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@alaisha96 I 16:8 fast every day and have since about 6 months post op. Granted most of it is when I am sleeping, but you should be fine to fast with your sleeve. It should make it super easy to fast, actually. Since you need a lot of fluids. your best option is to do liquids in the morning. Liquid protein drinks, followed by as much water as possible. Then in the evenings I would eat as much meat as possible and then drink as much as possible. I gave up a lot of things for Lent, that I did not have to. It was etremely hard but it forced me to learn a lot about myself, and I have a greater understanding of myself. Before Ramadan starts you should really working on drinking fluids, faster. The more you practice at it, the more you can drink and faster. You need to practice ahead of time and get a good idea how much you can drink and how fast. Also I would drinking like I said above, protein drinks over water. They still count as fluids but you are getting protein and nutrition. bit-tawfīq

In reality that is super low carb since the government recommends around 300 carbs a day for the average american...

Where we live there are free parks and museums and outdoor events almost every single day. You don't have to spend money on a first date. I would rather walk in a park than have coffee. Guys that invite you on coffee dates are intellectually lazy. Coffee dates are for cowards. The kid of guys that ask you out for coffee are the kind of guys that are going to take you to dinner and to the movies or something else equally boring.

I have another book for you to look at Improving Your Body Image Through Catholic Teaching: How Theology of the Body And Other Church Writings Can Transform Your Life. by John Acquaviva PhD et al. http://a.co/aJHIFZz

Your stomach is amazing and you took at least 10 years off your face! Congrats!

I'm not quite smaller than I was 13 but almost. I have a hard time enjoying my surgery success because I feel embarrassed I was so delusional about my size for so long. I don't really feel like it is a victory to lose something I should have never gained in the first place. So I understand the mixed feelings. Keep going though you are rocking the weight loss. You have a better attitude than me, these last 20 pounds seem like hell compared to the for 150.

Yacht Rock forever!

@B.Annie We had another thread where we talked about how people view surgery for women vs men. When Men have surgery it is assumed it is for their healthy and they are at deaths door. When women have surgery, people assume it is vanity.

I had one it feels like your heart is going to jump out of your chest. It is way worse than a treadmill or bike test. Just mentally get ready for it. There was a moment there I was sure I was going to die. A total of $40,000 in cardiac tests, nothing wrong with my heart.

4 business days. I called insurance knew I was approved before I got the letter. Called the scheduler and made her give me the day I wanted.

I love the tropical flavor. Tastes like Pina Colada. I love them, I used them a lot last summer. Great product

I picked my Dr because he is highly skilled, he fixes the mistakes other bariatric doctors make (is published). Young, does a lot of surgeries. His staff is a pack of $#@%. It amazes me how the nicest doctors have the worse staff.

Well for one, you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. It isn't like people can go cold turkey with a food addiction, you have to eat to live. RNY should make it harder for you to eat around your surgery for a while, but you still can eat around your surgery. I thought for a little while that I wouldn't be successful because the weight wasn't coming off fast enough, (looking back that was completely ridiculous), but I am doing pretty good. I won't consider myself a success until I have stayed under 200 pounds for 5 years but I have done better than most people with my weight loss. Just follow your plan and take it day by day. Find a way of eating that you do not feel deprived so you can easily stick to it.

@emleyrose https://asmbs.org/patients/bariatric-surgery-misconceptions http://www.healthline.com/health-news/bariatric-surgery-patients-see-weight-gain-after-honeymoon-period-080515#2 http://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamasurgery/fullarticle/2422341 http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2174497/How-gastric-surgery-patients-ALL-weight-on.html

What you are doing now is not working. If you want different results you have to be different. Meeting women online isn't working. People said meet people in person, you said no. I suggested playing a MMO, to meet people you said you play Nintendo alone. You have no real interest in getting a woman. Be honest with yourself. If you did you would be willing to try new things.

I didn't watch tv. Walked a lot and went to bed early

ALL OF IT. You came in this thread pretending that you want to understand how women think so you can get one but all you ever do is low key bash women for not responding to you. You never once post anything about working on your social anxiety and improving your self worth. You are never going to get someone until you work on yourself. And above you said you were not willing to change for a woman. You don't need to change for a woman you need to change for yourself. You are going to wake up old and alone one day and regret your choices.

Sgc has a whole thread with pages and pages of advice he refuses to take. People have been trying to help him for months. He won't even help himself. You can't sit in the house and expect a broad to drop from the sky. He isn't getting the results he wants how he is, but he refuses to change. There is nothing anyone can do. Personally I have never complained about not meeting nice guys, they are of no interest to me. I want a go getter.

What does your plan say?

You were having problems at 6 months though. That is pretty early, so your issue with regain isn't because of how far out your are from surgery. If any of your stats are right you never got to goal or close to it and you started regaining. People that get to goal or close to it seem to do better long term because they have more to defend and more room to bounce. Just because you had a hard time with the sleeve because of your food addiction does not mean the sleeve does not work or is not a good tool or that people cannot maintain losses. The issues you have with food and weight are more than just WLS issues. There is a binge eating drug that some people have success with Vyvanse. Maybe you can look into it.

If you work with your sleeve, losing weight post-op is easy. This is the easiest I have ever lost weight with the least amount of stress. The most important thing is to follow your post-op diet strictly the first 6 months. The stages of the post-op diet is not just to reduce complications but to also change your relationship with food and teach you to eat again properly. People advance their stages, don't follow a plan and miss that chance. The first 6 months you are healing so you have the most restriction. This restriction is a great tool to enforce healthy eating habits and make them natural. Example, a proper portion of meat for anyone is 3 to 4 ounces. Post-op you have to work up to eating 3 to 4 ounces of dense protein. The time it takes to work it to that and learn you are completely satisfied with that amount teaches you proper portion control and makes it normal. Also after living on protein shakes and water for weeks, the simplest foods taste delicious. Baked fish is suddenly a feast, veggies a delight. Going without and slowly introducing healthy foods resets your attitude about food, but you have to let it happen and work with your program not against it. A lot of people advance their stages or eat slider foods because they are easier to eat and they miss this mental reset. You get a one time shot at the easy mental reset post-op. If you miss it then you have to try and retrain yourself later on, on your own and it is just as hard as doing it pre-op. People that regain usually reintroduce carbs early and/or think they can eat how they did prior to surgery just in smaller portions. The one person I know personally that had surgery 5 years ago, never hit goal and has regained half their loss (They are a bypass patient). Never changed eating habits. Ate the same way just smaller portions, and then followed fad diets. Never learned nutrition, never tracked food. Now they have regained and are a loss on how to lose it. They can eat normal portions of food. Their tool offer a them no help and they haven't learned any lessons. Hopefully you are having surgery at a center of excellence. I was given a book and several handouts on how to eat and live for the rest of my life. I don't eat everything they allow because they have far too many carbs on the list for a former diabetic like me, but I followed my food stages. I follow the portions and I still look at my book for guidance. Picking a good program and a good surgeon is another key to success.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-3376765/Why-t-blame-slow-metabolism-piling-pounds-s-excuse-use-unique-experiment-proves-s-poppycock.html#ixzz4hhw13mpn It is a pretty long read but they take 2 people, put them in a pod and monitor them for 24 hours. They feed them, make them exercise and monitor their sleep. 2 people obviously doesn't make for a study but the results are interesting to me. The guy weighs 182 at 5'11 and has 142 pounds of lean mass. They do not give a weight for the female reporter but her lean mass is 93 pounds. His BMR 1656 and hers is 1224. Over the course of 24 hours he burns 2098 calories and she burns 1638. (This is why even if you eat to the level of your BMR you are still creating a calorie deficit, because your burn calories over that amount just living and being active in a day.) He burns 1.15 calories a minute and she burns .85. However they are each burning the same amount of calories per kilo of lean mass .02. The Dr's say that metabolism between age 20 to 50 is pretty constant and doesn't really drop off a lot until 80. Exercising increased their calorie burn 2.5 times normal for up to 2 hours after exercising. Just for a frame of reference, my BMR is 1990 and my lean mass is 123 pounds.

Well OA is supposed to help you love yourself not necessarily accept being fat. If you love yourself and are happy with yourself it is easier to make the correct choices. Have you ever worked on why you eat the wrong foods not just the foods? Do you feel deprived? Are you emotional eating? Are you self soothing?

Feeling gross and looking gross are 2 different things. What is your goal weight? I wouldn't expect you to see or feel a huge change with 20 pounds either. I don't feel like some of us really appreciate what surgery does for us until we hit uncharted territory. I appreciated my loss but it wasn't until I got somewhere I had never been and never imagined, a size 8, that I was really in awe.

It is kind of hard to say because a lot of people have GERD resolved by just losing weight. The only thing you can do is keep an eye on it.