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One thing I know from friends that have had the sleeve done is that they didn't crave any foods, anymore. 1/2 a cup was just fine for them. (Hard to imagine, right?) At Thanksgiving you will enjoy the company and conversation and not even give it a second thought that you tasted a 1/2 a bite of 4-5 things from the spread! Don't back out! You can do hard things! We all can. "Sexy-Thinthoughts" is just waiting to burst out of you! You go girl!!!

Hello friends,
I have started my journey towards bariatric surgery this past June 2014. My surgery will be late Sept. 2014. I have heard and been learning a lot about "support" after surgery. Obviously everyone should be ecstatic for me that I am on my way to getting rid of or at least greatly reducing the severity of that which is slowly killing me at the present time: Diabetes, Fatty Liver Disease, GERD, sleep Apnea, Out of control/remarkably high cholesterol numbers as well as remarkably low "good cholesterol" numbers, social anxieties, depression, pre-arthritic symptoms, etc... Well... the obviously clear reasons for my choice are apparently not what others would choose to do, to each his own, I have no problem to agree to disagree. Unfortunately I have family (sisters, brothers, mothers and others) who love to express their correct opinions while beating the tar out of my opinions and choices. I do not live the way they live, I do not do things the way they think I should do them. So what...I'm not living on this earth for their approval.
Anyway, to avoid discussion or opinions from certain extended family members, I have decided not to tell them about my bariatric surgery. I have told my husband and my children and they are all in and supportive and excited for my choice. At the end of the day, the people who matter most are the ones who accept me, faults and all, and still show me that they love me unconditionally.
Several years ago I had a really bad bout with depression. I was bedridden for about 5 months and house bound for another 4. I have a sister who lives 2 miles east of me and another sister who lives 2 miles west of me. Sister of the west I saw once during those 9 months, and she made a phone call to someone at my church to ask them to go to my house and help. Sister of the East I never saw once. Thank goodness for fellow church members who fed my children for several months. Thank goodness my husband endured through it and was a support to my emotions. I truly believe that my healing from bariatric surgery will be as painful as was the depression.
I guess I am sharing this to get your opinions on this choice. I have been told by some that I had really reconsider and tell everyone in my family. This is such a life changing decision I'm going to go through. I have had others tell me that if I am already expecting non-supportive attitudes, jealousy, and negative comments, it is better to leave well enough alone and go on with what I know is right for me, my children and my future grandchildren. I have had people say, "What if you die from this and you hadn't told your Mom, sisters, brothers, etc....????" My answer is, "I could be hit by a bus tomorrow and would not have told any of them about that either." What do you think? Long term affects on me? Short term? Thanks!

Hang in there betterme008! I totally get it with people talking about "taking the easy way out..." Well, if they were caught in a tiny crevice between a rock mountain and an iceberg [fallen 300 ft. down in there], and their choices to get out alive were to 1] make it to the opening at the top, OR 2] allow themselves to fall another 20 feet [some cuts and bruises along the way] and get out through an opening in the rock that leads out the side of the mountain. There is no way any sane person would choose #1 when there is an "easy way" outta there. This surgery is a matter of life or death for most of us. When facing certain death who wouldn't choose the "easy way out". I'm totally proud of you and myself for choosing bariatric surgery. We are not lazy or stupid...we are courageous and strong!

Hang in there betterme008! I totally get it with people talking about "taking the easy way out..." Well, if they were caught in a tiny crevice between a rock mountain and an iceberg [fallen 300 ft. down in there], and their choices to get out alive were to 1] make it to the opening at the top, OR 2] allow themselves to fall another 20 feet [some cuts and bruises along the way] and get out through an opening in the rock that leads out the side of the mountain. There is no way any sane person would choose #1 when there is an "easy way" outta there. This surgery is a matter of life or death for most of us. When facing certain death who wouldn't choose the "easy way out". I'm totally proud of you and myself for choosing bariatric surgery. We are not lazy or stupid...we are courageous and strong!

I think having the feeling of "a pill stuck in your throat" may have saved your life! Praying that this is so and praying for you!

I too am hoping for a date in Sept. Nice to go through this with others at the same time!

I am totally laughing right now because that is my plan of what to tell my mom! Seriously - that is what I am going to tell her... and my 4 year old who can't keep a secret! hahahahahaha!
A friend told me to tell her I am having surgery on my esophagus to hopefully help my GERD problem... That is closer to the truth with RNY.
So glad I ran into your comment here!

I think having the feeling of "a pill stuck in your throat" may have saved your life! Praying that this is so and praying for you!

One thing I know from friends that have had the sleeve done is that they didn't crave any foods, anymore. 1/2 a cup was just fine for them. (Hard to imagine, right?) At Thanksgiving you will enjoy the company and conversation and not even give it a second thought that you tasted a 1/2 a bite of 4-5 things from the spread! Don't back out! You can do hard things! We all can. "Sexy-Thinthoughts" is just waiting to burst out of you! You go girl!!!

I found samples at MyBariatricPantry.com, lots of options and decent prices. Fast standard delivery too

People who don't struggle with their weight or have never crossed the threshold into obesity can't understand what we go through. They think, just go on another diet and try harder. It's not that simple. By now, I've tried every diet you can think of and a lot of them worked. But, I always gained the weight back and then some. I knew I needed this to finally be successful. My fiancé doesn't get it. He supports me 100%, but admits he doesn't understand why I'd go to such measures. It's because he's never struggled with his weight. There is a scientific reason why obese people have such a hard time losing weight and keeping it off, but I can't explain it in words that make him understand. I'm going to take him to a support group meeting and see if that helps him understand a little better.
Bottom line, not everyone is going to "get it" and may not support your choice. All you can do is trust your decision, stick to the post op guidelines and show yourself that this was the best decision for you. Maybe after they see how good you are doing and feeling, they'll come around.

My fast is 7 days.

My endoscopy is today. My last big hurdle to get through before surgery on the 3rd. I'm a bit nervous as I've never had one before.

I am excited. The nervous part hasn't hit me yet...but I know if probably will. Sadly I'm not scared of surgery but being away from my son for a few days. The thought is killing me already.
What is everyone's requirements for their fast?

Where did you order your samples from?

I'm September 2nd. SO excited and SO nervous - it seems like we all are kind of that way. I start my liquid diet on August 19th. I've ordered tons of samples of different high Protein, low sugar shakes just to have variety and see what I actually like. I would LOVE to be buddies!

Sarah Bauer call your dietitian and check what the protocol is for the weeks leading up to surgery. As far as weight loss start using Protein Shakes and Protein Bars now. If you can replace two meals with a Protein Shake and just snack on high Protein things then you'll definitely lose some weight . I lost 11 pounds in July by doing that. Every post I've seen everything I've heard says there is a liquid diet prior to surgery. I've heard it be anywhere from 2 days to 3 weeks . It all depends upon your surgeon and your nutritionist. I'm pretty sure the main goal with the weight loss is to shrink the liver by making it not so fatty. This allows more room inside your body when the doctors are doing their surgery

My surgery is September 22nd. I start my liquid diet September 8th.

Hi. I'm confused by everyones post referring to a liquid diet prior to surgery. I have not heard of that & that makes me nervous since my surgery is scheduled for September 17th. My psyche appt is next Tuesday & my preop is September 9th.
The main reason I wanted to write a post is because I have to lose 10 lbs prior to surgery. I have in 3 weeks lost 7 lbs. So excited & proud of myself & even though this surgery has been a long time coming, could I do this on my own? I know the answer to that, but is anyone else having a similar experience? My family questions my choice & I'm looking for some support. Thank you, Sarah

I am hoping to have a Sept surgery. I will have all my requirements finished in the next two weeks and my insurance company said it should only take them a couple of days. (We'll see.) I don't have any pre-op diet to follow except full liquids the day before. So it all depends on how far out my surgeon is scheduling. Arrrrggghh - the wait is crazy-making!

All I am waiting on is my psych eval. I see her on the 22 of August...I sooo want to get this started..waiting 5 years for this.

September 2nd
I cany wait! I'm almost excited to start the two week fast to get the ball rollin. Hoping august flies by so I can stop obsessing. Lol

I'm Sept 3. Just finished my psych eval and support group yesterday and nutrition class today. Upper GI next week. I'm excited and nervous as well!!

I've just got my surgery date.....September 4th. I'm looking for a buddy as well....wishing you all luck.

Yea, I'm a living witness you are going to have days that you're going to want to eat up everything. But just stay strong and You Can Do It. It's a mind thing I usually just go for a walk when I get the urge to want to eat everything In site. You're almost there good luck and congratulations on your surgery date :) .....