Ms. Thompson

A BMI of 47.5 more than qualifies you for surgery and it is much better to deal with obesity now before you get a lot of obesity related health issues. You don't want to do like I did and wait until I had almost uncontrollable high blood pressure, excruciating joint and spine pain and greatly reduced mobility. I doubt your family would want those things for you either. At the end of the day, this is a personal decision between you and your surgeon. While I had my surgery in the states since my insurance would cover it, from what I've read on here the program that bariatric pal helps coordinate in Mexico is quite good and there are a lot of people on here who have used it.
I do agree it would be best to have someone travel with you - not because it is mexico but just in general traveling a distance for surgery by yourself would be hard but not undoable.
I've very surprised your primary doc says surgery is unnecessary at your BMI. But why does your family say that? Have you discussed with them the impact of obesity on your life? As well as the impact of years of yo-yoing weight loss and weight gain?
And lastly - you are not alone - everyone here understands and supports you.

Get a new Dr. and do it for yourself !
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I started at 504 lbs., Aug. 4, 2015 (surgery day) I was 454 lbs. This morning I weighed in at 190.6-so, it can be done!
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I started at 429lbs 5'3" and was required by insurance to do a 6 month supervised weight loss program. Surgeon wantes me to lose 40lbs. Day of surgery I was 389lbs ☺
Had it bypass in may and today I am 315lbs.
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I'm 3 years out and had my RNY on July 2, 2013. Those hormones are the total PITS!!!! Just hang in there it does get better each and every day. I noticed you said you feel a little better today. I understand how hard the liquid diet is but...just think about this: you just had a major surgery. Your stomach has been messed with BIG TIME!!! Everything your team tells you is very important to follow for sure. It will be over before you know it. When I had my RNY I had to do 2 weeks of Protein drinks for my preop and 4 weeks of them for postop. And I was still afraid to eat!!! You CAN DO THIS!!!! YOU"VE GOT THIS!!! KMeep your eyes on the PRIZE!!!

November 28th and nervous as hell lol but reading these stories helps me alot????????
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You might want to keep them so you can do one of those "look how much weight I lost" pictures when you get to your goal.

Before surgery, my "fat jeans" cut off my circulation. Last weekend I found I can pull them on and off without even undoing them. Off to Goodwill they go!
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I just went 5 days without a bowel movement and as I was talking to my mom on the phone I felt the urge!!! Thank God! Either way I'm going to take a stool softener! Be careful with laxatives, they can deplete you of nutrients (the very little we get) and can dehydrate you! Stool softener is a better route!
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my typing is horrible..sorry
I can't see this screen...I think I said rheumatologist??? huh??
I meant surgical staff was fun
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Hey buddy!! I just had mine on Tuesday and just got home. Glad to hear your journey is also going well! I think we are one of the lucky few with hopefully good surgery and recovery stories! The greatest feeling was coming home and taking a shower. I feel so good now. Just relaxing on my couch watching Netflix now.
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I have been up and walking
I'm on full liquids..not just clear....
I have decreased meds...and I am sipping alot of liquids
not so bad
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dropped the call button..damn it. haha
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@@SlimBra, Congrats on your surgery. It sure sounds like it's been a very successful day today. Thanks for this update. Please keep us all updated. Many of us are eager to know what to expect we're anticipating our own surgeries soon.

had my surgery today at 1100
I would say it was a success . ...I wanted to share for those awaiting their surgery
The anesthesia was good, I was joking with the surgical staff then next I was waking up in recovery.
I have a pain pump....not using it excessively. I have not been allowed to sip yet....the dry mouth is no joke! ha ha. I have a swab and ice Water...so that is a plus.
I'm not nauseous....no pain...no gas pressure (yet) I did get up and urinated.
I washed my face, brushed my teeth and hair....I actually feel human again!
I did get an abdominal band....this is a good thing to have.
all is well......hope you don't mind the ramblings....hey, I AM medicated. haha
good night friends!
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I have my pre admissions appointment in the morning and I have 7 days until surgery! I'm a bag of emotions! Happy, nervous, scared, anxious, excited! You name it and I'm feeling it right now. Asking for positive vibes and prayers that all goes well with my pre admissions appointment and nothing will come up that would stop my surgery from happening. ????
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@@rebcal
If you got off meds would you still be nauseous ? That is discouraging that it can go on so long
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Good luck and congratulations!!
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Praying for a smooth transition, Grateful to God for seeing me thru this process!
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Maybe you can Find something you like and look forward to: nuts. String cheese. Hard boiled [emoji505] jerkey.. cottage cheese? Yogurt , kefir,?
just try to have your body fueled. You need to be healthy for your kids too. Best of luck

I think my reaction to finding out I had gained 5lbs in the hospital was, "WHAT THE F**K?"
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When I first started I worried about the same things. I think lots of us do. And you are right. There are some people who act so "with it" in regards to following the plan, but most of the ones I've seen had surgery ages ago. Therefore, they may not remember exactly what they did wrong. All they know is that they are happy with themselves now, so they focus on what they did right. This surgery is not the cure-all--it's the starting point! You will have a new stomach and that really helps put things in perspective so you can be able to make the right choices and CURE yourself.
For me, head hunger was crazy the first few weeks and I also kept comparing myself to the others on here who had no appetites or could eat less than I could. I had a pep talk with my NUT who assured me I was on the right track and as long as I listened to my body and ate the right foods I would lose. It has been 6 weeks at 2 days since my surgery and I have lost 40 lbs!! I eat when I'm hungry, I don't measure my food, I focus on maximizing my Protein intake and minimizing my carbs. Just do you, boo!! It will wall work out
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I'm not sure what posts you're seeing where people are 'with it'? I see post after post of people who are unsure, confused scared and frustrated. We all were at first, and still are at times!
Everyone is different, but honestly, whether or not you succeed is 100% mental. You are going to go through all the feelings I listed above, but the key is finding ways of overcoming them to keep moving forward. Research, listen to others who have been there, get professional therapy or join a support group. Try different things until you feel you're doing what works. Learn to adapt, and adapt in order to learn. Find not what works for everyone else, but what works for YOU. Don't get hung up on what's "right" or "wrong". Learn to FORGIVE yourself for the many mistakes you're going to make. I find the people who struggle get stuck in one of those emotional traps and can't figure out how to move forward, or are not willing to.
Do whatever it takes to figure out how to be successful, and you will be. Like learning to ride a bike, you'll be wobbly and may fall a few times at first, but once you get the hang of it, you just keep peddling until you get to where you wanna go!

Take a deep breath. I think most of us have had this fear of failure with the surgery at some point - or even at several points. Let's face it, we've failed at all other attempts before surgery so it is in our heads that we could fail here too.
Some of the things you mentioned, you have absolutely NO CONTROL over - so accept that. I'm talking about reflux or developing gallstones. If they are going to happen, they will. With the reflux - take your PPI, it may take some dosage adjustments to figure out what works best for you but you and your doctor will figure it out. If you do have a gallbladder attack - guess what? They can remove your gallbladder - a very common surgery. I know no one wants to have another surgery, but if you need your gallbladder removed at some point - it isn't the end of the world. So let go of your fear of those - they can be dealt with, IF they ever occur.
Speaking for myself - I don't have it all figured out - I am still figuring it out, and there are always new things to figure out the further out I get. It will be a constant learning process for what works FOR YOU. You don't have to have it all figured out right now. You will need to be mindful of your eating habits forever - that's part of a healthy lifestyle. It will take commitment and will be an adjustment but it can be done.
It is completely natural to have these fears. But try to channel that energy you are putting into being fearful, into learning and making conscious decisions and you will be successful. And remember - YOU ARE WORTH THE EFFORT.
I think it is particularly helpful on the tough days to have a list to refer to of why you are doing this and what you are looking forward to that the obesity has kept you from. I know this helps motivate me and keeps me from giving into the fears and giving up.
Hang in there! You can do this!

@@KaiserKid You're not crazy. I have a fear of failing as well. I bet many of us do. It's a full-time job to eat and drink at first - but I am assuming it becomes more routine at some point. I never thought I'd be able to stick with the pre-op diet and I did - 100% without cheating at all. I really think that helped me be prepared for post-op. I'm only a little more than a week post-op - but things are easier than I expected (so far anyway). I'm just taking it one day at a time.