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Welcome to the forum. You'll find that this is a great place with great people who provide awesome support. Good luck with your journey.

I'm having doubts lately about having surgery. There is nobody that is talking me out of it except myself. Since march I have lost over 20 lbs on my own. I'm doing it for myself, by myself. Know the surgery would work but I don't know if I'm at the point in my life where I can go through with it. With these doubts I will not undergo surgery. I will however finish all my preop requirements so that if I change my mind in the near future I'll be able to get it done. I wish you all the best. Thank you for being there for me, and for each other.

Make sure that you check how much it'll cost. Luckily my insurance covered mine with just a copayment of $25.00, the psychologist I went to charges $500 for the psych evaluation.

I actually considered it. But I spoke with my surgeon about it and I've read up on it. I know you have higher chances of leaks with the sleeve. My surgeon recommended rny, so did my primary physician.

Congratulations!

Good luck with your surgery and way to go for being able to lose the weight you did. That's quite incredible.

I hear you have to each phase after surgery. Good luck.

Thank you all. and Jessica I'll remember that next time. thank you

So he apologized to me last night. He told me not to read into what he said and to totally ignore it. He was hungry and pissed and spoke without using his brain to filter his mouth. Last night we sat down and discussed finances and he explained what was going on in the world of finances this summer. He told me that if I want this surgery he understands and he's not telling me that I cannot get it done. He did ask me if I could put if off until after August, which is fine with me. I am willing to do that. I don't want to screw us financially, especially during the summer when the we all have time off. Next month my car license fee is due, I have 100$ just in doctor visits, not including the gas to get to them twice. Unfortunately my insurance dictates that I cannot go to the doctor for more than one in thing in a day. So that means that I cannot have a nutrition appointment the same day as a pre-op. I was planning on going down there for my psych eval but decided against it because I would have had to make 3 more trips down there. My husband is a good man, he helps out a lot with laundry, dishes and the kids. He just gets burned out, like we all do. Some days he snaps, like we all do. He's supportive of my decision though he wishes I could do this without surgery, but so do I. I just needed to vent the other day. I was hurt and he knew it. He didn't say anything else cruel. I love my husband and my kids, that's why I want this surgery. I want to be around for them. I want to feel healthier and I believe that comes with weightloss, not just a little weightloss but a lot of weightloss. I'm sorry for everyone dealing with dificult situaltions. I know that we all have financial trouble and we all probably have to deal with unsupportive people. Thank you all for your support and kindness. I really enjoy this forum and the people on it.

Thank you for your kind words Amy. We are lucky enough to have insurance so all we pay are copays but the surgeon I'm going to is 179 miles from our house so it's the gas that also puts a financial strain on us. But I don't know what I'm going to do. I don't know if I really want to have surgery now. I've lost 20 lbs since march 9. I'm drinking a protein shake for breakfast and I've cut out sugars and lowered my calorie and fat intake along with portion size. I want to give myself another chance but I don't want to screw up my chances for surgery. I know I'd love it if I could lose the weight and keep it off on my own without surgical help. I just worry that I'll put it back on without surgery. Or worse, what if I put weight back on after surgery. Ugh! I'm having doubts

I like the unjury chicken soup too. I get sick of the sweet protein all the time. I am not a fan of any other unjury flavor though. I need to go to gnc or look online for different flavors.

Yay! Look forward to getting a new cookbook or two.

My husband royally pissed me off tonight. I'm a student at our local community college, next week is finals, I had a project due today that I wasn't able to turn in but my instructor said I could do turn it in Tuesday, day of our final. So I'm working on it. Yes, laundry needs to be done! Yes, dishwasher needs up be run! We're strapped financially right now so his tension is high already. I'm sitting at the computer working on my project and he proceeds to lay into me about our finances. And how now I'm trying to have stomach surgery because i can't control my eating habits. I know he said it out of anger but it came from somewhere. That's really how he feels, I'm sure of it. I'm too stubborn to cry at the insult but I'm upset. It hurts to know that that's what he thinks. He's been fairly supportive so far. I know he's stressed. I know it's a financial burden to do it, to drive almost 200 miles to go see the doctor. I know it is! He went with me to my first appointment, he said it would be okay. I feel like i should have cancelled the appointment for tomorrow and if he would have come out and asked me to do that I would have, I would have willingly postponed it. But he thinks I should know what he's thinking. Gah! He worse than a woman. For crying out loud, just last night he said its okay because I've been studying for finals and working on my project. He was kind and understanding. I don't want him to be the one doing laundry and cleaning the house. I want help but he works full time and is exhausted by the time he gets home. It's just been a difficult semester because I've overloaded my schedule. Sorry for ranting I'm just frustrated, hurt and upset. Thanks for listening. :/

Thank you both.

You're welcome. Just remember first and foremost is your health. That Protein is so important. Just don't do the shots. The collagen protein won't absorb good enough. I haven't had surgery yet but I'm sure I'll be asking all sorts of questions when I do.

I had a friend who's 9 years out that she was the same way Panda. She can eat eggs now but still doesn't like them the same as before.

Try to find protein you like. Cottage cheese, scrambled eggs, tuna, Greek yogurt, protein bar, find a protein powder you like. Go online and look for sample sizes. Good luck!

Hi, as some of you probably know I haven't had surgery yet. I'm not even scheduled yet. I'm wondering what has been the hardest for you to get used to. Is it drinking slowly, not drinking while eating, not liking food you used to love? Things like that. What have you had to really adjust in your life? Other than portion size, cause that's a given

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It's so encouraging! Congratulations on your new life.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I'm glad that you've all posted this information on here though. I'm looking into RNY but my mom has been trying to talk me into getting banded instead. I've heard the stories from both sides. I know I wouldn't do well with the band. I need the possibility of the dumping syndrome to scare me away from sugar and fats. Your posting your experience here helps those of us who haven't undergone surgery yet. Thank you

I've lost 2.4 this week. Last week 281.1 This week 278.7 Total is 17.8 since march 9 Still haven't had surgery yet. Congrats to all who are having a good weight loss week. Don't get discouraged if you're not.