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I've noticed my sweat/body odor changed so much that I had to start using a men's deodorant because the women's wasn't working anymore

I've noticed my sweat/body odor changed so much that I had to start using a men's deodorant because the women's wasn't working anymore

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Back to basics? Maybe try the 5 day pouch test, my surgeon has his own version for anyone at least a year out.
Your Protein needs don't change no matter how far out you are so aim for 80-100 grams. Like you said, you know what you're doing wrong, the hard part is getting yourself back on track

Back to basics? Maybe try the 5 day pouch test, my surgeon has his own version for anyone at least a year out.
Your Protein needs don't change no matter how far out you are so aim for 80-100 grams. Like you said, you know what you're doing wrong, the hard part is getting yourself back on track

I was sleeved 3 years ago and had my ds a couple months ago. Always struggled to find a Protein Shake I liked. Try the Premier Protein ready to drink, I add maxwell house latte mix to mine and it is delicious

You have to make this about taking care of you! And stand up for yourself. If he wants something unhealthy, he can make it himself. You should make a list of healthy alternatives to the junk. Also I keep a few things in stock that I can go to when I'm feeling frantic. Things that won't do too much damage. Dill pickles, sugar free Jello or Popsicles. I completely understand your addiction. Im down 130 Lbs but have had to put myself and my needs first.
Bobby

Unlike when I had my sleeve done I haven't had that "what did I do to myself?" moment but I am starting to feel like this may have been pointless.
My boyfriend(who I live with) says he's supportive and has no problem telling me I can't have things but at the same time he wants me to cook for him or bring him dinner or sit by while he eats fast food. It kills me and I end up cheating because I can't resist. I know I have a food addiction and binge eating disorder so food can and has brought me to tears(both because of eating and because of restricting). Unless you suffer from this you really don't understand, its to the point where he's getting mad at me because he shouldn't have to change his eating just because I've had to. I don't know what to do anymore...
I can't have gone through all this only to fail...

Unlike when I had my sleeve done I haven't had that "what did I do to myself?" moment but I am starting to feel like this may have been pointless.
My boyfriend(who I live with) says he's supportive and has no problem telling me I can't have things but at the same time he wants me to cook for him or bring him dinner or sit by while he eats fast food. It kills me and I end up cheating because I can't resist. I know I have a food addiction and binge eating disorder so food can and has brought me to tears(both because of eating and because of restricting). Unless you suffer from this you really don't understand, its to the point where he's getting mad at me because he shouldn't have to change his eating just because I've had to. I don't know what to do anymore...
I can't have gone through all this only to fail...

Thank you, this was a great message. I guess I haven't felt all that motivated with, well, life. I'll be giving my therapist a call on Monday and we'll go from there. Thank you again, I can't wait to move to solid foods and start cooking for myself again.

Thank you, this was a great message. I guess I haven't felt all that motivated with, well, life. I'll be giving my therapist a call on Monday and we'll go from there. Thank you again, I can't wait to move to solid foods and start cooking for myself again.

Brianna, I am sorry you are having to deal with what sounds like an non-supportive partner. You are correct, I cannot understand the food addiction aspects of the struggle. I have been eating healthy several years, and what caused my obesity was medication. However, I do understand the having to cook food for the family and them wanting fast food. And I can tell you what I have done in the past.
But first off, let me say your boyfriend's lack of support may be just lack of knowledge. My husband said the same thing a long time ago, why should I have to change because you are? And I said you are correct, you shouldn't "have to" and left it at that.
What I did was make meals that were healthier for me in terms of options, that is if I was making steak, potatoes, and a veggie, I would only eat steak and veggie, or make a killer salad to cut my steak over, or even eat part of a sweet potato. If they wanted fast food, I would go, order a burger with extra lettuce and no bun, or a taco salad no shell, etc. etc. Did you know that McDonald's has egg white? who knew, the things you find out just by asking. Not people will look crazy at you sometimes, but what the hell.
What happened with my family is they would see all these great looking things they wanted to try that I was making for myself. Like the loaded salad, or even the Greek yogurt, or spaghetti made with spaghetti squash rather than noodle, or the Pasta or rice dishes that I subbed with cauliflower. Slowly over time, things changed. They were ogling my food, and requesting that I make more of that. My husband finally said it made him feel left out when I would get so involved with making my own food, despite we were all sitting at the table. He then told me to just make everyone's food the way I make mine, and I did. Granted I still bake Desserts and give them the other stuff from time to time, but it was a fairly smooth transition. Years later, him and the kids don't remember when they started eating Greek yogurt, or drinking 2 percent milk, or cottage cheese with fruit in it. They don't know why they request spaghetti squash spaghetti or mashed cauliflower. And nobody is upset that some of the ingredients are sugar free or fat free or all natural.
I say all of that to say that sometimes for those on the outside, being supportive for something like this is very new, and you have to move forward regardless. There are thousands of recipes for making healthy, delicious options out there. And many restaurants have healthier options or foods which you can transform by taking something out. Make this work for you.

I don't think I was really prepared mentally for everything. It was hard to break old habits.
This time around I know my mistakes and I'm in therapy to help with everything as well.