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Water won't stretch your sleeve, nor will liquids, they pass right through.
If you were on a liquid diet preop and a liquid diet now, and not taking narcotic pain meds, diarrhea is normal for a couple days.
Needing naps is normal, you just had major abdominal surgery. Expect to need naps, your body is very, very busy working on the inside!

I mentioned therapy down the road if needed but now that he's sorta back, you absolutely need to be in therapy/marriage counselling immediately. You are in a very vulnerable position and need to be on top of things while dealing with him and what he's putting you through. It's very hard while you are so emotional and raw and you need someone who can mediate while you are going through this. Good luck and take care of yourself.

Whew.... so much to say. I have been where you are...almost exactly where you are. It was 1997 when my husband had his first affair (or first one I knew about) with a co-worker. We had 5 kids, and he knew a divorce would bury him financially. He wanted an open marriage. I told him he was nuts. I went to see an attorney, who after outlining the divorce process, and probable settlement amounts, told me to stay calm and wait... this is a midlife crisis. So, I stayed. The affair ended,he apologized profusely and things were good between us until... 2004. It happened again. This time I moved out of the bedroom, and eventually, took the kids and left. They were older now, knew what was going on "Daddy didn't come home last night, mom." and I couldn't let them see me tolerate it.
Your whole world has been rocked. You feel dazed. The future you envisioned is shattered. I remember all those feelings.
But, like other posters have said, you have to get yourself and your kids through this as best as you can. Time is healing, push forward, and know that you will come out of this stronger, wiser....and with a rocking body!

Your surgeon is an unmitigated ass.
And he has clearly never taken a serious Water aerobics class. They are WORK, but easy on the joints. I had a bulging disc in my back a few years back, and the only hour of my day that I didn't hurt was when I was in the pool. I did nothing but Water aerobics (I couldn't), and I lost 17 lbs.
And as for swimming laps, does he have any idea how fit serious lap swimmers are?
I seldom tell people to ignore their doctor's advice, but in this case, follow your plan. then when you go back to see him and you've dropped weight and he asks what you're doing for exercise, tell. him. Repeatedly.

Thanks, @@jintycb . Shockingly, some people here think I'm an a**hole. But they're probably not sarky gits.

ANY movement that gets your heart rate up is good for you and will burn calories.
Yes, that includes sex, deep cleaning your house, playing with your kids...anything.
Your surgeon may be good at doing surgery, but his beside manner sucks.

Relax your mind, human growth hormone (HGH) is produced and released from your pituitary gland, far, far from your stomach, no matter how much was removed.

Your surgeon is an unmitigated ass.
And he has clearly never taken a serious Water aerobics class. They are WORK, but easy on the joints. I had a bulging disc in my back a few years back, and the only hour of my day that I didn't hurt was when I was in the pool. I did nothing but Water aerobics (I couldn't), and I lost 17 lbs.
And as for swimming laps, does he have any idea how fit serious lap swimmers are?
I seldom tell people to ignore their doctor's advice, but in this case, follow your plan. then when you go back to see him and you've dropped weight and he asks what you're doing for exercise, tell. him. Repeatedly.

Wait, what? Just what are you eating 2.5 weeks postop? Did you not begin to make any changes in your diet preop?
As has been posted here many, many times, you had surgery on your stomach, not on your head. nevertheless, you need to use your head. You need to follow your surgeon's instructions for a LOT of reasons, not the least of which is that you can cause yourself harm "testing" your new sleeve before it is ready.
I'm only now testing things I love but wasn't sure my sleeve would like (pickles, yay!) and I'm more than two months out.
If you weren't prepared to make a serious commitment to changing your eating habits, I wonder why you had surgery in the first place.

We're having our kitchen remodeled and new flooring put in throughout the house, so we're packing up things and moving a lot to storage. A friend and her teenaged daughter came over to help me this morning, as Huz was working. We worked like fiends, and got three big loads over to the storage room.
I knew teenager was going to help another friend this afternoon, so I treated them both to lunch (in addition to paying teenager). We went to our favorite local burger joint. They use premium beef and everything there is super yummy - even the lettuce and tomatoes they use are great.
I ordered a burger in a lettuce wrap, extra pickles. I ate about a third of it, and took the rest home. Teenager ate half her burger and took the rest home. Mom and teenager ate half an order of fries, and I had two, count them, two fries.
This is the kind of place where formerly, I would have polished off a buger with the bun, and made a fair stab at a double handful of fries (they make super good ones). The basket of fries (and a pile of pickles) was sitting right in front of me - and I was not the least tempted to take even one more bite.
This. This is what I was most wanting out of my surgery. I wanted my "enough" button set to a much more sensitive level. I enjoyed the burger (and the company) enormously. But I I didn't need "more". Just because the food was sitting in front of me didn't mean I wanted a single bite more than my body needed.
The rest of the burger was split between an afternoon snack and dinner. The lettuce is a limp loss, but the pickles are waiting for me in the fridge. I'm meeting my macros for the day, too. Score all around!

As has been posted many, many, many times before - liquids don't give the same "aaack - full!" feeling that solids and semisolids do, they tend to just slip right through the pylorus and into the small intestine. Those of us who had more postop swelling had more trouble getting liquids in in the early days.
Believe me when I tell you that everything is fine, Get your fluids and Protein in, follow directions. All will be well.

I know plenty of bypass people who CAN consume fat and sugar and who HAVE regained their weight doing so. I also know plenty of sleeve people who dump from eating too much sugar/fat. I am one of them.
I know plenty of bypass AND sleevers who drink through a straw daily and are fine. Same with carbonation and diet soda. I don't have an issue with your opinion, I have an issue when you state your opinion as fact for every patient.
You posted an article where a common person says not to use a straw and a doctor gives them the thumbs up. That's seriously no different than a customer walking into a McD's and saying that their hamburgers are the best in the world and McD's putting up a national ad saying they have been proclaimed the world's best burgers.
Show me a scientific study that says straws give ulcers. Ludicrous.

Hi guys, on a purely personal note, I prefer to stick with experienced sleevers who have heard all the 'opinions' but who have the intelligence and sense to sort the solid true facts out from the flannel. Those veterans (please excuse the title but it denotes experience not age!) have been successful in losing weight. They have a wealth of knowledge gained through intelligent research. I'm with them. Thus far, their posts have been my touchstone on my journey. I'm sticking with what is working (rather brilliantly too) for me.
By the way I'm walking away too-apart from anything else I cannot keep reading badly spelled, grammatically incorrect articles full of malapropisms and with no decent spacing. To me that shows a lack of respect for readers of the posts. It (wrongly sometimes) assumes we all can disentangle the prose and work out the true meaning behind the words.

But that isn't what you said, you said "look here's proof" and posted that link. That link didn't prove anything, and didn't even mention the ulcer issue, which I have yet to see any information on anywhere. And now you're telling me to google to find the proof?
Nope that's okay. I will just walk away.
SMH.

I don't use straws and I don't drink icees (and yes there are sugar free ones at 7-11).
But my point is you didn't provide any proof. I am a stickler for accuracy in language. I'm glad you listen to/trust your doctor. But "proof" is not ambiguous, it's concrete. I think one of the problems with everyone's doctors giving different advice is there just ISN'T a lot of proof to these things, so we have to chose a doctor and trust their expert OPINIONS.

I discovered, to my delight, that iceberg and romaine are a slider for me. I just had a mini taco salad for dinner: 2 oz chicken taco meat (I made a huge batch of this in the Instant Pot), a handful if shredded lettuce, a sprinkle of shredded cheese, a morsel of light sour cream, a slice of avocado, and salsa. The crunch and coolness of the lettuce adds to my enjoyment of what's become a favorite mini-meal. It doesn't fill me up, or keep me from getting my Protein.

I read that whole link and saw no "proof" to support for claim that straws cause ulcers or stretching (pouch OR sleeve).
And all it is is a link to a post on another message board not a scholarly article or even a doctors answer... Yes a doctor did say "what she said" but there are doctors all over that disagree on this very subject (stretching/straws). So please reconsider your idea of "proof."

Sorry to tell you this, but you are the one poorly uninformed. I personally know 3 people that have had bypass and they ALL eat sugar and they ALL drink soda, and they ALL use straws. In fact, one of them is my best friend and I've seen her eat donuts and chocolate cake and cheesecake and LOTS of Cookies while I snack on Protein bars. She eats apple turnovers for Breakfast while I eat crustless bacon and spinach quiche. She drinks sweetened iced tea and regular Coke (every single day) THROUGH A STRAW while I sip my Protein shakes and Water. Her husband drinks beer regularly and eats all the same sugary Desserts that she does. If they were sleeved instead of having bypass, they would have regained all their weight by now, It's their malabsorption that keeps them where they are, certainly not their healthy eating habits. In that sense a sleever has to be way more disciplined in order to be successful. THATS why so many convert to bypass.

It's easier for sleeves to cheat? Straws give you ulcers? Beans, tortillas and cabbage are ok two weeks out on soft foods? She didn't cuss at YOU, she simply gave a WTF at a weird statement represented as fact. And no, your article "proved" nothing.
Uhm...you're welcome.

Whuuuuuut?
I'd agree with @@VSGAnn2014
You've said some head scratcher things about WLS that really aren't at all factual. Just sayin'.
And name calling really isn't tolerated here. Please refrain from such behavior. Thank you.

Sipping through a straw causes ulcers?
WTF? How?
And for the record, people choose gastric sleeve surgery for a variety of reasons. Seldom is the decision about which bariatric surgery to have based on their desire to ensure they can keep eating junk food.
@@Ele marie -- you assume a lot about WLS and WLS patients that simply isn't true.

Wait, what? Just what are you eating 2.5 weeks postop? Did you not begin to make any changes in your diet preop?
As has been posted here many, many times, you had surgery on your stomach, not on your head. nevertheless, you need to use your head. You need to follow your surgeon's instructions for a LOT of reasons, not the least of which is that you can cause yourself harm "testing" your new sleeve before it is ready.
I'm only now testing things I love but wasn't sure my sleeve would like (pickles, yay!) and I'm more than two months out.
If you weren't prepared to make a serious commitment to changing your eating habits, I wonder why you had surgery in the first place.

That's fantastic! I switched careers and went back to school in my mid-20's and was almost 30 before I graduated. It was hard, I had to take hard sciences and the math that went along with them. Once I graduated, I felt like there wasn't anything I couldn't do.
Between taking charge of your health and now furthering your education, there's no limits for you now!

It's an all in one pressure cooker, rice cooker, slow cooker, and steamer. You can also make taco chicken in a slow cooker, but in the pressure cooker, it only takes 15" (plus I refrigerate it overnight so I can take the fat off).
six or eight skinless, bone-in chicken thighs
a pkg of taco seasoning
a jar of salsa
That's it. I cook down the sauce a bit while I'm pulling the chicken off the bones the next day.
Pressure cooking is exceptionally sleeve-friendly, everything gets very tender.

Your surgeon is an unmitigated ass.
And he has clearly never taken a serious Water aerobics class. They are WORK, but easy on the joints. I had a bulging disc in my back a few years back, and the only hour of my day that I didn't hurt was when I was in the pool. I did nothing but Water aerobics (I couldn't), and I lost 17 lbs.
And as for swimming laps, does he have any idea how fit serious lap swimmers are?
I seldom tell people to ignore their doctor's advice, but in this case, follow your plan. then when you go back to see him and you've dropped weight and he asks what you're doing for exercise, tell. him. Repeatedly.