ScottsGirl

I got a call this morning from my doctors office finally that all of my pretesting is done and they do not require any other tests. They will get back to me on Friday with a surgery date. In the meantime they will get the approval. I am 41 BMI with no other health issues. Did many of you have a problem with insurance? If so, why? I have Blue Cross Blue Shield. They were hoping to get me in by then end of September. I feel like I am waiting for my life to start. I am so excited that I can't think of anything else.

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Now let's be fair about this. Speaking from a guy who no longer has anything resembling Man Tits. Not any more. And that is your point, right, you are improving yourself, and do not see why he is not interested in doing the same. Here is what I felt after reading your post. Okay, you have made a decision to change your life - AWESOME and conrats to you. BUT you would not need that change if you (and I and many many more) had not let ourselves go and made many a bad decision. So you have decided that you want more out of life. Here is my question. How long did it take you to make that decision? Presumably a while. What about him? how much time does he get? If you start looking great - or at least a ton better, is that an encouragement for him? I would only say that none of us - peeking into you life with 5 lines of information - have the answer. But I think a spouse has a little duty to help make changes in us as well. I was a stud athlete, professional, world ranked - that is what my wife married. Then 10 years in I got fat, not big, fat. She stuck by me and put up with my beer drinking and over eating. Now I look good again and I am so glad she is here. But you know what, she is 30 pounds over weight - maybe more - but that is okay. I love her for her. She stuck by me when I was a pig. 30 pounds on her at 5 feet tall is a lot - but I will work with her to get her lower - she wants that and I want that - why? because we are still in love. 25 years of her putting up with my retarded self - and we still care. My guess would be that there is more than just the weight issue. It may be an indicator of the relationship - maybe the weight is not the issue, it is that desire you have for more, and he does not have that. Again, it is easy to be Dr. Phil with 10% of the info, but make sure that it is the weight that is a problem, and not the lack of drive and ambition. Here is why, anyone (with great effort) can lose weight - not everyone can have that desire to move up and be determined for success. So I will get off my "Mr. know-it -all" soap box and wish you the best of luck - love is easy - marriage is hard - make sure you are carefully assessing you issues. And best of luck on your weight loss journey.

I did the same thing today myself, only they were shorts that I've NEVER been able to even get over my hips, and now I can button them comfortably! Yay for us!!!

We can't change people, no matter what we think. Give it your absolute "ALL" before making any permanent decisions. I guess kind of like before you were sleeved, right? Do what you have to do to be happy tho in the end. No sense in staying with someone who makes you absolutely miserable AFTER you've tried everything. This way there are no regrets. Good luck to you.

I understand how you're feeling, but you married him knowing this about him. Right? Perhaps he needs more time and he very well may be astonished AND inspired by your END results.
Divorce should only be an option when there are no other options available. You married him for a reason... love...? He loved you and picked you to marry him and accepted you just the way you were...??? Let me know if I'm wrong. Don't get discouraged, have faith and patience; sometimes men are like children and both of these traits will help you get through the muck! Cheer up, it does get better IN TIME. ACCEPTANCE/FAITH/PATIENCE

I understand how you're feeling, but you married him knowing this about him. Right? Perhaps he needs more time and he very well may be astonished AND inspired by your END results.
Divorce should only be an option when there are no other options available. You married him for a reason... love...? He loved you and picked you to marry him and accepted you just the way you were...??? Let me know if I'm wrong. Don't get discouraged, have faith and patience; sometimes men are like children and both of these traits will help you get through the muck! Cheer up, it does get better IN TIME. ACCEPTANCE/FAITH/PATIENCE

I understand how you're feeling, but you married him knowing this about him. Right? Perhaps he needs more time and he very well may be astonished AND inspired by your END results.
Divorce should only be an option when there are no other options available. You married him for a reason... love...? He loved you and picked you to marry him and accepted you just the way you were...??? Let me know if I'm wrong. Don't get discouraged, have faith and patience; sometimes men are like children and both of these traits will help you get through the muck! Cheer up, it does get better IN TIME. ACCEPTANCE/FAITH/PATIENCE

I am on another forum for bariatric surgery. I saw a few posts about a person dying after/during surgery but there was no details. I would rather not mention the doctor.
We all know there is risk in surgery. Any surgery. I just wanted to know if this is for sure true and what was the cause.
Regardless I am having mine

I understand how you're feeling, but you married him knowing this about him. Right? Perhaps he needs more time and he very well may be astonished AND inspired by your END results.
Divorce should only be an option when there are no other options available. You married him for a reason... love...? He loved you and picked you to marry him and accepted you just the way you were...??? Let me know if I'm wrong. Don't get discouraged, have faith and patience; sometimes men are like children and both of these traits will help you get through the muck! Cheer up, it does get better IN TIME. ACCEPTANCE/FAITH/PATIENCE

I understand how you're feeling, but you married him knowing this about him. Right? Perhaps he needs more time and he very well may be astonished AND inspired by your END results.
Divorce should only be an option when there are no other options available. You married him for a reason... love...? He loved you and picked you to marry him and accepted you just the way you were...??? Let me know if I'm wrong. Don't get discouraged, have faith and patience; sometimes men are like children and both of these traits will help you get through the muck! Cheer up, it does get better IN TIME. ACCEPTANCE/FAITH/PATIENCE

I understand how you're feeling, but you married him knowing this about him. Right? Perhaps he needs more time and he very well may be astonished AND inspired by your END results.
Divorce should only be an option when there are no other options available. You married him for a reason... love...? He loved you and picked you to marry him and accepted you just the way you were...??? Let me know if I'm wrong. Don't get discouraged, have faith and patience; sometimes men are like children and both of these traits will help you get through the muck! Cheer up, it does get better IN TIME. ACCEPTANCE/FAITH/PATIENCE

Is it just me or does the divorce rate of post extreme weight loss people seem high? I find myself thinking about divorce as I go through this process because I am constantly on the grind to better myself for my family...psychically, mentally, educationally...this man is not. He's perfectly happy with his high school diploma and man tits...blah

I had reflux before the sleeve and although my doc did cation me that it might get worse he was ok with doing the sleeve. It first it didn't seem any different but I am 3 months out now and sadly it did get worse. However, I am down 42lbs which I never could have done on my own so I'll take the trade off with the reflux. My have upped my reflux meds, it would be nice if as I lose weight it would go away.

I had pretty severe reflux / GERD pre-op (omeprazole twice daily was controlling it) My Dr. had no issue with performing the sleeve on me. In fact, it helped me qualify for insurance covering the surgery as a co-morbidity. Post-op, it's really improved. My Dr. also found a hiatal hernia when he was performing the sleeve and went ahead and repaired it. I think that's helped improve the reflux as well. I don't see it being an issue for you.

Fingers crossed! Keep us updated

Welcome! Troll around this board a bit and you'll find all kinds of good advice. Most of us have had to be on some kind of pre-op diet. Some of these are 4 weeks, some are 1 week, some are a few days. I can't speak for everyone, but my 1 week of pre-op diet = 5lbs. Diet was 4 Protein Shakes a day, plus broth, plus sugar free popsickles (and 64 oz of water).
Good luck! 5 lbs will be easy!

So after having all my tests done and waiting 4 weeks i finally go back 2morrow to see my surgeon again hopefully i get my surgery date i can't wait sooo excited, nervous, anxious =)

I did the same thing today myself, only they were shorts that I've NEVER been able to even get over my hips, and now I can button them comfortably! Yay for us!!!

I work with autistic kids and let me tell you, it's going to be a struggle at times, but SO WORTH IT! I love my students and am glad to learn so much from them; sometimes they teach me!
I wish you all the best!

Today I put on a pair of jeans I haven't been able to wear in about 2 years. I was pregnant last year, but still...

Just wanted to give an update. I had my surgery this morning at 8:00. I never thought this would happen to me but I am one of those people who keeps asking if they really did the surgery as I feel amazing! Just wonder if anyone else could share their experiences with feeling great and whether it continued or if reality set it.

Super stressful day and almost bought a candy bar but did not . I may not be perfect about my diet but I think I do well since a coke and candy bar used to be my usual Breakfast

hahaha I dont get sleeved till next month, ILL TAKE IT!