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I have been in this situation before where and old "friend" wants to have lunch/coffee whatever, and even though it may be harmless, I always put myself in my husbands shoes. How would I feel if he went out to lunch/coffee with and old "friend". I would be so freakin jealous so I just have never let myself in that situation and neither has he.
Good luck with your decision. That's just my 2 cents worth!!

I have been in this situation before where and old "friend" wants to have lunch/coffee whatever, and even though it may be harmless, I always put myself in my husbands shoes. How would I feel if he went out to lunch/coffee with and old "friend". I would be so freakin jealous so I just have never let myself in that situation and neither has he.
Good luck with your decision. That's just my 2 cents worth!!

I have been in this situation before where and old "friend" wants to have lunch/coffee whatever, and even though it may be harmless, I always put myself in my husbands shoes. How would I feel if he went out to lunch/coffee with and old "friend". I would be so freakin jealous so I just have never let myself in that situation and neither has he.
Good luck with your decision. That's just my 2 cents worth!!

Its just something about their innocence that makes your heart melt

So my 8 year old son, who has such a caring heart, came up to me today and said," Mum, so you said your face might look a lot older after you lose weight? Well I you know there is this stuff in the stores called firming cream! Want me to get you some for after your surgery?"
Lol. So cute!

So my 8 year old son, who has such a caring heart, came up to me today and said," Mum, so you said your face might look a lot older after you lose weight? Well I you know there is this stuff in the stores called firming cream! Want me to get you some for after your surgery?"
Lol. So cute!

I have been in this situation before where and old "friend" wants to have lunch/coffee whatever, and even though it may be harmless, I always put myself in my husbands shoes. How would I feel if he went out to lunch/coffee with and old "friend". I would be so freakin jealous so I just have never let myself in that situation and neither has he.
Good luck with your decision. That's just my 2 cents worth!!

So my 8 year old son, who has such a caring heart, came up to me today and said," Mum, so you said your face might look a lot older after you lose weight? Well I you know there is this stuff in the stores called firming cream! Want me to get you some for after your surgery?"
Lol. So cute!

So my 8 year old son, who has such a caring heart, came up to me today and said," Mum, so you said your face might look a lot older after you lose weight? Well I you know there is this stuff in the stores called firming cream! Want me to get you some for after your surgery?"
Lol. So cute!

So my 8 year old son, who has such a caring heart, came up to me today and said," Mum, so you said your face might look a lot older after you lose weight? Well I you know there is this stuff in the stores called firming cream! Want me to get you some for after your surgery?"
Lol. So cute!

So my 8 year old son, who has such a caring heart, came up to me today and said," Mum, so you said your face might look a lot older after you lose weight? Well I you know there is this stuff in the stores called firming cream! Want me to get you some for after your surgery?"
Lol. So cute!

So my 8 year old son, who has such a caring heart, came up to me today and said," Mum, so you said your face might look a lot older after you lose weight? Well I you know there is this stuff in the stores called firming cream! Want me to get you some for after your surgery?"
Lol. So cute!

So my 8 year old son, who has such a caring heart, came up to me today and said," Mum, so you said your face might look a lot older after you lose weight? Well I you know there is this stuff in the stores called firming cream! Want me to get you some for after your surgery?"
Lol. So cute!

The first two was about three months pre-op.
The rest are about a year post-op.

When I came home from the hospital I was so worried about going poop my family said I was rather obsessed. Well I went 5 days after surgery and thought all was well.
Well about a month and half out, even though I was getting in all my Protein and Water things stopped. Oh man was I in so much pain. When I called my docs office they said to get Miralax and put some in my drink. So that is what I did and low and behold.......It worked!! Thank God!! I never ever want to go thru that again.
I now drink 24oz Decaf tea every night with my scoop of Miralax in it and things have smooth going since. My NP told me to go to only using a half serving of Miralax now, but I do one full serving one day and then 1/2 a serving the next day. I am just so afraid of that happening again.
Well anyway the reason I am sharing this lovely story is my husband and daughter almost bought me this tshirt for Christmas. I will post a pic down below. I laughed so hard when I saw it. I told the they should have, but I think my daughter was afraid I would wear it outside the house.
Thought it might bring a smile to someone's face who is struggling.

I used to drink 2-4 litres of diet soda a day. I stopped drinking soda about 4 months before my surgery as part of changing to a healthier lifestyle. I have to admit, getting out of the soda habit was harder than quitting smoking.
Now that I'm almost a year out from soda and smoking...the idea of them sounds good at times, but it passes very quickly. I actually enjoy the Mio and other liquid Water flavorings because I enjoy some of the subtle flavors.
I also found that not drinking 1/2 hour before and after meals was tough to get used to, but so much of what I do is simply habit and not necessity.
All these lifestyle changes are still just choices that we make. The farther you are from the day you made that change, the easier it gets.
Best of luck to you!

"failing to plan is a plan for failure" - is very true in my case. I plan everything. The way I eat now is pretty much the same way I ate pre surgery only in smaller portions. I eat chocolate, I use real sugar and raw honey. I don't use diet foods or have cheat days. I plan and incorporate every into as healthy and balanced a daily eating pattern as possible.
The other thing I keep in mind is that nothing is more obnoxious than a former fatty who goes to the opposite extreme and becomes self righteous. We're all human beings trying to make this weight issue work. If you think you have food addictions around a particular food, work on that now. WLS isn't going to magically whisk it away.

I understand. I'm less than a month out. I had to go back to therapy. I cant put up with abusive behaviors that before didn't even ding on my radar. I can say honestly that the damage i sustained in my life always had me looking to hide. And when hiding from predators obesity was the best cloak. Suddenly I feel that I'm being exposed. And as crazy as it is to say I felt security in obesity. Most people would say I'm an extreme outgoing self confident person. Truth is that's a cloak too.

I was searching for Constipation information since it has been a week since surgery with no joy. Found this thread and I just want to say thanks it worked. Feel much better now. However my wife does not understand how all this works. She has a sore rear end and still cannot go poop.
I do not get it either but thanks.

Yes it will. The only safe sex post sleeve is in the ear. But that's only until you're completely healed up, start experiencing less restriction, and can tolerate all normal foods.

I haven't had my surgery yet but not quenching my thirst is a concern for me. Let me know how you make out with that. I have stopped drinking with meals as well as 30 min before and after, but I have always been a huge Water drinker and this concerns me!
Good luck and from what everyone says, it gets a lot better!

I haven't had surgery yet but I friggin can't wait to not sweat this summer.

he visual of you dictating is a riot!! Don't feel bad, I apparently told my Dr. "your so HOT in a drunken slur". Just shoot me.

This is my first time posting here and this thread is by far my favorite!!
Things that I will not miss... As I read through all the previous posts, I could relate to the majority of them. Personal hygiene, intimate moments with my husband, doing more things with my kids, not bring embarrassed at my teenage sons' basketball games when I clearly stand out as a very large woman, not having feet hurt, not being the big little sister in my fsmily of 9, wearing clothes over and over because I swear I won't buy new clothes for this size agsin, sleeping in the same bed with my husband every night because of my snoring due to my large neck and chest fat... Oh I could go on and on!!!!!!
Thanks so much for this forum!!!!'

Tonight, a very dear friend of mine and her hubby came to visit us and I don't see her very often, so I chose to tell her about my upcoming surgery. Needless to say she was shocked. She desperately tried to talk me out of it. Asked me if I would try one more time to go to weight watchers, go to the gym , etc... I told her thst I'm 45 years old and yes have had great success with all the programs, etc... But each time the weight came back on and more so the time is now to get something done. I came to a realization tonight that people are not so much angry with me for doing this, they are more just worried about the surgery, etc... I realize some will never understand "why" even though I try to do my best explaining so I really need to just not listen to them.