LindafromFlorida

I agree that those are the most frustrating. I have to admit that I have came here several times to get validation that doing the wrong thing is okay and the kick in the butt has came from all of you through other people's questions.

I get pissy about the ones who reject answer after answer until they get the one they are fishing for.

I can imagine you must be terrified at times. Please private message me anything I can help with. I am wondering are you having follow up bloodwork done, are you getting in the right Vitamins, do you have a primary care doctor who is monitoring you? If you have a hospital (or just google nutritionists in your area or ask your surgeon's nurse for a recommendation) nearby, maybe they have a nutritionist or dietician you could call and make an appointment with. Sometimes your primary care doctor can recommend it and insurance might pay. If not, I cannot imagine they would charge much. Just make sure you are getting the proper nutrition. I say again, thank God for Bariatric Pal because even though I read voraciously, went to bariatric classes, met with the psychologist and nutritionist several times, I have continued to lear and get help from the wonderful people here.

I would so hate to be somewhere besides home. I was sleeved Nov. 18, 2013. I drove to the store the 2nd day after surgery, a short distance (was not taking any meds). I took one dose of pain med when I got home from the hospital, and I was in the hospital less than 24 hours. I was walking the mall 5 days after surgery, slowly. You will be resting, can take the small dog out if you have no fenced yard, you can heat a bowl of FF Soup or broth in the microwave, get a popsicle, keep shakes, Water and Crystal Light in the fridge, and you are good to go. Watch movies with your dog all day. I am 67 years old and honestly I questioned that I even had surgery. Have a backup plan in case you have complications, and always call the surgeon if you think something is wrong. My husband was sleeved 2 weeks after me, and he had no pain and no problem with the sleeve. Good luck!

Olde..... age does this to you Fine LMAO. If I am not laughing I am crying! Emotions, crying, you name it. My poor husband .... Loves me, despite! Hahaha

Done! This is life saving issue.

I'm 37 years old I'm a single mother of two my current weight is 318 pounds have numerous medical problems I've had 11 surgeries and gastric bypass is about to be my 12th I'm so so excited about having this surgery is going to be a major major change in my life I'm looking to meet new friends and have helped along my journey with the process before and after

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OK, I have to say it....you are funny as hell. Some of the things you say just crack me up........"Biotin, I am convinced is a placebo"......ha ha ha ha

I started losing hair at 5 months and at 8 1/2 months am still losing. I did everything right, have lost weight slowly, ate healthy, and nothing made a difference. I think I was dumb enough to think it would not happen to me. Biotin, I am convinced, is a placebo.

SMH and die laughing!

I can imagine you must be terrified at times. Please private message me anything I can help with. I am wondering are you having follow up bloodwork done, are you getting in the right Vitamins, do you have a primary care doctor who is monitoring you? If you have a hospital (or just google nutritionists in your area or ask your surgeon's nurse for a recommendation) nearby, maybe they have a nutritionist or dietician you could call and make an appointment with. Sometimes your primary care doctor can recommend it and insurance might pay. If not, I cannot imagine they would charge much. Just make sure you are getting the proper nutrition. I say again, thank God for Bariatric Pal because even though I read voraciously, went to bariatric classes, met with the psychologist and nutritionist several times, I have continued to lear and get help from the wonderful people here.

Those are the questions I just can't tolerate anymore. Everyone will stall and, no, you won't lose 100 pounds in 2 weeks. So many people waited months for surgery and then whine that they haven't lost weight fast enough. I don't even read them anymore.

I some cases, it may be a matter of ligitimate inability to comprehend directions provided. Maybe the patient has a learning disability. But I'd be willing to bet in most cases people are too lazy and have no interest in taking responsibility for themselves. They don't read the paperwork because it's just "so much". Or they aren't listening when the dr/nut is talking to them. I am a vet tech and believe me, even in veterinary care, client compliance is ridiculously low. I've even attend CE conferences with seminars designed to show us better ways to assure compliance.....all because these people are lazy (I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt that it's not because they are that stupid) It doesn't matter how much time I and the doctor spend going over medication dosing or postop care instructions, people just DONT LISTEN. I feel it's a complete waste of my time and breath to even bother talking to them. So when they call with a problem, I go over it AGAIN And I explain that all of that is on the paperwork they got that they just "threw away" or "can't find". Or my favorite - "I know that's what you told me, but my friend said....." So let your expert friend take care of your pets and quit wasting your money and my time. I'm sure doctors and nurses experience the same frustration I do.
And really, with all of the information available on the web, there's no reason not to be fully informed of every twist and turn of WLS. I went to Mexico, so didn't have any insurance hoops, but I researched for months and asked tons of questions both from online strangers and the surgeon's staff. In other words I took responsibility for my decision...I didn't expect anyone to hold my hand through it. And when it came to pre and postop medical instructions I followed my doctor's advice only. If I was unsure about something, I asked them, not you guys (no offense)
Or sometimes these people know the "right" answer to their questions but want to try and find someone to help rationalize their bad behavior. Unfortunately I've been slammed for the "kick in the ass" replies that these people actually need. So I've learned to move on and let these guys continue to self sabotage and be miserable.
Good post. Glad I'm not the only one.

i will attest that there are many people out there who receive lots of medical instruction and still claim that have no idea what they should be doing. i can tell you that lots of people never even look at the discharge paperwork they are given. there are lots of reasons for this. my MIL is one example of a person who has so much anxiety all the time, she doesnt really hear what other people tell her. esp doctors or medical people. then we have my FIL and my mom who hear, but dont care and disregard what the doctors tell them....
there are people who arent able to read their instructions, people who dont process verbal instructions, people who think doctors are full of shit, people who think they know better than doctors. i have a friend who gets rid of every doctor that doesnt agree with her. then takes her meds, not as prescribed, but as she thinks she should take them. i'm like, why do have a doctor? just order your meds from mexico! (she's a book keeper not in the medical field)
there are some people who get little preparation, esp private pay people, but there is tons of info online, all you have to do is a little research, but some people need/want to be told what to do... and not take responsibility for themselves, ever. surgery isnt going to change that.

@@tkauhi Wow! That's so absurd!! It really makes me mad that when there is such an abundance of information out there, and it's relatively inexpensive to provide, that health care professionals don't do it! Shame on them, not the patients. Even if it cuts into his bottom line, he is OBLIGATED. Also, he could just refer you and let you decide and pay for it. I went to a bariatric center of excellence, and they did a good job of instruction. However, my insurance (that paid for almost everything) didn't pay for one of the dietitian meetings they required, so I had to pay out of pocket for it. The docs office gave me a break, and only charged $30 for it. So, you should never feel bad for seeking information - that's way different than a question like "I had surgery last week, and I ate a hamburger - Did I do any damage?". I think those are the questions that get irritating after a while.

I have to say that I'm one who received NO instructions. I waited thinking I would be visited by a nut in the hospital but nothing. Before discharge I asked the surgeon about it and he said he didn't use them as it cut into his bottom line. I know what everyone is thinking and I've thought the same thoughts but I can say I was so desperate to have the surgery and he had good reviews that I just trusted him. I don't ask many if any questions on this forum for fear of being ridiculed but others who have had the guts to ask questions have helped me learn so much. I google a lot and have bought some books but you are right, there are some or maybe just me that had no nut instructions and no follow up (except for weigh ins) care. If I ask questions he will answer them otherwise he rushes me out the door. He had this same (RNY) surgery 9 years ago so I thought I was getting someone good and someone who understood what we go through. I messed up big time. I'm just on my own along with reading answers to questions asked on this forum, books and google...

I try to just ignore it. I really hope if people want to know the answers to those questions that they research on here, get good answers that will help them, and that they heed any good advice given. I worry about the ones that ask those questions looking for an answer that will support their behavior, and they have no clue about the need to change, or really demonstrate a lack the desire to make the needed change for success. Of course, we have no way of knowing who will fall into which category, but I just skip most of those posts now to avoid the irritation.
But one thing that is baffling to me - where in the world did these people have surgery that they got NO post op instructions? Or did they actually get instructions that they ignored, or somehow think they should get the instructions from internet strangers who are not qualified to give advice, hoping to hear what they want?

I would so hate to be somewhere besides home. I was sleeved Nov. 18, 2013. I drove to the store the 2nd day after surgery, a short distance (was not taking any meds). I took one dose of pain med when I got home from the hospital, and I was in the hospital less than 24 hours. I was walking the mall 5 days after surgery, slowly. You will be resting, can take the small dog out if you have no fenced yard, you can heat a bowl of FF Soup or broth in the microwave, get a popsicle, keep shakes, Water and Crystal Light in the fridge, and you are good to go. Watch movies with your dog all day. I am 67 years old and honestly I questioned that I even had surgery. Have a backup plan in case you have complications, and always call the surgeon if you think something is wrong. My husband was sleeved 2 weeks after me, and he had no pain and no problem with the sleeve. Good luck!

Hey Everyone. I just learned of this forum. Great to be here. I am having my sleeve surgery on Tuesday (Aug 5th). I am single, live alone, have a small dog. The doctor said there was no issue with my coming home alone after surgery, and that I could even walk the dog (only a short distance to start). My sisters are all up in arms and want me go to one of their homes for the first week after surgery. I really just want to be at my own home. Looking for some input to help alleviate my sisters' concerns.

Proud for you!!!! After my 11/18 surgery I am off metformin, and my husband, long time diabetic, is 2 weeks post op and praying for a miracle off the insulin! Keep up the great work, so worth it!!!!

Good for you. My neighbor drives me nuts. She knows we dieted but not about the surgery and is still trying to tell us what to eat. I would like to stuff a rag in her mouth. Her favorite topic is me and my husband. If I had told her about the surgery even the mailman would know.

I had a band in 2004, I didn't keep it secret and I soon got totally over everybody have an opinion on what I should or shouldn't eat. I'd have a cup of tea at work and hear 'I hope you haven't put sugar in that' I'd be out for dinner and friends would be horrified if I'd order anything that wasn't fat free after 'what I'd put my body through!!' Rack off and mind your own business was my reply ! Anyway since the band I left the UK and moved overseas, my new friends know nothing about it and they don't know about my band to sleeve revision in 9 days and I ain't ever going to tell them either !!!

I work with a bunch of judge mental women in a hospital.. Someone from another dept had it done and all they did was talk about it.. And mind you they are all twigs.. So me hiding it is my preference.. My surgery isn't till Oct 1.. So I have already started with the watching what I'm eating etc.:
I am very excited to have this done and don't want any negative to it.. I hate drama.. So that's why I'm telling a selected few...