Patty'O

Today the same girl above said called me at the office, I thought she was calling for business but she just called to tell me that I looked terrific as she saw me yesterday in the cafeteria. She said it's not only about the beauty but I looked healthy, even the way I walk was different and more active. She only called to give me compliments. What a lovely girl. Of course she has no clue about my surgery but it's just a very kind of her anyway.

Haha one time I went to a meeting, and one of the colleagues was naturally a bit naive got so excited when she saw me, it was quite early on when I just lost around 22 lbs, and she couldn't figure out why I looked different so she kept asking "there's something about you that changed!! what is it? there must be something, now you look different" I was kind of disturbed because her reaction drew attention of others in that meeting towards me, but I calmly told her that, "you're right, there's a big change.. I now am a real woman, after the sex change" she laughed so hard and said "seriously?" I said "yeah, I can show you later but gotta warn you, it's not pretty and still swollen" of course she didn't take it seriously but that effectively got her to stop asking. Also my answer made everyone laughed and went back to the agenda of the meeting.

I told people it was female stuff. people usually leave that alone. if they don't, I just say then, it's private.

Okay, the situation has changed, I told my big bosses about what kind of surgery I was having, so when the doctor gave me 6 weeks off work, they were totally cool about it.
When I came back after a month, my colleagues in the office (7 of them) were so happy with my new appearance. Then just last week, we just hired a new colleague and he's a big guy. (By the way during the process of recruiting. I heard one of the candidates said with confidence that he'd get the job because the other guy was too fat, Gosh! thank God we didn't hire that guy)
One day I brought him to the mail room and introduced them to other colleagues then a colleague told the new guy that I was doing a great job losing a lot of weight in 6 months (I told other colleagues outside my office that I've been on diet since March which is true) The new guy turned to me right away and asked if I had a By Pass surgery..and automatically, I said No!! and he said liar! so the other colleague asked me again, really did you have the by pass? I said, NO I did NOT have a By Pass Surgery. then we left the mail room.
On the way back to the office when we were alone I told the new guy that, by the way, it was NOT a by pass, it was a sleeve I had for surgery. He got so interested and said that he wanted to do it too but his mum said, it would do nothing to him (he's Lebanese and still young, only 28) He lost and gained all the time, the last time he lost 72 lbs and gained all back and probably more. Anyway, I told him briefly about my journey especially that the social security system pays all for it and the office gave me great support about this, I offered to give him as much as info if he wants to go for the surgery. I think now in France WLS is quite common now but I still prefer to keep it private, well, I didn't tell people when I had tooth surgery neither, why I should tell them about this one, right?

I don't tell people about my surgery either; only my family and three close friends know about it. It has been almost 5 months now, and I have lost over 70 pounds--so I too am also getting all the comments. So far almost all of them and gracious and respectful, but then there is the occasional bizaro one that makes my job drop. Blessedly most of the time I get to simply smile, and say "thanks, I am working very hard on this!" But for those inappropriate and backhanded ones, I look at them in mock surprise, and say "uh...you know you said that out loud?!" And I change the subject.

I'm not telling most people because I don't want to deal with other people's crap. I have enough to deal with on my own. I lost 96 pounds pre-surgery, and people thought that was great. since then, my eating has changed radically, as I was eating lots of veggies and olive oil and lean meats. now I'm eating very little in the veggies, as most of my meal is Protein and small. I've told people I am changing up my diet and using confusion to keep from stalling. I've also told them I don't drink at meals because it makes my body work harder to digest my food, hence burning more calories. even if they ask if I've had WLS, I'm not telling them. just a few very close friends and some of my family know, and it's staying that way. I don't owe anyone an explanation, and don't need their questions about it as it's my personal business. I was actually loosing weight faster pre-surgery, so I think I won't have too many problems.

I'm not telling most people because I don't want to deal with other people's crap. I have enough to deal with on my own. I lost 96 pounds pre-surgery, and people thought that was great. since then, my eating has changed radically, as I was eating lots of veggies and olive oil and lean meats. now I'm eating very little in the veggies, as most of my meal is Protein and small. I've told people I am changing up my diet and using confusion to keep from stalling. I've also told them I don't drink at meals because it makes my body work harder to digest my food, hence burning more calories. even if they ask if I've had WLS, I'm not telling them. just a few very close friends and some of my family know, and it's staying that way. I don't owe anyone an explanation, and don't need their questions about it as it's my personal business. I was actually loosing weight faster pre-surgery, so I think I won't have too many problems.

I'm not telling most people because I don't want to deal with other people's crap. I have enough to deal with on my own. I lost 96 pounds pre-surgery, and people thought that was great. since then, my eating has changed radically, as I was eating lots of veggies and olive oil and lean meats. now I'm eating very little in the veggies, as most of my meal is Protein and small. I've told people I am changing up my diet and using confusion to keep from stalling. I've also told them I don't drink at meals because it makes my body work harder to digest my food, hence burning more calories. even if they ask if I've had WLS, I'm not telling them. just a few very close friends and some of my family know, and it's staying that way. I don't owe anyone an explanation, and don't need their questions about it as it's my personal business. I was actually loosing weight faster pre-surgery, so I think I won't have too many problems.

Hi there, I'm only 7 days post-op but I've actually have some thoughts prepared about this.
So far since pre-op, I only told my close friends and family because I knew I'd definitely need their support.
I don't think that I'll tell anyone else about the surgery at all, I probably tell them that I have been eating right (which is true) unless that person really need advice like if they've been struggling for weight loss for years as well.
The thing is all those questions people might ask, I already asked myself since I was doing the research on the bariatric surgery. The question that I kept asking and asking myself was 'Don't you think that you can do it on your own?'
The answer was -- 'probably' but it's been almost 20 years I've been struggling with my weight and I failed.
I asked my husband and he said, it seemed very difficult for you.
I've been on a diet for half of my life but I kept gaining, I don't regularly overeat any greasy or junk food. I don't graze, I don't snack, I'm not a sweet eater, I eat normally but still be able to gain weight so easily! while those people who are luckier with their normal BMI never did and never will understand what it's like to be obese and suffering with diseases.
I don't think I owe them anything to answer their silly questions, unless of course if it could be helpful.

All that Fluid was making me nauseous and severally constipated. But you might want to become more creative with you food. Have you had egg drop soup? I was so happy when I had that for the first time. It was wonderful and I felt normal eating it. Cause fluids only is really the worst.

I stalled after one week. The stall lasted 3 1/2 weeks... thought I was going to lose my mind. Good news is I lost more weight the second month than I did the first. Just keep doing the right thing. Good Luck!

@@Patty'O my morning meal right now is instant Decaf coffee in hot Water with added vanilla Protein powder. I sip on that for an hour or so. bam! 30 grams of Protein done for the day so far!!!

I'm an August 25th'er as well. I did not have to have barium. so very glad. my doctor does an endoscopy to make sure everything looks good after the surgery portion while still under the anesthesia. so much easier. I had barium 30 years ago and it took 14 days to pass and ripped me up inside. it was like giving birth to a cement baby.
I saw the doc today for my 4 week follow up and got the all clear to eat normally again (in small portions) and can now exercise and lift again. I bought an exercise chair from HSN that has a swivel seat, pulleys with resistance bands, and can be used with or without the swiveler, and either standing or sitting. it's great because it will exercise every area of the body, and I'm most excited about the ab exercises. I've been walking on my treadmill for the past year and have lost a lot of weight previous to surgery (96 pounds prior) but now I have more exercises and can target the one place I loose the least amount.
I used to wear 28s, and they were getting tight. Today, I was able to fit into size 18 jeans. so very excited. Hope to be in 16s by the end of October. still have 76 pounds to loose, but having lost a total of 113, I am well over the halfway hump and on my way to healthy and thin.

my doc said yes, it is quite common to stall in weeks two and three. I just finished 4 weeks and have lost 17 pounds. I get to start solid foods today, hope the weight loss will pick up some. I was loosing more weight before the surgery. all is good though, and am fine if it runs a little slow. I lost 96 before surgery, have just 76 to go as of today.

I was intentionally told that I need to do a two week full liquid diet after surgery. I am two days from a week and I am SO sick of brother I could scream. Half the time I don't even eat it because I am so sick of it. I see my surgeon tomorrow and have every intention on asking him to let me start the pureed stage a week early. Has anyone ever experienced this and their surgeon let them start early?

hi mskiesha29 - i did have success with using Milk of Magnesia. I took three tables spoons and went to bed and then took another tablespoon when i woke up in the middle of the night. By morning and with alot of trying... i got some relief. I think my mom summed it up best by saying that trying to have a movement after painkillers and a barium is like trying to pass cement. ive been fine ever since. Good luck.

I had 2 save this post for the future! Thanks a bunch!!!

I dont know how common it is but I was also given a script for adipex. I did take it a few days but the more I read the more nervous I became that I was setting myself up for a regain. I felt the same as you. I took the wls route because I didnt want to go the pill route. By the way my stall is over and I am losing again. I upped the intensity of my exercise. Nothing changed weight wise for a few more weeks but now its moving along nicely without pills.

might I suggest for your stall, a great Soup that I would have. it cleanses, so yeah, it can give you diarrhea, but ti does get your stalls jumpstarted. use a cube of Rapunzel vegan vegetable broth, two cups of Water, a small chicken breast, some fresh green Beans, celery root, red potato, and zucchini. poach the chicken in this broth with the veggies. if you were to have the broth, one cup of it on day one, another cup on day two, and eat some of the chicken an veggies on day three, I can guarantee that you will be jumpstarted. if you find that you start to have diarrhea at any point, don't have any more, stop at that point and store the rest. you should start losing weight again, and it's healthy in cleansing your liver. it's potent, all natural, and if you're like me, you will use all organic ingredients. it's what I use every time I would stall. have lost 105 pounds since November 2nd.

might I suggest for your stall, a great Soup that I would have. it cleanses, so yeah, it can give you diarrhea, but ti does get your stalls jumpstarted. use a cube of Rapunzel vegan vegetable broth, two cups of Water, a small chicken breast, some fresh green Beans, celery root, red potato, and zucchini. poach the chicken in this broth with the veggies. if you were to have the broth, one cup of it on day one, another cup on day two, and eat some of the chicken an veggies on day three, I can guarantee that you will be jumpstarted. if you find that you start to have diarrhea at any point, don't have any more, stop at that point and store the rest. you should start losing weight again, and it's healthy in cleansing your liver. it's potent, all natural, and if you're like me, you will use all organic ingredients. it's what I use every time I would stall. have lost 105 pounds since November 2nd.

I was sleeved on 8/25, and had no real pain except for the gas when in the hospital. that's good because I'm allergic to pain meds and could not have any. At first I was anxious to chew, but now I really think I'd rather stay on mostly liquids. and have one food meal a day at dinner with my family. I was sick of the sweet, but found the Unjury chicken Soup flavored Protein Powder and have been in heaven with this. I found when I am eating "real food" I want so much more and am not satisfied with 3 tablespoons of food. when I have the liquids, I have at Breakfast, 1 cup skim milk, 2 cups Decaf coffee, 1 cup Water, with the vanilla Protein powder, a scoop of greens powder for my veggies (chocolate flavored), and once blended, it goes in my giant 32 oz sipping cup. I drink it over several hours, and am quite happy. for lunch, I have the chicken soup protein powder with 2 cups water and 2 cups of broth, that makes another quart of liquid, and with these two I have more than the minimum of liquid intake, but of course will have more. for dinner, then I can have something like tuna, a poached egg, salmon, chicken, or shrimp, with some mashed carrot or green Beans. my dietician does not want me to do this but be on solid food for 3 meals and two Snacks. she keeps saying yogurt, but I have not liked the yogurt and if I have to have any more of it I'll barf. since I'm happier on the liquid diet, why can't I stay on mostly that with one meal a day?