MWilliams42

You have to do what is right for YOU. You know you are important, and that your feelings matter. You've picked yourself up before, you can do it again! why stay if inevitably you are growing apart and you both know it...if the good outweighs the bad, then talk about what needs to change to make you want to work at this with her, if the bad outweighs the good, the answer is clear. Hard as it is, we are stronger than we think and we deserve to be happy and loved for who we are at this very moment...not who we once were!

It's time for YOU to make some changes. You need someone to love you for where you are and for who you are, not for who they want you to be. Over protective mother, in most cases there is no such thing, protect our kids at all costs that's what we do! We all have moments we feel negative, but it will get better...take some time and focus on YOU! Even if its just an hour for a pedicure, you deserve it.

You go GIRL!!! I loved reading that!!! Keep up the good work, and keep writing!!!

Very proud of you for standing your ground, and for not running to the fridge like we have all done in the past, and then swear WE didn't eat it!!! I've learned, also, to refocus my stress and much like you, I clean and organize EVERY damn thing I can get my hands on!!! I think I'm driving my 7 year old nuts!!! But hey, it beats eating! Love or not, you are right, your relationship must be a healthy one or it will never survive, it's just having the courage to pick yourself up and move on, if it's meant to be things will change for the better, if not do you really want a band aid over it just for the sake of having someone there? I speak from experience, and I can drive myself crazy!! I've learned that once you pick yourself up, work on YOU, and really focus on what YOU need and want in your life...after doing this I realized, YEP, I'd hang out with me! I really like this woman!!! So chin up! Glad to see I'm not the only one who likes to vent in writing!!!!

I would have traded my love for chips over chocolate any day!!! But of course not, chips...still...taste...good!!! ugh! So I have a couple and I'm done! That's the good part! Tried a piece of steak, a little one, my son was proud of how great it tasted, by the time I chewed the heck out of it, it didn't taste so good...so, no steak for me right now! Ice cream hurts, so I don't eat that, and I'm good with yogurt, not frozen though. I've been staying in the safe zone, and I want to enjoy what I'm eating and tasting, so my choices have been so much better.

Well...how are you feeling now?

Don't you just love it when our children, grown or not, leave us speechless in an "I'm so proud of you" way!!! Sometimes we need to stop and listen...the scale...well, I don't like it, so I only weigh once a week now instead of driving myself crazy once a day! You've got this and you are doing great! I just absolutely love reading your posts!!! So insightful!! Listen to you your son, as I have listened to mine!( 3 of them to be exact...21,20 & 7!)

Oh my goodness...happy surprises fill the air today!!!! So happy for you!

Thank you very much. I appreciate the words of encouragement BellaHugz! Means the world!

gamergirl...I love reading your posts & your blogs!!! You are REAL and that is what I love. I've noticed it helps me when feeling down to write, to read, to just do something that I enjoy and the feeling sometimes passes. Chin up, you are doing great and keep the comments coming!

That is something I have always had a hard time with. I used to work at Lane Bryant, best job I loved it there. Well I had my "light bulb" moment working there while folding the jean wall that never quit!!! This is what happened, when I was in high school, I was always between a 12 and a 14 and thought I was BIG...while folding the jeans I was "in the zone", because I love to fold, and I started to fold a pair of 14 jeans(the smallest size for LB) and then folded a 22(which I was in at the time) then another 14 and a 28 and the next 14 I held up I was like OMG...I THOUGHT I was fat when I wore this size, and now look at the jeans I'm wearing and convinced my self I was hot stuff!!!! It was then I realized that my mind was messed up...thinking I was huge at a size 14 was ridiculous!!! So I am hoping that this time around, since I have been working on my mind, I hope to have a better outlook on me!!!

I've been through many years of ridicule for my weight, directly and indirectly...I have been outgrowing Lane Bryant Clothing, and then coming to where I am now. My ex-husband made me feel less than human, and I gained most of my weight due to the depression and anxiety from that relationship. I had to realize that only I could change myself, and I had to realize that everyone will always have their opinions, but I don't have to be the brunt of them. The man I grew up with was very conditional with his praise, or love or whatever, and that played a big role on how I felt about me...I felt if I performed to expectations I would get that love and attention from the only man I knew, at that time as dad. Later in life I realized he was doing the same to my younger siblings and I didn't like that, the only difference, he is their biological dad...I put a stop to the conditional stuff and he told me I was no longer his daughter. I felt like a ton of bricks was lifted off of me! Finally I stood up for ME, and it felt so good. That was the first step in my life that I took at realizing I don't have to take the negative from others and make it my own . I am responsible for my happiness and I've come to a point where I make myself very happy and it shows!!! My mom/best friend...gave me this book that helped me so very much, it's by Florence Scovel Shinn and it is called the Complete Writings of Florence Scovel Shinn for Women. It features The Game of Life and How to Play it, Your Word is your Wand, The Secret Door to Success, and The Power of the Spoken Word...it really changed how and what I let into my life. I recommend this book to my friends often. Another GREAT read is Deadly Emotions by Dr. Colbert...AWESOME and this DR knows his stuff!!!

That was funny...I guess everyone hits the "stall button", here I thought it was just me!!! don't like it but working through it! Thanks for the laugh.

WOW...I really needed to hear that today...thanks so much for sharing. You never know who is reading what you had on your mind, and I have been beating myself up about not losing fast enough, believe it or not it never dawned on me to start taking measurements! Duh!! Thanks for posting!