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I have had days like that. My dietician wants me to start the liquid diet an extra week in advance so I'm supposed to start the 25th of this month.... That part terrifies me. I mean 4 slimfast shakes a day?? I heard you're not hungry after surgery but the before time is a killer.

I'm really excited and nervous at the same time. I'm looking forward to losing weight, but afraid I'll have days when I want to eat everything in sight! I heard that changes after surgery

Yup! I'm set for September 16th. Totally feel like a bird on a wire.

Anyone having surgery in September? Just got my date and overwhelmed with emotions!

That sounds similar to what I went thru yesterday. I think food got "stuck" in my pouch and wasn't able to digest, so anything I tried to get down made me feel like I was going to explode. I actually wanted to throw up to relieve the pain and discomfort. I took some of the omeprizol (sp) that they prescribed and stuck to liquids all day and I feel better now. Not sure if you're going through exactly the same thing, but it's possible. If you don't feel better tomorrow, I'd call your docs office and see what they say.

Im a lil over 2 weeks post op. Had the gastric bypass done and was on liquids for 2 weeks, with no issues or problems. Tuesday was my move to soft foods and i couldnt tolerate any soft foods at all.. wednesday i went back to liquids and today i tried one babyspoon of chili(which was on my soft foods list) and about 30 mins after i began feeling sick and like i had a brick in my pouch. I ended up throwing up and the rest of the day today since i couldnt keep even Water down due to feeling so overfull...its like horrible pain too along with the vommitting. Unsure if its gas pain but i have a hard time burping so it could be.. i chewed well and only took one small bite.. this eve i couldnt even sip my Protein or water within a few mins i felt so overfull and the need to get sick. Is this just intolerance to soft foods? Should i be worried or just see how tomorrow goes? I will def go back on liquids for a few days i dont even want real food since ive went through this. Im awale due to the stomach cramping still. Any help yall?

Many of us here on the forum have been lifetime dieters like me, trying every reinvention for weight loss. I have been dieting since my last pregnancy in 1978. Getting the sleeve was the hardest decision I ever made, but I do not regret it. I applaud all of our younger weight loss brothers and sisters for nipping the weight loss / regain cycle in the bud. Being as you're an adult, your parents do not get to make or influence your health care decisions anymore. If family and friends cannot be supportive, then you need to excuse yourself from their presence for a while. This IS NOT the easy way out.

lose4life2, I am scheduled for surgery September 3, 2014 and I haven't told my parents yet either. My mom can't hold Water, so imagine your mom x 6 = that is what I would get from my mom and siblings! I am right there with you in that, I too am HAVING THIS SURGERY! I am simply trying to surround myself with positive thoughts and people! You will be great!!! Heck....WE WILL BE GREAT!!!
Good luck! I can't wait to hear about all of your success!

@@Andrew0929 -- I also used the hiatal hernia alibi with my parents, and it turned out to be true. Sometimes I wonder of that fix is part of why I feel so great or if it's just the WLS.

Oh, if all mothers were as beatific as mine, it would be wonderful. And mine is a true gem.
But I have some friends whose mothers are narcissitic, mean, jealous, ignorant, abusive fools.
Giving birth does NOT automatically make a woman a good parent.
(But we all know this.)

@@lose4life2 I think we need to be friends! As soon as I saw the post title, I got it. Like you, I am adopted -- and my Mom and her sisters, cousins, etc. are all petite. I'm 5'6" (hey, your stats say you are three feet tall, lol, need to fix that in your profile). My mother is a professional dieter even though she's never really been fat. But I have, and she has given me every diet book on the market for the last twenty years. Then obsessed over how "this one is IT." Currently she is on the most restrictive one I've ever seen -- and believe me, I know from restriction -- and she has my father, 89, on it, too. It's very clear she is trying to control him because he is starting to slip away. He has dementia and she wants to reverse that by having him off of all grains, dairy, any sweet vegetables like beets and carrots, etc. It's a nightmare. They live in a retirement facility and now he can't have a little custard, etc. He's so skinny -- it's elder abuse, really. And all those supplements, gagging down the coconut oil, one fad after the other. She's 87 and so obsessive that I knew I couldn't tell her. And you know what? I'm a 10 in jeans vs. 18 nine months ago, I've lost my Winnie-the-Pooh belly and she has barely mentioned it. Yes, I'm a mother, too. I know mothers are great -- but they are not all the same. Okay, going for a walk. Thanks for the therapy! And, really, we should be friends! Best wishes for your upcoming surgery -- such exciting times. You are choosing yourself and your healthy future. Way to go!

I neglected to mention that I told my mom I was having surgery for a hiatal hernia ...

oh, geez, this is making me nervous about telling my mom. she's a consummate worrier, and i had decided to tell her right before surgery, when i get my date. like you, i can't imagine not telling my mother i had surgery (god forbid something happened and she found out after the fact, she would kill me if i wasn't already dead lol). but i figured i would give her the smallest allowable window to express her worries to me.
mom will be supportive in her way (offering to come take care of me, or most probably sending me a check), but she will do it with a frown on her face and a catch in her voice as she struggles to keep her fears from me. i know it all comes from love but i hate having to listen to it and see it. actually, i resent having to worry about my mother worrying! so i try to choose not to.
anyway, just wanted to say i get what you're going through. remember that when people worry, it's their choice, and not your responsibility. there's a quote i have taped to my desk: "worrying never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy." i try to remember that when i worry about her worrying.

I didn't tell my 83 year mom about my WLS and am sure that was the right decision. She's been hounding me about weight loss my entire life and always has an abundance of bad advice. This would have been a nightmare ...
Interestingly, she keeps saying that everyone must think I had "that surgery", but I'm sure she doesn't know as she's not shy about expressing her opinions.

@@lose4life2 you asked why your mom drives you so crazy about having surgery - I bet it's both complicated and simple at the same time. From the simple, obvious perspective, she loves you and worries about you. She wants what is best for you, and she knows there is risk, and probably doesn't want that for you. It's what's on her mind, so that what you hear.
Deeper down, there probably is something more complex going on with her. Like, she tried to teach you - where did she go wrong? And, Why do you have to do something so drastic - when you just did what she said, you weighed 123 pounds! See, you ARE losing weight, so you don't need surgery. You just have to get control of yourself and avoid all this risk - maybe if I say it one more time, you'll FINALLY understand the truth! I bet the list of thoughts running through her head and in the back of her mind are endless, but all spurred by concern and love for you.
My advice, as both the daughter of a mother (who lost 80 pounds without surgery and kept if off for 30 years), and as a mother (who would do anything for my adult children's safety), is to just let it roll. Do the best you can to reassure her, and change the subject. I bet she will come around once she sees your success and happiness. My mom did

Ugh! Your mom just doesn't understand, but I'm sure she thinks she's helping because she cares. Your rant has inspired me though. I have a friend who isn't necessarily against me having the surgery, but she thinks it's too much work. She was asking me questions about all the requirements (the sleep study, the monthly appointments, the psych evaluation, etc.) and she goes "wouldn't it just be easier to exercise and eat right?" I wanted to choke her! If it was that easy, I would have done it already! Some people just don't get it!!!

OKay I have a rant as I'm preparing for my upcoming surgery. I told my mom about the surgery well because I didn't think it was fair to going into surgery and not tell your parents. Maybe I was wrong. Ever since I told her about it she has been driving me crazy. I live in Florida, she in Illinois. She calls and the conversation always goes to the surgery. I have been on my weight management for a couple months and actually meet the last time Friday. She always says "are you still eating your six small meals? Are you losing weight? Why don't you just keep doing that? OMG I WANT TO SCREAM!!!!! So I was adopted and my mom, her sister, my cousins are all small. All have weighed 130 or less pounds their whole life. Small hands wear size 4 1/2 and 5 rings, etc. when I was in high school I weighed top weight 150. Now I'm 5'6" and I was in gymnastics and cheer. According to my mom 150 was too much and by the time I graduated senior year and having my mom make my food for me and that's all I could eat I weighed 123. I wish I was 150 and maybe just maybe I will return to that weight. I'm going to have this surgery....but why does she drive me so crazy about it? I can't lose weight on a diet. I have been on everyone out there and have spent millions on diets. Get over it Mom. Okay rant over.......

Any September buddies?

Hang in there betterme008! I totally get it with people talking about "taking the easy way out..." Well, if they were caught in a tiny crevice between a rock mountain and an iceberg [fallen 300 ft. down in there], and their choices to get out alive were to 1] make it to the opening at the top, OR 2] allow themselves to fall another 20 feet [some cuts and bruises along the way] and get out through an opening in the rock that leads out the side of the mountain. There is no way any sane person would choose #1 when there is an "easy way" outta there. This surgery is a matter of life or death for most of us. When facing certain death who wouldn't choose the "easy way out". I'm totally proud of you and myself for choosing bariatric surgery. We are not lazy or stupid...we are courageous and strong!

I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis, coming right after surgery. That's just unbelievable. But maybe if you hadn't had the surgery, they wouldn't have found the cancer until much later? I hope that turns out to make a huge difference in your treatment and outcome. You're in my prayers for sure!

Make sure you are standing up for yourself. Be your own advocate. Sometimes you have to be the squeaky wheel. I work in healthcare and see this all the time. Sometimes you have to be a little feisty to be heard. After my back surgery I kept telling doc and hospital staff that I couldn't use my right leg. They blew me off repeatedly. Told me it was prob just swelling. But I knew in my gut something was wrong. Finally after 5 days in ICU, I had a hissy. Doc said "fine, we'll get a scan". 20 minutes later I was being whisked off to surgery. Huge blood clot and the bones were already coming out of the hardware. I was in surgery 7 hours. If I hadn't had a hissy, they were gonna send me home...who knows what would've happened.....good luck. My thoughts are with you.

Have you asked your primary healthcare provider?? Or, you can go see a gastroenterologist... I'm sure that that being his specialty, he'll order it ASAP.

I only had broth twice.......but my surgeon said I could have the Protein Shakes after I got out of the hospital, between that and my Water, I did not want anything else. Hang in there.......ignore the ignorant

I did the same thing and to this day, almost 6 mos out, only one sister knows and I didn't tell her until 3 mos out. I agree with you.......it is not their business!!

Your emotions and worries on this are completely valid and totally normal, so don't think you're being unreasonable.
One of the biggest complaints I hear from people who have had surgery about their significant others is that they don't feel supported if their spouse eats "junk" in front of them, or gets snippy about wanting to eat healthier. I don't think this is an issue for you; it sounds like you are more than willing to eat the way he does, which is good.
My biggest pieces of advice: do the diet with him, even if its just during the meals you eat together. Go to the gym with him if he'll let you. Ask him to go on walks with you. In short, get involved in his process so he doesn't feel isolated.
Second: ignore the emotional outbursts and don't take them personally. Our hormones and emotions get so out of whack the first few months after surgery and sometimes when we hurt others its really unintentional and we know its not right. It is totally OK to take a few moments for yourself when he gets emotional like that so you can gather your thoughts together. Know that he probably doesn't mean any of it to hurt you.
Last: take care of yourself in non-food ways during the days you are taking care of him. Take a hot bath, go for a walk, indulge in a manicure if you're into that. Make sure you get enough rest so you can be there for him when he needs.
If all else fails, see a counselor together if he's willing. I'm hoping your relationship will be like mine and actually get stronger after the surgery.