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By dodging the question repeatedly, you make yourself and your company look bad.
You said you were transparent, but you're not being transparent. You're obfuscating in a semi-hostile way.
We KNOW there is a risk of death with surgery. What raises big red flags is when a medical professional repeatedly dodges the question of whether or not a specific death occurred when questioned.
You have told us you do not like the owner of this site, but it is we, the many patients who USE this site (most of whom have no connection with any of your competition) who are asking you to verify whether a woman died during surgery with ALM in March.
Ive never seen a reputable medical professional dodge and obfuscate so defensively right out of the gate as you have been doing here in spite of those of use who have given you repeated chances to simply answer the question.
THAT is what harms your reputation. Your behavior in this thread makes you, personally, someone I would not want to deal with when it comes to major surgery. If you had handled this professionally and directly, I would have come away with a positive impression of both you and ALM.

Wow. Poor woman. Poor daughter. RIP. I hope the girl made it home safely.

Wanting to eat till your full all of the time could mean that you have a food addiction. I know i do. I just love the taste of carbs.

I don't have that much to lose so I might not be of much help. Just remember that you cant let the negativity of others get to you. Keep pushing on and do what you can. Its not easy, its hard work and your friends and family were probably thinking surgery would be like magic and lose the weight for you. They have no idea how difficult it is and how much support they need to provide rather than being critical.. Lift your self up and ask God for guidance and support. Good luck to you.

@curlysue86, I understand exactly what you are talking about. I'm having some difficulties with taking my
Vitamins and getting in my Water and Protein. It is definitely hard. I am 3 months post op with my GB and I am struggling. I had the sleeve 3 years ago but because of severe reflux I had to have a revision to GB. I did great with the sleeve and never had any problems so I thought I could breeze right through the GB. Well, not so. The GB is 10 times more difficult. I still can't eat meat and there are only a few vegetables that I can keep down. If it weren't for the Protein shakes and Soup I'd be in trouble. I hate swallowing pills so I have been terrible at taking my Vitamins and I can tell a difference in how I feel, and its not good. My skin is so dry... even moisturizer doesn't help that much. I need to drink more Water. I've bought some more vitamins and I plan on getting back on a plan so I'll be healthy. The weight is coming off but it's so difficult to eat and there are so many times the meals just don't agree with me and I end up throwing everything up. I never ever did that with the sleeve. Hang in there and we will all get through this . We must remember that this is not a diet... it's a life style.

@curlysue86, I understand exactly what you are talking about. I'm having some difficulties with taking my
Vitamins and getting in my Water and Protein. It is definitely hard. I am 3 months post op with my GB and I am struggling. I had the sleeve 3 years ago but because of severe reflux I had to have a revision to GB. I did great with the sleeve and never had any problems so I thought I could breeze right through the GB. Well, not so. The GB is 10 times more difficult. I still can't eat meat and there are only a few vegetables that I can keep down. If it weren't for the Protein shakes and Soup I'd be in trouble. I hate swallowing pills so I have been terrible at taking my Vitamins and I can tell a difference in how I feel, and its not good. My skin is so dry... even moisturizer doesn't help that much. I need to drink more Water. I've bought some more vitamins and I plan on getting back on a plan so I'll be healthy. The weight is coming off but it's so difficult to eat and there are so many times the meals just don't agree with me and I end up throwing everything up. I never ever did that with the sleeve. Hang in there and we will all get through this . We must remember that this is not a diet... it's a life style.

@2-Liter, It will all be worth it in the end. When you are able to walk 3 or 4 miles without stopping to rest, when you buy clothes in a normal store with lots of selections, when you don't have to struggle out of a soft squishy chair, you can bend over and tie your shoe laces, when you can bend over and pick stuff off the floor without having a crane pick you up....... well, you get the picture.... it will be so worth it. Being healthy feels so much better than what anything on Isle 9 might taste like. You have will power and determination and you will make it. Good luck and I'll see you on the losers bench after surgery.

Good luck and keep drinking that Water.

@2-Liter, It will all be worth it in the end. When you are able to walk 3 or 4 miles without stopping to rest, when you buy clothes in a normal store with lots of selections, when you don't have to struggle out of a soft squishy chair, you can bend over and tie your shoe laces, when you can bend over and pick stuff off the floor without having a crane pick you up....... well, you get the picture.... it will be so worth it. Being healthy feels so much better than what anything on Isle 9 might taste like. You have will power and determination and you will make it. Good luck and I'll see you on the losers bench after surgery.

Tonight was fun as I pushed all the meat and lovely vegetables away so I could strain a cup of Delicious Bone Broth out of the Crockpot. Honestly in the past I never would eat much of the broth but now it is a delicacy after making it through the day on Protein Shakes. This Upcoming Surgery has reminded me to be thankful.

When I had my surgery, there was snow and ice everywhere; walking outside wasn't an option. I would pace the hallway in my house every hour for about 10 minutes. Then when my wife got home we would load up and go to the nearby Meijer. While making my lap, I would inevitably end up in the grocery side of the place. Though I don't remember it being enticing. For me it was more nauseating.
However, by the time I was at the soft foods stage, I was having feverish wet dreams about food!

2-Liter .... You are too funny ... Awesome post .... I admire your determination and starting the liquid diet 4 days early ... keep up the terrific job

Those chickens almost got me a couple of times too!


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NEVER EVER EVER go to the Grocery store when you are 3 days in to your pre-op liquid diet. My preparation left a lot to be desired. I decided that starting my liquid phase 4 days early was a Great idea lol. They almost had to mop up the drool on aisle 9. I wasn't even obsessing over any of the wrong foods but those Rotisserie Chickens were calling my name laying there looking all Sexy. I am Thankful to say that I survived and left the Store felling like Conan The Barbarian all Rough, Tough and Victorious.

I had my bypass on 2/8/17 so far recovery is going good. Will be leaving from hospital tomorrow and heading home. Surgeon said my procedure went very well and couldn't have been any better. I'm very excited to start this new journey!!
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The three most important elements after RNY gastric bypass surgery are to meet your daily Protein, Fluid and Vitamin requirements. food is secondary because your body is converting your stored fat into the energy that drives your body. Thus you lose weight.
Weight loss is achieved after surgery through meal volume control. You begin at 2 ounces (1/4 cup) per meal and gradually over the next year and a half increase the volume to 1 cup per meal. With this minuscule amount of food, it is next to impossible to meet your Protein daily requirements by food alone, so therefore you need to rely on supplements such as Protein shakes.
It is common for individuals to be unable to meet their daily protein and Fluid requirements within the first couple weeks after surgery. This is because your body is in a major heal mode. So provided there are no medical issues, you should just keep trying and each day you should be getting closer and closer to meeting the daily requirement.
So in reading your post, the things that would cause me concern is your inability to meet fluid and protein requirements. Don't worry about foods at this stage.
Be willing to experiment. After surgery, my taste buds changed dramatically. Even Water changed. In the hospital it tasted excessively chlorinated and I could not drink it. So I experimented. sugar free popsicles became my best friend. Some individuals find hot or cold can help with fluids. For me, I found that I could tolerate flavored water. So I began using Crystal Light. I recently found a new drink "Bai" which I liked cold. In the winter, I found that I tolerate Hot drinks such as piping hot cocoa. But you have to use the "No Sugar Added" variety. Also fine English teas were very good.
It is very important that you transition to Protein Shakes. There are many different types of formulations on protein shakes. I would recommend that you keep experimenting until you find one that you can tolerate. You don't have to like it, just tolerate it. I used Muscle Milk Light (vanilla Creme) powder blended with Water and a half a banana. That worked for me. But on the opposite end of the spectrum, you might try premixed Isopure. If you fail to consume an adequate amount of protein, your body will try and scavenge protein from your body such as your muscles, hair, your heart muscles, your teeth. If you are unable to tolerate any type of Protein shake, the only alternative I could recommend is to fall back to milk. Combine the milk with powdered milk in order to fortify it. [ 8 ounces of 1% milk combined with 1/4 cup of dry milk provides 14 grams of protein. ]

I would like to go ahead and let you know before you read the information below at this moment I am still feeling very sick but I wanted to share this information to see if anyone has experienced this or has any advice to help me!!! I really hope The information I provided makes sense about what I'm trying to say please excuse my writing and grammar. I just need to put this information out as quickly as I can to see if anyone knows anything about what is happening to me.... :-,(
I'm eight months post op!! Everything has been going pretty well until recently, I forget to take my Protein daily and Vitamins daily... I noticed that I can eat more now.... if I wanted to, than I could mths ago. And when I'm swallowing foods and liquids they go down a lot easier now, less restriction but I still have restrictions especially if I eat meat. During my current eight months I have not felt as hungry... with everything going on in my busy personal life and busy work life. I'm not taking my daily vitamins like I did in the beginning of my surgery and I have not had my Protein shakes like I usually would the in the beginning of my surgery. My liquid intake is very low now...I forget to eat and drink now...I don't know how or why but for some reason in my eight months post op gastric bypass, I feel like, I'm use to my new stomach and it doesn't feel so different anymore... so I haven't stayed aware or too concerned with my protein and vitamins and liquids I'm getting in during a day. Example: it's 3 PM and I haven't had Breakfast or lunch and maybe have had a little bit of Water and coffee. This example is what has been going on during my 8 months currently.
This was a big big big mistake!!!!!! The worst thing I could of possibly done to myself... I have had small signs from my body most recently, feeling weak my face looking like a dried-up raisin, my lips being super dry and super dry mouth, especially my tongue and my urine being super strong. Today, all of this caught up to me and I'm currently trying to recover from being so sick hours ago... I have never Felt like this before my body felt like it was shutting down, my vision was blurred I felt fatigue..my heart was racing.. I was dry heaving over and over. And the worst part about it was I couldn't just drink a lot of liquids at one time to help me with my dehydration or eat something to make my stomach feel better, I have to drink slowly and eat slowly because I had gastric bypass. This was a major problem, because I was dry heaving my body was rejecting sips of liquid. I'm malnourished from not having vitamins and I'm dehydrated, I'm pretty sure my body reacted this way because it was not getting what in what I needed-in order to produce energy and function...this is the result of my poor decisions this month..and it all caught up to me today! Forgetting to eat, drink liquids and making sure I have had my protein and vitamins. I was definitely reminded by my body's reaction today. . Saying to myself during my current 8mth post op gastric bypass..."I've done so good since my surgery and everything is good now I have lost the weight so I'm not going to be that concerned with my vitamins as much and nevermind needing protein...Im in my 8mths and I think I'm all good now" ---- I was very wrong thinking this, and suffered from it today and I'm still not well.
Hopefully, I will feel a lot better tomorrow.....to at least go to the store and buy my Protein Shakes and get my life back in order with drinking my liquid taking my vitamins. And remembering I had gastric bypass and I need to take extra care of myself and be aware of my daily intakes.
Thank you for taking the time to read my current confusion of writing skills LOL I just needed to put this out there as quick as possible and do not have the energy to proofread it to make sure this makes sense thank you so much please respond , if you have had this experience
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Clearly obese men face discrimination like the rest of the obese population. the biggest difference is the societal expectation that women are required to be attractive.
I once was told by my obese male boss in my performance review that i was overweight and it made me look sloppy (I have always worn suits and dressed professionally). I had a 40 bmi at the time. after I had lapband surgery (he didn't know) and I lost weight; the following year he told me that he was happy i listened to his feedback and gave me an Exceeds on my performance review. I was angrier after that than I was the first time.
Not sure this happens to men in the same way.

As a child I was short and skinny. I used to get bullied and beaten up on a regular basis. As I approached adulthood, I gained a little weight. This meant that I could defend myself better because I had a little weight to push around. In later life as an obese adult, I felt I was being discriminated against in the work environment because of my weight. Nothing that was said to my face and nothing that could be proved in a court of law. Only this is one of the sad realities of life. After losing the weight due to RNY gastric bypass surgery, I can observe the difference that society treats me. I went from invisible to visible. It seems like I have gained more respect. These are subjective observations and may not have a basis in reality. They lie in the smallest of things.

I'm not going to speak for women but men do get treated differently based on looks. Men are discriminated against based on weight. One thing I will say is that there is more awareness and more discussion about body image with women than men. Society makes it ok for women to be more vocal about body image whereas men are pressured more to internalize things. I think this societal pressure of not being open by men is a big reason men commit suicide at a higher rate than women.

Omg yes in fact today it happened im six weeks out. It comes out of the blue. The only thing i can figure is its gas. Plus i dont think we are healed completely from the inside.
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Oh oh I just turned 40 - does this mean it's the new 25?!!??!
I've been told I look like I'm in my 20"s again so I'LL TAKE IT!
HEEHEEHEEHEE

Hoping us more (ahem) mature adults are finding that being in good shape in our sixties makes us feel like we are in our forties!
Many of us, myself included , find that being healthy and fit in our sixties is BETTER than our overweight, unhealthy forties/thirties/fifties. (Insert appropriate age here)
I am thankful to have found a long term solution to such a personal issue....for many years

Different parts of your body heal at different rates. Are you sure you haven't pulled something? That left side takes awhile to heal because that is where they did the most tugging and pulling . If you are not able to get around because of the pain you should either call or go see your surgeon to make sure something else isn't wrong. Sometimes it could be your gallbladder .... if you haven't had it out already. Have you been nauseous too? If it were me I'd get it checked out. Increasing pain doesn't sound normal.

Different parts of your body heal at different rates. Are you sure you haven't pulled something? That left side takes awhile to heal because that is where they did the most tugging and pulling . If you are not able to get around because of the pain you should either call or go see your surgeon to make sure something else isn't wrong. Sometimes it could be your gallbladder .... if you haven't had it out already. Have you been nauseous too? If it were me I'd get it checked out. Increasing pain doesn't sound normal.