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On the downlow

So I've decided after 'testing' my news about a lap band, that I won't be sharing the information with everyone.

 

I'm lucky in that I have great girlfriends who are usually open minded about most things. Apparently though that stops at weight loss surgery. I mentioned that I was considering lap bad surgery and what an uproar that caused. No, no, just eat right and exercise (like I haven't tried that a bazillion times. Oh why would you do any such surgery like that - have another cookie. Do you know what the failure rate is?

 

BLAH BLAH BLAH

 

I try to be an independent gal. I like to do research, I like to investigate and I really like to decide for myself no matter who says what. And I did a lot of research and I question a lot. I've read posts here on this site and on other sites too. Sometimes people 'failed' for reasons beyond their control. But often it seems that people don't do well because they don't want to work. This will be work! But I welcome that type of work and remain positive that if I comply and follow the rules, the band will work for me.

 

I've decided to not share my upcoming surgery plans for now. I don't want negative energy, I don't want those that love 'hovering' and watching every move, or calling constantly to try to 'help' me. I want to remain in the sunny side focusing on my health and what is right for me in my circumstances.

 

In the world we need more support and those that see what isn't right for them may just be the right thing for others.

 

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TK Sleever

Gastric Sleeve Patients

Nancy, isn't it nice that at least there is a place like this where you can find like-minded people? I'm just starting out, going to my first session at the WL center in 10 days. I haven't mentioned my desire for a gastric sleeve to a soul other than my wife. And I researched and thought about it for a couple of months before I even told her about it. I wish you the best!

Leepers

LAP-BAND Patients

My first thought was that it's proabably a good idea not to tell everyone, for the exact reasons you listed. My second thought was, how sad that we feel like we have to hide this from others. I too, kept is from most people until after my surgery. Then I did tell everyone and I regret doing that too. It's hard because we want those around us to share and support our experiences, but that's not how it always ends up.

You may be making the right choice. Stay positive. Until those people have walked in your shoes.....

NancyintheNorth

LAP-BAND Patients

Toniakaye - yes, at least there is this place and I have a friend who had long ago admitted to me that she had a gastic bypass. I wish you the very best too

NancyintheNorth

LAP-BAND Patients

Leepers - thanks for your honesty. Everyone does what feels right to them. Maybe I'll share at some point, but I doubt it.

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