KayleeC14

You know what I mean. You run into someone you haven't seen for some time, and they remark on your weight loss, but in a weird way and you're not sure how to take it. I ran into another mom I know from my sons school (as in not a close friend or anything remotely like that) and she noticed the weight loss, asked what I was doing etc. And then she says "oh your husband must love it!"
What?? What do I say to that? That was weird. Like "nah, he likes his ladies large" or "yeah he was packing his bags before I lost the weight". Awkward!!

I think the alcohol question is like so many other things, there are differences between each practice's guidelines. My doctor / NUT advised not drinking. Not only the whole empty calorie issue, but because of alcohol tolerance changes in most people. Also, there can be issues with cross addiction. Once you have to give up overeating as your vice many will turn to alcohol. But here is my two cents...I have drank. Not a lot, but on occasion I have been drunk. I know what I can and what I cannot tolerate. ( 1/2 of a margarita kicked my BUTT! Could have been the tequila or the sugar, or both) I have found if I stick with rum and diet Coke ( heavily iced to knock down the carbonation) I seem to do ok. And the day after? I usually weigh anywhere from 2-4 lbs lighter! Of course it all regulates when I rehydrate. And when I am drinking I believe I am the world's best dancer. Therefore I have also included a pretty good cardio workout in my night out, which my legs are not to happy about the next day...LOL
Alcohol is like any many other life choices. Use your best judgment and you should be ok.

I am 10 months out and I occasionally will have a drink here and there. Nothing in excessive amounts either. This weekend I went out with my best friend for girls night and had one beer. It settled fine till I got home then it was bad news bears later. I have noticed since I have lost 140+ pounds that I cannot drink like I used to, it hits me really fast compared to my friends who haven't had this surgery. Depending on what I drink, I do notice some change with the scale but nothing dramatic. I just drink lots of Water. I think letting us have indulgences now and then is okay rather then being super strict all the time. Being strict on yourself is stressful, I have found this out.

shake it off.
Omg I just quoted Taylor Swift. It's the end of the world as we know it.

Crossing my legs and sitting on my husbands lap with out crushing him has been amazing!! Good luck to all you girls, it's the little things that make it! This may be too much info but when I look down I can see my lady bits just fine, makes shaving much easier!
I'm 10 months out, my surgery weight was 231 and I'm currently 135.
I hope all of your journeys are as great as mine had been!

Oh Kaylee, what a beautiful story about your grandfather. He sounded like a beautiful man and it's obvious that he was loved deeply by you and your family. It's very sad when you think about how many people have been robbed of so many years because of obesity. You described him so perfectly that I feel like I almost knew him.

Your story has hit home for me because it reminded me of my grandfather. My grandfather will and always be my hero in my eyes. I come from a family who has always been bigger hardly any of us are "skinny" always had curves, and extra meat on our bones. My grandfather was always a big man, he was pushing 500 pounds. Growing up going to grandma and grandpas house was always the norm same with waiting to eat Breakfast with grandpa because he would make the best eggs known to man. Going over there was like the story book grandparents house. Grandma always had Breakfast on the table for you, we made Cookies together, drank the cold coffee that grandma didn't finish, made crafts, had grandma pre-school, and we always had big meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. My grandpa would make us girls finish whats on our plate before leaving the table. When I was three we almost lost my grandfather from congestive heart failure. I remember the day going to see him in the hospital and not knowing my hero was going to return. I was only three but I understood what he was going through. The doctors gave him less than ten years to live.
​Well moving on to my sophomore year in high school, my grandpa became sick. I stepped up with my mom and helped take care of him. I watched my grandfather fall out of bed, and I had to pick this man up and put him back in bed. The strong man who I loved dearly was becoming weaker and weaker. He was the still the 500 pound man. Every morning he would tell me that I need to eat better, because he didn't want to see me be his weight or be like him. I would tell him I am trying, and promise him I wouldn't. Sadly on memorial day weekend 2006 he passed away in hospice from congestive heart failure from being overweight. My world ended.
Before having this surgery I thought a lot about those years with my grandpa and him telling me never be like him weight wise. I already failed one weight loss surgery and was thinking of a second. I told myself if my grandpa was offered weight loss surgery back when I was three I believe he would take it knowing he would be around for more of his grandchildren's lives. If he was given the choice for weight loss surgery back in 2006 before he passed, I know he wouldn't take it. Those thirteen years changed my grandpa and that last year you could tell he was giving up. I wrote my letter to the surgeon telling her this same story I am telling you and was approved. Had my revision surgery in November 2013.
It wakes a lot for somebody to really look at themselves in raw form to really make this life changing decision. This story hit home for me because my grandpa was a big man who I helped up many times and he had the bluest eyes and kindest soul around.

Hi there! So your situation kinda reminds me of mine. I lost not 85 prior to the sleeve but I lost about 35 which is a big leap from where I started at 397. I am a slow loser. Where you are at right now your body is fighting to keep the weight on, because you where big for a period of time (I don't know your story but for me I was 397 for years) your body is used to all that insulation when you dramatically change it your body is going to fight you. I stalled out about two months out and didn't loose any weight for about a good month. Then BAM! the weight started to fall off of me. I would keep doing what you are doing, try to increase your calories to 1,000 instead of sticking around 600. I am nine months out and I still struggle with the whole making the daily calorie intake. Your doing great, keep your head up and you will get through this! It just take some time.

I don't understand why are women so critical of each other? Why not be supportive and say, hey good job and continue doing what you are doing, or hey can I help you in anyway. I am sick and tired of being criticize by women constantly. I have heard some of my so call girlfriends saying, oh yeah if you lose some more weight, even 20 more pounds, you will get the guy you want. I am thinking, do you know what I have been through and what I am going through. So far I am proud of myself, I was 210 and have lost 57 pounds and now I am down to 153. With my height being 5 feet, I should be at around 120-130. I am almost 5 months out from my RNY and I have to work really hard to lose the weight. Working out 3-4 times a week, eating the right foods, having a food diary and staying motivated is not easy but heck I went down this path to make my life better. But being criticize for not reaching the goal as yet is just hurtful. I feel bad for women who pass judgements like this...I feel that they are insecure and can not see other women happy. I would never criticize another woman, matter of fact I would motivate them to eat right and exercise which we are all doing. I believe if I can do it, anyone can do it.
Even a man who is super over weight who I am trying to help with the surgery process say to me, oh if you lost another 20 pounds you will be so hot. Why not say, hey good job and keep at it. And mind you, his wife is not so thin herself...
Just had to rant today...

I've been trolling for a little while and posted a few threads. I've seen others get verbally attacked and bullied on this site and all I want to say is don't be a bitch to folks here. Most of us already have suffered some type of abuse in some form or another and it isn't necessary.
Is hurting other people making you feel better about yourself? I thought this site was to build people up ...let's be positive to one another and not hateful there is enough of that in the world already!!!!

I have been up and down the last month 2-3 lbs. I am finally starting to stay at a weight that seems good for me. I am happy with this and it is making my family happy as well...Hoping plastics next!
Now if I can stay out of the hospital. Things may start to move a head......Yes!

I had the band put in twice . 2012 and lost 100 pounds in 3 months cause it slipped and almost killed me then they put it back in in later in 2013 or late 2012 and I did not lose any weight but gained 20 pounds and it was slipping again . So I went to my new wls dr . Dr suh and he revised me to the sleeve in 2,months after may 30 2014 I lost 51 pounds . I happy fir the weight loss and I am still dropping . I to was told and read that I would lose weight slowly but it seems to be coming off fast I stick to his diet plan and like extend it to . Meaning I did broth liquid diet for a month instead of 2 weeks and now I am able to start on crab shrimp and turkey fish but I stay on the 600 cal soft foods for another month . I will know total how much I lose in oct 7 but here are before abd after
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Glad im not the only one who has gotten the crazy emotional feelings. Thanks for the advice

I found out yesterday morning that my BCBS of Ga insurance had an exclusion for bariatric surgery/drugs so I will NOT be having any weight loss surgery now. I went through a day of feeling sorry for myself, crying my eyes out and just being depressed and mad at myself for letting myself get to this point. When my husband got home, he hugged me, told me to get dressed and we hit the gym. This morning I went for a mile walk, I will NOT let this little stepping stone get me down any further. Now to find a low carb, low fat diet I can stick with and I will be okay. Good luck to all of you on your journey!

First, you shouldn't be shamed for posting such a forum because you are seeking help. I am pretty surprised by the responses on here. I am very opinionated person but I will leave my opinions on mental illness aside (which are not negative what-so-ever).
You are going through a total life changing journey and you are making changes in your life that you haven't made or thought of before. I can say I have not experienced what you are going through but have come across others who got in that mind frame. So, I can sorta get why you would starting to be judgmental towards others (which is fine as long as you keep it inside of you). I have cut ties with friends prior and during this journey because they did not support me. It is rough to cut out family members. Also our fat cells hold a lot of estrogen so when we loose that estrogen gets released so BAM flood of hormones are released and can cause a lot of mood changes and such. When I was at your stage I was very touchy and emotional all the time. I am not 9 months out and I can say that I am not as emotional as I was before. Also other than all those darn hormones you are battling being bipolar which is hard, I know many with that issue. The best thing for you is what you are doing is seeing your therapist, I would suggest to have him to have your meds check on a monthly basis just to make sure that during this journey you are getting the proper care and keeping your illness in check.
I wish nothing for the best for you, and best advice I can give you regarding some comments is to just ignore them and read the ones that suit you best. You got this girl!

First, you shouldn't be shamed for posting such a forum because you are seeking help. I am pretty surprised by the responses on here. I am very opinionated person but I will leave my opinions on mental illness aside (which are not negative what-so-ever).
You are going through a total life changing journey and you are making changes in your life that you haven't made or thought of before. I can say I have not experienced what you are going through but have come across others who got in that mind frame. So, I can sorta get why you would starting to be judgmental towards others (which is fine as long as you keep it inside of you). I have cut ties with friends prior and during this journey because they did not support me. It is rough to cut out family members. Also our fat cells hold a lot of estrogen so when we loose that estrogen gets released so BAM flood of hormones are released and can cause a lot of mood changes and such. When I was at your stage I was very touchy and emotional all the time. I am not 9 months out and I can say that I am not as emotional as I was before. Also other than all those darn hormones you are battling being bipolar which is hard, I know many with that issue. The best thing for you is what you are doing is seeing your therapist, I would suggest to have him to have your meds check on a monthly basis just to make sure that during this journey you are getting the proper care and keeping your illness in check.
I wish nothing for the best for you, and best advice I can give you regarding some comments is to just ignore them and read the ones that suit you best. You got this girl!

First, you shouldn't be shamed for posting such a forum because you are seeking help. I am pretty surprised by the responses on here. I am very opinionated person but I will leave my opinions on mental illness aside (which are not negative what-so-ever).
You are going through a total life changing journey and you are making changes in your life that you haven't made or thought of before. I can say I have not experienced what you are going through but have come across others who got in that mind frame. So, I can sorta get why you would starting to be judgmental towards others (which is fine as long as you keep it inside of you). I have cut ties with friends prior and during this journey because they did not support me. It is rough to cut out family members. Also our fat cells hold a lot of estrogen so when we loose that estrogen gets released so BAM flood of hormones are released and can cause a lot of mood changes and such. When I was at your stage I was very touchy and emotional all the time. I am not 9 months out and I can say that I am not as emotional as I was before. Also other than all those darn hormones you are battling being bipolar which is hard, I know many with that issue. The best thing for you is what you are doing is seeing your therapist, I would suggest to have him to have your meds check on a monthly basis just to make sure that during this journey you are getting the proper care and keeping your illness in check.
I wish nothing for the best for you, and best advice I can give you regarding some comments is to just ignore them and read the ones that suit you best. You got this girl!

Surgery weight 267
Current weight 147
120 pounds lost forever
Surgery date May 31, 2013

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82 pounds down

Hi! Here are my images. I started at 397 and I am now 261 working towards that first goal of 250 which is only 11 pounds away. I am hoping I will be at least close to my over all goal in three months which is to weigh 200! So far this journey has been a roller coaster but so worth it! You all look amazing! Keep up the hard work!!


(this is me before the surgery)



(This is me after and 135 pounds down)

Hi! Here are my images. I started at 397 and I am now 261 working towards that first goal of 250 which is only 11 pounds away. I am hoping I will be at least close to my over all goal in three months which is to weigh 200! So far this journey has been a roller coaster but so worth it! You all look amazing! Keep up the hard work!!


(this is me before the surgery)



(This is me after and 135 pounds down)

Hi! Here are my images. I started at 397 and I am now 261 working towards that first goal of 250 which is only 11 pounds away. I am hoping I will be at least close to my over all goal in three months which is to weigh 200! So far this journey has been a roller coaster but so worth it! You all look amazing! Keep up the hard work!!


(this is me before the surgery)



(This is me after and 135 pounds down)

Hi! Here are my images. I started at 397 and I am now 261 working towards that first goal of 250 which is only 11 pounds away. I am hoping I will be at least close to my over all goal in three months which is to weigh 200! So far this journey has been a roller coaster but so worth it! You all look amazing! Keep up the hard work!!


(this is me before the surgery)



(This is me after and 135 pounds down)

Hi! Here are my images. I started at 397 and I am now 261 working towards that first goal of 250 which is only 11 pounds away. I am hoping I will be at least close to my over all goal in three months which is to weigh 200! So far this journey has been a roller coaster but so worth it! You all look amazing! Keep up the hard work!!


(this is me before the surgery)



(This is me after and 135 pounds down)

I will be the devil's advocate and say that some carbs should be eaten. Yes, we need to focus on mostly Protein, however our bodies NEED carbs for organ function, brain function, normal metobolic cycle and more. obviously the GOOD quality carbs are the best option, whole grain, with high Fiber. I use Barilla Plus and Dreamfields.
my surgeon and nut have built a long standing program (and highly successful) and actually have soft Pasta included, starting at the softs phase. the other night my family had spaghetti. i had 1/3 cup meat sauce with about 5-6 spaghetti strands broken into small pieces in it. I felt awesome because i was eating the same thing they were and there was no deprivation whatsoever.
I see my WLS as a tool to help me gain control of portions and my eating. if i had wanted to just eat Protein only for the rest of my life I would have done Atkins and skipped the anesthesia. and the bill!