the goal, be blessed.

Hi , how are you... I am currently 16 months post op and my weight is 147 lbs., My clothing size is a 2 - 4 ....... my weightloss was so slow then it started literally melting off... so stay focused n keep pushing. Im attaching a photo for an update... dont lose sight of the goal, be blessed.

Hi , how are you... I am currently 16 months post op and my weight is 147 lbs., My clothing size is a 2 - 4 ....... my weightloss was so slow then it started literally melting off... so stay focused n keep pushing. Im attaching a photo for an update... dont lose sight of the goal, be blessed.

I'm not flying past you, lol. But thanks for the compliment.... I exercise like 3 or 4 times a week by doing cardio on my elliptical as well as focusing on my abs. I am now putting focus on my arms too because I'm noticing a little sagging skin there but hey gotta take good with the bad . You can look me up to check out my pics on posts that I have placed on here to see my progress . I'm doing ok with food now but I am very selective and still can't eat many different foods so I stick to the basic high Protein foods that are on my list from surgeon like tuna, tilapia, chili, grilled chicken , Greek yogurt and veggies. We are both doing great and are on the losers bench which is the most important thing. Stay positive and keep in touch.

Erika we are almost surgery twins... I had my surgery in dec 5 and my weight was 219 and currently 174... I am a slower loser of lbs as well but my inches are flying off ... so I try to Celebrate victories in other ways as well.. congrats on the loss and keep up the good work😊

Oh I'm sorry ... thought you had the sleeve. Well I had the sleeve and it has been good to me as the bypass has been equally as good to you. I wish you continued success . U look 👏🏾 awesome.

Girl you are working that sleeve!!! You look wonderful.... at 9 months I want to be able to say I was that successful. I am doing pretty good for my body size as well plus I'm only 3 months out ( I just posted pics too 😂) but you are truly killing it. Congratulations

Hi , how are you... I am currently 16 months post op and my weight is 147 lbs., My clothing size is a 2 - 4 ....... my weightloss was so slow then it started literally melting off... so stay focused n keep pushing. Im attaching a photo for an update... dont lose sight of the goal, be blessed.

Hi , how are you... I am currently 16 months post op and my weight is 147 lbs., My clothing size is a 2 - 4 ....... my weightloss was so slow then it started literally melting off... so stay focused n keep pushing. Im attaching a photo for an update... dont lose sight of the goal, be blessed.

You look amazing baby!!!! Remember we wanted a PB&J sandwich? Good thing we both said no ️️️

Well I am almost 6 months out from surgery. I am 159 lbs and my goal weight is 150 lbs. I am posting updated pics just so you can see my progress. Good luck to everyone that's still working hard , including myself . First pic in black dress I wa 242 and on left side I was one week out of surgery . The other pics are recent pics of myself.

Well I am almost 6 months out from surgery. I am 159 lbs and my goal weight is 150 lbs. I am posting updated pics just so you can see my progress. Good luck to everyone that's still working hard , including myself . First pic in black dress I wa 242 and on left side I was one week out of surgery . The other pics are recent pics of myself.

Thank you so much. When I was 190's I stayed there literally for like 1 month n a half. But then I started dropping but it's been slow n then a big drop. So stick to your guns and don't give up. Keep pushing!

Well I am almost 6 months out from surgery. I am 159 lbs and my goal weight is 150 lbs. I am posting updated pics just so you can see my progress. Good luck to everyone that's still working hard , including myself . First pic in black dress I wa 242 and on left side I was one week out of surgery . The other pics are recent pics of myself.