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Hopefully you have been able to get back on track. It is a journey, not a destination. This was just a flat tire on the way, so get it changed and keep on driving. Good luck!

Don't beat you're self up…what is life with out a few bumps…mistakes make should never be repeated..keep that in mind…be strong after all we are all human and prone to make mistakes…good luck!!!!

Don't be so hard on yourself, Nancy. Your "head" wants to eat, not your belly, and you don't have to drag your self-esteem in either, you said it best -- old habits die hard. They do, and sometimes they don't die; they stick around and rear their ugly heads every so often. It may take a little time for you to substitute snacks that you find pleasurable. I know that feeling of wanting to eat, even though you KNOW you can't get anything down, and I've done the slow eating thing as well. I just got an adequate fill last week, so I'm still learning how to eat. It can be frustrating, but I've learned to like Jello and my protein shakes, and I'm learning to eat slowly and to savor what I eat. You will get there too, just be easy on yourself, otherwise you will talk yourself out of good habits you could be developing. {Been there, and that doesn't work.}

Hi Nancy
I've been following your progress for a while now. I find strength in your journey. Also I am understanding my overeating as a way of coping with being abused physically by my mother as a child. I too was not allowed to show emotions, as this would lead to further beatings, and verbal abuse. I learned to clean, tidy up, iron and cook as a young child to help stop abuse, keeping my mother happy. I too am taller than average, although not as tall as you, and of course I'm on the very large side!!! I also do not like standing out. I find comfort in your words. Thank you

Thanks for your comment!
I had lap band surgery on March 5th
What type of surgery are you considering?

Well done Nancy,
so glad your over the worst, and on the way to your new life. Try not to be too impatient, enjoy the ride.
Best wishes from the UK

Keep up the good work Nancy
Its a real eye opener, reading this. We went out for a meal yesterday, and although I'm only waiting for my next pre op appointment, (not dieting yet) I found myself wondering..... what will I eat? There was nothing much on the menu that I could eat (in the future), without asking for a special order to be made up, almost everything comes with sauce, fried in butter, with lashings of carbs... even the side salad had oily dressing.
Not going to be easy, but then if you want it bad enough..........
Good luck Nancy, keep us posted please

Toniakaye - yes, at least there is this place and I have a friend who had long ago admitted to me that she had a gastic bypass. I wish you the very best too

It certainly seems that everyone on this site has addictions, also that we have had not such a good time in our pasts, or presents. BUT we are doing something about it, that's the important thing to me, also, that I'm not alone here..... You're right, unless you've got it, you don't get it.... You know the comments, you JUST need to eat less and move more, you're uneducated, you're lazy, you're crazy, you're full of excuses. They are NOT excuses, they are REASONS. I'm here not to judge, but to find and give support. Hopefully you'll find the same, good luck to you Nancy, most people here understand totally. X

My husband and I were both sleeved after 10 years of seminars, research and thinking about it. This site gives you much information, so between here and seminars on WLS, you can decide. We have never been happier!!! 2 months post op.