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COLLEEN C
COLLEEN #5 SAYS IT ALL! LOVE IT! THAT IS GOING IN MY ART JOURNAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When I was a kid I swore at the dentist that removed a tooth-words my mother didn't know I knew and at the last edg and dilation I had for a stricture I asked strangers in the elevator if they were there for the party, and they said yes, if I wanted them to be, and I told them yes they were lucky because I was there and I was the life of the party. Not my normal self and my daughter said it was embarrassing. Oh well.

I enjoyed these posts too,. . great advice!

Something tells me he wasn't Prince Charming prior to the surgery either! You have to teach people how to treat you. Did you do everything for him in the past? He hasn't stepped up to the plate because he never had to. Set him straight right now and tell him he has no choice. This is a partnership not one sided. If he can't help now then he might as well start packing his bags because you need him now more than ever. Things need to change and now is the time for him to step up to his change as you are doing yours! Good Luck!

When I was a kid I swore at the dentist that removed a tooth-words my mother didn't know I knew and at the last edg and dilation I had for a stricture I asked strangers in the elevator if they were there for the party, and they said yes, if I wanted them to be, and I told them yes they were lucky because I was there and I was the life of the party. Not my normal self and my daughter said it was embarrassing. Oh well.

I didn't have a sleeve. The advice here seems insightful and great. Just remember it is all good! Any change involves sacrafices. These sacrafices will be temporary and the new you will be a miracle! Enjoy the journey!

When I was a kid I swore at the dentist that removed a tooth-words my mother didn't know I knew and at the last edg and dilation I had for a stricture I asked strangers in the elevator if they were there for the party, and they said yes, if I wanted them to be, and I told them yes they were lucky because I was there and I was the life of the party. Not my normal self and my daughter said it was embarrassing. Oh well.

Feeling good about myself. All of me-the inside and the outside-the entire package instead of beating myself up inside. I want to be free from my horrible, shameful thoughts I put in my own head. I believe this will give me freedom from anxiety and panic attacks.

COLLEEN C
COLLEEN #5 SAYS IT ALL! LOVE IT! THAT IS GOING IN MY ART JOURNAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's awful! Tell him he's got to help and step up or you're going to stay with someone (Fam or friend) who will! Seriously, how lousy of him! If he says 'men don't do that' or 'you're better at it' tell him about mine:
My hubby took a day off when I got home, helped with anything I asked for and asked what I needed when I didn't. He took care of putting clean sheets on our bed before I got home, watered flowers I got, fielded calls, kept family informed, kept our place clean - and slept on the couch for 3 weeks to be sure I was resting easily my first few days back to work. Not one whine about doing all his own meals, laundry and shopping, and took great care of the dog (in a condo that's a lot of work). He walked with me whenever I invited him and never nagged. Just kept supporting me in so many ways. I'm six weeks out now and tonight he told me he was proud of me for following all the directions from the doc and nut, and for doing so well. I got to tell him how very much it meant to hear that and especially to have had his phenomenal support.
Real men ask how they can help...and jump in!

1. Enjoying my kids and and setting a good example of healthly living and knowing I'm gonig to actively enjoy them grow up!!!!!
2. Not worrying about having a stroke due to high blood pressure at the age of 34 or getting diabetes due to obesity.
3. Shopping wherever I want and knowing that they're going to have it in my size:-) :-)
4. More self confidence and pride
5. Not worrying about flying and if the seatbelt is going to fit.
6. Looking Haaaaute:-)
7. Going on awesome vacations and being able to do whatever activity I want and not worry about weight limits, stares, etc.
8. Swimming without a tent
9. Being able to be the real me, my outside matching the inside.
10. Loving myself for who I am and what I've done for me and for my family!

For me:
1. Going out of the house to do things with my children.
2. Shopping for clothes, anywhere & buying styles/colors I like rather that what is available in my size.
3. Getting down to a weight I can get breast reconstruction due to cancer.
4. Feeling better about sex, looking better.
5. Becoming who I am on the inside on the outside.
Of course overall HEALTHIER! Less medications.

Colleen I LOVE LOVE LOVE your reply to this question. It actually brought a tear to my eyes because I can visualize you achieving these goals. I have to remember that the surgery is just a tool and I have to do the work, mostly in my mind & then follow the plan. I am so excited for you to achieve your results. You should make a DREAM BOARD and put your weight loss WHY up with the things you mentioned so you can remember during the hard times.
Love... Cindy

You will never get the first 6 months after surgery back. Take advantage of the most restriction and lowest hunger levels you will have to maximize your weight loss.

To have done it years ago!!!!!

Follow your doctors orders....don't eat it just because you can...

If I could tell myself one thing it would be to expect the unexpected. That this is a life changer for sure. The ups and downs and changes emotionally, mentally and physically are what you never thought would and will happen...Seeking out those that have been there is a real help. And trust your sleeve to do its job and get rid of that damn scale!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Numbers mean nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If the 7 month post-op McButterpants could tell her pre-op self anything...Everything is going to be OK; stop worrying.

You will not feel hungry.......also follow the plan don't eat things that are bad for you just because u can

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

You can do it!

that i (could) and wala......i can and i did
people need to believe in themselves ONE more time and then do what they have to do
(follow the dr's advice/instructions), leave the woe is me drama at the door, think positive, realize
they wont die on the liquid diet and that through the doors of WLS is a garden of better health....

I've always thought, I am a skinny girl on the inside! I like to go out, see people, do things. I know if I wasn't overweight and out-of-shape basically my whole life, I would've been more involved in more physical activities. As a younger girl, I know I would've been more confident. In my post-college life, I am definitely more confident but my physical stature has always limited my activities.
I want to dance, hike, swim, run around on the beach, walk for miles around fun places like Disneyland and Six Flags, go out with friends and not worry about being the fat one of the group.
I think about this often as motivation. By NO means do I want to be "skinny," but healthy. In fact, I'd rather keep my boobs/butt and not be skinny, lol.

I want to dance, be a cowgirl, I want ride Harley's lol

Longtimecoming thanks for the compliment-model or beauty consultant ! I do love sparkles and beautiful things!