BigDaddyJoe

Try reading this: http://www.dsfacts.com/weight-loss-stall-or-plateau.html

Yeah it happens and you feel so much better after. It usually happens for me if I eat too fast or if I don't chew my food well. Nice tip you can sometimes stop the vomiting by putting cold water or ice on your head it makes the symptoms go away if you catch it early enough.

Great plan BDJ - Lean on us for support throughout the week!!

You were very elegant in explaining yourself!!! I get too emotional and have a hard time with that. Thanks for sharing and saying what many of us have felt.

I was accused of "changing" within my first week post-op as well. I think the shift where I always put others first to ME first was what was being detected. I was shocked, but thought about it and agreed. "Yes, yes I've changed...for the better and you are going to have a happier, much healthier partner as a result." You two will have the advantage of having a similar experience and goal, but you'll need to be prepared for the "now what?" moment when you are both at goal. Btw, we are doing great 10 weeks and my partner is "feeling the love" a lot right now...if you know what I mean?

Try to be as positive & reassuring as your can with your wife. Let her know that you are in this together! Remember, you are both going through a lot of changes which comes with a good amount of stress. You are both losing weight to be more active & healthy. It will give both of you a more active lifestyle so you can enjoy your children and improve your family life. If possible, try to do some marriage counseling. Good luck.....

Sounds like she is freaking out because your loosing weight and might become attractive to the other sex. When I would loose weight in the past prior to surgery My husband would try to sabatough my efforts by buying pans of sweets and bring them home. On the other hand I would get jelous when he would lose weight and pick fights for no reason!
My suggestion is to Grab her by both arms look her deep in her eyes and tell her that no matter how much I change on the out side I will always love you . You and Our children are the most important thing in my life! even though she already knows that verbalizing it will make her feel secure. This is what made me toss my insecurity out the window and bring me back down to reality. I have been mariied for 10 years and have 3 children. Me and my husband have also been to hell and back but have made through and are stronger. Try to stay positive and let her know how feel. It is very difficult as the sleever not to get deppressed over everything happening in your body during the first month. Tell her that you need her to support you through this difficult time and tell her you love her Hang in there you will both do great and there is nothing that will pull you apart! This surgery will bring you closer to one another once all the weight starts to shed

Lorac, it did feel good, therapeutic almost, to put it all down into words. It took me 2 hours to get it to where I was happy with it. I wrestled with whether I would actually post it or not. It was agonizing awaiting for the responses to start coming in. I'm a bit disappointed that most of the responses so far have been from my 'extended' Facebook friends (people I knew in high school, people who friended me because I played on 2 songs on a cd by their favorite band, etc.). Most of the people I care about from my 'real' life have been silent. Maybe they haven't seen it yet, I don't know. My brother did make a comment that he was proud of me for making a difficult decision that would positively impact my life.
Pantala, I don't mind at all! Feel free to steal as much as you like. While I may have put things down in words, these experiences or feelings are not unique to me at all. We are all on this site to help each other. I would even say that coming here and reading the forums and talking to people has helped me sort through my feelings and get to the point where I could put them all down on 'paper'.

Funny you say that. Lots of folks seem to have a mini meltdown anywhere from 4-7 days out. Mine came day 6. Thought I was going crazy but after lurking around in this forum, found others in the same boat. After that I decided to have a pity party for one, got in jammies early, got under the heated throw and watched some mindless girlie TV and cried and sipped my water and Isopure. (which I agree is da bomb)
It's amazing what we can do so soon after surgery and if a mini meltdown is the worst, I think we are doing ok. Give yourself a break and allow yourself to feel the emotions. Tomorrow will most likely be better. :-)
Hang in there fellow March sleever!

I went into remission fro type 2 diabeties in March 2012. never doubt your choice for the surgery!

That took courage and I respect your decision to let your circle know what you did and they way you wrote the letter was very detailed. If anyone is negative after that....well that tells you alot about them!
Good luck on your journey!

I never posted anything on facebook but anyone that i physically come in contact with knows about my surgery. As i read your post i was thinking to myself "wow this sounds like me"!
As far as the ass that is so hurt for you not telling him about surgery, Dont give it much thought!
Congratulations! I know you are going to do so well with your surgery!

Proud of you BDJ!

Awesome message Joe! I would not have had the patience to write everything you covered. My husband and sister are the only ones who know so far that I am getting sleeved and it's killing my sister who thinks I owe it to the rest of the family to tell them (I have grown kids and our parents are still around). So I promised her I would send out an email as soon after the surgery as I could. I also hope you don't mind if I steal some of your words to express why we choose to keep this private.....
Best of luck on your journey, I've enjoyed reading about it!

Oh Joe, I cannot tell you how moving your post was. You were able to put into words, how so many of your fellow sleevers are feeling. I know it must have been difficult to put onto paper, but now you are free. Anyone who knows or loves you will hopefully be able to look at your decision through your eyes, rather than through theirs. When I decided to have my surgery, I also told only a handful of people. I could not believe how many comments came back to me regarding my not needing the surgery as well as why don't you just try Weight Watchers. I did have positive support, but was amazed at the negative comments. Joe, success is the sweetest revenge. You, your wife and children are the ones who will be better off with your health improving. I am off of most of the meds that I was taking prior to surgery, I am down 42 lb. (sleeved 1/19) and now all I am hearing is how wonderful I look. Joe I can only tell you how wonderful I feel. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and posting. Be Well!

You're my hero. I don't have the courage to tell anyone except a few select people.

Awesome choice and great post! Good for you! This is a huge step for you!

Great Post Joe!! You will probably feel so much better not having to censor what you say. This is a life change and you're right you need to take care of yourself at this point. I didn't tell very many people before mainly for the same reasons you have (negativity) however my hubby outted me on FB by posting updates on how I was doing after surgery. (Love him!!) So then I got the "OMG what happened" responses. LOL...well at least the shock was over that way!
Good Luck!!! Before long you won't even need that CPAP machine!!

Glad to hear everything went as well as to be expected for you. Good luck on your journey!

thanks for much for that post bigdaddyjoe, I am going to be sleeved in Tijuana on the 20th travelling from Australia. I have gained from your post that walking is good for the gas pains which a lot of other folk have said too. Good luck with the rest of your recovery, am thinking of you!

thanks for posting Joe. i was wondering how you have been doing. glad everything went well.
well it is my turn .. in less then 21 hrs i will be sleeved. and to be honest i am scared!!!.. can't wait to hear more about your journey..

My story is almost exactly the same! Good to have a reference! Hope each day get better!

thank you for sharing and I hope you feel fantastic soon. I will join you next week.

Thanks for sharing! I am not too nervous yet (but still a month away from surgery!) and it is great to fill my head with facts. What to expect, etc. I do much better if I know what is coming!
I wish you all the luck on healing properly! Please keep us updated!

It is ketosis! Try upping your carbs a bit to level it off. When I was on liquid it was a regular thing and it was impossible to get in what my doctor was advising. It was embarrasing and finally my doctor allowed me to chew gum if necessary. I deal with the public so it was a necessity! After you are on regular foods for a bit and are getting better nutrition it should subside ( I keep carbs at under 45-50 per day and protein at 70-90 grams) Weight will fall off! Good luck!