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I have a few friends who are fixated on the number, too. I tell them that I am not worried about that because it's a marathon and not a sprint. Usually shuts them up.

I wouldn't worry, this is just a stall. I went through some weeks with zero loss, only to turn around and have great results the following week. Keep doing what you know to do, i.e. stay active and eat smart...the lbs. will drop.

By the way, 42 lbs. in 53 days is phenomenal! Give yourself a little credit!

Good luck!

Thanks guys, I needed something new to try asap.... Ordering some right now, can't wait to try it.

Day of surgery - 5/28 - 280
Current - 267

2 months out!! Work hard and dont give up

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I have a few friends who are fixated on the number, too. I tell them that I am not worried about that because it's a marathon and not a sprint. Usually shuts them up.

Months post op.
50 more pounds to go and I'll be happy. I'm loving this sleeve. I feel so happy.

As a single young guy that has never been in a relationship longer then a year, I really have no business commenting but I'm going to anyway . All I wanted to say is that him trying to sabotage you could be his own insecurity. He may be afraid that when you gain more self confidence as the weight comes off that you may be unwilling to deal with his controlling demeanor. The divorce statistic of people after weight loss is high for a reason, we are a lot less willing to put up with BS!

That is really sad. My hubby told me (I didn't even ask) that we were getting rid of all the junk food, no more treats in the house - if he wants something he will eat it when I'm not there or he's out. Plus, he eats what I do. Example, if I make frittata, I'll put cheese on his, but not mine but we both eat the same thing. He eats salad and veggies. I make him rice and it doesn't bother me not to eat it, but if it did, he said he won't have it either. He's 500% supportive!
If the people who love you the most won't support you, who will?

On the junk food...
This, you won't want to hear, but it's truth. He didn't have surgery, you did. He doesn't need to change his eating habits, you do. In a a perfect world, everyone around you would be supportive and all temptations would disappear, but that's not reality. I'd suggest that you make a cabinet for your foods and a cabinet for his. He can't touch yours and out of sight out of mind on his food for you. You have to relearn habits and you *will* figure it out, I'm sure. In the meantime, talk to him, tell him your feelings, but you can't make him change and you can't be but so mad at him for not changing his habits for you. That's not fair.
On cooking dinner. Ha! Really? Not your problem. Unless you have kids to feed, you don't have to cook. If you choose to, cook YOUR foods. Trust me, he won't like the mushies much.

He's gonna do what he's gonna do, but you need to look out for number one, and if he's standing in your way and won't even talk about it, then that's a problem and you have to find a way of dealing with it. Also, why on earth does he expect you to cook? It's not 1954; he should be capable of scrambling an egg.

I'm so glad if any of this has helped at all. Sharing my daily activities, my health info and, for crying out loud, my WEIGHT has been beyond bizarre! However, the one thing that helped me navigate the murkiness of a life-changing surgery were the personal stories, advice, good, bad, pain, eating, fears, eating experiences and more that everyone shared with me and other total strangers on this board. We're all united in this journey and should do what we can to help each other but keep in mind that our experiences may differ greatly. I don't know if it's due to our surgeons, anatomy, meds, life experiences or a combination of them but knowledge is power and the more you know, the more prepared you will be.
My pain was up and down after surgery and for me, the nausea was the far worse experience. I took the patch behind the ear, told the anesthesiologist to do what he could to minimize the nausea, took all nausea and pain medication they could give me and figured the rest of the post surgery steps would follow. Today I didn't take a pain pill at all but I will when I go to sleep. My stitches itch like mad now, all I do is scratch around them and I may need benedryl or something. However, I sneezed today and almost had no pain, a victory there since I was fearing coughs, sneezes or hiccips for the past week!
So, from those first days in the hospital, when they lined up plastic 2 oz cups filled with Water and encouraged me to work my way through them to less than a week later I'm drinking several ounces at a time, along with 3 Protein shakes and Vitamins, to today when I had my first pureed food and am learning all over again what to eat. Think of this journey as a sort of bunny hop through the steps, a couple of hops forward, a couple of hops back, and several more steps forward again. Just as I got the hang of drinking Protein Shakes, now I'm figuring out the mushy and pureed food process, hop, hop, hop...
Today I had a strawberry banana Protein shake with additional Protein Powder added to it for Breakfast. I had about 20 ounces flavored water and then set the kitchen timer for 30 minutes and planned lunch, which was 2 -3 Tbsp of high Protein yogurt. Even though I ate with a baby spoon, out of a pre-measured container, much stomach gurgling during this meal kept me eating slowly. I ate slow, listened to my stomach, and stopped before the container was empty. Once done, I set the timer, and then started drinking my Water again. Next meal, 2 Tbsp of a mix of mashed banana and ceeamy Peanut Butter. Same eating process and gurgling results. Again, I stopped before the container was empty. Kind of an interesting process but I got in my liquids and Vitamins. I guess I'm supposed to be tracking calories and protein and stuff but I'm just going to get the hang of the food eating first and then talk to my Nut next week and let her tell me what to track.
I'm feeling good and optimistic and even planning to walk with my daughter in Walk for Life tomorrow. Can't wait to swim and ride my bike again!
I think I'll stick with shakes for Breakfast for awhile, have a few small meals during the day, and keep each one at 2 Tbsp each and high protein. Oh yeah, and I'm down 10 pounds since surgery 8 days ago. 10 pounds, is that the size of a watermelon? 10 pounds is cool! I've lost a total of 30 since my high weight this past March. 30 pounds is like a whole toddler or something, right! Again, I say cool!

Yuck. When you went this far to get healthy and lose weight, why would you want to eat that? That's like putting ethanol in a racing car: complete waste. I don't have a taste for crap (and if I did I'd probably up chuck it) and don't want it now.
Same thing for sodas. I have a memento of one in the fridge. It is a source of pride that its sat for over 2.5 years and I've never touched it. It will stay in there until its busted and then I'll get another one to sit there.

Pre-surgery, ALL of my meals, every day, were fast food. McDonalds was up there in my top 3 favs! One of my 6 things that I committed to that I would stop "cold turkey" before my surgery was to eliminate all fast food. At my 2-1/2 year point (I'm now at 3 yrs), I began to allow myself a planned fast food meal up to 4 times a month, but only from Subway or El Pollo Loco. I often don't even eat it those 4 times in a month that I do allow myself.
I've had to be SUPER-STRICT with myself, though, from the very beginning of my WLS adventure, because I knew it would be too easy for me to fall back into my old habits. I am SO GLAD I was (and am) so hard on myself. It's still kinda strange to me that I do not miss all that fast food AT ALL. My blood pressure is totally normal since WLS, so I will never be willing to put that much sodium and fat back into my diet with fast food. I feel the same way about the carby junk food. If I allow it back into my life in the form of a cookie here, or a donut there, etc it is just too easy for me to start and then continue those bad habits again. I just don't trust myself to stay on the "straight and narrow" after not being able to do so for my whole life before WLS. Somehow, my crazy head has learned that eating healthy is what my body REALLY wants, and it doesn't care anymore that I don't feed it the fast food and junk. Go figure! I have found some great bari-friendly recipes that have become my substitutes for occasional snacky stuff so I never feel deprived.
Life is good for me without fast food--NEVER in a million years did I ever think I would say those words!!!

Saw my Nut today. Water and Vitamins all good but Protein low and need to step up my exercise to more than 20 -30 mins walking a day. Today I went out on my bike and it feels more like the kind of exercise I enjoy.
Took granddaughter to lunch today at Noodles where she had my former favorite, mac and cheese and I ordered a side of pork loin. We came home and I ate some meat wrapped in a piece of swiss cheese but couldn't more than 3/4ths of it.
Went to dinner with friends and I ordered a side of grilled shrimp. When the plate came, it was so much I had to laugh because there were so many. I ate 4 med shrimp with my knife and fork taking tiny bites and chewing well and my husband ate the rest of the shrimp with his steak. Being in a restaurant isn't hard and the food at the table didn't affect me but I didn't drink any Water at all when I got there because I thought my food would get to the table within 30 minutes. But, my husband had an appetizer and it took awhile to order so I went without drinking over 45 mins and I was so thirsty so hardest part of eating out is judging time it takes to get food! Then just as my 30 mins were up and I could drink again after eating, everyone was ready to leave so I took a couple of drinks of my water and was glad that my new habit is to always carry a bottle of water with me!
I wasn't sure how I'd do with grilled shrimp, but they were good and settled well. I knew to stop when the gurgling and hiccups started which is good since it's hard to measure food when you're out.

HW 274
SW 262
CW 250
Felling stronger every day

Hrhlaurie - try some unsweetened applesauce or pure pear juice. Helped me !!!!

Sandunehill - best app I use is my fitness pal. You log your Water in take. Best thing is you can scan the bar code on items and it automatically loads the nutrition information in and you can adjust serving sizes. Let me know if you have any questions!!

Lylabelle - thanks for listing the name of the new thread so I could make the move. I am making a note to PM you weight on Monday mornings. This could be interesting. I had my surgeon pre-op yesterday and PCP today - surgery was 5/28 - so I am down 20 since 5/18 when I started my 10 days liquid diet pre-op. So far - so good!!

Lylabelle - thanks for listing the name of the new thread so I could make the move. I am making a note to PM you weight on Monday mornings. This could be interesting. I had my surgeon pre-op yesterday and PCP today - surgery was 5/28 - so I am down 20 since 5/18 when I started my 10 days liquid diet pre-op. So far - so good!!

I was not one to keep my surgery a secret. I am pretty strong minded and if they don't agree with my decision - not really my problem. I seriously only have ONE person in my life that disagrees with my decision (at least she's the only one gutsy enough to voice her opinion!!) and that was one of my sisters in law. At 46 years old - I am pretty much going to do what I feel is best for me. I have always struggled with weight (she NEVER has) and believe me - I did all my homework and really prepared for this. Something this serious was not something I was going to "half-ass". I have a huge support system of family and friends - and that support system makes me more accountable cuz I want to make sure that I NEVER go back to what I was before WLS. What's sad is that I had VSG on 5/28 and she has yet to even TEXT me to see how I am doing. That says a lot to me. I may not always support HER decisions - but always kept my opinions to myself - not my place to give those opinions. At least my brother has checked in and gives me 100% support. Her loss!

I was the 28th and did the swallow test on the 29th. You would think that they would be able to make that stuff better tasting. Mine looked like thick apple juice but tasted like what I imagine paint thinner tastes like. It was AWFUL. Thank goodness he let me chase it with some Water. Started BM's that day also; although more liquid but at least it started soon. I heard walking helps. I almost feel lucky as I read others' posts about their pain and problems. It's been pretty smooth sailing for me. The gas in the shoulders isn't fun and I am trying to keep up with my 4oz of liquid per hour. Surgeon follow up on Tuesday so no Vitamins til then. Can't wait to see what he says is the next step. Glad I am off of work this week as well. I may have a desk job but the thought of an 8+ hour work day just yet is NOT my idea of a good time. Hopefully the weather will cooperate this week so I can do some walking outside. I hope everything is getting better for you all. This forum has been pretty amazing!!

I was not one to keep my surgery a secret. I am pretty strong minded and if they don't agree with my decision - not really my problem. I seriously only have ONE person in my life that disagrees with my decision (at least she's the only one gutsy enough to voice her opinion!!) and that was one of my sisters in law. At 46 years old - I am pretty much going to do what I feel is best for me. I have always struggled with weight (she NEVER has) and believe me - I did all my homework and really prepared for this. Something this serious was not something I was going to "half-ass". I have a huge support system of family and friends - and that support system makes me more accountable cuz I want to make sure that I NEVER go back to what I was before WLS. What's sad is that I had VSG on 5/28 and she has yet to even TEXT me to see how I am doing. That says a lot to me. I may not always support HER decisions - but always kept my opinions to myself - not my place to give those opinions. At least my brother has checked in and gives me 100% support. Her loss!

I was not one to keep my surgery a secret. I am pretty strong minded and if they don't agree with my decision - not really my problem. I seriously only have ONE person in my life that disagrees with my decision (at least she's the only one gutsy enough to voice her opinion!!) and that was one of my sisters in law. At 46 years old - I am pretty much going to do what I feel is best for me. I have always struggled with weight (she NEVER has) and believe me - I did all my homework and really prepared for this. Something this serious was not something I was going to "half-ass". I have a huge support system of family and friends - and that support system makes me more accountable cuz I want to make sure that I NEVER go back to what I was before WLS. What's sad is that I had VSG on 5/28 and she has yet to even TEXT me to see how I am doing. That says a lot to me. I may not always support HER decisions - but always kept my opinions to myself - not my place to give those opinions. At least my brother has checked in and gives me 100% support. Her loss!

I was not one to keep my surgery a secret. I am pretty strong minded and if they don't agree with my decision - not really my problem. I seriously only have ONE person in my life that disagrees with my decision (at least she's the only one gutsy enough to voice her opinion!!) and that was one of my sisters in law. At 46 years old - I am pretty much going to do what I feel is best for me. I have always struggled with weight (she NEVER has) and believe me - I did all my homework and really prepared for this. Something this serious was not something I was going to "half-ass". I have a huge support system of family and friends - and that support system makes me more accountable cuz I want to make sure that I NEVER go back to what I was before WLS. What's sad is that I had VSG on 5/28 and she has yet to even TEXT me to see how I am doing. That says a lot to me. I may not always support HER decisions - but always kept my opinions to myself - not my place to give those opinions. At least my brother has checked in and gives me 100% support. Her loss!