Bobby46

I can not even imagine loving someone so deeply that a stupid scar would change that.
I don't know you, I don't know him. But....if a friend of mine confided in me that her husband was not attracted to her now because she has a scar then I would scream at her to tell him to get the hell out of her life. Seriously! I would tell her to not sit around and hope that he might change his mind, to hope that that a$$hole might reconsider his love for her. Good grief. Is he so wonderful that you should sit patiently while he weighs the pros and cons of being with a woman with a scar? Life is short. Find someone who loves you unconditionally.

Typical day for me...
Water for the first hour after I wake up because I have to take thyroid medicine. I also drink a total of 4 bottles of Water and a cup or 2 of coffee during the day.
Breakfast: 105 cals/11 pro: 1 egg fried in a pan with a handful of spinach eaten with a laughing cow wedge
30 mins later a cup of coffee with cream...60 cals/1p pro
Snack: 70 cals/6 pro: cheese stick
Lunch: 150 cals/12 pro: Usually imitation crab, tuna or chicken salad with cracker crisps
Snack: 100 cals/12 pro: Greek Yogurt
Dinner: 150 - 200 cals/21 pro: Some kind of meat and a few bites of veggies
Snack: Small piece of fruit or sugarfree Jello or pudding
Approx 700-800 cals at 2mths out and about 60-65 grams Protein.
NO SHAKES! Burnt out on them and I can live without them

I wish I could quit.....cheese. I put eat string cheese once a day but I also use laughing cow once a day and if I can justify it I put a cheese slice on my chicken at dinner. "protein" I tell myself.....even though I could easily skip it and still meet my Protein goal. I'm determined to get it down to one serving a day, period!
I also wish I could quit coffee creamer.....no I don't....yes I do.....no I don't! Ugh!! I feel deprived if I don't have my chocolate carmel coffee creamer in the morning! Since I absolutely positively refuse to deprive myself of anything ever again I will probably have it every morning in my coffee until I go to my grave!

I am about to say something that will make some people mad......but keep reading.....just giving my point of view. Don't want to make anyone mad. This is just my experience.
I used to get soooo mad at people who said WLS is the easy way out...............
I have been on just about every single weight loss program known to man kind. About 37yrs worth of it. I have lost and I have regained. Most of us have traveled together on that same stinking road, I'm sure. WLS has been the easiest for me. Yep, I said it. My surgery was so easy. No pain. Recovery super fast and super easy. I was very blessed. The weight just fell off. I didn't struggle with emotional issues regarding food. I didn't cry. I didn't fight it at all. So to me this has been the "easy way" considering all the other avenues I ventured down.
WAIT......That being said......
I am only 5 1/2 mths out. I have hit a stall, a huge one.....about 6 weeks now. So....about 6 weeks ago #%^& got real!
I understand why people who don't have weight issues.....or those who do and refuse to face it......say that this is the easy way out. To them they see surgery 1 day and weeks or months later people are 1/2 their size! Easy peasy.
No one outside of this experience will ever understand how difficult this is. They just wont. I really doubt we will ever make anyone understand that WLS is just as difficult as any other weight loss program out there. We will never be able to show them the hard part.....the fight in our heads and the fight to avoid certain foods, maybe forever. They only see that the weight came off fast and that equals easy because dieting without surgery is a slower process.
Little do they know.....little did I know....the real work begins when that grace period ends. For me I had 4 glorious months of "easy". But, I realize the rest of my life this is going to be one difficult fight!
My 600lb life to me is inspiring and sad. I worry that the general public is just gawking at them. Makes me sad for them. They may be inspirational to those of us who struggle with weight.....but I feel they are just entertainment for those who don't.
I've never watched the other show about the young woman who is "happy" as a very obese person. But, there are issues there. In my opinion, no one who becomes obese...with or without medical issues....is "happy". They adjust to it, accept it, and make the best of it....but I guarantee that if there was a "miracle pill" that would turn her into a thin, healthy woman, she would take it.

@@Bobby46 I am in the same boat. My waist and butt are small but my thighs and calves are still big. All of my pants are tight in the legs and gaping in the waist. I feel like I am mooning the world all of the time!

Hello. Don't pack a lot. I wore the gowns as well. I had IV lines and a bunch of monitors and those leg things that massage your legs so you don't get clots. I skipped the bra.....couldn't wear one for about a week after....even the sports type bras. I took a loose pair of jammie pants and only wore them to walk the halls and to ride home in.
The only thing I used out of my packed bag was the biotine mouth spray. Driest mouth on earth and this stuff was a lifesaver!!
I packed my nook and a couple changes of clothes, my makeup and hair stuff.....waste of time.
You might take your own pillow. The hospital ones were thin and it was very uncomfortable.

If you find something that's giving you results please post it on here I would love to know. And I should be thankful because I think that if I lost enough weight eventually it have to come over there too I shouldn't complain so much.

I follow the same rules 99% of the time
Protein first
64 oz of Fluid...water, coffee, tea
veggies next
fruit on occasion
low sugar
low carb
exercise at least 3x's a week
no grazing
chew slowly
take 20 mins to eat a meal
I was not given a "don't eat" list. I was given a "eat in moderation" and "try" to eliminate the white food....rice, potatoes, Pasta, bread
That being said, I have had a couple bumps in the road. I gave in to the iced sugar Cookies at Christmas. And yesterday, valentines day, I did not watch a single thing I ate all day. It was not intentional at all!
I woke up late so I skipped Breakfast. I had a French vanilla cappacino at noon on the way to my sons basketball game. I didn't eat a bite of food until 2....when I had 1/3 of a bagel with peanutbutter. Oh my was that a mistake! I did more running around and didn't get to eat dinner until 8pm. By that point in my day all rules went out the window.....I had 1/2 piece of red velvet cake for dinner.
But....I'm human. Crap happens. I cant plan everything all the time. Life goes on.

I only have 3 pair of jeans now. Well 1....1 pair that fits for the most part but are starting to get a little loose. 2 are too big.....but I still grab them and put them on thinking they will fit just fine. I take them back off immediately but still hang them where I can reach them....because they might fit again. ?? I have always had 2 or 3 different sizes in my closet. I think I'm still shocked that they no longer fit.
I also deal with the booth when I go out to eat....surprises me when I actually have room between me and the table!.
I am always shocked when I fit in the seat at the movie theater....don't have to fight for both arm rests because I need that extra room!
My son and I can pass each other easily in the hall way without him hugging the wall to let me through.
I still don't recognize myself when I catch my reflection in a mirrored surface or shiney glass window.....I always do a double take instead of avoiding them completely!

I follow the same rules 99% of the time
Protein first
64 oz of Fluid...water, coffee, tea
veggies next
fruit on occasion
low sugar
low carb
exercise at least 3x's a week
no grazing
chew slowly
take 20 mins to eat a meal
I was not given a "don't eat" list. I was given a "eat in moderation" and "try" to eliminate the white food....rice, potatoes, Pasta, bread
That being said, I have had a couple bumps in the road. I gave in to the iced sugar Cookies at Christmas. And yesterday, valentines day, I did not watch a single thing I ate all day. It was not intentional at all!
I woke up late so I skipped Breakfast. I had a French vanilla cappacino at noon on the way to my sons basketball game. I didn't eat a bite of food until 2....when I had 1/3 of a bagel with peanutbutter. Oh my was that a mistake! I did more running around and didn't get to eat dinner until 8pm. By that point in my day all rules went out the window.....I had 1/2 piece of red velvet cake for dinner.
But....I'm human. Crap happens. I cant plan everything all the time. Life goes on.

nursemate2.
I agree that not following a healthy diet is what got me here. I will make healthy choices in order to finally lose the weight and feel wonderful for the rest of my life and hopefully avoid horrible health issues. Massive amounts of unhealthy food was the way lived before. Never again.
But....for me...it is so hard and so unrealistic to live my life without ever having the foods I enjoy ever again. I have deprived my self of food since I was 9 years old and it did nothing but make me fat and frustrated. For me, if I am told "never again" when it comes to anything in life, it makes me want it all that much more.
I will eat a cheeseburger (without the bun because it gets stuck a little not because they said no) I will have a small piece of cake at a birthday party and I will drink a cup of coffee with Creamer every morning.
What I will guarantee I will do for the rest of my life is eat healthy and make wise choices 99% of the time. I will enjoy the unhealthy choices every now and again. That's a promise.
Life is short.

Hi, I am just over 6 mths out...surgery August 11th. I am down 71lbs and it just blows my mind! I always said....if I could just lose 50lbs I would be thrilled. But I felt that was such a huge undertaking! This surgery is the best decision I ever made! I know I say that a lot, I hear it a lot. But there are no other words to describe it! I am still 60lbs from goal....but, that doesn't seem that overwhelming to me anymore. I really feel like I can get there this time! That being said....if I never lose another pound I would still be just as thrilled. Feeling amazing!!
Congrats to you! So exciting!!

I follow the same rules 99% of the time
Protein first
64 oz of Fluid...water, coffee, tea
veggies next
fruit on occasion
low sugar
low carb
exercise at least 3x's a week
no grazing
chew slowly
take 20 mins to eat a meal
I was not given a "don't eat" list. I was given a "eat in moderation" and "try" to eliminate the white food....rice, potatoes, Pasta, bread
That being said, I have had a couple bumps in the road. I gave in to the iced sugar Cookies at Christmas. And yesterday, valentines day, I did not watch a single thing I ate all day. It was not intentional at all!
I woke up late so I skipped Breakfast. I had a French vanilla cappacino at noon on the way to my sons basketball game. I didn't eat a bite of food until 2....when I had 1/3 of a bagel with peanutbutter. Oh my was that a mistake! I did more running around and didn't get to eat dinner until 8pm. By that point in my day all rules went out the window.....I had 1/2 piece of red velvet cake for dinner.
But....I'm human. Crap happens. I cant plan everything all the time. Life goes on.

nursemate2.
I agree that not following a healthy diet is what got me here. I will make healthy choices in order to finally lose the weight and feel wonderful for the rest of my life and hopefully avoid horrible health issues. Massive amounts of unhealthy food was the way lived before. Never again.
But....for me...it is so hard and so unrealistic to live my life without ever having the foods I enjoy ever again. I have deprived my self of food since I was 9 years old and it did nothing but make me fat and frustrated. For me, if I am told "never again" when it comes to anything in life, it makes me want it all that much more.
I will eat a cheeseburger (without the bun because it gets stuck a little not because they said no) I will have a small piece of cake at a birthday party and I will drink a cup of coffee with Creamer every morning.
What I will guarantee I will do for the rest of my life is eat healthy and make wise choices 99% of the time. I will enjoy the unhealthy choices every now and again. That's a promise.
Life is short.

I am so scared to even dream of being a size 8. But my sister is the same height and is at the weight I have set as my goal and she is in a size 6! I have not worn anything smaller than a 12 as an adult and that was a flash in time when I was 23 yrs old. I'm twice the age and twice the size now at 47 yrs old and a size 16. I think about buying a size 8 and hanging them where I can wish on them everyday.....hmmmmm Might just have to do that!!!
Anything that motivates is a positive thing in my opinion! Your goal is totally realistic! Good luck to you!!

Hi, I am just over 6 mths out...surgery August 11th. I am down 71lbs and it just blows my mind! I always said....if I could just lose 50lbs I would be thrilled. But I felt that was such a huge undertaking! This surgery is the best decision I ever made! I know I say that a lot, I hear it a lot. But there are no other words to describe it! I am still 60lbs from goal....but, that doesn't seem that overwhelming to me anymore. I really feel like I can get there this time! That being said....if I never lose another pound I would still be just as thrilled. Feeling amazing!!
Congrats to you! So exciting!!

Hi, I am just over 6 mths out...surgery August 11th. I am down 71lbs and it just blows my mind! I always said....if I could just lose 50lbs I would be thrilled. But I felt that was such a huge undertaking! This surgery is the best decision I ever made! I know I say that a lot, I hear it a lot. But there are no other words to describe it! I am still 60lbs from goal....but, that doesn't seem that overwhelming to me anymore. I really feel like I can get there this time! That being said....if I never lose another pound I would still be just as thrilled. Feeling amazing!!
Congrats to you! So exciting!!

I was sleeved July 28th and I am so happy with my progress! I'm down 83 lbs and still losing at a steady pace. I started at 262 lbs and am down down to 179! Crazy to think I'm only 30 lbs from my goal weight! I'm 5'5.5" and before surgery I was a size 22/24 in bottoms and XL in tops. Now I'm a size 12/14 and M/L. My body has changed a lot, but I've also changed a lot mentally! food no longer controls me, and I don't even like some of the foods I binged on before my sleeve. I still need to work out more, but getting on the treadmill and running at 5-6 mph isn't nearly as hard as it was 7 months ago! I'm training for my first 14er here in Colorado this summer. I can't wait! Here are some pics of me before surgery at 262 and today at 179
  

nursemate2.
I agree that not following a healthy diet is what got me here. I will make healthy choices in order to finally lose the weight and feel wonderful for the rest of my life and hopefully avoid horrible health issues. Massive amounts of unhealthy food was the way lived before. Never again.
But....for me...it is so hard and so unrealistic to live my life without ever having the foods I enjoy ever again. I have deprived my self of food since I was 9 years old and it did nothing but make me fat and frustrated. For me, if I am told "never again" when it comes to anything in life, it makes me want it all that much more.
I will eat a cheeseburger (without the bun because it gets stuck a little not because they said no) I will have a small piece of cake at a birthday party and I will drink a cup of coffee with Creamer every morning.
What I will guarantee I will do for the rest of my life is eat healthy and make wise choices 99% of the time. I will enjoy the unhealthy choices every now and again. That's a promise.
Life is short.

nursemate2.
I agree that not following a healthy diet is what got me here. I will make healthy choices in order to finally lose the weight and feel wonderful for the rest of my life and hopefully avoid horrible health issues. Massive amounts of unhealthy food was the way lived before. Never again.
But....for me...it is so hard and so unrealistic to live my life without ever having the foods I enjoy ever again. I have deprived my self of food since I was 9 years old and it did nothing but make me fat and frustrated. For me, if I am told "never again" when it comes to anything in life, it makes me want it all that much more.
I will eat a cheeseburger (without the bun because it gets stuck a little not because they said no) I will have a small piece of cake at a birthday party and I will drink a cup of coffee with Creamer every morning.
What I will guarantee I will do for the rest of my life is eat healthy and make wise choices 99% of the time. I will enjoy the unhealthy choices every now and again. That's a promise.
Life is short.

I eat flat prezels, crackers, and Wendy's cheeseburger without the bun. Shoot me. Lol....still losing.

I follow the same rules 99% of the time
Protein first
64 oz of Fluid...water, coffee, tea
veggies next
fruit on occasion
low sugar
low carb
exercise at least 3x's a week
no grazing
chew slowly
take 20 mins to eat a meal
I was not given a "don't eat" list. I was given a "eat in moderation" and "try" to eliminate the white food....rice, potatoes, Pasta, bread
That being said, I have had a couple bumps in the road. I gave in to the iced sugar Cookies at Christmas. And yesterday, valentines day, I did not watch a single thing I ate all day. It was not intentional at all!
I woke up late so I skipped Breakfast. I had a French vanilla cappacino at noon on the way to my sons basketball game. I didn't eat a bite of food until 2....when I had 1/3 of a bagel with peanutbutter. Oh my was that a mistake! I did more running around and didn't get to eat dinner until 8pm. By that point in my day all rules went out the window.....I had 1/2 piece of red velvet cake for dinner.
But....I'm human. Crap happens. I cant plan everything all the time. Life goes on.

Most of us have a set of rules we were taught will help us succeed with our weight loss after surgery. Not all docs subscribe to the same rules, which leaves a little room for interpretation. I do try to follow as many as I can, to ensure my success. I even follow some I don't think are really necessary, and there's some I break even though I think I shouldn't break them.
**Disclaimer** I suggest everyone follow their own physician's plan. I am not recommending or suggesting anyone break any rules, but it's a frequent topic of conversation and thought it would be interesting to see individual approach in a real life setting.
I do the following (95% or more of the time)
No grazing
No drinking 30 minutes before or after meals
Protein first
65 or more grams protein per day
Take Vitamins as prescribed
64 ounces or more of fluids per day
Stop eating when full
Measure or weigh food
No straws
Nothing carbonated
Go to support group meetings (not a requirement, but a suggestion)
I do not:
Practice mindful eating. I often eat while watching TV. Since I measure my food, I'm not going to over eat.
Chew, Chew, Chew. Hard to do when you are not mindful.
Watch sugar or fat grams. I don't have issues with dumping, and I eat so little calories, I don't focus on them.
What about you - Do you follow the rules? Discuss.

16lbs in a month is fantastic. Relax. Its going to come off. Its going to stall, its going to fall off like crazy, then it will level off and just when you think youre going to move right along its going to stall again. Welcome aboard the rollercoaster!

16lbs in a month is fantastic. Relax. Its going to come off. Its going to stall, its going to fall off like crazy, then it will level off and just when you think youre going to move right along its going to stall again. Welcome aboard the rollercoaster!