MississippiQueen

That's size-ist! Or is it weight-ist?!
I dunno.. I'll just shut up now

Thanks everyone, I know whatever I say I'm going to be judged. Judged for trying to better myself in losing weight or judge because I was approved to have so much time off. Either way they're going to say something. I am thinking about the hernia repair or gallbladder surgery. I have to come up with something with all the time I'm having off...Women can keep up SO much mess.

Being 6 weeks out, I've had two different weeks where I essentially floated all around the same scale number. What is nice now that I have more data is that I can look at my chart (I weigh daily) and see the pattern of loss, hold for a while (with occasional ticks upward), loss, etc.
I couldn't see it at 3 weeks. All I could see was swoop downward, stall.
I like weighing daily. I look at the number, plug it in and then forget it. I mean, I know generally, but for example my husband asked today and I had to look it up to tell him. If you tend to obsess, then once a week is probably better. But you will see a good pattern after a few more weeks. While I was away last week I couldn't weigh at all and it was a pleasant surprise to get back and have a little loss.
I like your attitude! I've tried to adopt it myself. Onward and upward. Or downward, rather.

Cathy & Alisa,
As I said in my original post, it's just the body needing to figure things out. You have to just stick to your plan and your body will catch up. I think that's what I have to do to get thru this. And knowing others have gone thru this and you see their success - that helps, too.
But, you wouldn't have guessed I had that great knowledge yesterday as I had a big pity party for myself...I didn't go to the gym as planned, I didn't get my 80 grams of Protein in and I wasn't close on the Water. And you know what? I felt like crap. I was tired and lethargic. I had a bad attitude.
So, today is a new day and I'm going to play by the rules. I need to in order to feel human again. I'm going to eat my three meals, I'm going to drink my 3 shakes (OMG, the shakes are getting old),I'm going to drink my Water and I'm going to go to the gym for a nice long treadmill workout.
I hope you guys have a great Sunday! Let me know how you're doing!

Laura, I know about flogging dead horses, but help me out - what's the meaning of jumping the shark???? Sorry, not a phrase we use here but think I might if I knew what it meant... :-)

I admit I kinda cheated I would lick Doritos and bbq Fritos I had to get the craving out my head but I did tell nut she said just don't eat it. At two months I would chew a slice of pizza and spit out.ok I kno it was wrong but I was starving and had to get rid of the craving..but now I'm four months and I'm good all is well I'm down 83 pounds four moths out

Well, you are in Rants and Raves now, so you are fair game
I have noticed that very little attention is paid to which forum you are in on this board. You will get used to it. Suggestion, if you only want a specific audience to respond, politely ask that in your thread. And yes, some of us are assholes.

We are at the point of jumping the shark here..
I think the points were made.
Correct me if I'm wrong but the horse is dead why keep beating it..

how do I delete this thread? I feel like Im in elementary school & Im standing in the corner.

At my 6 weeks post-op appointment, my dr. cleared me to eat anything I wanted. My husband and I went to our favorite local Italian place and ordered a medium pizza. I ate 1 piece of thin crust, supreme pizza and I did fine and felt no guilt for eating it. Before surgery we would have finished off the whole medium pizza at the restaurant. That night we took home more than half so I feel that I am not going deprive myself of things that I like. I am just not going to eat the whole pizza.

My rant/rave: when haters say "you know you still gotta work out to lose weight, right?" I want to tell them to mind their business. Didnt ask your opinion anyway, ol nosy ass. lol and I just had surgery 6 days ago! lol

MQ, if this is any consolation to you, I'm struggling with some "cheating" issues too. I saw my NUT today and she told me that I can't have caffeine 3 months post-surgery and it's also not allowed when I do my 2 week pre-op diet. OK, it's all about hydration...I can see why you shouldn't have caffeine post-surgery but WTF is wrong with it during the pre-op diet?!? Why is hydration such an issue then? It's not like I won't be able to drink extra Fluid to compensate--my stomach hasn't been sleeved yet.
Anyhoo, I think it's a stupid rule, but I will comply with the program because, frankly, I'm scared not to. I will bring it up with my surgeon when I see her in a couple of weeks but I know what her answer will be. I really should just suck it up and deal with it, right?

I can guarantee that everyone will get candid feedback. Sometimes gentile, sometimes not so much, but Always with love. Whenever we post, we expect that love and honesty.

I didn't post to scold or make you feel bad about "cheating". I want you to be safe. Everyone should be aware there is far worse at stake than not losing weight. Following directions in the beginning is so important, doing otherwise is gambling with your health. However, it's your risk to take.

MississippiQueen, I apologise if my post read as condescending. That was not my intention, I was trying to share part of my own journey which was very much about learning to change my mind about things. To do this I had to often go far away from the emotional and into the facts, hence the dictionary reference. But on reread I can see how in your current space this could be viewed as lecturing. Please be assured that my intention was far from lecturing and my words come from my own experiences with failure and poor choices along the journey I have been on.

MississippiQ, you might be sitting in the corner, but your friends are waiting for your timeout to finish so we can go outside for recess.
Ok, stupid analogy, but I am concerned for you and want you to be careful!!!! I also want to see you succeed and graduate from elementary school with the rest of us.

Hey girlie Remember when I told you these threads end up in fights sometimes?
Well the good news is this one didn't.. That's a start!
I know it's hard not to take some of this personal.
But part of what people are writing here are not reflections of what they think of you.
It is rather everyone working out the reasons we ALL did these kinds of things in the past..
It's all a learning process for of us..

im 3 weeks out. i used to have Migraines that could last up to 2 weeks at a time. i have had maybe 1 small headache since my surgery!

To the OP, my question is what is the rush to progress to eating food(I assume solids). You will absolutely have the rest of your life to eat solid foods. The reason why Vets speak towards learning your good eating habits now and how easy it becomes to fall back into old eating habits the further you are along is because; IT IS TRUE!! You chose the surgery I hope not only to lose weight but understand why you gained weight and how to learn to keep it off. This is what the food stages and healthy eating teach us.
You are a grown woman and will chose what to do, but I have seen many members here go, that no longer post, and I wonder if it has to do with how successful they have been and did it have to do with their food choices.

I had my surgery on Nov 20, just advanced to mushy and am on that for another 6 weeks, before regular food, do I think that's a bit over the top compared to most other doctors, yes considering I have to wait 8 weeks compared to some who go at 4, but I chose my surgeon bc he is well known, little complications and the director of bariatrics at a center of excellence, I'll go with what he says bc he knows better than me! So far my biggest cheat was two cheezits instead of a saltine (which I am allowed) even then I was riddled with guilt lol! You are an adult choose as you wish, but please be careful! Best of luck, this is not an easy road for any of us, but we are all here to help & support each other!

I think at this point it's less about "cheating on a diet" and more about making sure your body has enough time to heal. I'm not a surgeon but I've watched a couple videos on the VSG surgery. They disconnect your stomach from from where it attaches to other parts of your body and then they start cutting, then stapling. With your surgery being on November 21 you're still very new to healing. I believe that's two weeks today and after only 1 week you were eating solids!
My doctor moved my diet on quicker than most but please just be careful so you don't have a complication. And as mentioned by the vets around here the struggle is only going to get worse. Have you seen a therapist? The surgery doesn't take away emotional issues and is something that I have to work on every single day. Good luck.

Well, I didn't really go through all that because my doctor gave me 2 days of liquid, 3 days of soft, and by day 6, he told me I could eat most things (with an exception list) but to experiment one thing at a time, and very small and well chewed portions. I didn't follow what he said because I felt I needed more time on liquids. I was just not feeling up to eating at all the first week.
And by the way, not to steal your thread away, lol, but I must say... You veterans absolutely terrify me with the "wait till x months go by, it'll get so hard"... Oh man... I can't count how many times I've read that on here. I'm so terrified of when that moment comes :-(
I guess it is better to be prepared, and be scared, that way I watch myself a lot more... But I'm scaredddddd. Everyday I wake up thinking "ugh I've probably stopped losing, it's over for me." Lol.

I ate some crackers and bean/pea type Soups a few days earlier than I was supposed to but I made sure to be up front with the nurse and doctor about it. I was very hungry. I was very careful to let the cracker dissolve in my mouth and that nothing solid actually went downmy throat.

I couldn't agree more. It will never be easier to make good habits than early on. Going back now will be easy. Six months from now? Not so much.

To a certain extent the sleeve is still about willpower and taking personal responsibility.
I think this is why fights erupt here sometimes...
You may eat that pizza and be ok, you may not..
Like I said that's all of our choices to make.
But those of us further out know that a "cookie" is not just a cookie, it represents so much more.
the deeper issue I think is the behavior. We did a serious thing to ourselves having this radical surgery..
But it is not a miracle or a cure.
Many people find ways to "eat around" the sleeve. We got here because of our disordered eating so it's not a surprise that we would try to figure out ways to eat still, even right after surgery.
This is something we need to face and work on changing in the early days. Because it will get increasingly harder to do it the further out you get.