Callisto

I totally bought candy I know I don't like - it was hard to make that decision and stick to it!

ME TOO! Today is my one month surgiversary also and I am down 16 pounds, four of which I lost pre-op but I really did not have much of a pre-op diet because I was too close to BMI. SO very slow...it feels like it anyway. I can tell a difference in my clothes. I said the same thing about I could have come this far on my own but the truth is it will come off if we stick to the program. It might be slow and often times I have to remind myself there is no way I can't be losing when the options I choose for eating are drastically different than they used to be and in way smaller quantities. We got this. You all made me feel better about not losing much.

I probably should have done that. That drain coming out was WEIRD feeling. It felt like they were pulling intestines out or something haha.

I told the doctor 120 and he said that was realistic. It is at the very top of what my BMI should be to be out of the over weight range. I do know that my daughter is my height and she is around 100 pounds as was I when I was younger and neither of us looked under weight. Tiny, but not too skinny. But the best I can hope for is getting to a weight that reduces my medical conditions such as my diabetes, especially my blood pressure (I am a walking stroke), sleep apnea, non-alcoholic fatty liver and fingers crossed my feet and back will hurt a lot less!! Whatever THAT weight is - THAT is where I want to be.

Mine is still open a little bit - I am diabetic and so I guess I probably heal slower especially since I have had a difficult time controlling my blood sugar since surgery. I also have a spot in the middle up towards the breast bone that is still "open." I also have a dog bite that is still somewhat open (a little dog but a deep bite). It is driving me nuts that I am not healed because I also want to go into the pool. Mine is closed enough that if I weight trained I would feel comfortable --- I think. All my other incisions are healed up. Hopefully you dont have to have it stitched up. Part of my issue is I was using hydrogen peroxide and that apparently slows the healing process too.

Stage three for me is tuna also but I have had some without an issue. I have been eating an egg that's really finely chopped up with the yolk. Scrambled eggs were a no go. Mostly I am eating my shakes and I will eat some baby food but I don't like the bland taste unless I am really hungry. It has to be something low in sugar and that's hard to find in baby food.

That's really awesome!! If I could pull that off I would. I wonder how much my daughter eats for calories a day cause she is just a tad taller than me at 5' and weighs around 100 pounds plus works out. Just as a curiosity factor. She hasn't had kids tho she's is 25.

Surely height has to be taken into account cause I'm pretty sure i wasn't eating 2,000 calories most days before before surgery. Of course I do not run either.

You know what I tell my daughters? Dating means "practicing" - first practicing being friends and if he is not interested in you as a person then he is not worth it. Second it means practicing good boundaries, establishing what you expect in a relationships such as no drugs or someone who is a hard worker and has a job. Third it means practicing being in a relationship, learning to love the person for who they are (nobody is perfect but you are still setting boundaries), learning how to be in a healthy relationship and weed out the toxicity, learning to argue and communicate ...... finding someone who shares the same religious beliefs, sexual boundaries or openess, who shares the same financial beliefs (hard to find lol). That is what dating someone means...long term dating. In the short term dating means you are weeding out and setting those boundaries (like no foodies and druggies). Look, this is coming from someone who was married THREE times. First time I expected perfection (not going to happen) and I left him, the second one left me because he expected perfection, and the third one I met on plentyoffish dot com and trust me I weeded out a ton of people. If any guy talked about sex (not that I am not an extremely open person) I immediately did not talk to him again. My husband was one the only one of many who showed a great deal of respect towards me and agreed to friends first - so I could learn to trust him. 10 years later - I am still in love and just this morning he said being married has never been easier and I agree. Since this is both our third marriage we have had learned a lot from our past. And another that helped me was that I was single for a period of time. Being a single mother and doing it on my own I found a great deal of independence and learned to love myself and figure out who I am during my time alone. It was good to be able to be strong again once I met my husband. Hang in there, girl, practice and ye shall find the right one.

I know - I had the same thoughts. I would lose the same 30-50 pounds and I can't tell you how many times. I think I was so up and down with my weight that I actually messed my metabolism up and got type 2 diabetes at 35 years old after losing weigh on Atkins and gaining it back. I am sure I was pre-destined to get the diabetes (thanks for the genes, Mom) and stress during that time of my life did not help. I think if you are doing so well that considering surgery is a good tool. You can continue the healthy eating and then have a good tool with your weight loss surgery to help you keep your weight off. Of course, nobody can answer that but you but I am glad you came here to hash it out and think about it with some of us who have been there.

I had a BMI of 37 and all I hear is how I don't weigh enough to get it done. I am 4'11" and was 189 - I am 177 now. What people don't know is how unhealthy my body is. Type 2 diabetic, borderline stroke blood pressure (we have it somewhat controlled now), NASH, sleep apnea. My fatty liver was bad enough 5 years ago that he told me if I did not lose weight I would have damage to my liver in 10 years so really that is was what prompted me to lose weight. It was my GI doctor that suggested I look into weight loss surgery.

I dont know what the original post was but if he said it was the easy way out - he is dead wrong. After my surgery I looked at my husband after vomiting violently right after having surgery on my stomach and told my husband "This is so hard - nobody ever tell me this is the easy way out cause this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through." They don't get it if they have not been through it. I mean my husband would not say that but I would say that my husband doesnt totally get it either cause it was not his body experiencing the pain. Sorry you had a bad night with the hubby.

What a great topic! I have not even thought about what I would do for myself once I reach goal. Well, one thing that is hard for me now is to hike so it just hit me that maybe my hubby and I can go somewhere and hike somewhere high - it gives me inspiration to keep working out also. Hmmmmmm! Go on a hike with a mink coat?? I like it. lol

Good question. I looked at a calorie counter online that told me how many calories I should be taking in to lose weight. I went through all my paperwork and nutritionist never said how many calories but she sure did school me on WHAT I can and cant eat. Like too much sugar for me does NOT work. I am very sensitive to sugar and losing weight so I try to eat as little sugar as possible so that means what I eat within my calorie range really matters.

I started my period three days after surgery - 2 weeks early and some of it was old blood. And then to top it off I kept spotting up until recently. It has been 18 days since I had surgery. I am glad to hear this is pretty normal. It takes a while to get out of that fog from the anathesia (spelling) and if they gave you morphine like they gave it to me- whew!!! But you might not be getting enough water also. I don't know if you are diabetic but you might want to check your sugar.