LindafromFlorida

Down 110lbs!!!
1.) I am no longer considered pre-diabetic or at high risk for diabetes.
2.) I love shopping for MYSELF now! Always loved shopping just shopped for everyone but me.
3.) I love life. I look forward to waking up every morning and knowing I can do whatever life throws at me!
Best decision of my life!!!

1. I can sleep at night without worrying my husband will be unconscious during the night when his blood sugar dropped to 40.
2. I got a kayak for my birthday this month instead of a new recliner.
3. I went to NOLA for 7 days last week and walked more than I have in 3 years.
Blessed!

There is another thread ongoing right now, and Shersun adds this to her post. I don't take anything personal unless it's a compliment.
I am a lot older than most people here. I have been posting since ?October, 2013, and never met a bxxxx here. Please look at the number of posts I have made. I am opinionated (like your Grandma lol). I try to roll gently and give good, solid, and kind advice, and I probably target more older people because bariatric surgery can be a life or death matter for some, like my husband. This site is to build people up. Please do not take a few snarky posts and turn it into something. Bariatric Pal is the best thing going. In almost a year, I have seen two people stomp off and say I am done here. Well I can tell you it is their loss, because there are many kind and wonderful human beings here, committed to helping each other. I would not have it any other way here. I can tell you if I think you are hurting yourself if you ask me a question, and if you get mad that I said you should not do this, does that make me a bad person? Relax and make friends here. It is awesome!!!!!! Linda

3 months after surgery, I can 1) keep up with my friends when we go to the Disney theme parks. 2) I can wear my favorite jeans (that are now too big!) that I haven't worn in almost 3 years. And 3) I'm no longer at risk for developing diabetes.
The diabetes thing was one of the main reasons for me getting the surgery. My grandpa, who just passed away 3 weeks ago, had diabetes. He was my biggest supporter in my weight loss surgery, mostly because he didn't want me to have to deal with all of the health issues that he had been dealing with most of his life. He was always so proud of me when I would give him updates! Him and my grandma said that when I got down to my final weight after the surgery, that they would buy me my new wardrobe. I now have more motivation than ever to keep up my weight loss to make him proud!

Perhaps the words bitch and bully which offend the heck out of me, should be banned. I don't bully anyone, I have never been a bitch in my life, I am accused of slamming people, what is wrong with women on the attack here? This gets ridiculous. Irritable sometimes, yes, that is me. Old age does that sometimes. But I am genuine, real, kind, and honest.

There is another thread ongoing right now, and Shersun adds this to her post. I don't take anything personal unless it's a compliment.
I am a lot older than most people here. I have been posting since ?October, 2013, and never met a bxxxx here. Please look at the number of posts I have made. I am opinionated (like your Grandma lol). I try to roll gently and give good, solid, and kind advice, and I probably target more older people because bariatric surgery can be a life or death matter for some, like my husband. This site is to build people up. Please do not take a few snarky posts and turn it into something. Bariatric Pal is the best thing going. In almost a year, I have seen two people stomp off and say I am done here. Well I can tell you it is their loss, because there are many kind and wonderful human beings here, committed to helping each other. I would not have it any other way here. I can tell you if I think you are hurting yourself if you ask me a question, and if you get mad that I said you should not do this, does that make me a bad person? Relax and make friends here. It is awesome!!!!!! Linda

There is another thread ongoing right now, and Shersun adds this to her post. I don't take anything personal unless it's a compliment.
I am a lot older than most people here. I have been posting since ?October, 2013, and never met a bxxxx here. Please look at the number of posts I have made. I am opinionated (like your Grandma lol). I try to roll gently and give good, solid, and kind advice, and I probably target more older people because bariatric surgery can be a life or death matter for some, like my husband. This site is to build people up. Please do not take a few snarky posts and turn it into something. Bariatric Pal is the best thing going. In almost a year, I have seen two people stomp off and say I am done here. Well I can tell you it is their loss, because there are many kind and wonderful human beings here, committed to helping each other. I would not have it any other way here. I can tell you if I think you are hurting yourself if you ask me a question, and if you get mad that I said you should not do this, does that make me a bad person? Relax and make friends here. It is awesome!!!!!! Linda

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I have missed you folks, too. I have been sentenced to hard labor by my own blind compulsion to compensate for poor retirement planning. I am in better shape that I have ever been, rippling shoulder muscles, hard abs under the protective layer of loose skin, tired beyond any former definition of the word. I have also acquired a strange new passion. I have inherited the care of a pair of sugar gliders from my granddaughter who could no longer care for them. They are marsupials from Australia, cuter than a box of kittens, emotional, intelligent, and require the attention of a 2 year old child. Subsequently, I have spent many hours on Facebook pages doing extensive research on their proper care. My wife and I have designated a large room in our house to be their room and they are let out if their cage at least an hour a night to run, glide, and generally be gliders. It is a labor of love.
I hope to show up more in the future.

At times in this life we are thrust into the inescapable presence of unpleasant people: the rude clerk at the DMV, the soap-allergic olfactory offender in the grocery line, the sulphuric mother of the sweet woman you are hopelessly in love with.
Everything here is behind glass, it cannot hurt you without your permission, you can defeat any attack by the simple tap of a finger or voice command and go on unscathed with your life.
Other than regular rules moderating by hosts and admins lecturing folks on being nice is an exercise in wheel spinning. The bad people are bad so they won't listen, the good people don't need to hear it.
In my life the offensive people that I have the freedom to escape are normally dealt with by employing my best defensive tactic.... not being there. When I see their name, when I hear their voice, I occupy other space and experience other environs. My life is fraught with trouble enough without subjecting myself to self-torture.
Forums like this remind me of a guy working quality inspection on a conveyer belt of peanuts. You occasionally see a bad nut, don't eat it, put it aside, move on.

But again I ask, who gets to be the ultimate judge on who is being "kind" or "respectful"?

We are never all going to communicate in the same way, nor should anyone be presumptuous enough to ask that we try to. I would MUCH rather someone give me real answers to my questions or real advice if I ask. I don't need or want rainbows and unicorns nor will I pass them out. Some people might consider my approach less kind but is it really kind to coddle someone who needs a wake up call? How many people have we seen come here, ask a question, get a kick in the rump, get their feathers ruffled and then come back a few days or weeks later and THANK those who did the kicking for the honesty?
There is no answer that is going to please everyone. I prefer to allow the communication to flow as long as there is no name calling or blatant insults. I am also a "host" of this forum and I think the original post is "controversial" and a bit "trollish" but I don't have a problem with it. I do, however, have a problem with someone calling someone else a b!tch. How funny is it that the person who did the calling out, actually turned out to be the biggest offender?

Well... I actually didn't see it this way in the beginning but now that it is pointed out.. The original post violates the forum rules.
I am admittedly biased because this thread is full of experienced sleevers who post useful helpful info and advice to others quite regularly. Not to say any of us are perfect but I am often amazed at how quickly some jump to being offended rather than considering the possibilities there is something to learn. I am forever grateful for those who came before and shared their learnings ... and not just the rosy stuff. It's easy to see why most of them, and in fact most from my "era" are gone from the general forums. After a while you start feel fatigued by constantly wordsmithing every sentence to avoid offense. What cracks me up as I was once called out on THAT. You know, speaking in gentle terms while still conveying a strong meaning. I don't recall the insult that was tossed at me that time.
Hey Ann, there is something about the tone of this that reminds me of our good friend terror or whatever her name is on a different forum. Knows all about how bad everyone else is...With little reflection back in the mirror.
Anyway, I never want to hurt offend or put down anyone, we are all in this together but I am tired of the word bully and similar being thrown around when someone doesn't agree with you.

I have found that I like simplicity after throwing out so many expensive foods, especially vegetables. If you keep the good foods in the fridge, you always have a go to. Rotisserie chickens are great for on the go lettuce wraps, chicken salad, added some to a little FF Soup, a Fajita made with the chicken, just add some taco seasoning. This week I also took a very small lean sirloin steak filet, smaller in size than a saucer, sliced it and stir fried it with bell pepper, onion and mushrooms, with low sodium soy sauce. My husband will have a small serving of smoked salmon as his dinner. Since we are in Florida we love our salt Water fresh fish. I no longer fry anything. I saute in a little olive oil and add Old Bay Seasoning and lemon juice for pizzazz! Cooking is a breeze with hardly any planning if you have the right things on hand. I also buy turkey sausage which can be cooked with cabbage, or the peppers and onions mixture. seasoned turkey meatballs are easy and good. Best wishes and cooking!
My favorite meal is sharing one small filet mignon and salad with my husband. (we were both sleeved)

You are inspiration for the day!!!!!! I feel I will never get in a 6, but will settle for the size 10. Congratulations!!!

LOL, I got Silly Putty too! It squeezes nicely into my tight pants and flattens!

moonlitestarbrite is one of the kindest people here. Get a life. Sick and tired. Sick and tired of people attacking decent people, sick and tired of the words bully and bxxxh. My God cannot we act with kindness and love?

Troll: One who posts a deliberately provocative message to a newsgroup or message board with the intention of causing maximum disruption and argument.

moonlitestarbrite is one of the kindest people here. Get a life. Sick and tired. Sick and tired of people attacking decent people, sick and tired of the words bully and bxxxh. My God cannot we act with kindness and love?

moonlitestarbrite is one of the kindest people here. Get a life. Sick and tired. Sick and tired of people attacking decent people, sick and tired of the words bully and bxxxh. My God cannot we act with kindness and love?

Okie doke.

I, too, cringe at responses from time to time. Usually only when the name calling or judgement starts, though. I never assume someone is weak or vulnerable and I'd be hot if someone ever thought that of me. The only time I get "offended" is when someone speaks for me (saying things like "all of us" or "everyone here", etc.) or when I get scolded for taking the time to answer a question and it's not to the satisfaction of whomever is pretending to be my keeper. Even then, I'm not offended, per say, I just get pissy.

i am sure you will think i am being a bitch for saying this... but being pre op, i dont think you are really in a position to judge how someone who has actually gone through this process decides to respond to someone else who is post op.
bob is being honest. he's been through the process and come out the other side. he has experience and insight you simply dont. you only think you know where his head is. you dont. after you have had this surgery, then you will be in a place to judge.

So here's my question about all this.

Who gets to decide who is being "nice" and who is being a "b!tch"? Who gets to judge if one is being firm vs. blunt? What about those who are hyper sensitive? Do we get to stand in judgement of them, too? What if we ask those who are a bit more "easily affected" to say so in their posts so those who are a more apt to just speak their mind can avoid answering them (and therefore offending them) all together?

I'm of the mindset of "take what you want, leave what you don't" and not allowing a stranger on the internet to affect my day at all unless it's in a positive way. I'm weird like that, I guess.

If you go around telling everyone "it will be ok" or "everyone does it different" your not helping anyone. They will take it as their bad choices are just fine. And for many of us who have dealt with weight problems, one bad choice may be the start of a avalanche of bad choices. I am sure most people here can relate to this on previous weight loss attempts.
Im not saying its ok to be an a-hole to anyone, but not telling someone when they make a bad choice is a hell of alot worse. Most people come here looking for guidance, and sometimes the guidance hurts. If you just condone everything, your not helping anyone.

I am 8 1/2 months out now and it's still there. I call it my tupperware burp.