txfirefly979

I got the same thing from certain people and it completely angered me. It is not the easy way out. Its a tool. We are sometimes at such a heavy point that in order for us to lose the weight the caloric restriction has to be so low we would starve which would most likely led to a binge at one point or another. Plus we have to restrict everything we eat for the rest of our lives not just until we lose the weight. We are starting all over again. We are have deal with daily temptations and food can be just as addicting as smoking and drinking only more available and harder to break. We have to eat every day to live smoking and drinking we can live without. Don't even worry about others...you do for you and enjoy the journey of getting your life back cause at the end of the day you have to wake up and live with you! Good luck!

I don't know how he found out, I really hadn't told many people at work, but I guess people talk. Anyway, it came up in conversation, and he started questioning my motivation, saying that didn't I worry that I was taking that easy way out. That if I just worked hard and stayed disciplined, I could do it all on my own. He made it sound so simple. I could tell he thought he was being positive, but he was being condescending, something he has a reputation for doing.
First of all, it's not so simple. I am well over 200+ lbs over. I have gone past the point of no return. And while I make no excuses for how I got this way, I know it's all on me, and I haven't made the best choices in my past. But I'm at the point where medical intervention is required, and my doctor wholeheartedly agrees (I love her by the way!). And I'm going to do this like I do everything in my life. To the best of my abilities. Despite his opinion, I know this will most certainly not be easy. In fact, I want to it to be hard. It will make it that much more worth it once I reach my goal.
And second. This is life and death, I'm in my mid 30s now, and the clock is ticking. If I keep going on this path, I will not have much time left on this planet. I am not concerned with preserving my honor in his eyes. I have family and friends who are all united in their support of me on this. And he's just some guy we hired last year to do . . .I really don't know what he does.
So for those that say, we're cheating, or taking the easy way out. Kindly direct them to engage in intercourse with themselves. Rant over.

I am still in the pre op phase..but honestly it has all been hard, waiting for all the different appts, the money I have put out so far, (and so much more to go) other's opinion ' s , hearing people tell me I am not big enough to need surgery, the thoughts of loose skin, Hair loss, relationship challenges, ALL of it is HARD. But that's why I am here to get the support that I need to get through it all and so far it has been a huge blessing. I hope you find support and comfort within the community as I have.

I'm scared of failing. I'm scared I will fall back into old habits. I'm scared I won't have the self control I need. I'm still preop and trying to change my ways as much as I can now. I have stopped snack foods and soda so it's a start. food has always been my comfort so it's scary not to have my security blanket

Havent heard anything about those surgeons or facilities. I'm using Dr. Howard and really like him! He & Dr. Balette together run Houston Bariatric Surgery (http://www.houstonbariatricsurgery.com)

I go to a therapy group every week and I have not told them nor 90% off my family. I feel shame about having to have this surgery because I'm so fat. A part of me knows how much I fight not to be like this, and the other part blames me for what I have done to get me here.

I'm down 62 pounds as of last week. Surgery day 1/5/15
I haven't weighed this week yet
Best thing I've ever done for myself!
Before pic -December 27th
After- Feb 27
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The hardest part for me was going against my father's wishes and actually having the surgery done, because he was completely against it even though my mom was completely supportive.

For me the hardest part of making the decision for surgery was having to put trying to have kids on hold. My husband and I have been trying for a while but I honestly believe my weight is stopping us. I just had to tell myself that after surgery I will be so much healthier and I can be a better example of healthy living for my future children.

I said age 18 previously, and I thought I'd elaborate. For me I was a size 28ish bride at 1mo past 19. I quickly got to a size 32 after marriage. There's soo much more that I wanted to do before having my first child at 21. Being obese held me back from doing those things. Being obese made me not have a beautiful baby bump. Being obese also resulted in 3 high risk pregnancies. If I would've went through this wls journey as a young adult I might've had better pregnancies, a social life and beautiful baby bumps.
I'm sure some may disagree, but these are just my feelings, for what it's worth.

Here's another reason I supported my 26 year old daughter's choice to get a sleeve: In addition to a better quality of life with her growing family, it also has the ability to improve the quality of her baby's life. He'll grow up in a house where food isn't the focus, and where he parent's eat for nutrition, not fun/sorrow/boredom/whatever. Also, I've seen studies that children will have a better chance of a normal weight if born to normal weight mothers, so that impacts her future, unborn children.

I also hit 100 lbs lost today and it's been just over 8 months so I'm super excited!!

Sw 336
Cw 236

Yes, you will be a total mess and be on the pitty party train for yourself. Hunger will make anyone cranky and miserable, even worse for women I think. Specially around your period. It is normal. Hang on tight.

Thank you for the suggestions! @@Elode I tried VS & omg! Even the one pieces are risqué ! @@amazon thx I'm checking out that site and like that it's reasonably priced! TX weather usually has us swimming by mid March

Looks like we have a hard time getting anything together in Texas. I'm in Houston and don't see any activity.
Based on your numbers, looks like you are doing great! Right on track!

I know the feeling. My insurance through my employer would not even consider covering this surgery. I had made my mind up and was so determined that my husband just told me to go ahead anyway. yeah, I now have a huge credit card bill to pay, but I have not had any second thoughts. 2 weeks out and I am down 49lbs today and could not be happier. I consider the amount of money I use to spend on eating and drinking out every day will now just go against paying off the credit card. Good luck with your appeal.

Once you have the sleeve done, you know that you have to have mindful eating habits. You only get so much room with your new stomach and have to eat in a specific order. You will notice that certain foods will make you feel horrible and eating properly will give you good energy and feel good too. I thought that too, at first. After my 6 month supervised diet, I had more understanding of what I was getting myself into. The 1st 3-4 months were the hardest. Then once a strict routine was put in place, I did great! I lost 23 lbs during my supervised diet. My surgery was almost 6 months ago. I've lost a total of 73 lbs, so far. I have 20-25 to go before I hit my goal weight! Don't doubt yourself. You can do it. You and your health are worth making healthy, stronger and happier. We've all been in your position and had your thoughts. You are not alone at all. You got this!!!

Would your husband be against your having surgery for any other ailment? Would he be against medical intervention for diabetes, high blood pressure, smoking, etc.? Probably not. Because he sees these issues as medical diseases. The biggest question is: What is his perception of obesity?
Obesity is a multifaceted disease. And while you may be asymptomatic right now...internally your body is suffering and medical problems are sure to arise. The better we understand that obesity is a disease ourselves, the better we are able to explain it to our spouses and significant others. If we haven't done the research or asked our Drs/nutritionist about this disease, we are doing ourselves and our loved ones a disservice.
Now after you've explained the disease to him, and he still chooses to be unsupportive...that's on him and his insecurities and selfishness.

Oh and I wish someone would have told me I would finally not craze food or be hungry anymore! Disclaimer: not everyone loses all sense of hunger like I have. I feel "lucky" but to some that may seem like a bad thing. I have been hungry and overstuffed myself for so many years I'm thrilled I have no desires to do that anymore.....as of now anyway.

Hey, @@Joey Jackson. Here's the stuff I wish someone had told me:
That it hurts like hell when you first wake up! But the improvement starts almost immediately and after 2 weeks you'll feel pretty decent. That the first few trips around the floor are really hard, but after that walking actually starts to feel pretty good. That they would transition me from IV pain meds to pills during the night in the hospital. And yes, you can swallow a small pill. That the pain meds are only needed for 3 or 4 days. That Water is even more important than Protein during the first week or two. That if you don't get enough fluids, the Constipation is gonna really suck! That you should have some kind of laxative or stool softener ready. (Miralax is pretty good.) That food and drink are going to get stuck at various points in your esophagus at various times in the first few weeks, and make weird noises going down. This is normal, and due to swelling, and it improves pretty quickly. That tons of fluids (eventually) are the best way to keep your skin elastic, which might help down the road. That tons of Protein (eventually) plus Biotin is the best way to try and keep your hair. That Vitamin B-12 is a happy pill. (I prefer timed-release to sub-lingual.) That around week 3 after surgery, all weight loss may stop for 2-3 weeks! This is completely normal and here's why. good article That if I follow ALL the rules about what and when to eat and drink, never eat starches or sweets (or drink alcohol), and get regular exercise, I could lose 111 pounds and reach my goal weight in 7 1/2 months. And.... that if I did all of that, I would actually enjoy the journey... and I have! Good luck! I wish you all the success in the world!!!

That's what I did. I didn't stand a chance with my insurance company because they required a five year documented weight history of a BMI over 40 or 35 w/comorbidities. Shame on me for at least TRYING to do it "on my own" and having lost 90+ pounds back in 2010/2011. That put my BMI well below 40 until it slowly crept back over 40 this past summer. So my options were self-pay or stay fat for another 3-4 years to meet their stupid requirements!

For the record, my incision scars are almost unable to be seen and the drain was removed before I left the hospital.
Tell your husband to thank his lucky stars he didn't marry me. My husband witnessed me poop on the birthing table every time I pushed while I was in labor with my first. He also got to see my brain drain that was taped to my face for four days after brain surgery. I still have a headband scar from ear to ear from that fiasco. Oh! And after that surgery, he had to pluck out the ingrown hairs that occurred as my hair grew back in around that incision.

He's very squeamish. It almost killed him.

This is an actual text conversation I just had with my husband. We have been together just over 9 years:
Me: if we venture out of the house for anything besides hockey this weekend, i need to buy a new bra Me: the band part of my work bra is just way too loose now and my boobs fall out the bottom Husband: I love you Me: aw Me: what inspired that? Me: certainly not my bra comments! Husband: "the band part of my work bra is just way too loose now and my boobs fall out the bottom" Husband: hehe Me: lol Husband: I'm just happy someone will talk to me about her boobs falling out of something. Me: that's all you needed in life? Husband: I'm all set now. Me: i'm glad i can provide that for you

I can't at 19 months out. I live for spicy food. Sucking on an ice cube is your friend.

yes, yes, and YES!!!! every single one of these!!!! not to mention
(4) no more raw thighs that rub together when wearing dresses/skirts in the heat that Texas enjoys for 10months out of the year.
(5) not wondering how WIDE my butt looks when I'm doing squats or incline leg curls.
(6) knowing I will be able to keep up with my (future) kiddos. heck, knowing I'll be more fertile to HAVE those future babies