lilyrose

I tend to agree with the theory that he is threatened by your new body and frame of mind. I understand the unique relationship thing and I think that with the freedom he enjoys the very least he can do is be supportive and encouraging towards you.
So with those thoughts in mind, I would say what an idiot you have on your hands, Good luck to him in finding a woman he does "like" that will allow him the same freedoms he has now.
I'm am so sorry you are having to deal with this BS. If it were me I would do this:
Tell him he just had his last chance at making you feel bad and the next tine the moron opens his stupid-a$$ mouth he can go find himself a "hot chick" to live with. And in the meantime I would really hope that the hot chicks can fulfill any needs he may have because I sure wouldn't be doing it. There;s plenty of hot guys around too. Perhaps one of them would like the opportunity to make you feel a little better:)

Divorce.
Don't waste your time. Life is too short to miss out on true happiness. Yes divorce is a scary, harsh word but you do not sound happy and in love with this man. Who could blame you?

He sure sounds like my first husband. Is his name Gene, too? He convinced me to have a "unique" relationship, too. You need to drag his butt into counseling with you! He's a narcissistic ass who isn't honoring his marriage vows to love you through thick AND thin. I doubt he's going to change. I suggest you lose another 180-200 lbs by shedding that burden. I would never recommend divorce before, but, oh, my gosh, he sounds like my ex and ending that relationship was the healthiest thing I ever did!
Whatever you make peace with, start being a little more self-centered. You deserve it and it will throw Mr Have-My-Cake-And-Eat-It-Too off balance.

So sorry to hear of the way your husband is acting toward you. Good luck and I'm sure the shrink your seeing will help you get through this and so will we : ) keeping being you :HUGS:

Can you say a***ole!!!! You may have been over weight, but he is just STUPID to say something like that to you after all your hard work and what you have been through.....you are losing the weight,,,,,but he can't fix being STUPID!!!! Girl don't take that crap....from the one person who is supposed to support you. You need to surround your self with your real supporters and ditch dead weight.....pun intended.

That's one very shallow man you have there.

I am sorry you are experiencing this in your relationship. I am glad you are seeking professional help. Hang in there! Best Wishes Tina

You can handle him looking at "hot chicks"
But do you like it? I mean you have a unique relationship... But is that something that is acceptable? Listening to who he wants outside of the marriage?

I am so sad that you had to hear that from your husband. I cannot imagine what you must be feeling. Hang in there. As long as you like you, that is all that matters. *hugs*

Hey what's goin on guys? It's been forever since I've been on these forums, but last week marked the 1 year anniversary of my operation. I'm HAPPY to say I'm down 130lbs, and I feel completely normal. Everyone's saying how healthy I look hahaha. It's pretty awesome being able to go up stairs without wheezing after one flight. Anyway, update pic! I think I overdid it on the cardio. Need to tone up now lol!

I just bought myself a sewing/embroidery machine to help with keeping my occupied

I had quit smoking a few years ago. In order to cope I had "wall-paper therapy". In other words, the day I quit smoking I started peeling the wall paper in my kitchen. Every time I had a craving I got up and peeled wall paper. After 2 weeks, my kitchen was beautiful and I was officially nicotine free.

Go for a walk
Go shopping for smaller clothes
Give yourself a facial, manicure, or pedicure
Get a massage
Dance to music
Call a friend
Make a list of all your NSVs
Make a list of 20 things you are grateful for

Do what you do now, log on here!

Whenever I want to eat but not hungry (usually at night) I brush my teeth, clean, work out, take a hot relaxing bath, or just go to bed!

Ok, so I'm a boredom eater (and stress eater, and emotional, and on and on.) I would like a list of AWESOME things to do to fill my mind and time so that I can stop thinking about food. So far I have : read a book, go outside, relax or exercise. This list pretty much sucks. Please feel free to share your tips for filling your time and not your face!!

Thanks!! I will be taking the official pics tomorrow for my progress.

I am 3 months out tomorrow and here is a progresa pic... down 73lbs.
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Not scheduled yet but expecting a July date (toward the end). All stuff submitted to insurance last Monday. Ready for my approval!!!!!

Yay! So happy to find others that are having their surgery in July! Mine is July 16th and I can't wait. I have a lap band (8 years old)- it failed miserably as they usually do. I am super excited and time can't go by fast enough. ~Madeline

Wow! That's awesome. I can't wait until its my turn! I'm so excited! Thank you!!!

Am I the only person addicted to this site?! LOL It's so motivating!!! All of my pre-op requirements will be completed by next week (minus my cardiology consult)!! The next appointment with my surgeon is 6/7! Hoping for a July date!!! Yay! I couldn't have done it w/o this app & posts/guidance from its members!

I start on the exciting stage of scrambled egg and cheese, yogurt, etc. my question- how long should I take to eat the egg? Do I need to take 30-40 min to eat it, or cuz it's egg, I just eat as usual. And the cheese with the egg... melts... Isn't it hard to break it down while eating. Sorry if I sound ignorant but I want to finally eat...and not get sick. Thank you ????

How can I find it? Name? Secret code? Secret handshake? :0))

Lilyrose, I like the way you think, the shrink appt should be renamed to NUT appt!