Sleevarilla

It sounds, based on your last post, that you just made a post to have people pat you on the back and tell you it would be ok. The surgery may (or may not, it's different for everyone) control your physical hunger, but it does absolutely nothing for your head hunger. You are still going to face the challenge of saying no to yourself when presented with something you shouldn't eat. I agree that the pre-op diet is tough, but you have it so much easier than many do. I couldn't have any food. I think you should at least let your surgeon know, it would be better than him/her not knowing before doing surgery on you.

It sounds, based on your last post, that you just made a post to have people pat you on the back and tell you it would be ok. The surgery may (or may not, it's different for everyone) control your physical hunger, but it does absolutely nothing for your head hunger. You are still going to face the challenge of saying no to yourself when presented with something you shouldn't eat. I agree that the pre-op diet is tough, but you have it so much easier than many do. I couldn't have any food. I think you should at least let your surgeon know, it would be better than him/her not knowing before doing surgery on you.

It sounds, based on your last post, that you just made a post to have people pat you on the back and tell you it would be ok. The surgery may (or may not, it's different for everyone) control your physical hunger, but it does absolutely nothing for your head hunger. You are still going to face the challenge of saying no to yourself when presented with something you shouldn't eat. I agree that the pre-op diet is tough, but you have it so much easier than many do. I couldn't have any food. I think you should at least let your surgeon know, it would be better than him/her not knowing before doing surgery on you.

It sounds, based on your last post, that you just made a post to have people pat you on the back and tell you it would be ok. The surgery may (or may not, it's different for everyone) control your physical hunger, but it does absolutely nothing for your head hunger. You are still going to face the challenge of saying no to yourself when presented with something you shouldn't eat. I agree that the pre-op diet is tough, but you have it so much easier than many do. I couldn't have any food. I think you should at least let your surgeon know, it would be better than him/her not knowing before doing surgery on you.

It sounds, based on your last post, that you just made a post to have people pat you on the back and tell you it would be ok. The surgery may (or may not, it's different for everyone) control your physical hunger, but it does absolutely nothing for your head hunger. You are still going to face the challenge of saying no to yourself when presented with something you shouldn't eat. I agree that the pre-op diet is tough, but you have it so much easier than many do. I couldn't have any food. I think you should at least let your surgeon know, it would be better than him/her not knowing before doing surgery on you.

That looks like frayed suture material.

thank you so much for your pics and post!

Regret is a ridiculous emotion. You did it, now you have to own it. Call your surgeon's office and let them know. I'm betting that they will tell you everything will be ok, but to be sure to follow the diet recommendations strictly for the rest of the time.

Regret is a ridiculous emotion. You did it, now you have to own it. Call your surgeon's office and let them know. I'm betting that they will tell you everything will be ok, but to be sure to follow the diet recommendations strictly for the rest of the time.

It's probably gas and/or acid pains. Your new stomach is very much in a healing stage, and mine still makes all kinds of noises. You could also be thirsty, thirst can mimic hunger pains. Are you on a PPI?
I also wouldn't worry about being able to consume 5 oz. of liquids at this point. Your full feelings won't really be that noticeable until you move on to soft foods. Liquids and pureed foods are more of a slider, they just move right on through and don't really fill up much.

I would have been deeply resentful of anyone who pushed WLS on me before I was ready. This is something that I needed, but was such a personal decision that I can't even imagine how I would have felt if someone I loved was on a Quest to convince me to do it.

Added to that emotional side of things, this surgery is a lifelong commitment to good choices and small portions. Even if you could "talk him into it", you can't eat, exercise or limit portions for him. That's something he has to be 100% committed to even when things are tough physically and emotionally.

It's my opinion that you can do no more than offer to go to a seminar with him so that he can learn about his options. Any more than that and you are treading on rough territory. I know your heart is in the right place and it's clear that you love him and want him around forever, but the more you push this decision, the more likely he is to push it away.

most common complication(s)
complication rates
mortality rate
how many procedures performed
aftercare programs
realistic goals
pre-op requirements
post-op requirements
usual amount of time off work
usual length of hospital stay
there are a few off the top of my head

Alex, what is the best thing that I've ever done for myself?

your vs. you're
their vs they're vs there
when to use "me" and when to use "I"
I have my OCD about it and I'm comfortable with it. It's mine, I own it.

your vs. you're
their vs they're vs there
when to use "me" and when to use "I"
I have my OCD about it and I'm comfortable with it. It's mine, I own it.

your vs. you're
their vs they're vs there
when to use "me" and when to use "I"
I have my OCD about it and I'm comfortable with it. It's mine, I own it.

Why is faster better? Stop and smell the magnolias, enjoy your journey and stop beating yourself up. Haven't we all done that enough?

It's probably gas and/or acid pains. Your new stomach is very much in a healing stage, and mine still makes all kinds of noises. You could also be thirsty, thirst can mimic hunger pains. Are you on a PPI?
I also wouldn't worry about being able to consume 5 oz. of liquids at this point. Your full feelings won't really be that noticeable until you move on to soft foods. Liquids and pureed foods are more of a slider, they just move right on through and don't really fill up much.

at 5'3" and 318#, your BMI is 56.3, which is considered super obese. Sever obesity (depending on the study you look at) reduces your life span by 10 years. I've no doubt your boyfriend is concerned for your health.
However, this is a very difficult and personal decision. Nobody can tell you what is best for you. What if you fail? What if I fail? But ... what if we don't? Nobody WANTS to do a pre-op diet. In my case, I wanted to be healthy more than I didn't want to do the pre-op diet. Sometimes life is hard, but you CAN do hard things ... even if you don't want to.
Good luck making your decision.

at 5'3" and 318#, your BMI is 56.3, which is considered super obese. Sever obesity (depending on the study you look at) reduces your life span by 10 years. I've no doubt your boyfriend is concerned for your health.
However, this is a very difficult and personal decision. Nobody can tell you what is best for you. What if you fail? What if I fail? But ... what if we don't? Nobody WANTS to do a pre-op diet. In my case, I wanted to be healthy more than I didn't want to do the pre-op diet. Sometimes life is hard, but you CAN do hard things ... even if you don't want to.
Good luck making your decision.

at 5'3" and 318#, your BMI is 56.3, which is considered super obese. Sever obesity (depending on the study you look at) reduces your life span by 10 years. I've no doubt your boyfriend is concerned for your health.
However, this is a very difficult and personal decision. Nobody can tell you what is best for you. What if you fail? What if I fail? But ... what if we don't? Nobody WANTS to do a pre-op diet. In my case, I wanted to be healthy more than I didn't want to do the pre-op diet. Sometimes life is hard, but you CAN do hard things ... even if you don't want to.
Good luck making your decision.

thank you so much for your pics and post!

Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story! I'm sure that many people can relate. For me, I can't wait to be able to wear things that aren't "frumpy", I can't wait to feel like the man I'm with is proud to be with me. Once I find a man, that is! Best of luck to you!

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