shannpann

I developed two abcesses after my rny. Second surgery less than 2 weeks after. Horrible experience, 11 days in hospital, 6 weeks off of work. Took months to feel somewhat normal. My dr was good though. I wasn't that crazy about him before, but after my illness I saw how much concern he did have for me and my well being.
Now I have found I have an ulcer, which is frustrating. But surely it's a fairly easy thing to deal with?

Intense pain on my left side, around my ribs. I had thought I just did too much. I wasn't nauseated, I didn't have a fever, nothing else but pain. Once I got to the Er, the blood tests showed my white blood cell count was triple what it should have been. After a few days on antibiotics, it wasn't helping and I actually got sicker, fever, nausea, my feet then legs then my whole body started swelling. And the pain was so intense I counted down the hours til my pain Meds were due. But once dr figured out it was abcesses, 2 of them, did surgery and cleaned it all out I finally started improving.

Wow, number three is super insulting. That is pretty judgmental. I agree, the guy sounds clueless, and I think people give the most insight into their true thoughts and selves when they least realize it. At least you know where he is coming from.

Ouch! Hang in there. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince. I can't imagine how tough dating is and would be. I give you a lot of credit for broaching the subject and handling the less than stellar responses with grace.

I am sorry that you had complications but I am glad that you are doing great. Welcome to the losers bench , and make sure you keep us posted on your progress.

DOS 12/30/14
SW 335lbs
HW 359lbs
I'm doing great! My cw is 279 lbs. My dr says I'm 5-10 lbs ahead of his schedule! I've thrown up here and there. But I pretty much know now what to stay away from. I was off my bp meds, then put back on. Just got taken off again today because I've been near passing out and my bp today at the dr office was 100/60. No wonder! My first set of blood work isn't until the end of June. I'm a little nervous. But we'll see.
And there's quite a few people on here. And there are some regulars which make it nice.
I'm sorry to hear of your complication. What are they going to do?

@@shannpann
You have to find a good Reflexologist and make an appointment and tell them about the Constipation, they will work on your feet/hands and it somehow "releases" everything and the intestines start moving everything along like it is supposed to work!!
Best to Google to find one in your area.

My blood sugar ran high for several weeks. Then it calmed down. Healing is tough on the blood sugar. It will get better.

I'm glad to hear the cat scan was normal. Keep in contact with your surgeon.
Nausea seems worse for some with an empty stomach. Keep sipping. It will get better.

I had pain for 4 weeks, left side. I used pain meds as long as I needed to. Nausea has gone on much longer but it's finally almost completely gone. I take meds for that sometimes still as well. For me, it's a matter of learning what foods I can and cannot tolerate cuz some will make me feel bad. Good luck and hang in there. Itmmight be a slow recovery but it does get better and is definitely worth it! I hit 100 lbs lost today from a year ago --woot, woot!

So happy for you!!

Gummy bears? Really.... I wish Reese's Peanut Butter cups was on that list

So happy for you! Under 200 was my first goal too!

I wouldn't say I hate people for being fat, skinny, or whatever. I have always envied people who could eat what they wanted, sugar, fried stuff, etc and not have to give it a second thought. But I try to remember that everyone has their obstacles, mine just happen to be weight ( I eat too much), diabetes ( I eat too many carbs and sweets), asthma ( I smoke).
When my daughter was diagnosed with diabetes (she had it before I did) I learned how to eat properly, it didn't stop me from developing it but at least I could do what I was supposed to. I saw people who were diabetic and I worried about them when I saw them eating carbs or tons of sugar. Don't you know what that does to you??
When I finally quit smoking I worried about other smokers. But I knew everyone had to come to terms with their vices on their own time. Both my parents smoke, it's going to kill both of them eventually. They are sick all time time, my dad is a bladder cancer survivor, and my mom has COPD. I worry. I wonder, if I could quit, surely they can. But I cannot say a word.
After I had my rny, I still have a ways to go, but I'm off to a good start. I still want to eat more than I should or things I shouldn't. I don't exercise like I should, but I'm doing better. I see people who are where I was and I worry. Don't they see what they are doing? I know not everyone has health insurance like I that allowed me to have his surgery. I realize not everyone can afford to just pay cash. But I still worry. And I still envy. Some days when my co workers have take out for lunch and it smells so good. Other days all I can smell is the grease an it makes me sick.
I do look at people differently, I am by no means better than anyone else. I have lots of short comings. Everyone has their struggles.
Some days it's really easy to stay away from the candy bowl. Other days it's not.
I agree that what you are seeing in them is what you hated about yourself. I don't think that you are looking down on them. I am happy you felt free enough to express yourself here. Because I wondered if it was a normal type of feeling. I have it too. I don't want to be back there. "Fat Shannon".

I crawled up in my fiance's lap! Not only did I fit, I comfortably fit! NSV for us both, he is 11 months post op, I'm 4 months post op.

I had regrets. Even now when I want to eat something I can't. I was surprised. It wasn't magic cure. I still want Bagels.
I had a tough time recovering, had to go back into the hospital and go through another surgery because I developed 2 abcesses. Never have I been so sick. I regretted it.
When I could only sip liquids, and it hurt, I regretted it.
The first lunch meeting at work, I regretted it.
The first time someone offered me a donut.... And I took it... And took a bite.... I regretted it.
This is a tough thing to go through. Maybe the toughest for some. It will get better. It will.
When My16 month old grand son was just out of my reach... And only steps from the road... I called to him to come here, but he turned with a smile and started to take off towards said road... I leaped to him and grabbed him before he took another step. I could not have moved that fast before. I DID NOT regret it.
60 lbs down. I no longer regret it.
Blood sugar stable and off diabetes Meds, I do not regret it.
Time. It takes time. But I was told that too. I had no patience. You will get there.

I had regrets. Even now when I want to eat something I can't. I was surprised. It wasn't magic cure. I still want Bagels.
I had a tough time recovering, had to go back into the hospital and go through another surgery because I developed 2 abcesses. Never have I been so sick. I regretted it.
When I could only sip liquids, and it hurt, I regretted it.
The first lunch meeting at work, I regretted it.
The first time someone offered me a donut.... And I took it... And took a bite.... I regretted it.
This is a tough thing to go through. Maybe the toughest for some. It will get better. It will.
When My16 month old grand son was just out of my reach... And only steps from the road... I called to him to come here, but he turned with a smile and started to take off towards said road... I leaped to him and grabbed him before he took another step. I could not have moved that fast before. I DID NOT regret it.
60 lbs down. I no longer regret it.
Blood sugar stable and off diabetes Meds, I do not regret it.
Time. It takes time. But I was told that too. I had no patience. You will get there.

I crawled up in my fiance's lap! Not only did I fit, I comfortably fit! NSV for us both, he is 11 months post op, I'm 4 months post op.

I crawled up in my fiance's lap! Not only did I fit, I comfortably fit! NSV for us both, he is 11 months post op, I'm 4 months post op.

I crawled up in my fiance's lap! Not only did I fit, I comfortably fit! NSV for us both, he is 11 months post op, I'm 4 months post op.

I had regrets. Even now when I want to eat something I can't. I was surprised. It wasn't magic cure. I still want Bagels.
I had a tough time recovering, had to go back into the hospital and go through another surgery because I developed 2 abcesses. Never have I been so sick. I regretted it.
When I could only sip liquids, and it hurt, I regretted it.
The first lunch meeting at work, I regretted it.
The first time someone offered me a donut.... And I took it... And took a bite.... I regretted it.
This is a tough thing to go through. Maybe the toughest for some. It will get better. It will.
When My16 month old grand son was just out of my reach... And only steps from the road... I called to him to come here, but he turned with a smile and started to take off towards said road... I leaped to him and grabbed him before he took another step. I could not have moved that fast before. I DID NOT regret it.
60 lbs down. I no longer regret it.
Blood sugar stable and off diabetes Meds, I do not regret it.
Time. It takes time. But I was told that too. I had no patience. You will get there.

I had regrets. Even now when I want to eat something I can't. I was surprised. It wasn't magic cure. I still want Bagels.
I had a tough time recovering, had to go back into the hospital and go through another surgery because I developed 2 abcesses. Never have I been so sick. I regretted it.
When I could only sip liquids, and it hurt, I regretted it.
The first lunch meeting at work, I regretted it.
The first time someone offered me a donut.... And I took it... And took a bite.... I regretted it.
This is a tough thing to go through. Maybe the toughest for some. It will get better. It will.
When My16 month old grand son was just out of my reach... And only steps from the road... I called to him to come here, but he turned with a smile and started to take off towards said road... I leaped to him and grabbed him before he took another step. I could not have moved that fast before. I DID NOT regret it.
60 lbs down. I no longer regret it.
Blood sugar stable and off diabetes Meds, I do not regret it.
Time. It takes time. But I was told that too. I had no patience. You will get there.

Jeannbe1,
I had my RNY surgery on 12/15/2014 and like you the first couple of weeks were tough especially watching all your family members eating great food around the holidays while you're on a liquid diet. I, like the rest of us who have had surgery, definitely questioned my decision to have surgery and thought I made a big mistake. Depression and resentment of other "normal people" eating what they wanted also began especially when I was on the puréed foods phase of the post op diet.
But believe me when I tell you that I now feel that this was the best decision that I have made in my entire life. I kept on thinking how miserable I was when I reached my heaviest weight of 466 pounds ( 5 ft 10 in). The depression and feeling of helplessness that I experienced at that weight is pale in comparison to the first month post op. I am down 66 pounds in three months post op along with the 40 pounds I had to lose to qualify for surgery. I have another 123 lbs to get down to my goal weight and I am excited about how even better I am going to feel as I get closer to my goal weight. My knees and my back no longer hurt me and I am enjoying life again and while sometimes I do miss a certain food it's not something that consumes my thinking all day long like it used to. You have no idea how liberating it feels to not be a slave to food and fast food drive up windows. I now eat to live rather than live to eat and you will too soon enough !
Please follow your surgeon's instructions so your body can heal and I'm confident that you too will eventually feel that this life changing decision was the best thing you've ever done once the momentum of losing your excess wgt really kicks in !
Good luck.

I had regrets. Even now when I want to eat something I can't. I was surprised. It wasn't magic cure. I still want Bagels.
I had a tough time recovering, had to go back into the hospital and go through another surgery because I developed 2 abcesses. Never have I been so sick. I regretted it.
When I could only sip liquids, and it hurt, I regretted it.
The first lunch meeting at work, I regretted it.
The first time someone offered me a donut.... And I took it... And took a bite.... I regretted it.
This is a tough thing to go through. Maybe the toughest for some. It will get better. It will.
When My16 month old grand son was just out of my reach... And only steps from the road... I called to him to come here, but he turned with a smile and started to take off towards said road... I leaped to him and grabbed him before he took another step. I could not have moved that fast before. I DID NOT regret it.
60 lbs down. I no longer regret it.
Blood sugar stable and off diabetes Meds, I do not regret it.
Time. It takes time. But I was told that too. I had no patience. You will get there.

I crawled up in my fiance's lap! Not only did I fit, I comfortably fit! NSV for us both, he is 11 months post op, I'm 4 months post op.