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12 hours and I'll be done. Please let these 12 hours hurry by!! I'm so angry at my husband right now. I talked to him about wanting to keep quiet about this; I don't want the pressure, don't want everyone judging me ... and I walk into the room and he's talking to his mom. Oh, she says she'll buy me a new wardrobe when I've lost the weight. Oh gee, thanks. I haven't even told MY mom ... but thanks so much for telling yours ... and along the line, your sisters, and their kids ... and the neighbors. I'm really upset right now. I was upset anyway; said goodbye to my kids and dropped them at a friend's house. They don't even know what's going on! (They will tomorrow after the surgery.) Anyway ... just a nervous angry vent. 11 hours and 55 minutes to go now.

Okay, I keep looking at the clock thinking "this time tomorrow it will be over!" Now if I could just sleep until then. Anything to get rid of these nerves! I've had three c-sections and another abdominal surgery, and of these, had general anesthesia twice. I know that I handle it well, and I know this is less of a risk than my other surgeries. I just keep feeling total terror that I'm going to die and leave my three children without a mother. My stomach is in knots ... well, I guess a good clean out isn't a bad thing ... UGH. Hurry up and get here tomorrow so I can get it over with!!

Me too MissSac! I'm first on 12/17. The nurse asked me if I was excited. Um ... not exactly the word I'd use. More like absolutely terrified! I have a few moments of excitement every not and then, but for now the sheer terror seems to rule. SIGH.

Nervous!! Lol

This is encouraging! I hope you are doing well today. :eek: I'm counting down five days until surgery, can't wait to join you!

Ooh, I had forgotten about miso! I love miso soup! Can I be added to the list? I'm 12/17. Thanks!

I'm 12/17 too, and yep on the crying jags and nerves. Mine was pretty quick too; this is probably a VERY good thing, not too much time to be nervous.

Did he give you an idea as to how long it would be before you could lift her?

I am going to start this week changing him on the bed or floor. Him being 2 1/2 is a big part of the problem. He'd climb into the carseat with no problem at 2, but now he has a little mind of his own and frequently requires some direction ... or dragging ... to get him in there. I'm going to have to come up with something creative, or resort to bribery, to get him in there, I'm afraid.

Oh, that's awesome! Congratulations!! Can't wait to join you.

How long after surgery will it (practically) be before I can pick up my son? I don't mean walking around carrying him, I mean putting him in the carseat, putting him up on the changing table and back down. He's 2 1/2 and weighs 25 lbs. My husband will be off for five days after my surgery, but after that I'm on my own. I do have an older daughter (9) who will be able to help out some. Thanks!!

I am not telling my kids. They know that a doctor is going to put some medicine in mommy's tummy that will make it not hurt. My 9 year old isn't really buy that, but she hasn't questioned it too deeply yet. I don't want them freaking out, and we've also decided not to tell everyone else, so I didn't want my kids blabbing it all over either. I do plan to talk to at least my oldest eventually.

I don't have any advice, but I'm interested in this too. My story sounds very much like yours.

I'm so glad I opened this thread!! I'm pre-band (yikes, less than two weeks to go!) and have been worried about stuff like this.

This was exactly how I felt before my last c-section - he's ready to cut and I'm still awake!! Then my very next thought was waking up in recovery. This is SO encouraging! Thanks! I am doing MUCH better today. No panic attacks in the night, just excitement.

I'm 12/17.

Hi everyone, I've posted a few times and thought maybe an intro would be a good thing. I'm being banded on 12/17, needing to lose 80-90 lbs. I don't have a specific goal number, it's been so long since I've weighed less than 150 that I have no idea where I should be. Please tell me it's normal to be so excited one minute and completely freaking out the next. I couldn't sleep last night, just worried. I've had three c-sections and a diagnostic laparoscopy, and from those general anesthesia twice, so my brain is reasonably assured that I'm not going to DIE in surgery. Unfortunately the rest of me isn't as convinced. I was crying last night thinking that my two year old won't even remember me if I died. It's fine to roll your eyes at me, I was doing that just typing that. Did any of your have this same fear? How did you get past it? I really am excited to be getting a bad. I've thought about it for years, and every time I'd get serious about it, I'd also get pregnant. LOL! Not this time though.

I'm 12/17 too! I've been really excited but right now I'm up way past my bedtime freaking out about it.

Hi Carole! I'm being banded on 12/17, and I'm also a SAHM of 3. Mine are 9, 6, and 2. I have about 80-90 lbs to lose, and have been battling weight issues since college. I'd love to follow your progress and keep in touch with you. Julie

Can I jump in here with a question? I too have federal BCBS and *had* a surgery date (12/7). Everything was approved and then I got a letter in the mail saying that there would be a surgical assistant who is not a preferred provider and that would cost $1000, to be paid prior to surgery. My husband suggested finding a different surgeon that used all preferred providers. I was expecting to pay $200 and planned for that, not $1200. (Oh - on the phone when I called - tearfully - to postpone my surgery they told me that I would likely receive about $900 of that $1000 back ... um ... if that's the case, why not just charge me $100?) Is this typical? I like my surgeon, but at this point, I think I'd prefer to look around for another one. I already have the insurance approval, have already seen the psychologist and the nutritionist. Would it really just be preferable to scrounge up the $1000?