EnjoyingInsanity

Wow. I'm so sorry about this. My husband lost his job almost 5 months ago and it has been very stressful so I can relate. There have only been a few times I've given in to stress eating and I always felt so terrible afterward. Everyone has a different way of handling stress so I can't really offer advice to what might work for you. But I prefer to talk with my husband, parents and pray. I CAN try to give you some good info on your situation though because 1) I'm going through it myself and 2) I also happen to be a banker so I give this advice to people monthly.
There are many steps you will want to take immediately. Here is an article that lists most of them:
http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/keep-house-after-losing-job-13915.html
One thing this article doesn't mention is calling all of your service providers (TV, Internet, Cell phone provider, Insurance, etc.) to explain your situation and see if they can lower your bill temporarily. Dish Network agreed to lower our bill to $50 a month for a year. Internet provider is giving us a $20/mo discount for a year. Verizon dropped our bill $60/mo. Also, you need to cancel any unnecessary luxuries like gym membership, satellite radio, Netflix (unless you cancel your tv provider), etc.
Here is an article with a phone number to call and see if you qualify for any help with your mortgage:
http://www.consumerfinance.gov/askcfpb/282/i-lost-my-job-and-cant-make-my-mortgage-loan-payments-what-can-i-do.html
I really hope you find a new job soon! But hopefully these tips will help you to get through the time it takes you to find a new one.

I am in a sexless marriage. When I researched “sexless marriage” on the web, the definition was a couple that has sex 10 times or less per year. I had to laugh because I realized if I was having sex 10 times a year I wouldn’t have done the web search in the first place. Part of the problem has been poor health for both of us. I sometimes feel like we are just old friends that live together. We will stay together as far as I’m concerned because of the promises I made. A couple of years ago when I was angry about it I stayed due to my promise to God. Now I stay due to my promise to her as well. It’s not a lot of fun and having my integrity isn’t always that satisfying but I guess it’s just the way I was brought up. Stay strong and avoid an affair is my advice.

I am in a sexless marriage. When I researched “sexless marriage” on the web, the definition was a couple that has sex 10 times or less per year. I had to laugh because I realized if I was having sex 10 times a year I wouldn’t have done the web search in the first place. Part of the problem has been poor health for both of us. I sometimes feel like we are just old friends that live together. We will stay together as far as I’m concerned because of the promises I made. A couple of years ago when I was angry about it I stayed due to my promise to God. Now I stay due to my promise to her as well. It’s not a lot of fun and having my integrity isn’t always that satisfying but I guess it’s just the way I was brought up. Stay strong and avoid an affair is my advice.

I am in a sexless marriage. When I researched “sexless marriage” on the web, the definition was a couple that has sex 10 times or less per year. I had to laugh because I realized if I was having sex 10 times a year I wouldn’t have done the web search in the first place. Part of the problem has been poor health for both of us. I sometimes feel like we are just old friends that live together. We will stay together as far as I’m concerned because of the promises I made. A couple of years ago when I was angry about it I stayed due to my promise to God. Now I stay due to my promise to her as well. It’s not a lot of fun and having my integrity isn’t always that satisfying but I guess it’s just the way I was brought up. Stay strong and avoid an affair is my advice.

I would echo many of the same things others have listed as "Worried About". Same goes for "Excited About" with one addition. Not being invisible. I've always found it funny that the biggest person in the room is the one no one seems to see.

My name is EnjoyingInsanity. It comes from an old joke. A doctor was interviewing a patient and asked if any of their family members suffered from insanity. The patient answered "no they all seem to enjoy it".

My oldest son joined the Navy in 2006. ????⚓️

I would echo many of the same things others have listed as "Worried About". Same goes for "Excited About" with one addition. Not being invisible. I've always found it funny that the biggest person in the room is the one no one seems to see.

My name is Ray. My surgery is scheduled for December 31st. Great way to spend New Year's Eve and start out the New Year. Wish all my fellow December Sleevers all the best and a successful 2015.

The children’s comments sound much like my grandsons. My grandsons are ages 3 and 5. They occasionally make comments about papaw’s big belly much to my daughter’s dismay. Their daddy and paternal grandfather are tall and super slim so I guess I just look so different. A few minutes after the big belly comment they are telling me they love me and that I’m the best papaw ever. It's hard to hear comments like their's but they didn't really mean to insult.

The children’s comments sound much like my grandsons. My grandsons are ages 3 and 5. They occasionally make comments about papaw’s big belly much to my daughter’s dismay. Their daddy and paternal grandfather are tall and super slim so I guess I just look so different. A few minutes after the big belly comment they are telling me they love me and that I’m the best papaw ever. It's hard to hear comments like their's but they didn't really mean to insult.

My name is Ray. My surgery is scheduled for December 31st. Great way to spend New Year's Eve and start out the New Year. Wish all my fellow December Sleevers all the best and a successful 2015.

My name is Ray. My surgery is scheduled for December 31st. Great way to spend New Year's Eve and start out the New Year. Wish all my fellow December Sleevers all the best and a successful 2015.

My goodness what a great year you have had. Proud of the results you've had and the obstacles you've overcome. You're an inspiration!

What do diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, cardiac hyper tension, and a severe case of denial have in common? Many of you would say something akin to, “early death” or “signs of an inactive life” and you would not be wrong. However, my answer would be “me” - more specifically, the old me.
Not too long ago, I was sitting at a dinner with a group of friends when one asked an other, “Are you sure there is no way you can do the Spartan Race with me?” I had heard of a Spartan Race before, so I paid attention to their discussion. While I was not so shyly eavesdropping, two things occurred to me. The first realization was that neither of my friends were including me in this adventure. The second was why they hadn't included me. A slow yet consistent thought came to dominate my head. It was the realization that I was not seen by other people as I viewed myself. As that truth unfolded in my mind, I slowly came to the realization that I was living a lie.
I believed that I was in shape. I believed I was athletic. I believed I was tough. As much as I believed these things to be true, my friends did not. The realization that my friends didn't think I would be interested in, or able to complete, an obstacle course race was compounded by the fact that I was realizing that my self-image was not accurate. Talk about a shock to the system! The image my brain created and the image my eyes saw in a mirror was not a true representation of who I was. My mind had created a shield. My friends accidentally shattered my manufactured self- image as I quietly looked down into an over filled plate of self-realization.
As they talked, and I listened, something happened. Something quick came alive in my head. That something made me say out loud, “I will run it with you,” to the apparent shock of my wife and the rest of the table. Maybe it was denial being pushed into realization. Maybe it was false pride making me say something out of haste. The thought that I was not perceived by the others as I perceived myself was shocking and eye opening to me. The call to arms was sounded, although unintentionally. My brain responded confidently.
Whatever it was that made me speak up, I am grateful for it. Now, I had a goal. I had a timeline. I said to myself, “Quit lying to yourself and get to work. It is time to be the person who you have been pretending to be.” All of these positive affirmations and goal setting were great except for one thing. I had one more realization coming around the bend and it was the most important one yet.
Over the following weeks, the barriers that had kept me from making a commitment like this to myself were falling down as the number of sit-ups, pull-ups, and miles I could jog increased. As all the excuses melted away, their absence reveled the one main reason that had kept me from making this commitment before now. I was afraid.
I was afraid of failure and comfortable with mediocrity. That fear had paralyzed my ability to achieve anything past the self imposed limitations that I had lived in for way too long. Gradually, I came to realize that I was showing myself that I could run a Spartan Race and not be afraid. The commitment to the physical training and practice of overcoming obstacles led me to a point where the fear of failure was not nearly as strong as the rewarding feeling I received when I climbed my 1st rope or completed my 1st mile run without stopping. Minor successes were destroying decades old fear and I came to love that feeling.
I completed the first Spartan race I ran. Did I come in first place overall? No. Did I win? Yes. I outran the only opponent I really had when I stood at the starting line – the old me. Needless to say, the commitment I made to myself has stuck. Obstacle course racing , the exercise, and diet I have adopted to help me run more in the future will be the vehicle to make me physically and mentally healthier. If I can offer some advice to those people who see themselves in the “old me” description it would be simply this: You don’t need to be able run 6 miles, you don’t need to be able to do 20 burpees, you don’t need to be able to climb a 20 foot rope. You do need to be honest with yourself about why you aren’t trying to do the things you really want to do. After all, you are reading this for a reason. I think that reason is you want to try obstacle racing. Trust me, a newbie like you, that you will lose that “old self” mentality very soon and discover a whole new world of possibilities that you never knew were within reach. I hope to see you at a race sometime soon where we can both outrun our old selves.
Starting weight: 310 lbs. Weight at race day 6 months later: 175 lbs.

First of all I’m not insane and let me explain my profile name. There is an old joke where the doctor asked his patient if anyone in his family suffered from insanity. The patient answers “No they all seem to enjoy it”. I always thought it was funny. I’m a 58 year old male who has been over weight since my late twenties. I was very active in my teens and early twenties and then got married. Suddenly I had this wonder person to go home to and that’s what I did. Now my wife is not in any way responsible for my obesity as I realize I was overeating long before we met. It’s my decision as to how and what I eat not hers. It’s just time and a change in lifestyle caught up with me. I remember when my doctor wrote “morbid obesity” on my diagnosis sheet. By the way me and the wonderful lady are still together after 37 years. I’ve done most of the diets over the years and lost and regained large amounts of weight. I’ve grown tired of that roller coaster and now want a tool to help me beat this once and for all. I know it’s not the easy way out though some will probably say it is. At this time I’m sad to say I’m preopt. I’ve completed the check sheet I was given and even an extra sleep study that was added. It turns out a male over age 50 with big neck and high BMI is at risk for sleep apnea. I believe I’ve started down this path early before the health went too far south. My surgeon says I’m in better shape than most of his patients. My goal is to become healthy and better able to enjoy life with my gal. My wife and I have been blessed with 3 grandsons and keeping up with them is quite a chore for me at this weight. If I become my wife’s trophy husband…well that’s okay with me. I've really enjoyed reading threads on this forum and have learned a lot from you all.

First of all I’m not insane and let me explain my profile name. There is an old joke where the doctor asked his patient if anyone in his family suffered from insanity. The patient answers “No they all seem to enjoy it”. I always thought it was funny. I’m a 58 year old male who has been over weight since my late twenties. I was very active in my teens and early twenties and then got married. Suddenly I had this wonder person to go home to and that’s what I did. Now my wife is not in any way responsible for my obesity as I realize I was overeating long before we met. It’s my decision as to how and what I eat not hers. It’s just time and a change in lifestyle caught up with me. I remember when my doctor wrote “morbid obesity” on my diagnosis sheet. By the way me and the wonderful lady are still together after 37 years. I’ve done most of the diets over the years and lost and regained large amounts of weight. I’ve grown tired of that roller coaster and now want a tool to help me beat this once and for all. I know it’s not the easy way out though some will probably say it is. At this time I’m sad to say I’m preopt. I’ve completed the check sheet I was given and even an extra sleep study that was added. It turns out a male over age 50 with big neck and high BMI is at risk for sleep apnea. I believe I’ve started down this path early before the health went too far south. My surgeon says I’m in better shape than most of his patients. My goal is to become healthy and better able to enjoy life with my gal. My wife and I have been blessed with 3 grandsons and keeping up with them is quite a chore for me at this weight. If I become my wife’s trophy husband…well that’s okay with me. I've really enjoyed reading threads on this forum and have learned a lot from you all.

First of all I’m not insane and let me explain my profile name. There is an old joke where the doctor asked his patient if anyone in his family suffered from insanity. The patient answers “No they all seem to enjoy it”. I always thought it was funny. I’m a 58 year old male who has been over weight since my late twenties. I was very active in my teens and early twenties and then got married. Suddenly I had this wonder person to go home to and that’s what I did. Now my wife is not in any way responsible for my obesity as I realize I was overeating long before we met. It’s my decision as to how and what I eat not hers. It’s just time and a change in lifestyle caught up with me. I remember when my doctor wrote “morbid obesity” on my diagnosis sheet. By the way me and the wonderful lady are still together after 37 years. I’ve done most of the diets over the years and lost and regained large amounts of weight. I’ve grown tired of that roller coaster and now want a tool to help me beat this once and for all. I know it’s not the easy way out though some will probably say it is. At this time I’m sad to say I’m preopt. I’ve completed the check sheet I was given and even an extra sleep study that was added. It turns out a male over age 50 with big neck and high BMI is at risk for sleep apnea. I believe I’ve started down this path early before the health went too far south. My surgeon says I’m in better shape than most of his patients. My goal is to become healthy and better able to enjoy life with my gal. My wife and I have been blessed with 3 grandsons and keeping up with them is quite a chore for me at this weight. If I become my wife’s trophy husband…well that’s okay with me. I've really enjoyed reading threads on this forum and have learned a lot from you all.

First of all I’m not insane and let me explain my profile name. There is an old joke where the doctor asked his patient if anyone in his family suffered from insanity. The patient answers “No they all seem to enjoy it”. I always thought it was funny. I’m a 58 year old male who has been over weight since my late twenties. I was very active in my teens and early twenties and then got married. Suddenly I had this wonder person to go home to and that’s what I did. Now my wife is not in any way responsible for my obesity as I realize I was overeating long before we met. It’s my decision as to how and what I eat not hers. It’s just time and a change in lifestyle caught up with me. I remember when my doctor wrote “morbid obesity” on my diagnosis sheet. By the way me and the wonderful lady are still together after 37 years. I’ve done most of the diets over the years and lost and regained large amounts of weight. I’ve grown tired of that roller coaster and now want a tool to help me beat this once and for all. I know it’s not the easy way out though some will probably say it is. At this time I’m sad to say I’m preopt. I’ve completed the check sheet I was given and even an extra sleep study that was added. It turns out a male over age 50 with big neck and high BMI is at risk for sleep apnea. I believe I’ve started down this path early before the health went too far south. My surgeon says I’m in better shape than most of his patients. My goal is to become healthy and better able to enjoy life with my gal. My wife and I have been blessed with 3 grandsons and keeping up with them is quite a chore for me at this weight. If I become my wife’s trophy husband…well that’s okay with me. I've really enjoyed reading threads on this forum and have learned a lot from you all.

First of all I’m not insane and let me explain my profile name. There is an old joke where the doctor asked his patient if anyone in his family suffered from insanity. The patient answers “No they all seem to enjoy it”. I always thought it was funny. I’m a 58 year old male who has been over weight since my late twenties. I was very active in my teens and early twenties and then got married. Suddenly I had this wonder person to go home to and that’s what I did. Now my wife is not in any way responsible for my obesity as I realize I was overeating long before we met. It’s my decision as to how and what I eat not hers. It’s just time and a change in lifestyle caught up with me. I remember when my doctor wrote “morbid obesity” on my diagnosis sheet. By the way me and the wonderful lady are still together after 37 years. I’ve done most of the diets over the years and lost and regained large amounts of weight. I’ve grown tired of that roller coaster and now want a tool to help me beat this once and for all. I know it’s not the easy way out though some will probably say it is. At this time I’m sad to say I’m preopt. I’ve completed the check sheet I was given and even an extra sleep study that was added. It turns out a male over age 50 with big neck and high BMI is at risk for sleep apnea. I believe I’ve started down this path early before the health went too far south. My surgeon says I’m in better shape than most of his patients. My goal is to become healthy and better able to enjoy life with my gal. My wife and I have been blessed with 3 grandsons and keeping up with them is quite a chore for me at this weight. If I become my wife’s trophy husband…well that’s okay with me. I've really enjoyed reading threads on this forum and have learned a lot from you all.