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Well I have 4 days until my surgery. These last two weeks I have been on a roller coaster of emotions, both related and unrelated to the surgery. I fluctuate between calling it off and going through it on a daily basis but I guess that's to be expected. I even went through a period of great exercise and diet (working out every day and eating right) and I started to think maybe I didn't need the surgery. I'm also scared. My co-worker told me how her friend went to Miami over the fourth of july weekend to get breast enhancements and died (she doesn't know I'm having surgery). So of course that got me to thinking about elective surgery and whether I should do this. Also since my surgery will remove a part of my stomach it's permanent so there's no going back and saying I changed my mind afterwards. Ugh. Then I remember all the reasons why I want to get the surgery (some vain like looking better but also to get control of this weight, be more active and be around for my kids) and also all the research I've done and the year I gave myself to get it together and I become more determined than ever to do it.
So yeah this is where I'm at now. I am a very private person so other than the people that read this no one knows I'm having the surgery, not even my family. I looked at the pros and cons of telling someone and decided I need to be true to who I am as a person and decided that for me it's best to keep things private. So when I feel unsure or want some support I come on here. I don't post a lot but I read a lot. I hope to share more to help someone else.

Wow, your stomach looks awesome!!!! I was your same body shape, and am just starting my journey. Will definitely need a tt once I get down to goal weight. Startrd at 251, sw 227, today 198.4, will be there soon. Hope my tummy looks as good as yours! Speedy healing

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A new one for me. I was walking toward my husband at Walmart this weekend and he didn't recognize me from a distance. Said he was looking for someone bigger. He said I look like a different, skinnier person. ????. That was a compliment for me!!!

You put clothes in the dryer hoping they shrink instead of hanging them up wet so the don't

I'm glad this thread has stayed up do long, you know you lost weight when your realizing that in a few more months you'll be looking at XL shirts
( very big deal when you were a 5-6X)

You know you lost weight when
sad story
many years ago
family was going for a nice drive
i was sitting in the back seat with my siblings

wasn't a smooth ride
while dad was driving, the back end of the car was
in a lower "position"
car was weighed down
not sure i'm saying the above right
i commented about the situation a few times
asking dad what's the problem
what is the matter
what's going on
he FINALLY said. there's a lot more weight where you are sitting
i wanted to die
he wasn't being mean, he just answered my question
dad died 20 years ago today
i wish he was alive today so he could see me now
he would have been so proud
kathy

Never again did I think I'd weigh less than the cost of a gallon of gas this cheap. This morning I weighed in at 184!

191
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191
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192
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191
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Weight loss mode. SW 193. Goal 188.
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Weight loss mode. SW 193. Goal 188.
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I would Iike to participate again as well! I'm n slowwww losing mode!! Ty!!
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This is like any other voluntary association. Sometimes I have time to pay attention, other times I don't. It is a little odd for me to think of myself as some sort of veteran. I like to help sincere seekers. (and I dig @@dubs food porn). I remember where I was when I started. This site was a little daunting when I first found it. It takes a little while to figure it out. You don't realize at first to look at surgery date and number of posts when you are judging how much credence to give an answer . You don't even know how to create preferences so you don't get flooded with email notices. Heck you don't even know the right terms to search.
"Geez what's a stall?" You know until November 2014, I wouldn't have known to search for that, all I knew was I wasn't pooping and not losing weight and I was kind of scared. I appreciated the online "hand on my shoulders" and people telling me "this is normal stuff, you got this."
So yes, it gets a little old. No one should ever feel obligated to be here. But I remember where I was. I try to help out when I have time, and I do appreciate those who voluntarily and unselfishly give their time to help others. It was huge to me when I REALLY needed it.
Now for the vets, I want to suggest a thought to you...have you thought about what YOU get when you help some one new to this? It reinforces what you are trying to do. We have had some people pop back after being gone for a while, and lamenting they have lost their way and gained some weight again. Now I don't think that being here guarantees success, but I think it is like my sisters work in drug and alcohol recovery. She is an alcoholic. She helps others in recovery through AA. Not only because she can, but it reminds her every day just how important her sobriety is and what a gift it is.
So while there are problems with the internet chat board world that no one will ever be able to fix, please reflect, what you get, when you give.

Last diet visit: September 3rd.
Class: October 5th.
And then everything is being submitted.
I have united healthcare, and have heard the process moves quickly. But knowing me I will be calling... A LOT! I also know that there's not a weight requirement (restriction?) so I should be okay with that.
I started thinking about WLS a little over a year ago, but never followed through because my insurance didn't cover it. But to be at this point seems so surreal...
I'm 22 years old and weigh 400 pounds. I've never said that to anybody but close family before. I am a single mommy to 2 year old twin girls, who are absolutely positively my "Why". I've always and I mean ALWAYS been the "bigger girl" and would honestly attach myself to anybody who actually showed interest in me. When I was younger being bigger phased me, but eventually I got used to it, and continued to gain confidence in myself. Regardless of my weight, I was/am a good person.
But I'm finally going to gain control of my own life. I'm so so so excited. Bring on October, bring on this 3 week liquid diet! Bring it on. Because nothing... And I mean NOTHING will hold me back from my future any longer!
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Ok, so I was barely squeezing into a 30/32 in avenue women's clothing prior to surgery. So at about 10 months post-op, I went to lane bryant's during a sale and decided to buy a size 18/20 (I've always been hourglass/pear shape), thinking, these pants will probably last me through thanksgiving (I've experienced too big pants that look like you 're carrying a load of something really unpleasant around in the gluteal area), and those joints fit....I mean they fit like the fit will only last about a month of two; what a NSV for me! Another NSV is two other people sitting next to me on the NYC MTA subway (ok so they, not the fattest person, but two other people on a three sitter is an NSV for me!).

I am at goal and currently wear a size 8 jeans for the first time in my life. If it were not for my belly which still holds some residual fat and a lot of loosed skin, I would likely be in a size 4 or 6 pants.
Before my Brachioplasty 3 weeks ago, the only thing I saw when I looked in the mirror was my huge arms.
Now all I can see is that double giant roll that I hide. Most people never even knew I had all this loose skin because apparently I hid it well, but I know and I know where to look. I never thought it would bother me but it does.
Bring on the Abdominalplasty and breast lift! - I have to wait at least 9 weeks to move forward with those.
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I don't necessarily view it as an insult to women. My stomach is probably my BIGGEST problem and the one thing I'm most self conscious about. In almost 7 years, I have not been able to wear a shirt to work without a cardigan because of this. Or a baggy thirty on weekends when doing activities. My hopes are that as I lose the weight, my stomach will get to an ideal size that nothing more than Spanx is necessary. Hopefully even that won't be needed. This isn't for me to fit some mold of what society expects of me. This is for me to feel comfortable because I personally do not like to look at myself in the mirror while seeing every roll through my shirts. I want a smooth, yet curvy torso. Not because society tells me that's what's sexy but what I think is sexy. My legs on the other hand, I don't want pencils for legs. I want thick/fit legs. I have an idea of what I want my body to look like. And it's going to take work on my part to get there. Just looking at options. Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App

This is me 2 and a half months post op.

I had gastric bypass in October, 2013 and started at 409 pounds. I'm now 150 and am having my arms done 12/22. I'm so excited but nervous. I feel great!

It's above my belly button I have more skin. I just want my stomach skin gone. Will working out tighten the muscles?
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@@JustWatchMe I am normally not a sweets person except for when I make cake. I do specialty cakes like on the tv shows and over the weekend I made my daughters wedding cake. There was a good bit left over and I made sure that it didn't come home with me. My husband was upset that we didn't bring it home and I had to explain to him that it was a trigger food for me. If it's in the house I'll eat a bite here or there every time I go in the kitchen. It's the only thing that does that to me. So I totally get the cake issue.

This is me with cake! Cake goes down so easy, it's so good, and I can eat SO MUCH of it. Luckily, I only see cake once in a great while when there's a special occasion. Went to a wedding this weekend and we were sent home with wedding cake. Happily, the cake was dry and the icing was nasty so I will not be tempted to eat it. Not worth the calories.
Now the chocolate cake that came free with my lunch yesterday due to a long wait... that went down the ol' hatch, no problem. I cannot have cake in my house.

Simple. Smash them up except for five chips and flush the crumbs. Put the almost-empty bag back where he left it. When he finds five chips left and asks you about it, just say, "I couldn't help myself. They were right there in front of me. I wish I had never seen them. I sure hope I don't get sick from those chips."
Lather, rinse, repeat.
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