maj0rl0ser

Hey, I'm a guy and I've been married for almost 30 years with no kids. Some men can just be uncaring dogs. Never once have I cheated and if I ever had the slightest thought about cheating then as far as I'm concerned, this relationship would be over. Both of us work and are totally capable of paying our own ways in life. We've always agreed to never hold each other back in our lives and we would never put the other through the heartbreak of cheating (besides, my wife is a better shot than I am). My father cheated on my mother many times through the years and she took him back "for the sake of the kids". What a mistake that was. They finally got divorced when I was 16 years old.
Sure, you can go get counseling and everything might be okay. But the fact that he got caught (not that he screwed up) will always hang over his head. He will always think that you have one over him that you will never forget and always hold against him (which you would).
If you haven't done it already, you'd better figure out how you can be fully self sufficient. And then you should start acting like it. Your kids are basically grown and ready to strike out on their own (or they should be). It's your choice at this point, stay with him hoping he's faithful or continue the path you've already started with the massive weight loss and start a totally new life. Your kids ain't gonna think anything less of you since they already know their father is a cheating ****** bag.
BTW- I can't believe the b***h had the nerve to contact your kids on FB. For what reason?

I didn't drink during the two week pre-op diet. But I did have one last trip with friends to World of Beers. I love Belgium Trappist ales, so it was my last time to enjoy bottles of Chimay and Rochefort for a long time. I definitely don't plan on giving up drinking forever. That's just crazy talk. Even my doctor told me that eventually I'll be able to drink again, just that I'll be an cheap date since the alcohol will enter my system so much quicker. I'll also only be able to have maybe one drink and have to drink it very slowly. I'm also a fine wine connoisseur and have a decent amount at home. I am not giving up on those bottles since far too much money is invested. Most of the bottles won't reach their peak for a few years, so I've got time on my side.

I was sleeved 10/21 as well. They did what they could to prevent nausea, but I ended up throwing up the same evening. After that they gave me a lot of meds to fight it. ( not good to do that right after surgery). Every time they gave me pain meds in the hospital they had to do an anti nausea chaser. Since I have been home it is less. My stomach is trying to "kick start", sometimes I'm not sure if I feel hunger or nausea. Today I have been trying hard to get in my fluids and my Vitamins. Pain is better tolerated so I am not taking so much of the pain meds. I burped a lot in the hospital, but didn't do the rest (to relieve gas) until I was home. Now it comes and goes fairly easily. My added bonus was my sinuses were a mess pre op. While they were not bad enough to reschedule surgery, the post nasal drip certainly has helped nothing. And for some reason no one thought to put the bubbler on my oxygen while I had it so it dried the sinuses a lot. Been dealing with bloody nose issues for days now. I do feel a gradual progression back to "normal" with each day. But I do have to admit I didn't know exactly what to expect until I got here. It has been hard, but I still feel worth it.

Besides having my surgery on Monday, I had my first major victory since going through weight loss. My PCP took me off all of the high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes medicines today. The only pill I have to take is for my thyroid, which I'll be on for the rest of my life. It may not seem like much to most people, but it's a major milestone for me.

Besides having my surgery on Monday, I had my first major victory since going through weight loss. My PCP took me off all of the high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes medicines today. The only pill I have to take is for my thyroid, which I'll be on for the rest of my life. It may not seem like much to most people, but it's a major milestone for me.

Besides having my surgery on Monday, I had my first major victory since going through weight loss. My PCP took me off all of the high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes medicines today. The only pill I have to take is for my thyroid, which I'll be on for the rest of my life. It may not seem like much to most people, but it's a major milestone for me.

My husband and I were sleeved on Tues and out of hospital yesterday. We are staying in a self contained apartment in Brisbane for 2 weeks for after care with the surgeon and his team and then fly back to Singapore. Feeling tired but know that this is probable one of the best things to ever happen to us.

I was sleeved on monday so I am day 4. First couple of days I didn't get any way near enough of anything. Sipping was more like dipping my upper lip into something and trying not to swallow to fast. Today I can take what I would consider a normal sip. I feel completely full all the time but the only pain I have now is the one incision where my hernia was fixed. You'll get there...it's amazing at how fast I'm healing

I'm also on day two. I'm pretty sore today. Havnt been abke to drink much today. But I know it'll get better.

I didn't drink during the two week pre-op diet. But I did have one last trip with friends to World of Beers. I love Belgium Trappist ales, so it was my last time to enjoy bottles of Chimay and Rochefort for a long time. I definitely don't plan on giving up drinking forever. That's just crazy talk. Even my doctor told me that eventually I'll be able to drink again, just that I'll be an cheap date since the alcohol will enter my system so much quicker. I'll also only be able to have maybe one drink and have to drink it very slowly. I'm also a fine wine connoisseur and have a decent amount at home. I am not giving up on those bottles since far too much money is invested. Most of the bottles won't reach their peak for a few years, so I've got time on my side.

I got my APAP machine in January 2013 and have never slept better. I wish I'd have gone for my sleep study long before that. All those years without sleep really was one of my biggest contributors to my weight gain.
Getting clearance for surgery from my pulmonary doctor was a requirement for WLS. When I had my upper GI endoscopy and when I had my WLS the hospital told me to bring my hose and mask with me. They said they had machines and would adjust the pressures as needed. But in both cases it was never used. Funny thing is when I went in for my surgery this past Monday I was admitted to the hospital for the night and it wouldn't have mattered if I had used the machine. They never let me get any sleep anyway. I was getting poked, prodded and checked every 15 minutes by one member of the staff or another. It ends up that I had become famous with the surgical staff since I woke up during the surgery and started having a conversation with the surgeon. I don't remember a dang thing, but I guess it freaked them out a bit.

I am so jealous and happy for you. Hopefully next week will be different for me. Keep up the great work. It sounds like you're having a pretty great start with your sleeve, except for the damn cold. I fought off a cold the week before my surgery and was really worried about having bad chest congestion at surgery time since I also have asthma. There's some nasty flu bugs going around this year. A lot of people on my job are sick. it seems like we're all doomed to get something this year.

I think the only reason that I can feel mine is becasue part of it on the lower end is still pretty swollen. I saw the Xray from my leak test and it looked swollen shut in two places. They ended up giving me a steroid shot to bring the swelling down.

I was sleeved on the 22nd and have had terrible nausea and gas since. But...hubby got me gas x strips and those kicked the gas out within a good 8 hours. Feeling so much better too.
I think a combination of getting few nights rest in your own bed and staying on too of your meds will calm things down.
Also, I've been using my heating pad on my tummy. The nurses I had started that while I was still in the hospital. That's made a HUGE difference too for me. I've found that if I feel nausea, chances are my sleeve is full already so I back off. :-)

Thanks everyone for the kind words.
Dave (Maj0rL0ser), Besides the cold/chest infection, my first week was great. I have NO SURGERY RELATED ISSUES and can drink liquids with no problem (16oz 15 min). I read that you are struggling with your fluids and feel for you. I hope you get to feeling better.
My next task is to try and figure out how to eat again (Soft Foods Phase). I ate my first Meal Post-Op. A 20g Protein Scramble
1 egg 6g
1oz Provolone cheese 7g
1oz Boar's Head chicken 7g
Feeling full is a different feeling than when I pigged out pre-op. I don't know how to tell when I am full. I quit when I ate a bite the was a little uncomfortable.
I was worried about not drinking when I eat, but after eating I don't want to drink after I eat. I finished eating almost an hour ago and I may start drinking now.

my quality of life was deteroriating when i was so heavy.
I reached the point where i realized the "food" wasnt living..... you know what I mean?
first week, even first year - i definately had to eat different. hell, i have to eat differently now or i would regain to 300# again. quality of life is about a million times better. I can eat at restaurants, I go to parties, I go dancing, I LIVE.... I just dont over eat.
So, if a person defnes quality of life a overeating, yes, that might be a problem. If quality of life means LIVING and eating to stay healthy... no problemo!!!!

I did it. Yesterday I was sleeved. It was a tough day/night, but I made it. Around 5:30 I took some anti nausea meds and started feeling so much better. I left the hospital and went to watch a little of my sons football game then went home and took a nap.
I am currently running a low grade feaver. It may be from the flu shot they gave me in the hospital, at least that is what I am hoping.

dont worry.. I was at a cookout yesterday... almost 3 months out.. I ate, I didnt eat as much as i used to.. but i ate.. Quality of life afterwards for me has been nothing but smooth... I dont have to worry about dropping dead everyday.. Im on ONE PILL... a high blood pressure med which i plan on being off real soon.. Down from 5 pills... No more diabetes, No more cholesterol meds... no more anxiety meds.. .. Your not weak,.. This process is not a "I give up". This process is a "I give in" I have actively chosen my life over what I used to live which was sad... What if, what if, what if, no.. So what, Now what? I made myself fat and I tried many things to help me not be fat and not be unhealthy, it didnt work.. SO WHAT, NOW WHAT? Now i had to decide if i was going to do what i needed to do to live.. I chose LIFE! and I want you to chose life also.. sorry if i come off passionate about it, but i am.. Life is amazing when you are taking life by the wheel and controlling it.. I wish you the best

I am Pre-Op and working through all the mental challenges that are involved in making the decision to get this done. I am 5'9" and weigh about 290+/-. I have discussed this with a few people and most are supportive, except for two who have a minimal 10-20# overweight struggle. For some reason they are convinced that I only need to lose 40# and that the weight charts put out by the medical community are NOT accurate for today. I know I need to make this decision myself, but it is not an easy one to make.
I don't think I have any food addictions, I don't eat a lot of sweets, and I don't usually eat when angry/sad. Most of my issues are that I have poor eating habits. I don't eat 3 meals and overeat at night. I do well on a diet for about 2 months and then get tired of counting calories and get hungry... then when I get off the diet all my weight comes back.
What I want from this is to be healthy and to live a normal life WITHOUT overeating, but I still want to have cookouts at the house, hang out with friends, have a few drinks, and not look at food and think I am physically unable to eat. I want more energy, a longer life, and no stress when I go to an amusement park or Water park with my kids. I am afraid of doing this because it is not reversible and I keep thinking, "what if I am miserable for the remaining part of my life?" I feel defeated because I should be able to lose the weight and because I am weak I am considering WLS.
I know I am not the only one that who has had all these emotions. Any thoughts?

Some peeps are so critical on what you can have and cannot have in these forums. If you like beer after you are healed.....have one ....or two. May take you awhile to drink them but dont let the "Food Patrol" in here make you feel guilty ( they are mostly woman). Me personally I went to a wedding a week before surgery and and had beer .... and mixed drinks. I was on only a one week liquid diet because I had lost alot of weight before surgery. I am always testing to see if I can handle certains foods and drinks all the time. If it doesnt feel right I dont do it again.

I used the Gas X chewables on days 3-7 and now I am gas free. Thank goodness because that mess was painful. Lol give it a try. I was sleeved 10/10/13

If you can only sip. Little.. Then just sip a little. You need liquids. It will get easier every day.