jane13

Hi Anthony74 I want to preface this with assuring you that I'm not trying to jump on you, bash you or shame you in ANY way. But for every person posting here, there are probably 100 reading, and I think a lot of the vets on here post with them in mind.
So, that pain that you have never felt before? It *could* have been your staple line rupturing as your stomach tried to digest the solid food you put in it four days after 4/5 of it was removed. That pain wasn't necessarily your stomach rejecting the TYPE of food, it was it rejecting the insult of ANYTHING other than liquids. And how would you have known that it was your staple line rupturing? You wouldn't have known, and then you could develop sepsis. I mostly want others reading this to understand that it's not simply a case of pissing your stomach off...it could be something very dangerous, even fatal, so soon after your surgery.
I'm glad you're okay!

I'm not perfect either. I was, however, very informed on what had happened to my body and what it would take to heal successfully. I have a family I love and kids who depend on me to be at my very best. I cared about myself far too much to put my stomach at risk. I had this surgery to resolve decades of obesity and I was not going to risk a leak, an abscess, a tear, or any other potential complication over food -- something I had clearly consumed far too much of, causing me to need WLS in the first place.

Love yourself. Value yourself. You are worth SO MUCH MORE than a chicken wing, a piece of pizza, a grilled cheese sandwich.

You can take my words however you choose. I know my intent and it's not the big bad bully you want to believe.

I'm not posting again. Whether that be good or bad. It's not worth it. Theirs a lot of good people on this site, but a bunch of crazies too! Let's just lose some weight!

I'm sorry you had a weak moment but start over I'm on plane ride home from Mexico was sleeved the 7th also. The guy that showed us around said if you eat something off your diet you could vomit violently and mess the staples in your stomach So your lucky. Just good luck on your journey.

Y'all do realize how dangerous this logic is, right? Push it in the gym, not on a newly sutured stomach. Break the habits BEFORE you have 80% of your stomach removed.
This is NOT the time to test your surgeon's skills. This is NOT the time to listen to your body or pretend you know what's best.
But hey. Whatever. Have at it. It's your body.

I deserve that! Again, I'm built for it. But let's stop with the name calling.

Yeah, I have a list of do's and don'ts. I was just being an idiot. I'm back on track.

I am almost 15mos post VSG and I have lost over 100 lbs. I can eat between 1/2c to a cup of food, depending on density and when/what I ate last. I have never vomited, or dumped. I am within 10lbs of my goal. I know to keep me honest I weigh at least every other day and I weigh out my food for work for Breakfast and lunch. I fluctuate about 2lbs. I didn't put on the weight overnight and I have battled the bulge since I was in my early teens (40 years). I will always mentally "track" what I eat and continue to be a scale junkie...the sleeve is a tool. I use my tool daily - - - - NO REGRETS!

I weigh usually daily just to keep my head in the game. I am officially a vet today as I am 18 months post and about 15lbs from my dream weight. I check in but quit posting for a while as I was frustrated with the mindset of some folks about how some of us respond.
Glad to see Jenn is still checking in. I miss some that don't check in at all anymore :/

@@stackinstones11 - so are you able to eat pureed yet?

My hubby has been nothing but supportive and I feel bad for the OP that do not have a supportive SO. I was blessed to have both of my husbands (current and now deceased ex) have always supported anything I did to improve my health. So my marriage like others who also posted has stayed strong and our physical relationship has also reaped the benefits of me losing over 100lbs.

@@summerset **I'm still having some problems with that. Just because it's Rant & Raves doesn't mean "everything goes" - or does it?**
I guess I'd ask you then: if coming here to vent because of the inundation of 'awww, sweetie, you can't control yourself, go ahead and have that moon pie then do better tomorrow' posts isn't appropriate, then what is? What do you see this section being designed for?
I'm not a better WLS patient than anyone else because I own my behaviors, but I do have a better chance of being successful...and that's what it's all about here, isn't it? My frustration was more than clear in my initial post, it's very hard to watch people enable others in their destructive behaviors and be cheered along by that enabling being couched as 'support'.

One thing you and I are in COMPLETE agreement about is the posts that wish failure on others. I'd love to see every single person on BP succeed beyond their wildest dreams, regardless of their behaviors, and I'd never relish a single one of them failing.

I'm not required to support or uphold someone on the wrong. Especially not a stranger on the Internet. More specifically ethically and morally I am never going to support someone engaging in dangerous self destructive behavior. Most of us aren't here to sell things or ourselves so we can conduct ourselves in a manner that is aligned to our beliefs and ethics instead of being fake PC to try and make friends with people that are basically self harming. That is not support, that is enabling.
ALSO THIS IS THE RANTS SECTION. PEOPLE CAN RANT HERE.

This is a section of the forum called rants and raves and that is the purpose of @@ShelterDog64 post. This is a forum for online support. We all are interested in what others are doing or why would we even be here. For me, I want to learn from others and hopefully others will learn from me. And, Letting someone have their own experience can be dangerous at times. Support in a form to guide someone to better eating behaviors is a good thing. Not following your surgeons plan can be life threatening.

Please note the section of the board. This is the designated area for ranting and raving. It can be incredibly frustrating to have people posting that it's okay to "cheat" on post-op diets, which if it's not countered someone else could read and end up seriously injuring themselves.

First of all, take a deep breath! Secondly, congratulations on losing 100 pounds! Even if you did gain some of it back, just be thankful that you haven't gotten back to 300+. You have realized there is a problem, and you have done the right thing by coming here to discuss it. Proud of you!

My best advice for you is to take a day to maybe purchase some Protein Shakes in bulk. Do you have a costco or Sam's Club nearby? (Or really any warehouse that sells groceries in bulk.) On that free day that you have, try to write a grocery list for a week or two worth of healthy items. Sometimes, for dinner, all I eat is 2 cheese Heads cheese sticks (90 calories each and with 6g of protein) with about 1 or 2 ounces of packaged pepperoni (16 slices are about 6-8g of protein). Some grocery stores also sell Protein yogurts with 21g of protein in them. Either eat a yogurt, a Protein Bar, or a Protein Shake in the mornings, some meats and cheeses for lunch, and a small dinner (maybe some grilled or boiled chicken, or your favorite kind of meat). Protein keeps you full and helps with unhealthy cravings. Search for protein type foods. Buy cheese and yogurts, and try your best to graze those things instead of fast food. You can do this!

I am super proud of myself today! I meal prep for the week as I type, baked chicken breast low carb veggies, salads and Protein shakes, getting my 7 days ready! Sunday will be me day and prep day! Got in a 1 mile walk, not much but better than I have been the last 9 months! I have to remember to keep myself grounded and well Rome was not built in a day, so I am in for the life change I must face for the long haul!
Other thing I did not realize how far I fell short, my vitamins! All those are portioned and zip-lock bagged for easy daily consumption!
Thank you my new found friends/ WLS sisters & brothers, I appreciate all your help understanding, guidance and even scolding at times we all need the reality check!

I have quickly lost and slowly regained the same weight MANY times for many reasons.
I think that you know what you need to do (Protein first, so you get your daily requirement, then veggies and OCCASIONAL high calorie carbs)
Divide your pre planed daily food into 3-6 portions no surgery drinks, candy or desert till you lose however much weight you need for optimalhealth. Drink Water or low cal fluids.
Find some support. Check in often.
Yes I know that it's easier said than done. I suspect we all know.

I am a beauty product whore. I own about 150 bottles of OPI and Zoya nail polish. My dressing area looks like a mini Sephora. I can't get enough of eyeshadows and I own hundreds. Also, it's not a good day unless I have glitter on somewhere on my body. Yes I am a 15 year old trapped in a 45 year old body!!
Love reading everyone's responses.

I couldn't think of anything until I read this. I won a trip to Hawaii (have been twice including the trip I won).
My ultimate WLS goal is to go back to Hawaii and learn to surf.

I'm not married but for the first time in my life I wish I was just so I could get enough sex.
I added nothing helpful...

I got snarky responses for the "bless your heart" reference on a post concerning the blatant ignorance of some folks in regards to their doctors orders.
So here goes again, "bless their hearts"
And she knows who she is (snarky poster), I blocked her.

I am almost 15mos post VSG and I have lost over 100 lbs. I can eat between 1/2c to a cup of food, depending on density and when/what I ate last. I have never vomited, or dumped. I am within 10lbs of my goal. I know to keep me honest I weigh at least every other day and I weigh out my food for work for Breakfast and lunch. I fluctuate about 2lbs. I didn't put on the weight overnight and I have battled the bulge since I was in my early teens (40 years). I will always mentally "track" what I eat and continue to be a scale junkie...the sleeve is a tool. I use my tool daily - - - - NO REGRETS!

I weigh usually daily just to keep my head in the game. I am officially a vet today as I am 18 months post and about 15lbs from my dream weight. I check in but quit posting for a while as I was frustrated with the mindset of some folks about how some of us respond.
Glad to see Jenn is still checking in. I miss some that don't check in at all anymore :/

My buyers remorse came and went within about 2-3 hrs on the Friday after I had my surgery on Wednesday. I was really blessed with no post surgery issues. I think for most of us it's the coping with life, minus food.
I remember thinking what have I done? I can't go get my stomach out of the biohazard bin at the hospital :/
Then sanity kicked in and I remembered WHY I chose to get the surgery. My health. My beautiful grandchildren......my husband and children......ME!
Tomorrow will be 18 months post-op and down over 100lbs.
No Regrets!