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@@peteyrulz I am doing well. Thank you for checking on me. My biggest problem is the gas and the largest incision site hurts pretty bad but other than that it has been pretty good so far. I had surgery at 11 am and was released home by 6 pm the same evening. I hope all is well with you!!

@@peteyrulz I am doing a partial pay too like you. The process went really fast because you don't have to jump through all the requirements the insurance usually makes you do for just WLS alone. If you have a date in mind that you would like call them. They worked with me on the date. The entire process took less than a month after I saw Dr. Nicholson. I am very excited for you too!! Cheers to our new beginnings!!

Oh goodness! I am truly not discouraging ANYONE from posting anything. I am simply hoping that some people will rethink the word cheating and take accountability for the choices they make.
I'm not saying their choices are bad/wrong/atypical, I am simply saying that the best way to deal with them is to own them instead of trying to justify them.
BIG DIFF!

Sometimes we may very well stretch the truth when we respond to someone whether its here or as we go about our daily life. We don't do it to lie to someone necessarily, even though technically it is indeed a lie.
We do it because it's the thoughtful thing to say and because everyone needs a little love and support.
I like to see a genuine smile on someone's face because I told them how great they are doing and how lovely or handsome they look. Maybe every little bit of support they get helps them continue on their path. Maybe that's the only nice thing thats been said to them in a very long time. I would never want to see any hurt or bad feelings in someone's eyes because I told them they looked like a stuffed sausage in those clothes.
Be kind. The effort you put into it will be returned to you one day when you really need it.

@@wascott I would choose to go big and eat the entire Dorito

@@Jaymmie Hengle Thanks for sharing these recipes!
I can't seem to find SF Carnation Instant Breakfast. Do you know if sugar free Carnation Instant Breakfast has changed its name to Breakfast Essentials No Sugar Added?

Here is a good overview of why we may feel hungry, even when we aren't.
Why you are constantly hungry
http://www.cnn.com/2015/05/11/health/always-hungry/index.html

If you quit it defines you....get back on your plan and KEEP GOING! I doesn't matter how times one falls but what does matter is one gets back up. You can do this.

Hi from Houston! To be perfectly honest, I can't believe I am posting on a Weight Loss Surgery forum.
I turned 67 in January. I was forced to retire at 64 due to health problems. Shortly afterward my husband lost his job. He is legally blind so has been unsuccessful in finding another one since he does not drive.
I have sat around for the past year doing nothing but eating and gaining weight. I was around 300 lbs when I left retail. Every time I would go to my primary care doctor, he would make me feel horrible about myself regarding my weight but never suggested any things I could do to get help.
I finally got sick of being treated this way and found another doctor. My first visit with her, she asked me if I had ever considered weight loss surgery. Maybe because I weighed in at 385 pounds???? I am embarrassed to even tell anyone that.
My husband and I have researched surgery and have decided that if is possible, I will have the surgery. We chose a doctor due to recommendations and if he is all I have been told he is, he will be the one to do the surgery.
We are going to a Seminar on May 22 and will have a 1 on 1 meeting with him the same day. I am guessing it would be around September or October before the surgery would be done. Insurance looks good, Medicare and a Supplemental insurance that will pay anything Medicare doesn't cover as long as Medicare pays some of it. Hopefully that will cover most if not all of it.
I am not sure what type of procedure he will do but I have read that with a high BMI like mine, 66, they will often do the gastric bypass surgery. Time will tell.
Thanks for letting me join the forum. I hope to learn a lot, not only pre-op but also pre-consultation. I am praying that the Lord will help us work all this out for me to be able to have the surgery. Sitting in a chair 24/7 is no way to spend the rest of my hopefully long life!
Thanks again,
Louise

I had surgery on March 24th and that was my first day off. I went back to work March 31st. You will probably get tired pretty easy and will be glad when it is time to go home. I wish you the Best of Luck!!

Ok I did so more research, I found this video.
It was very helpful and reassuring.
I will put it here incase anyone else wants to watch it, or is having the same question I am.

@@Cyncha21, sorry you're struggling right now, but at six years out, you KNOW how important positive attitude and personal accountability has been and will continue to be FOR LIFE. So, first and foremost--you are NOT a failure! And you will not go back into the 200's if you CHOOSE not to. At every moment, the choice is ALWAYS in our hands.
I am four years out, and have to work at this every single day, sometimes even a single minute at a time! It takes a lot of mental work to let go of that old way of eating we've always done, and truly ACCEPT that my way of life now does not include those old unhealthy eating habits. Even though it can be HARD, wow, the rewards are sooo worth it!
When I get "tired" and frustrated with the constant dedication it takes to make the right choices for my WLS life, sometimes I just have to have a real honest "reality check" chat with myself about my habits and lifestyle:
(1) Have I slipped back to some of those old, familiar and comfortable (for me, lazy) eating habits (too many processed starchy carbs, too much fast food, not enough real food meals prepared at home, grazing all day, etc)?
(2) Am I moving my body every day to get the exercise I need?
(3) Am I keeping my stress under control? (That means am I taking good care of MY mental well-being!)
(4) I have to remind myself that food is medicine and fuel for my body, and it wants to have food that keeps it healthy. All the junk I WANT to feed it does nothing to nourish my cells and keep my body systems running efficiently.
(5) I remember back to "WHY" I decided to have surgery in the first place. It re-sparks that motivation.
It sounds trite, but you DO have the POWER to get back on track. You have proven you are a survivor, made up of strong stuff, because here you are, six years later!
Maybe you can find an in-person WLS support group through your medical team or local hospital? Sometimes that can be really helpful too.
Be kind to yourself. You are so worth it. We WLSers are special people...

I had my sleeve done on March 24th by Dr. Nick Nicholson. He is Awesome!! I am down 23 pounds but have been so hungry since day 1. I get to start of soft food in 4 days so looking forward to that and hoping the hunger will stop. Good Luck to all of the March Sleevers!! We can do this!!!

I send the serenity prayer your way...
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference.

God never closes a window without opening another one. Keep the faith.

Amen GOD never FAILED u yet....i pray god bless you to find a job and out of your depression!!!!...This too shall pass!!...Hugs!!

He will never leave nor forsake u!! Keep your faith in Him and have a mind of expectancy! You have to know without any doubt that He will deliver and it will happen. It is simple to say but sometimes hard to do!
Keep looking for a job and watch Him give u an even better one!! Bless you and try to be as positive as possible...knowing that there are things that are gonna happen in our lives (both positive and negative) but we have to not allow those things to throw us off track and if they do, we have to be strong enough to refocus and get back on track!

I lost my job. Very upset cause it did nothing wrong I was told RM fired me so my DM could have my job. I was already a big woman but I went into a depression , and gain more weight. With no job no money, seem like I can't find a job the depression started to show. My daughter was bless in away that she wanted to bless me. So she paying for me to get a start on new life...She have always been a bless to me in so many ways...So I'm praying to God that this change mind life. And God bless me with a JOB..I know God will cause he never failed me yet...!!!!!!

And I have some Carmel Protein Bars from my slim4life days... I can't wait to get to eat them again! They are pretty soft and chewy... And really good.

My current weight is 324 and I my goal is at minimum 285. Thanks!

That was the hardest phase for me. I didn't eat any meat. I lived on yogurt, ricotta and cottage cheese- all low fat of course!

I know that edaname Beans are super good Protein and they have different flavors. If you have a sprouts market in your area they carry them in the deli section and they are soft.. There are also dried ones, but those are hard and I wouldn't suggest that yet

Eyhornmom,
Just from the responses on this thread, you can see you’re not alone, and hopefully that will give you hope that you can get over the worst of your struggles soon.
One thing I would like to ask you is about what you said: “I want to be able to go out to eat and enjoy eating with my family. It makes me a little sad that those are all things that I can no longer have, probably ever.”
This may not be the case. What do you enjoy about eating with your family? If it is (or was) the feeling of going out and overeating, you’re right – you may never be able to do that again, at least not without feeling sick.
But if what you enjoy is the company of your family, you’ll be able to do that soon enough. Maybe it just takes a change of attitude: what do you live for? And it’s tough, because maybe you used to live (or think you lived) for food, and now that you don’t, you need to figure out what you live for. And you can.
Maybe instead of eating a chicken pot pie and an order of fries to enjoy the eating occasion, you’ll change so you can get the same pleasure from a chicken breast and some broccoli.
In the meantime, it’s perfectly normal to feel depressed and to question your decision. After all, one of your biggest crutches (food) is gone, and to make it worse, you’re eating only pureed foods. Anyone would get depressed on that!
Hang in there, and good luck.

@@BXB26 It's so hard to believe when you are only a couple weeks out, but I really do promise you that you will feel normal again. It took me probably a solid 2-3 months to get to where I felt normal most of the time and now that I'm over seven months out, I feel normal ALL of the time. You will adjust and adapt. I go to family gatherings and meals out all of the time now. Just last week I was on vacation with my husband, parents, aunt, sister, brother-in-law, and four nieces and nephews and we prepared meals together and ate out and were out and about the whole week. The great thing is that once you are back on solids, there's always a Protein option no matter where you go. When they all did make-your-own tacos for dinner, I made myself a little plate of meat, cheese, refried Beans, and a little taco sauce. It was delicious! When we went out, I got some chili or pulled pork (without the bun). One day we did Breakfast for dinner and I had scrambled egg and a little sausage. It really is so much easier once you are back on solid foods. Just hang in there!

@@BLERDgirl is your woman to help! I can't live without red meat, sooo...
And bacon. And crab...