LessOfMe0503

I guess... I'm not in the immediate area, I'm near Greensboro. All the NC groups seem pretty dead.

Blow the bitch a kiss and tell her to bite your ever-diminishing arse!!!

I have heard that before about " The easy Way Out" . when you are happy and healthy what the heck do you care what she says or thinks. I know it's difficult to ignore people especially when you work with them . I would look at her and say are you talking about me? call her out in front of people and then tell her to mind her own business. If you don't value her opinion let her know she is rude. I am older and I have learned that people will treat you the way you let them. Always do things in a way that you don't look bad though. If she continues I would go through your human resources dept. I love the Gummy worms idea, I once ate a whole bag of those darn things and I was soooo sick.

Ughhhhhhhh...I am so tired of this dumb bi#@h I work with who keeps making comments about the surgery is the easy way out!!! I never told her I had it cause she never asked me, but I know she knows cause she asked other coworkers if I had it done! So ignorant!! I hope she gets diarrhea in her car on her way home!! Ok.. I'm done. Lol

My surgery was scheduled the same day they submitted to insurance. I don't know if they always do that or if they did that because they know I am trying to get my surgery in before school starts back up. It might depend on your insurance. My bariatric coordinator is extremely knowledgeable about my insurance company. She said they process a lot of claims through BCBS.

Perfect.... That is exactly what I was talking about. Honesty is best, just curved towards what they understand

Thanks for the advice. We talked about it today. He was scared at first, his fear is that he was afraid I would die during surgery. I acknowledged his fears by admitting that I could die, then quickly followed it up with the fact that I could die of a heart attack tomorrow. He thought about it for a minute, then he was ok. We talked about how I would be healthier and have more energy. He was excited my mom would be coming down to take care of us and that he would be with "nana" while I was in surgery.

I go back the week of the 17th, but i have a week of workdays so I'll be sitting in meetings. I'm having surgery Aug 4th and I'm not too worried. I know I'll be tired, but i plan on going to bed early.

I don't know of this is exactly the right board, but I'm a single mom and I figure I will find others here.
I'm struggling when it comes to talking to my son about my surgery. He is 8. When I first started looking into surgery he overheard me talking to someone else about the surgery and flipped out.
While I was in the deciding phase, I made sure not to talk about it around him. Now the decision is made and the surgery is next month. I have plans and back up plans for his care while I'm in surgery and recovery. I even have a plan in case there are complications.
I just haven't been able to tell him about the surgery. What have you told your kids?

I had a lapband in 2001 when my boys were 9 and 12. My oldest is a worrier and my youngest is the silent type - who knows if he is a worrier, right? I revised to the sleeve when they were 19 and 22.
Anyway, we kept it light for the band procedure. They knew I was going into the hospital and at that time, in Germany, they kept me for 5 freaking days!!!! In the USA, you have to be on your deathbed to even be admitted to a hospital (ok maybe not that bad) so it was hard to help them understand that I was okay even though they would not let me out. My EX (their stepdad) did a great job of keeping them entertained/distracted combined with visiting me in jail (hospital)... it was a real balancing act.
My basic feeling about all this is that it is very difficult for children to understand all this and I don't want them to worry so I would really minimize it to the extent possible.
when I revised to the sleeve, my children were young adults but still concerned. I stayed overnight in an outpatient place. I did NOT want visitors but my EX felt they should see that I was okay. We played cards and had some laughs even though it exhausted me to have visitors it was a good decision because they could see I was "ok".
I know you didn't ask this question but I have to add something kinda interesting. I hit goal in Feb 2013. I pulled out before pix of myself recently and both of my boys looked so sad. they told me they don't remember me looking like that. They didn't realize how heavy (lets be honest, i was huge) I was. It made them sad, shocked and then proud of me in all I have achieved - all at once.

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Idk... I can't leave work to eat out so it's not an issue for me. My nutritionist have me a list of things that would work- refried Beans from taco bell, chili from Wendy's, eating just the hamburger patty from a hamburger

Idk... I can't leave work to eat out so it's not an issue for me. My nutritionist have me a list of things that would work- refried Beans from taco bell, chili from Wendy's, eating just the hamburger patty from a hamburger

Look for Dannon's Oikos triple 0 - 15g Protein, 0 added sugar (stevia), 120 calories. I love all the flavors, but the coconut creme I mix with my chocolate Protein shake to give me a "I'm eating a Mounds bar" feeling

Best thread ever!
I'm not going to miss
-the exhaustion of carrying around over 100 lbs of excess fat
-sweating
-being afraid I'll break a chair or a bench
-lifting parts of my body to wash/dry/powder underneath
I'm looking forward toy son and students being able to wrap their arms around me when they hug me
-I'm a teacher and my son goes to my school. As both a parent and a teacher, my biggest fear is having a situation at school and not being able to get my kids out safely. Earlier this year, I realized if we had a fire and had to go out the window instead of the door, I'm not sure I would get through the window. I'm NOT going to miss that fear!

My surgery was scheduled the same day they submitted to insurance. I don't know if they always do that or if they did that because they know I am trying to get my surgery in before school starts back up. It might depend on your insurance. My bariatric coordinator is extremely knowledgeable about my insurance company. She said they process a lot of claims through BCBS.

I've always loved small things -- finally have a use for those demitasse spoons I famously gave my husband for Christmas one year. I also use a beautiful sterling silver shrimp fork instead of the great big forks in the silverware drawer. It's dainty, like me (lol). And I use a variety of ramekins now and dessert plates. I'm serving every one way less these days, though I let them eat from regular sized china. They can always go back for more. In the old days I'd be right behind them for seconds (or more!); not anymore, yippee!

Not having to pay more money for "over sized" things

I'm a teacher too (in NC) and finally have my surgery date! I'm set up for Aug 3. It's cutting it close but I'm going to make it work!

Congrats! So glad your big day has been scheduled!

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I just got my date today... August 3. I'm worried about transitioning into new eating habits while starting a new school year.

I have a surgery date! I'm scheduled for August 3rd. I have felt like I was standing on the edge of anxiety while I have been waiting. As soon as I got the call it was instant nervous... but like nervous on steroids!

Not having to pay more money for "over sized" things

Oh gosh so many things....not having to lift my hanging belly up when I go to the bathroom to make sure my bladder empties, not having to rub gold bond medicated power under my fat belly and in my thigh creases to keep them from cracking and bleeding, not having to pull my back fat forward when putting on a bra to avoid back humps, not having to lay down in the bathtub with my feet in the air to shave because bending over makes me lightheaded, not asking my daughter to trim
my nails because I keep pulling my side muscles when I do it myself from the contorted positions I have to get in, not having to buy shirts that go to my knees so people can't see how far down my fat belly hangs, not having to tuck said fat belly into my pants and try to make it not look like I'm smuggling a roll of Bologna down one leg or the other, not having to wear bike shorts under my skirts and dresses so A) the thighs don't rub and because I can't find underwear that fit properly and I'm afraid my poise pad might fall out of the other sizes leg holes and oddly shaped crotch as I walk????, not holding up my arm fat when I reach over a hot pan to turn the burner off, because I always burn my flabby arms, being able to walk into any store and KNOW they have my size and it's not one rack of granny clothes near the maternity section that sadly still won't fit right even if they are big enough because I'm too tall and they are too short, no sucking it in to put the seatbelt on, no sitting in my desk chair in the kitchen to cook and roll around to do dishes because standing for long period hurts too bad, and absolutely no looking into the mirror and crying. I promise myself when this is all over and done(probably after the plastic surgery) I will look in the mirror and be proud of all that I've accomplished and not focus on all that brought me to where I am right now.