Sparklingbeauty53

Remember this: They are goals! No one got their liquids and Proteins right in the beginning! We all tried as hard as we could and that worked. You are on track-do not be hard on yourself. Keep the liquids in small amounts by you at all times and sip here and sip there and drink your Protein shakes. It is all good and you are on track!

Sparklingbeauty53,
I can relate to this. I've been blessed with good health and no serious co-morbidities (though I realize without WLS they could be waiting for me around the next corner), but any time I've (temporarily) lost a bit of weight before on a conventional diet I've had people say things like "Oh you must feel so much better now."
I always found remarks like this extremely patronizing. Who were they to assume that I felt bad before?
Even worse are those who will say "Oh you must feel so much better about yourself now." Because, of course, I must have really loathed and despised myself before losing those pounds!
Some people just have to talk down to you, it's in their nature, and even if they mean well it's very, very annoying. I used to join a group of ladies in our community pool for Water aerobics sessions but every single time I got in the Water one woman would come over to me, pat me on the arm and say "You just do whatever you can, dear." I never had any trouble doing the exercises, but she assumed I'd be incapable. Needless to say, I prefer going to the pool by myself now.
We have to put up with so much when we carry excess weight - being insulted by strangers, being misjudged as not very bright, even being misjudged as not very clean - but the thing I hate most is being condescended to.

I was like you and though I had some co-morbitids they were not symptom related. However after losing weight even a minimal amount I felt more energetic and I am able to do so much more. I am motivated to get up and get out there and do 100 more things then I do in an average day.
For those who know me they know I cannot and do not sit still and I don't stop. I am always on the go doing something learning something doing 100 things at once and now I am doing 200
I have also learned to shift things in my life and make myself priority #1 where before I always made myself last on the list and that never feels good. So yes taking care of myself and having more energy and being able to do more in a day and give back to the community etc. makes me feel good and I would not feel that way if I had not lost the extra weight that was holding me down just for the sheer physical inability to get things done.

It is such a joy to see what everyone is dreaming of! A smaller wedding dress is quite a goal!

I love the entire me! What a wonderful quote enjoy the time.!

I hear this all the time. What do they mean? I am the same person I was before. I feel fine and I always have. I don't feel any diffferent really. My health has improved, my diabetes has normalized, I no longer need insullin or tons of meds but I didn't have any physical ailments that have improved per se. What am I susposed to say-oh yes I feel much better? I don't. I know in my head I am healthier and I love that but it doesn't make me feel better physically. I never know how to answer that. Can anyone else relate?

Thanks ladies! It is amazing not using a cane anymore and taking the stairs, etc. I am so happy for both of you. I do exercise more easily now too. I am grateful for this opportunity and for the weight loss. I don't want to sound in any way ungrateful. My co morbidities were just the no symptom types!

I love the entire me! What a wonderful quote enjoy the time.!

I don't know about that high of a divorce rate. Scary really. I hope my marriage flourishes with my new found body and me. I was fat when we married but admittedly have gotten fatter as the years have gone on. I pray this makes the marriage stronger but reading that makes me think. I working on the new me and the new marriage! He has been supportive thus far and I pray this continues!

Great question!
I have to say, i am Happier... I find myself "glass half full" rather then "half empty"... I try to show the postive side of things... I find my self more supportive...

I think if you have a strong marriage it's just going to make it stronger. If you are with someone you settled for because you were overweight, or if your mate is very jealous, or if your mate is only attracted to big people, you are going to have issues.
Fortunately I married someone who is supportive and loves me no matter what. If anything this has made us closer, because I can trust that when I'm vulnerable he is still there for me and takes care of the things I can't.

I am hopeful my marriage will sustain this change in my life. I have been married 40 years. I was not overweight when we got married (115 lbs). In fact, I wore the little miini skirt, gogo boots, etc of that era. I had long blonde hair and big tatas. Ha. Anyway, 40 years later, my hair is short and grey, I had breast reduction surgery 15 years ago, and I wear pants with elastic waist bands. Not a day goes by that he does not say that he loves me. He is tall and slim and very active, so his wish is for me to get healthy again so we can get back to activities that we once enjoyed together. I have strong hopes that we will enjoy the new me and our marriage will become even stronger.... And a whole lot more fun! He is getting the bikes ready as we speak. Only time can tell how this will go.

I have to agree with @greensleeve - My husband & I have been through our share of ups & downs (he has an AWFUL EX-Wife - they were divorced before i ever met him) if she didnt tear us apart... me losing 100lbs shouldnt either...
I wasnt always overweight. He is a very active person & always wants me to do stuff with him, but i wasnt able to... ITs been awesome that now i can! He has been very supportive. We work a few buildings from each other, and he always makes sure i have enough Water & all my Protein to eat. and when i know he didnt pack a lunch, i make sure i pack extra & drop it off to him. We take care of each other - Since i have had WLS, i feel like we are stronger then ever... It makes me sad to think that we would ever part ways because of WLS...

I've been married going on 26 yrs and was always heavy but my husband is a wonderful man who no matter what says he loves me.
He's always has been there for me and still is.
He's very proud of me and my achievements of losing the weight and is very helpful in me taking care of myself.
So WLS has not been an issue with us at all because we were strong to begin with.

Thanks ladies! It is amazing not using a cane anymore and taking the stairs, etc. I am so happy for both of you. I do exercise more easily now too. I am grateful for this opportunity and for the weight loss. I don't want to sound in any way ungrateful. My co morbidities were just the no symptom types!

Funny how we can all be so different. I call myself Sparklingbeauty53, not because I am stuck up or anything but I am known for my sparkle. I believe we can and should look beautiful at any age and any size. To be sure we all have our grunch looks (who works out looking great?) but I believe every woman should have a touch of sparkle. Not your ugly sequin christmas sweaters but just a touch to make them feel better about themselfves. Since I have lost weight (albeit just beginning) I feel that even not wearing sparkle I look better and I guess it is because I feel I look better. The sparkle is just a bonus! I did keep some old pants and a shirt for the photos down the road...thanks for that advice LilMissDiva Irene!

Funny how we can all be so different. I call myself Sparklingbeauty53, not because I am stuck up or anything but I am known for my sparkle. I believe we can and should look beautiful at any age and any size. To be sure we all have our grunch looks (who works out looking great?) but I believe every woman should have a touch of sparkle. Not your ugly sequin christmas sweaters but just a touch to make them feel better about themselfves. Since I have lost weight (albeit just beginning) I feel that even not wearing sparkle I look better and I guess it is because I feel I look better. The sparkle is just a bonus! I did keep some old pants and a shirt for the photos down the road...thanks for that advice LilMissDiva Irene!

I have a membership and it's close by and my family is very supportive. But I'm scared to walk into the place. I think I may make an appointment with a trainer and have them work out a fitness plan for me. Since I don't really know what to do or how to get started. My husband and I walk every evening. And my daughter and I go for bike rides which I haven't done in seven years. I was banded on May 9th. I'm down 33 pounds. Size 18 clothes. Was a 22. I've been trying to psych myself up for my first gym visit and I'm scared to death.

I love these posts because it really makes you stop and evaluate your entire transformation. Pre-op I was postivie and outspoken but I always had that tough exterior wall up, I held back to a certain extent because I didn't want to put myself in the spot light because I knew what people were really thinking. Post-OP I'm still that same positive outspoken person but the walls are down now because I honestly don't care what others think of me because I LOVE ME the ENTIRE ME!! Yep, that's right I love myself, I've never honestly been able to say that before and not because of how I look (that helps) but because I've proved to myself that I have what it takes to get through whatever life brings my way, with alot of help from the Man Upstairs!!! I wake up everyday with a smile on my face, FULL OF ENERGY, ready to take on the world I'm a go getter, take no BS kinda gal who loves herself!

@@Sparklingbeauty53 wonderful representation of how you're feeling right now! If I may make one suggestion though, keep ONE set of your biggest clothing. There will come that day when you can fit both legs in one pant leg of your largest. It is a very special moment and you won't want to miss out because you threw them away.
That said, throw everything else away or donate them! ASAP.

COLLEEN C
COLLEEN #5 SAYS IT ALL! LOVE IT! THAT IS GOING IN MY ART JOURNAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am cleaning house. Literally. I took three days to clean out drawers and my closet and I can say everything in my drawers and closet fit me. What a great feeling to get rid of the big stuff never to fall back on it.
I am cleaning my craft room out. I want to be able to go in and craft and play on the computer, have a "ME" room again instead of a room accumulating stuff.
Don't get me wrong, I am a clean person who doesn't have clutter except in those two areas but I figured while I was cleanong out my body I would expand to cleaning out the other 2 areas that needed it.
It is refreshing! Next I am going to clean out my purse and then train for a 5 k! I have never done that before in my life-I have walked some but never run one so that is next. I love the new me that is emerging and even surprising myself!

I am cleaning house. Literally. I took three days to clean out drawers and my closet and I can say everything in my drawers and closet fit me. What a great feeling to get rid of the big stuff never to fall back on it.
I am cleaning my craft room out. I want to be able to go in and craft and play on the computer, have a "ME" room again instead of a room accumulating stuff.
Don't get me wrong, I am a clean person who doesn't have clutter except in those two areas but I figured while I was cleanong out my body I would expand to cleaning out the other 2 areas that needed it.
It is refreshing! Next I am going to clean out my purse and then train for a 5 k! I have never done that before in my life-I have walked some but never run one so that is next. I love the new me that is emerging and even surprising myself!

I am cleaning house. Literally. I took three days to clean out drawers and my closet and I can say everything in my drawers and closet fit me. What a great feeling to get rid of the big stuff never to fall back on it.
I am cleaning my craft room out. I want to be able to go in and craft and play on the computer, have a "ME" room again instead of a room accumulating stuff.
Don't get me wrong, I am a clean person who doesn't have clutter except in those two areas but I figured while I was cleanong out my body I would expand to cleaning out the other 2 areas that needed it.
It is refreshing! Next I am going to clean out my purse and then train for a 5 k! I have never done that before in my life-I have walked some but never run one so that is next. I love the new me that is emerging and even surprising myself!

Feeling good about myself. All of me-the inside and the outside-the entire package instead of beating myself up inside. I want to be free from my horrible, shameful thoughts I put in my own head. I believe this will give me freedom from anxiety and panic attacks.