rmgmomma

You two are great! My surgery is 11/2 and you've been so helpful for what it will be like!! Thank you!

I love knowing that there is someone else close or the same. I always feel like I am at the back of the pack too. It seams like I am losing so much for slower than other people. I am 5'3" I am at 182.3. I have not been the low in 22 years. I love it.
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I did it!!! I have lost 100.6 pounds. HOLY Moly!
I did it!!! I have lost 100.6 pounds. HOLY Moly!

It does get better. I promise. Have you tried fresh spinach instead of leaf lettuce? Spinach is softer and milder. I love my salads as long as I have a vinegar based dressing. Anything creamy, or sweet doesn't stay around long!
I believe fresh veggies and a salad occasionally help to cleanse one's palate and reset it.
It would be a dreary world without freshness.

I'm 17 months post-op and still can't do raw veggies, so it may not get better. The good news is, salad is pretty much a waste of sleeve space anyway, so it's better to get your Protein in.

My before and recently taken photo. This is the best I could get my fat picture. I cropped it from a photo at my daughter's shower for the twins

LOL. When I first read it I was simply not connecting the dots, either.
But......I have accepted there are all sorts of strange things at play during this time frame for many of us.
One thing that I've been hugely frustrated with is that I've had the critical eye on myself for so long that it now tends to focus on conditions around me or even worse, other people.
For example......I've been making progress on myself and perhaps eased up a bit. Now I looked around and see the state of my garage and it pisses me off. HTF did it get so disorganized ? Who is the idiot who hasn't been putting stuff away properly ? Who is the fool with fat-man clothes still hanging in his closet and needs to be gone through? Why is that aggravating tree limb hanging down over the deck ?
Well, that is the result of being not focused on stuff around me like I needed to....and not having the energy to address it due to back problems and recovering from the sleeve/hernia surgery while working 60 hrs / week. Stuff just gets a low priority or neglected altogether.
I look around further still and see things that my wife doesn't do an it gets to me. I get aggravated. I accepted blame for it for a while due to me simply not being myself this last year or so and all things subpar are on me. Eventually, though, I shared my marital concerns with her. Not well received at first but I was respectful yet honest with what was said. Time will tell how things turn out. Time will tell. It will either work out.....or it will not. I will continue to give it my best shot, but I will not blindly hope for a miracle as I've done in the past.
This seems like legit advice now that I've gone a few months down this road. I better understand the wisdom of this practice.
Its a time to simply work on yourself and DO NOT make any changes.
Divorce and career change have been tugging on me......tempting me more than I ever suspected. Married 23 years, same employer for 20......yet now I find myself open to big changes. Scary. Not acting immediately on either.....letting these ideas simmer.
Nooooooooo !!!!!!
No matter how mad I get......my MacBook will never become a projectile. Neva......eva....
Maybe we should all be prescribed medical weed or some such. Sure would up the attendance in the post-op support group meetings. "Okay now, everyone get their chairs in a circle.....puff, puff, pass........let's begin our meeting with recognizing new members after our opening blaze....."
I really get that "Not my circus, not my clowns" statement. Well said.
My patience as it pertains to myself is very, very limited. I want immediate progress in all areas of self. Unrealistic as hell and a source of frustration. Thus far, my patience for others is somewhat "normal" dare I use such a phrase.
How's this for a oddball fantasy.......we all get to go live in a resort area for our surgery throughout our first year.....surrounded by other patients going through the exact same thing......no outside distractions....no worries.....just focused on the losing and getting our issues nailed down tight. Lol, right? Well, in reality we do have BP and the fine folks here. I agree fully with your statement that we are all family in a way.

Don't sweat the not getting beyond 185 before and failing, that is in the past...
I am 5 months out and 48 lbs down and have stalled like hell. I work out hard 5 days a week. Get the tape measure and take measurements all over. I guarantee that you are loosing mad inches all over the place.
I feel the same way at times but when I measure I know what is happening.
Stay the course and you will be in the 170's it just is gonna take you and I longer because of our lower bmi starting point.
I see some people are 5 months out and down 100 plus pounds, I then say what the hell am I doing wrong, it is nothing we are doing wrong, some people are well over 300 so they are loosing at a rapid weight.
Sounds like you are doing everything right, dont let it push you off center....
Or me!

Before surgery
Highest weight: 276 October 2015
Green shirt: 245 December 2015
Blue shirt: current 215 January 2016

RG I am officially in the 130s..whoop whoop..i have been losing slow. I don't have all the extra skin..which I'm thankful for..I now need to firm up and lose about 15-20 more pounds and I will be at my goal...so thankful I did this..it has not been easy and has been full of emotions..thankful to this group..I haven't been much of a poster but I have been following everyone

Hallelujah. I finally made it to Onederland! it has taken almost 11 months and I am doing a happy dance!

I was cleared after my 2 weeks which is tomorrow to eat regular food. Im down 17 lbs in 2 weeks. I was informed to start slowly with regular food and know my new stomach. I can eat soft meats but they need to be the size of a pill. Chew, chew, chew. Drink lots of Water and keep fluids up. Do not weigh everyday... but weigh every Sunday. Weight will come off. Im cleared to exercise and sleep on my stomach... lol. That will be nice cause Ive been on my back and sides. So exited and things are looking good... going to shed my skin to the woman within!!

@Rose1up! sounds like you are doing great! the chewing thing is big. i STILL don't have that down. too stubborn i think but im paying the price so glad you are starting out right
xo

MENTAL NOTE: wearing correct sized clothing makes a HUGE difference. I'm in my legit 14's today and everyone has suddenly freaked out about my weight loss lol. Guess it was pretty well hidden in those super loose 18s lol.

HI friends
I just realized another NSV while I was driving the car today ....
I could actually tilt the wheel down!!
AND
I had to slide the seat up!!!
Seems all the cushion I've lost off my rear was holding me up and pushing me forward !! LOL
OMGOSH
Waahoooo!!
Just had to share with those who understand !!!

I know! I know! If course you can substitute the flour and crumbs to lower carb options. I'm sure the result would be the same....delicious!
RECIPE:
Makes about 24 fries
Here's what you need:
- 3 Avocados (slightly firm)
- 3 eggs
- 1 cup flour
- 1 cup panko bread crumbs
- 1 tsp salt
- 1/2 tsp cayenne pepper (adjust to taste, or substitute with garlic powder)
- Pepper
Directions:
Slice the avocados in half, and then slice lengthwise into wedges.
Mix the bread crumbs with the cayenne pepper and salt.
Roll the slices in flour, then in the whisked eggs, then in the breadcrumbs.
Place the slices on wax paper on a baking sheet. Spray well with cooking spray. Add a sprinkle of black pepper if desired.
Bake for approximately 12 minutes at 400˚F/204˚C. Flip alway through and re-spray. Enjoy with your favorite dipping sauce!

And so what if it was? (which it's not) Progress is progress.
I'm sorry to sound firm, but I lost on the slower side, and knowing what I know now, all the hand wringing and worrying I did over how slowly I was losing did nothing but hinder me. I finally got to a point where I just accepted it and moved on to more positive aspects of the whole thing, like researching and learning about proper nutrition and excersise to be the healthiest me I could be.
It took me a year to lose 85 pounds, and another several months to lose 8 or 9 more. Now I'm maintaining a healthy weight, and it matters not at this point how long it took me, but that I got there.
You'll get there, too

Yes, you're losing too slowly. I deem your surgery a complete failure at 3 weeks out.
Just kidding. You're losing just fine. As a matter of fact, I think I had lost the same amount at that point.
My suggestion? Don't worry about how quickly you're losing and just concentrate on hydration and Protein so you can heal properly.
The weight will come off at your body's own pace. Keep following doctors orders and try not to focus too much on the scale for your own sanity. You're doing just fine. Really!

My suggestions? Listen to @@Babbs, she knows what she is talking about. Also, stay off the scale and Embrace the Stall!
http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/351046-Embrace-the-Stall

Had an post op/post holiday appt with a new counseler. Felt good and looking forward to keeping myself on track, not only for me but my husband's upcoming sleeve surgery this week????

Ok, we all screw up and clearly it didn't hurt you so it is time for you to move on.
You must get your Protein or you will get sick and your hair will shed worse.
I could not tolerate milk or whey Protein in the beginning either. My surgeons office told me to go buy Premier Protein ready made shakes. They taste much better, there is no grit and they do not smell like whey protein. they have 30 grams of protein and 1 gram of sugar in each one. In the beginning they had me use half the shake and half lactose free milk just to thin them out a little. By week 8 I was able to drink the shake without milking it down. They are travel ready and you no longer need to deal with blenders or shaker cups.
You can get them in bulk at Sam's or costco - January they will be on sale at costco for $5 off a case again. I stock up.
You can also get them in smaller packs at both Walgreens and Walmart
They are great because you don't have to drink so much protein to get to your goals. 30 grams in one 11 oz. shake is awesome.
I still drink 1 every day and I am 15 months post op. I simply cannot eat enough to get all my protein from food.
Please be good to your body,both at protein is critical to making you feel full and stay full.
Also with your surgery you should not be feeling actually hunger. So either you are dealing with head hunger or you are actually dehydrated which feels exactly like hunger. Make sure you are getting enough fluids as well as protein.
Good luck to you!

This is my second wardrobe overhaul. Today I went through and got rid of all clothes that were too big. I have another bunch of donations to Goodwill. I also threw away a bag of old stained t-shirts I was hanging on to simply because they fit at one time. My closet is about 25% of what it was when I started. It feels good to donate the clothes in good condition and remove the others. A lot of them were bought simply because they fit...not because I liked them.
I have gone from a tight 22W to a size 14 bottom and an XL top. I have no need to keep my "fat" clothes because I know I will never need them again.
I am still losing, and I am making clothing purchases only as needed. It's the winter, so the few pairs of black and gray pants I have will get me through for a while. I don't care if I repeat the same bottom in a week at work... Honestly I don't think people care or notice. I have enough blouses so I don't have to repeat in the same week. It will get me by for now.
I am looking forward to a new year, a new me, and building a wardrobe that has pieces in it that I love!

It is no secret here that bariatric surgery will expose the raw dynamics of your relationships. It is a painful process, but people will expose how they really feel about you, and who is supportive of your efforts and who you should avoid. As I have said recently, people who talk about you that way are not telling you about who you are, they are telling you about who they are.
Your husband is a gift. Too bad he comes with all that drama. So, let the little dogs bark and just go on with your pursuit of health and happiness.

So I am painfully close to onederland... 204 now. I'm going for it by January 1st (with fully realistic expectations of not quite getting there...5 lbs by Friday is not that real -- but it can't hurt to have a goal post to shoot for right?) After allowing myself a holiday weekend, I'm going to be pushing a lot of Water and Liquid Protein the next few days to get back on track.
It's funny how I let myself eat what I wanted (within safe parameters) for Christmas and still barely had 1000 calories and lost 2 lns last week. I love my baby banana tummy. <3

Meet miss Belle. Best hunting dog, master level hunt test, best friend in the world. If I can't finish my plate of food guess who gets it.