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I was actually commenting on several posts. Sorry if I didn't communicate my thought better. No harm intended. Someone else used the anyone that will listen but what I what I was trying to get at is that several posters who chose to tell lots of folks seem to like to use the term "I'm not ashamed" as though those who chose not to share are and I don't think that is the case for most.
You are so right when you say everyone should do what they want. There really is no right or wrong answer just different opinions and that is what we are here to share.
I find it very helpful and informative to see so many different opinions, including yours. All of us here are on the same journey, just taking different paths.

Why does not telling everyone who will listen equal being ashamed? Just asking...

Best wishes to all of you getting sleeved tomorrow! Very excited for you. Check in when you can and keep us posted. :)

I would say don't share with those you are not ready to share with. This is a very personal journey and you don't need to explain or defend. If you want to make it easy, just say you are dieting that you are having digestive issues and just change the subject. I know trying to be polite and thinking that we need to answer every personal question that people ask but this is your journey and you need to make as easy for you as you can.
I will be doing the same thing in a few days, my husband's sister passed away suddenly yesterday and we will be traveling to the service. We will be around family for a few days and I will have what I need to and and say that is what I need right now. Period. I will smile and be polite but will not be pressured into sharing things that I don't want to. My surgery is on the 20th. We will be coming home 3 days before.
Good luck to you. You will know what is right for you.

Hi Sweetie, the sleeve has certainly provided me with great restriction! I am 5 months out today and still can only eat about 3 to 4 ounces of food. I stuck pretty much to eating Protein for mist meals and Snacks and have lost about 63 lbs so far! Good luck

Then you should go shout it it from the rooftops. I, for one will applaud you and encourage you!
However, just because not everyone takes that approach, it doesn't make them a phony or ashamed. Some of us simply happen to think it's no one else's business. Plain and simple. Every one's journey is different and should take the approach that is best for them.
Good luck to you. Good luck to us all!

That is great for you!
Everyone needs to do what is best for them. Be it tell no one, a few or the world. Telling the world doesn't mean you're in anyone's face about it. Telling no one in no way means you are ashamed.
Everyone is different and every journey is different.

I have been pretty open about it...I will be sleeved on the 21st of Feb and felt if I told those close to me it will help to hold me accountable. I manage a team of 11 folks and we are really close and they will notice the changes without a doubt. I haven't had the best at home support as my husband and mom are against the surgery but my coworkers are very supportive which has helped me tremendously. I also am now figuring out a good response for outsiders who will notice the weight loss...the magic Beans answer by Butterbean seems plausible no matter what you decide stand by it and keep your head up. The best is yet to come!

I told only one of my sisters. I may tell more of my family later on. Haven't really decided. Basically, it's my business and ill darn well tell who I want to tell... Or tell no one at all. Certainly doesn't make me a fraud or a coward. Do what is best for you.

Everyone,
Please do not engage this individual in further discussion. Nothing will be accomplished and more discord will ensue.
Please let's continue the discussion around them.

That is great for you!
Everyone needs to do what is best for them. Be it tell no one, a few or the world. Telling the world doesn't mean you're in anyone's face about it. Telling no one in no way means you are ashamed.
Everyone is different and every journey is different.

I know its a personal choice to tell or not . But can i say that had a Facebook friend not been open with me about how she lost the weight i wouldnt have looked into the surgery. Because of her honesty it gave me hope. And thats why im so open about it.

Why does not telling everyone who will listen equal being ashamed? Just asking...

Then you should go shout it it from the rooftops. I, for one will applaud you and encourage you!
However, just because not everyone takes that approach, it doesn't make them a phony or ashamed. Some of us simply happen to think it's no one else's business. Plain and simple. Every one's journey is different and should take the approach that is best for them.
Good luck to you. Good luck to us all!

Congratulations! Here's to lots of rapid and healthy healing!
I'm a mama of young kids as well, and this is also my biggest fear. I hope you have lots of health! I have family coming for 2-3 weeks and then my husband hired a couple of mother's helpers to come in for a few weeks during the day while he is working. Maybe you can hire a college girl (or girls) for those hours during nap time when you know you'll need help lifting? Or all day if you can afford it?
Best of luck to you!

There is no right or wrong answer here. One thing I am quite sure of though, is that no one here is making decisions lightly. This is a very important decision and whichever one you make is surely the right one based on your circumstances and financial situation. If you are lucky enough to have it covered by insurance, I high five you! For most of the rank and file whose policies have the exclusion, everyone has to make the tough decisions.
I am lucky to live in the Dallas area, lots of great Dr.s to choose from and not anywhere near the 20k that some folks have to shell out for this. So for me, I will stay local because it's the best decision for ME.
As for others who are traveling, you are not crazy for having it done elsewhere, you are making the decision that is best for YOU! You don't need to defend your decision. And quite frankly, I find some of the negative comments rather rude. We are here to support one another, not undermine one another. Can't we all just get along?
Our journeys don't always include the same path...just sayin....

Finally!!!! after crying & being nervous. I had my surgery on feb 6th at 9.30am. Was in the recovery room at 10.30. Groggy all day but quite awake & normal. Obviously the pain killers were working. I had the Leak X-ray test the next morning and it was all ok. Got home and for about 24 hours I was just so emotional and cried a lot because I was scared of the next few months with 2 kids and no lifting them.
That's my only worry!
I feel physically fine with no pain and discomfort.
I'm on a liquid diet for 15 days post op and then to soft foods which I just cannot wait for. I am still hungry and missing foods. Is it normal?

There is no right or wrong answer here. One thing I am quite sure of though, is that no one here is making decisions lightly. This is a very important decision and whichever one you make is surely the right one based on your circumstances and financial situation. If you are lucky enough to have it covered by insurance, I high five you! For most of the rank and file whose policies have the exclusion, everyone has to make the tough decisions.
I am lucky to live in the Dallas area, lots of great Dr.s to choose from and not anywhere near the 20k that some folks have to shell out for this. So for me, I will stay local because it's the best decision for ME.
As for others who are traveling, you are not crazy for having it done elsewhere, you are making the decision that is best for YOU! You don't need to defend your decision. And quite frankly, I find some of the negative comments rather rude. We are here to support one another, not undermine one another. Can't we all just get along?
Our journeys don't always include the same path...just sayin....

I have only told my kids. I intend on telling my exhusband as he will be taking me to the hospital. I may tell my parents, but only after, AND ask them not to say a word to any of my other family. On the same token I am not going to lie either. If someone asks, I'll let them know, but right now, its my personal journey. I want to be focused mentally and be prepared physically through the process and not allow any external factors interfere or ridicule me for MY decision. I am not telling anyone at work unless asked also.

When I started looking at self pay I looked at Mexico, surgeon I started with, other surgeons in my state, and surgeons in states close. I talked with ALM and R4C. Also talked with several office people here in my area. I am paying 17k for mine. I could pay less in Mexico, yes. But for my personal decision I went with the doc I started with. He did my moms bypass so I know his level of post op care. My mom was running a fever and in a lot of pain a few nights after she came home. He made her go back to the hospital and met her there. Not a NP or CPA. He personally went in at 1:00 in the morning to check in on my mom.
In the states or MX, that is a decision that only you can make. Be diligent with research. Ask questions. Follow what your head and heart tell you.

The only person who knows right now is my husband. I plan to keep it that way. This is my journey and I need to take the way I think is right for me. May have to tell our son as he is moving back in with us for a year so he can finish up his degree.
I am not telling anyone simply for the fact is is none of their business. Yes, people will ask why I am eating so little and all sorts of things. I just say I'm dieting. I've tried everything so people who know me know I'm just dieting again.
My brother had bypass a few years ago. He needed it, it worked for him because he did the work for it. The family is proud of him but everytime he is going to be around, everyone starts getting concerned if we should put this out or that out so it doesn't tempt him. I tell them he has to be responsible for what he eats and is capable of making it. I just don't want that. I have alway been a private person and just don't feel the need to answer questions that are personal. Just because someone asks, doesn't mean I have to answer. I just say I'm dieting this way for the moment and change the subject. If they question further, I say the same thing and change the subject. Same as when I would diet, would get the how much weight have you lost? I guess it's a normal curious question but I just don't feel comfortable talking about it. If it's been a 20 or more pounds I'll just says something like, thank you, I've lost a good clip and change the subject. I've people say good, but how much, next answer is not as much as I would like to have by now. Change the subject. That is the end of my good graces. After that, if asked again, I say It's personal for me and don't wish to discuss it. Never had anyone go further than that.
Just remember, it's your journey and you don't owe anyone any explainations or have to defend your your choice. I am finally finding my backbone behind all the chubbiness.

The only person who knows right now is my husband. I plan to keep it that way. This is my journey and I need to take the way I think is right for me. May have to tell our son as he is moving back in with us for a year so he can finish up his degree.
I am not telling anyone simply for the fact is is none of their business. Yes, people will ask why I am eating so little and all sorts of things. I just say I'm dieting. I've tried everything so people who know me know I'm just dieting again.
My brother had bypass a few years ago. He needed it, it worked for him because he did the work for it. The family is proud of him but everytime he is going to be around, everyone starts getting concerned if we should put this out or that out so it doesn't tempt him. I tell them he has to be responsible for what he eats and is capable of making it. I just don't want that. I have alway been a private person and just don't feel the need to answer questions that are personal. Just because someone asks, doesn't mean I have to answer. I just say I'm dieting this way for the moment and change the subject. If they question further, I say the same thing and change the subject. Same as when I would diet, would get the how much weight have you lost? I guess it's a normal curious question but I just don't feel comfortable talking about it. If it's been a 20 or more pounds I'll just says something like, thank you, I've lost a good clip and change the subject. I've people say good, but how much, next answer is not as much as I would like to have by now. Change the subject. That is the end of my good graces. After that, if asked again, I say It's personal for me and don't wish to discuss it. Never had anyone go further than that.
Just remember, it's your journey and you don't owe anyone any explainations or have to defend your your choice. I am finally finding my backbone behind all the chubbiness.

I will be there the 27th!!

I'm having my sleeve with Dr Nicholson at Forest Park Medical Center in Dallas on 2/26! Is there anyone else on here I may bump into in the halls that day!? Lol

I would say don't share with those you are not ready to share with. This is a very personal journey and you don't need to explain or defend. If you want to make it easy, just say you are dieting that you are having digestive issues and just change the subject. I know trying to be polite and thinking that we need to answer every personal question that people ask but this is your journey and you need to make as easy for you as you can.
I will be doing the same thing in a few days, my husband's sister passed away suddenly yesterday and we will be traveling to the service. We will be around family for a few days and I will have what I need to and and say that is what I need right now. Period. I will smile and be polite but will not be pressured into sharing things that I don't want to. My surgery is on the 20th. We will be coming home 3 days before.
Good luck to you. You will know what is right for you.