DeezJeanz

That would have been ideal, I agree.

I'm glad that the doctor has been outted. This situation is wrong and unprofessional. If I were planning on going here, I would cancel after reading this no matter how wonderful the team is. Our lives are in these doctor's hands. If you had not consented, who knows what he is capable of. He has access to put drugs in IVs! This needs to be reported officially! I personally wouldn't be comfortable going here.
Think about it, who knows how many other women there have been, he has a long term gf, he's taking advantage of patients. Who's to say later down the line he won't force these acts on someone helpless?

It's not funny. I apologize to the OP for not believing her in the first place and I do appreciate the fact that she is taking responsibility for her own mistakes in all of this.
I do appreciate the doctor being named, not for my satisfaction, but to protect others. It adds much credibility to the op's story.

And I was SO close to a happy place with you! Lol she never claimed to be raped. She never even referred to herself as a victim. And stated multiple times that she takes some responsibility in the whole mess as well. No one was making a mockery of rape victims. I'm taking Laura's advice and checking out of this one with you.

I really don't find it that unbelievable...
That being said you are not the only one he'd done this to. Do the right thing.

Hi all! Surgery went well. I have very little pain. The main issue I have had is trying to keep liquids down. I haven't been able to get the 64 oz I'm supposed to have. Thanks for all the well wishes. They really helped calm my nerves.

At my seminar, the surgeon, psych, nd nut all spoke and then asked if we had questions. I brot 29 questions and added more as I listened, they lol'd at me but I was prepared, nd everyone benefited from my questions:) so yeah, bring them:)) gl

Finally.. Ive been waiting for this to happen.. ive read others who have hit there..and thought.. wow.. must be nice.. cant wait for me to get there.. then boom..another surgery unrelated to the sleeve.. knocked me down for 3 weeks. but hey the good news is no cancer.. masses gone..legs are healing.. and during that time.. rotten stall.. but then I wasnt really doing anything.. put my weight loss back 3 weeks.. sucked big time.. but ive slowed down on that anyways.. but thats ok.. I figure.... Im only 6mo out and im down 98lbs.. life is good.. cant believe it really..still having a hard time with that.. still see the old me in the mirror.. but others see the new me... my mind is playing tricks on me lol. I think if it was not for the most wonderful support system I have at home with my fantastic husband who also had the sleeve done a week after me.. he has lost like 102lbs..and looks like a stick.. he is at 188lbs..and happy with that and he too is 6mo out... He keeps me on the straight and narrow.. but in a loving way.. we support each other in this journey.. my doc is fantastic..and so is his nurse.. we work very hard and no way are we going to mess this up.. new doors have opened up for us.. no more seat belt extensions.. we can sit in a booth with lots of room... smaller clothes.. and wow.. I like to shop for clothes now lol.. Im in trouble there.. but for those of you just starting out.. so many wonderful things are about to happen to you... I would do this again in a heartbeat.. love this site... ive learned so much from everyone.. Im healthy happy... and on the go here and there... hang in there newbies.. it does get better.. but for me and my hubby.. we have had an easy go of this... we didnt get sick..no throwing up.. no issues at all.. piece of cake for us..so best of luck to eveyone on their own personal journey.. Dont let anyone or anything get you down.. work hard at this.. the doctor is giving you a wonderful tool.. its up to each and everyone of us to do the right thing with that tool... I chose to do the right thing... and it payed off big time.. good luck all

These are my opinions mind you and my experiences so everyone is different remember that.
I studied all options and came to these brief conclusions.
lap band? No i did not want a foreign object inside my body. Also you have to go in every once in awhile to have it tightened. Just on that alone I was speaking with someone and he said "oh i love it cause I don't go in around the holidays so I can eat a lot" Really? His appearance was still quite large and gee after 3 years post op is when I saw him. This is a decision for life not convenience so I said no to this cause I can cheat on that diet. Why do it in first place knowing I can cheat.
Bypass? Hell no, to many horror stories. I was born with all these intestines for a reason..they serve a purpose and for all you out there say well I had my tonsils removed and it hasn't affected me. My answer to you is you HAD to have them removed due to medical reasons and in my opinion and only my opinion being obese is a medical position you put yourself into and only you. I've just heard to much negativity about this surgery so it wasn't for me.
That rouy en ex surgery Look it if i can't spell nor pronounce it I'm not doing it period.
Leads me to sleeve. Not because others weren't my choice its just what I was comfortable with.
1- when this is performed the remaining cut away portion of your huge belly is removed from your body not left inside to float around attached to nothing. Had ulcers? good luck in treating them since your stomach that floats has no way of accepting medicine ..enough said
2- The surgery that removes the stomach also removes that nasty little gurgling sound screaming feed me feed me. What I mean by that here I am 3 years later NEVER getting hungry but just knowing I have to eat to survive. I no longer live for food but need food to live so I'm careful on quality and health benefits of what I eat since its all Portion Control.< /p>
3- The surgery is permanent if not abused. You made the decision to do this why abuse it? Meaning lets say you have a 6 ounce pouch as a new stomach and everyday you eat that one bite too much. It has the possibility of stretching out slowly but surely over time. Once eating you feel full stop right there and don't ever have that same after thanks giving day meal feeling of holy ^&%$ I'm full and tired and think I only had 7 ounces this sucks . Bad attitude.
Also If you are worried about not being able to drink my 2 all time favorites soda and beer again then you may want to reconsider choice. Don't get me wrong live your life like you want to but keep in mind carbonation is something that bloats your stomach and after time who knows how much it gets bigger coupled with the eating one too many bites. Me every Friday and Saturday I sit and enjoy some wine which I hated preop and now get my weekly buzz from it and hell it tastes pretty good.
4 Less invasive,less side effects and bottom line is I lost 180 pounds so if anyone says I'm biased towards this well I am wouldn't you be? duh! lol
My story
I'm 46 now and had surgery almost 3 years ago. Prior to that most of my life I was the fat guy and twice in my younger years lost over 100 pounds thru dieting. If you are on this site my guess you have done the same, only to gain it all and then some back. Pre surgery I weighted 400 pounds with a 54 inch waist and a 5 xl shirt and was the fat and dorky also known as big and talls stores best customer. I used to have kids pointing and making fun of me. Damn those bastards haha. I couldn't fit in an airplane seat a dining booth and amongst all the other stories which you all have this is why I did the surgery
I did all the prep requirements needed starting in June and decided "am I serious about this" so I decided to give up my 12 can a day of soda to prove I can do this and be successful at post surgery. Well I haven't had a soda since July 22 2010. Hence why I have done so well 3 years later. Because I KNEW i could do it.
After the surgery I was sore, tired, cranky, thought why did I do this what an idiot. I felt miserable I mean after all, flavored shakes for 2 months, wonderful. Oh don't do what I did and buy one huge same flavored shake and go with it for 6 weeks. Hint..I can't stand the smell of a banana to this day. It gets better as the days pass you start getting strength and gaining confidence. My first meal other than milkshakes was a can of chicken broth and to this day that can has been my all time favorite meal and will never be topped because after 37367363 banana drinks dog crap sounded good.
I remember my blood work before surgery and when the doctor uses those numbers (need to be between these in order to be good) Lol I was so bad I was a diabetic, depressed,cholesterol filled how the hell am I still living. If those results were an actual test I had to do on paper then it may have well been printed in Chinese cause I failed miserably.
Bottom line do I still have some diarrhea to this day. Of course I'm drinking tons of Water and limiting food intake... go figure...does it bother me NO Ladies you sit to pee anyway so big deal. Guys the ladies want you to sit and pee and will be grateful. Yes of course I do not have it all the time it depends how many meals I had that day compared to liquid intake. etc. BTW my one side effect was dehydration and it was bad to the point of me passing out numerous times. Simple solution drink water every minute you can. I don't go anywhere without 2 bottles and Oh I love crystal light iced tea as well.
It honestly took me a good 4 months to feel I had made a good surgical decision after the pain and all the newness that I was experiencing. I will say when I had a weight tracker on my bathroom wall and was listing weekly weight and watching it drop so rapidly all the bad memories went out the window it was such a great feeling.
I liken this surgery to running a marathon. You stand at the starting line and say holy cow I'll never finish this thing I have started and suddenly your Bariatric doctor pulls up beeps horn and say get in. He drives you to the 23 mile post and lets you out and says now finish the last 3 miles with my help. He/she gave you the head start needed to lose all that damn weight you carried for so long.
I'm going to skip a bunch of months till now and tell you what I have done and have continued to do.
You saw my stats above and today as I am typing this I weigh 218 when my goal was 225. My original goal was 235 but nope this is too easy lets keep going. BTW some schmuck doctor will say (in my dumb ass cynical voice) " well you should weigh 189" my answer, kiss my %$# I wear a 36 waist and a Large shirt and I literally am a blood specimen and have none of the above mentioned issues I had earlier. Then i proceed to tell my 5'6 doctor and his string bean pole that I have a monstrous frame with huge shoulders and if I weighed 187 I'd look like gumby and peeps would throw food at me and they always see my side on my opinion of the perfect weight haha
When I was able to eat regular food again I ate 4 portions per day NONE after 5pm and when I got to desired weight I moved to 5 portions only to discover I was still losing. Now depending on what I eat I consume 6 or 7 meals to "maintain". If I start to gain weight I drop one meal.
I have posted a few threads on here and will and can answer questions if need be but I not online a ton. I wrote these because with all the peoples information I read on here pre op it helped me. What I tried to do with this post was to sum up all the information I learned from different sources into one long letter.
Now lose that weight and give that fat person in the mirror the finger and SAY NO MORE, BYE BYE SADNESS, HELLO NEW LIFE. Wont believe all the things I can do now and would never try then I hope you use my email as an inspiration and someday down the road do what I did and help the people make a decision that they are struggling thru as you are now or will be soon.

The first photo was me just under a year ago at my highest weight of about 312 pounds. The second, about a month after my surgery. You can see how much weight I've lost in my face! So far since pre-op, 33 pounds total!

A real bike, not a stationary bike, and its much harder than I remember as a kid! My thighs and legs are so sore. But I'm working on stamina and going a little further each time!

I tend to have a rosey and innocent view of human nature, I'd like to think everyone operates on honesty as the best policy in general and I know that there is nothing worse than a victim of a sex crime not having their story heard... so I'll bite and say this:
Tell. Tattle. Share with the world. If you were taken advantage of, it needs to be said. It's true we don't know what the laws there are (well, most of us probably don't) but ethics is ethics and regardless of how it could have gone down at another time or place, a doctor had power in that situation- you were not used, you were victimized. Seek help and tell the authorities. If a person takes liberties like that in such a vulnerable situation, it's probably not the first time and if someone doesn't say something it won't be the last.
That said... I feel like I'm feeding a troll. I hope MY trust hasn't just been blindsided.

I'm smiling BIG for u, I'm excited for nd with you! I'm still hoop jumpn, so one-day I'll share the losers bench with you, hope to c u then doing gr8 and wurkn it, lol;)

Many prayers for you nd ur success, a prayer for your wl nd surgical team and many prayers for ur recovery...keep us posted:)) Dee Dee

Thanks and I will diff keep you guys updated

Many prayers for you nd ur success, a prayer for your wl nd surgical team and many prayers for ur recovery...keep us posted:)) Dee Dee

Congrats!! ), Dee Dee

lookin good Rodney. Ladies dont you hate how men can make 280 look like an acceptable weight?

Well, I know it's debatable if Panda Express is "real chinese" food as some say, but if you have one in your area, let me tell you....I treat myself to the steamed rice, mixed veggies, Teriyaki chicken (soooo tender & good), & orange chicken. I have no issues. My surg was 3/6/13. I chew well & take my time. I eat it for like three meals. try it again in even smaller quantities & maybe try another place. What I live by is that I WILL have anything in moderation. I want to enjoy life & food like I used to BUT, BUT, BUT....not abuse it like I used to. I do shy away from fried foods, but eventually, I will def try fried chicken, lol!

you ladies are amazing! I cannot imagine waking up and it NOT being over, that's crazy! Or being wheeled in and being told to go home. I am so sorry! I guess I shouldn't complain huh? ugh! the disappointment sent me into a tail spin..depressed doesn't even begin to describe it. But..I thank you all for sharing your stories with me, you are truly amazing!!! XOXOOXOXOXOOXOXO Lots of Love to you all!

I've gotten a lot of inquiries about what my before picture looks like so I figured I'd share. I am officially 46 weeks post-op.
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[ATTACH]14243[/ATTACH] First picture is 1 day post-op. Last two are me this week. Starting weight was 281, I am currently 155.

You will it just takes time. I just started to enjoy meal time with family again about 2 months ago. I can't eat as much but I still feel normal.