denisa

Thanks so much
You all helped me feel better and stop thinking I made a mistake
It kinda reminds me of the first months of my babies, they are now 10 yo and 8 yo.
I had c sections and had to "survive" the pain, the sleepless nights and all the adjustments to a new life.
I guess now I am the baby since this is my new life. I guess it is like being reborn. I was thinking about this today when I was eating my pureed food just like a baby...
Thanks for your support.
D

Hi
I am 4 wks post op.
I almost cannot have Proteins.< /p>
chicken even pureed gets stuck in my stomach.
I have lactose intolerance since my surgery.
I dont like fish.
So i am on egg based Protein Shakes.< /p>
I found that having some small sips of tea or warm Water helps get the food down.
Is it dangerous?
Why are we not supposed to eat and drink at the same time?
Thx
D

I have not told anyone I work with. It's none of their business. They obviously see me eating healthier and smaller portions. It's been almost 3 years. I'm sure they are gossiping about someone else by now!

I had surgery on the 10th I am going back to work on the 28th. My boss and two of my co-workers know that I am close without of work as well. I have decided not to tell anyone pre-op because I didn't want to hear the don't do it, try another way first or anything else. AT this point post op when I go back if anyone asks even in my general life because I have told very few friends/family but if anyone asks I will tell them but I will not go around volunteering the information. It is funny before the surgery I did not know how I felt about telling people. Now that it is done I am like I could care less I did this to better me. I will probably be like @@Bufflehead with those witty responses they are great !!! lol

I was sleeved on 12/14 and before I went out I ended up telling more people what I was up to than I originally intended. I really focused on the positive benefits for my health and my inability to stick to a diet/lifestyle change on my own. Most people were supportive and positive, but I'm sure there will be some negative nellies. Explaining the science behind it and how it is a tool actually made me feel more positive about what I was doing and I feel like I'm educating people about something most know very little about. Good luck with whatever approach you take!

I've been sleeved in dec 6th, and I was full of regret for the first 10 days or so.
I am in the puree stage and I can't have any Protein at all.
Dairy gives me dhiarrhea and pureed chicken or fish feel like lead in the stomach.
I've been trying to eat all the foods I am supposed to, but I don't tolerate them.
As soon as I realized that some foods are not good for me now (everybody says in the future it will get back to normal), I started feeling better.
I have lots of energy and I will be back to work this coming week.
Reading this forum helped me a lot to understand everybody feels like this at some point.
I think the turning point for me was 2 days ago when I started to eat something that tastes ike food and did not feel like lead in my stomach (100% corn Pasta in onion clear Soup (pureed)), this made me feel better.

It is entirely up to you. It is easier just to tell people if they ask. No point in hiding it. Be proud of what you did to better your life. I have found no one to say a rude comment to me. You know why you made the decision to have the surgery, that is the only thing that matters. If anyone says it is the easy way, simply tell them of all the pain, no eating and mental changes we all have to endure. Congratulations and I hope you have nothing negative to deal with at work!

I told anyone who asked, but I didn't volunteer it. I really don't give a fig what people think about me or my healthcare decisions. I only received one negative reaction but it wasn't anything like "you took the easy way out" -- it was more, "it's so unfair that you get to do that, I need to lose thirty pounds and surgery isn't an option for me." Anyway, I had some responses prepared in case I did get a negative reaction:
"thanks for your concern" with a big smile
"my doctor and I agreed that this was the best medical decision for me"
"I wish I could have lost weight without surgery, but I'm too dumb and lazy to figure it out" (if I was feeling very snarky)
"hmm, try dieting and exercise before submitting to major surgery? Wow, I never thought of that. No one ever suggested that to me in my entire life. I wish I had heard of "dieting" before I had surgery! Maybe you should mention this strange concept to other people. Why didn't you tell me about the secret process of "diet" and "exercise" earlier?"
"thanks for your support! I appreciate it!" with a big eye-roll
Seriously, if you just pretend they said something nice and respond that way, they can't criticize you. Just keep smiling and saying "thanks for your support! Your kindness means so much to me!" in as sincere a tone as you can manage. Eventually they will give up and leave you alone. Don't try to engage them with arguments or get super-defensive. Act like any criticism they give you just makes you laugh because you know more than they do (YOU DO).
All that said, it's unlikely people will say negative things, at least in my experience.

@@denisa - you don't have to tell them squat...esp if they are being a-holes. I didn't tell anyone but my young work mate and immediate boss. as the weight started coming off they started asking if I was "OK"...when I got to about 40-50lbs down it was a daily thing to be asked if I was "ok". I spilled...so much easier for me. Not everyone has the same feelings about it.
your business - tell them ONLY what you want to share. Or don't.

Let the little dogs bark. They can't make you un-do your surgery.

Thanks so much
You all helped me feel better and stop thinking I made a mistake
It kinda reminds me of the first months of my babies, they are now 10 yo and 8 yo.
I had c sections and had to "survive" the pain, the sleepless nights and all the adjustments to a new life.
I guess now I am the baby since this is my new life. I guess it is like being reborn. I was thinking about this today when I was eating my pureed food just like a baby...
Thanks for your support.
D

Thanks so much
You all helped me feel better and stop thinking I made a mistake
It kinda reminds me of the first months of my babies, they are now 10 yo and 8 yo.
I had c sections and had to "survive" the pain, the sleepless nights and all the adjustments to a new life.
I guess now I am the baby since this is my new life. I guess it is like being reborn. I was thinking about this today when I was eating my pureed food just like a baby...
Thanks for your support.
D