IndioGirl55

Yep sounds like you are to tight - As was already said - tiny bites - eat very slowly and chew the heck out of your food.. Are you keeping a food log, are you exercising The band is never going to stop you from eating junk - exercise the gray matter too cuz truly this is where most of our problems lie..

Karla I would love to live at the beach myself - but I want sand not rock ;0) - I guess I'm a southern cali girl ;0) - Love the wrap around porch myself - well there is nothing wrong with dreaming - I'm w/you on quiting current job - but again like you need a job that I would make enough $$$ to support myself.. I'm in the same boat gf - we all are really . Well - got all my shopping done - Menu for tonite - Cheese (reg) /Crackers (lite) - Guacamole & whole grain chips - Wine & strawberry/lime margaritas - Dinner- Fish - Asparagus - Salad - Rice - Dessert - Fresh Fruit bowl - with a side of greek yogurt/cream cheese pudding.. Went to Costco - got a new set of pot's and pan's - I needed them since half the time I am burning up mine cuz I am on the computer and forget about my food cooking - I don't think they were to healthy for me to be cooking in - so at least tonite Dassi can be assured that my pots & pans are kosher LOL. I'm lucky in a sense - I have lived here all my life - so I have pple I know Well dog is bugging me - I need to go fold clothes - will ck back later.

Good Morning Gang I was so freaking pooped last night that I never made it to the computer.. I had leg work out on Wed - didn't think I worked out that hard but by late yesterday afternoon my legs were killing me - so much that I took some tylenol and rubbed aspercream on my legs.. Had a great day - Had 2 eggs bacon for bf - then started at the top of the outlets (Phyl) where coldwater creek is and the crabtree store) Well we spent the first 3 hrs just in that section - Candy tried on a lot at Coldwater Creek - I got a nice sweater for $12 but doubt I will wear it till next winter and hope I remember I have it LOL.. But the GREATEST NEWS... The outlets now have a CHICO OUTLET. OMG !!! This is where I shopped and Candy did some damage here too since some of the 3 did fit her (she's about 1 x on top 16/18 on the bottom.. I got 1 hoodie - 5 tops, a pair of white jeans and a belt... Spend $100 save $50 - then I get a 5% discount for being a Chico client - Still was a big bill but paid for most of it with the $$$ my boss gave me for Xmas.. We spend the most of our time in this section - Had ice cream for lunch :0) love being a grown up !!! Then hit the Coach section - almost had Candy talked into a Coach purse - would have been $120 with discount - but she had to think about it.. I got a pair of sun glasses - None of the purses caught my eye - I am really liking Bruce Markowski from QVC the leather on his purses are like butter - plus I love his outside cell phone pockets - Didn't really get anything in this section well Candy got some shoes - Like I said by the time we finished at the Ralph Lauren store my legs were killing me.. Came home to a nice clean house - had fish & veggies for dinner - Phyl - I think as some of us get older we get grouchier - less patience.. He just needs to be mindful of this and not bite your head off.. I wouldn't call that lady again - I HATE pple who don't keep appointments - it's why I don't make them at my nail shops - cuz I have and if someone comes in 10 min before you they take them and you have to wait - so I just walk in and normally don't have to wait.. Steph It's ok to have 1 small piece of cake and then throw the rest away ... You can't deny yourself treats - bdays happen and they include cake - 1 piece and thats it - that's how I deal with it - just like yesterday we had ice cream for lunch - but ate good for dinner ... I make deals w/myself all the time.. Karla Hugs on the food issues - I bet you it's mostly in your head - knowing you are unfilled - you are bored & frustrated - big food triggers even if you have fill - you know this - So just munch on carrots or something like that if you can't find a distraction.. Go quilt.. I don't want a laptop - I have my bro's and it's ok in a pinch but like the feel of a reg pc don't ask me why I just need a tower - I don't need a screen - got one last yr for xmas I think it's 23 inch - Maybe Sunday I will ck out best buy & costco.. Well Phyl & Earl & Zoey coming for dinner tonite - along with our friend Jodi & her DD who are from my mentor thread - and they are from NYC - Jewish.. She's bringing fish as DD will only eat kosher - Phyl bringing wine ;0) and I am doing dessert - Veggies and Salad - gotta find a kosher dessert ;0) gotta to to Trader Joe's or Ralphs - I know they carry kosher food.. Well that's about it - Candice where are you - Linda how are things you are in my prayers.. cbl

Suggestions #1 log your food - count your calories - you maybe eating more than you think. #2 I too am most hungriest at night - I budget my calories for this.. I did thru my whole weight loss phase and it worked for me - I kept my calories at 800-1200 varied them daily - normally ate 150-200 for bf - same for lunch - dinner 300ish and kept 300 for Snacks at night - which consist of sf puddings - sf fudgecicles - 100 cal snack pack popcorn #3 Exercise - you just have to do it - again during weight loss phase - I exercised 5 - 6 times a week - I exercise 4 x a week today

Good Morning Gang... Candice Idol was on Wed & Thurs - you must have missed Wed - Last night was good - that girl was good and pretty... Yep Steven comes across really good - I like the judges ;0) Steph - I can only eat supper soft steak - there are times w/it that I have to chew and spit it out cuz I know if I sallow - it will just block me up.. Ya I have too much to watch too ;0) between my fb games - lbt - tv - there aren't enough hrs - last night I had to delete stuff cuz I know I can't watch it all.. Karla - how are you feeling today... I'm up at my normal time even though I don't have work - almost went back to bed - but was afraid that I would over sleep - gotta pick up Candy at 8:30 so this gives me time to post - play my addictive games and get dressed w/o rushing - I hate rushing.. Phyl - How's Earl any better.... CBL

Ok - That's what we will do on Thursday - Play - Dinner - Street Fair !!!! OMG you are good - I am not good at playing pple - I know that that's not the right word - manipulating - I just missed that finess gene - Hell they don't shave pple who have babies any more - oh I hate that itch.. Ok - I will get some and wash your towels & sheets in it ;0) I got 2 lite cook books that they had on there - I forgot the name - I think your reason for the binge is cuz you were rebeling at being back on the band wagon ... You were just fighting yourself - On Dr. Oz the other day - Big food triggers for us foodies F- frustration L- lonely A- Angry B - Bored This is why journeling is good - to write down what you are feeling when you turn to food - Google his website and you can watch the show,, Hugs - It's so hard - I'm starving right now - dinner is almost done - but I am not cooking any rice tonite - tomorrow going to town w/gf candy and will save my calories for that ;0) My Ereader has wifi - I can post from their - but it would take too long - I moved the connection for the wireless mouse from the usb splitter to an actual usb port on the computer and it's working ok now I read a Wally Lamb book a long time ago - oprah book club I think - it was something about a fat girl - I didn't care for his writing style - Karla - busy at work cuz tomorrow is my FF and this morning FB games and never got over hear ;0) Steph you are doing so good about Michael and his Dad.. Proud of you - I know it had to be hard.. Well gang - Not much to report - had some errands after work - dinner in the oven - fish and french style green beans - and most likely some popcorn - have had a few tositido while dinner was cooking - had pt shake w/fake peanut butter & 1/2 banana - got stuck on it - Salad for lunch w/turkey - Who watched Idol last night - I didn't think I would like steven tyler - but I really like him- didn't miss simon at all - he seemed so bored with it last year... Well timer going off - cbl

I have been really good at not ordering (well as much LOL) it's cooking day - so what did you order??? I don't use bleach - all my stuff is colored LOL - I use purex wash soap & snuggle or downy softner - what do you use - I will buy some and wash sheets & towels before you get here Who's coming 1st you or Linda - I forget - I think Linda comes in on Sunday and you Monday ??? My back patio has an awning - and the sun isn't that strong - it will be nice weather for you - Average in March 80 - 81 and 52 at night - so hell might not even need a/c with those temps - like I said March is Spring for us... Don't you dare pack towels and sheets l... OMG Phyl - Yep he needs a doctor.... What a butthead.. And ya I would be pisssed about the dog especially since he found the wallett - I think he needs some meds - you know being diabetic affects moods - Hugs for him being a butt head... I think the play would be great - Hope it's like on Thursday - then we could go to the PS Street Fair or whatever it's called - but you might have to share your scooter w/Linda.... Well off to watch Idol and eat dinner ;0)

I haven't read any of the replies - but you need a kick in the butt - 17 lbs in a months time is EXCELLENT... It's been 3.6 yrs since I was banded - I didn't get my 1st fill till like 9 weeks after surgery - and I think I lost like 20 lbs in that time - don't remember for sure - heck some weeks I would only lose 1/2 lbs - but you know what in 11 months 1 week I lost 105 lbs and got to a normal bmi - remember it didn't come on over night - you aren't going to lose it over night...

#1 you can't listen to anyone one here about fills - cuz for each of us it's totally diff - my doc won't tell me how much I have in my band cuz I can have 3 cc's in my band and be too tight and another person can have 5 and still not have restriction - it doesn't mattter the # of cc's in your band all that matters is that you have restriction and if you can't eat or drink without throwing up - That's telling you - that you do have restriction After my 2nd fill I lost 17 in 2 months - I told him I wanted fill cuz I could eat 1 whole enchillada - he said no... You lost the weight - its up to you to make good food choices - I went back a month later begging for one - he gave it to me - within the week I was back and all of that fill but .01 was taken out - I was so freaking tight I could barely drink - I lived that week on sliders - I will never again be that tight.. #2 what would you tell a friend of yours turned to alcohol or drugs during a personal crisis - would you co-sign their use of drugs or alcohol?? I seriously doubt that - so why are you co-signing your reason for eating.. That's your drug of choice... Deal with the issues - we all have them - I lost my baby bro who's 3 yrs younger than me 2 years ago.. Did I turn to food - Nope - would I have in the past - Yes - When both my parents died within 1 month of each other I gained 30 lbs. But I now understand that drowning your sorrow in food isn't the answer - just like if you were drowning them in drugs or alcohol.. We all make excuses as to why we can't do it - but that's all they are is excuses - If you were truly hungry - an apple would satisfy that hunger instead of a bowl of ice cream w/half a jar of choc on it.. Here's a suggestion - write down everything you eat - there are tons of sites on the internet - livestrong - daily plate - hell I kept a little 3 x 3 note book with me - I wrote down everything I ate & the pt grms and the calories - I did this for my till I got to goal (11 months 1 week) Losing weight is simple math - calories in vs calories burned Go back to the basic - eat off small plates/bowls - always eat pt 1st - tiny bites - eat slowly - chew chew chew - no drinking with meals - Losing weight with the band is still work - we have tons and tons of mental issues to deal with - we can't turn to food to mask our feelings of frustration - loneliness, anger & boredom.. When you have these feelings - get up do something to distract yourself - deal w/your emotions don't bury them with food - and when you are tempted to - say to yourself - would I smoke some crack right now so that I don't have to deal with these feelings - I bet the answer is no - equate food to your crack and maybe you will look at it differently - maybe you will see that it's killing you - it might be legal - but it's going to kill you if you don't get control of it.. Hope your doc can give you some help... The majority of our issues w/food are in our head - it takes a lot of work - you gotta look at the reasons that you over ate in the 1st place - you gotta learn new coping skills. It's so do-able - I was 52 when banded - had a life time of being obese - but the light bulb finally went off - I controlled all that junk I was eat - I chose to eat high fat - high sugar and sit on my butt 24/7 - that's why I got fat - It's what I did for me - after I took care of everyone else - Well I turned that around - I love me enough to want to live - I took that control and reverse it - I choose to eat healthy - I choose to go to the gym - I choose to have a life where I am not limited as to what I can or can't do cuz of my weight..' This Grandma now can zipline - scuba dive - parasail - take the stairs - play with her grandkids - the quality of my life has improved 1,000,000 % and girl friend I am no different than you - I have walked in your shoes the majority of my life - You just have to exercise your gray matter to make the changes needed to get healthy and you can do it...

Good Morning Mouse worked this morning but not keyboard - I think after gym I am going to Costco or Best Buy and get a new computer... Steph Glad you had a good Bday !!! WTG on staying on track !!! Proud of you & Jeff.. Have you watched the show Heavy - it's on A&E or TLC - it' really good. Also on Dr, Oz yesterday they had this thing about being a food addict.. Phyl - LOL yep driving w/ me it would only take 45 min to get to 29 Palms LOL ... Well hope Earl gets in a better mood Karla - I love Greys - On Thursday nite at 8 or is it 9 my time - I dvr it most days - but it's a great show and so is private practice (spin off of Greys) I'm not doing accounting for a few days - letting my smiple mind rest ;0) Told you - that you were doing ok ..... Ya gotta learn to trust me - LOL I saw a new thread that said counting caloires works - I wanted to be a smart ass and say Yep it does - I have been preaching that for almost 4 yrs - and since I got to goal and have maintained it - I think I know what I am talking about - counting calories (eating healthy) and exercise - that' the only thing that's going to get you to goal - the band is going to help - but not going to do the work for you - and God forbid we ever lose it - I sure and the hell think that I might put on a few - but that I wouldn't be 250 a gain - (from my lips to God's ears) well does God have ears LOL - Gotta get back to work

Well Back from the gym - had a good work out - came home fed the dogs & cat - then cleaned the stove - the burners are nasty - then went and washed face Going to have to take car in - seatbelt light & bell are going off when it' on... The saying goes you can't choose your family - but you choose your friends and we are the family we need... Love you all so much... Really wish you (Karla) were able to come in March.. Well food today Pt shake w/pb2 and 1/2 a banana - bag of pt cheeto's 130 cal 15 or 12 grms pt - ck catacctori - dinner - will be a ck thigh and some pasta and vegge LOL karla not being smart on vacuuming LOL.. Will have to go look at the new pics cbl

Oh my key board is working - can't beleive it - I'm tempted not to exercise and just go buy a new computer - but alas - I gotta go to the gym.. Boot camp tonite Karla - I have days that I want food - lots of it - I was able to eat 2 taco's last week - omg they were so good.... I felt good mentally and physically being able to eat them (non-fried) I bet you really aren't eating alot - we just freak about it now a days... Well I gotta jame cbl'

OMG Karla - LOL yep you know what we are going to say don't you LOL - Oh on the pity party - I guess since I don't have a Mom - I don't have to seek approval - but don't know if I would any way - I'm 56 yrs old (well almost) and yes I know we all have a inter-child that's 2 but I'm a freaking grown up and if my Mom said those things too me - I just might say - well bye call the one who you like/love better... I don't have a lot of tolerance for being mis-treated - I told my Grandma off and never saw her again.. She said my Dad abandont my Mother - he didn't - it was her fault that he left - and he always took care of us and supported us - hell he ended up w/us cuz my mom was mentally ill and killed herself - I told her she liked to wallow in self pity cuz I was taking care of my Dad and not her - - I was done - but I guess I'm mean and cold hearted - - This is all speculation on my part - I know my Mom loved me - she did show me love - but her sick side wasn't alway nice - but I just keep moving forward.. So all I am saying don't waste your time being upset about your mom - it is what it is - We love you and next time someone gives you crap - say well I wasn't wanted anyway - so you guys handle it.. But again I'm a smart ass - but I think I would say it I really do... We love you and support you - so don't think you aren't loved... xoxoxo J

Kendra - Are you taking a sip of water or a glup - Your doc could be right - you could be eating too fast or not chewing enough - taking tiny bites - I know at times when I am starving I will eat too fast and not chew - my band reminds me at those time.. You shouldn't have to have fills and unfills - If you are 11 lbs under goal - then what are you worried about - The band and losing weight isn't about starving yourself - it's about learning to eat healthy and w/the band you have a little reinforcement not to over eat..

:cake: :cake: :present: :present: HAPPY BIRTHDAY STEPH HOPE YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY !!! LOVE YOU !!!! XOXOXO :party::party: WTG ON YOUR LOST LBS :welldoneclap::waytogo:

Linn Hugs for your struggles... Sound like you need a fill - but most of all you it also sounds like you need to eat better - are you exercising?? The band isn't the cureall to our issues with food - it's only a tool - for that tool to work it has to be maintained - to lose the weight you need to eat healthy (your normal diet / food choices is what got you fat in the first place - this is what we all have to understand - Yes you will lose weight (some) by just portion contorl - but you really gotta change your eating habits and you gotta exercise - Your band isn't going to make your food choices - you do... Even with the band it's work - a lot of work - but getting the weight off is so lilberating - it's so worth the work Get a fill - Eat healthy (Protein 1st - veggies - sf - low fat - limited carb) and get out and get some exercise - if you do these things the weight will come off. Good Luck

Good Morning Gand My stupid computer/mouse/keyboard - my mouse will work - but my keyboard won't - then my mouse won't work and the key board does.. FRUSTRATING - I need a new computer..... I still haven't totally figured out the accounting yet - but have a good idea - talked to lady who use to work at accounting firm - I LOVE HER (Joan) she was so great in all my Dad's estate stuff and helping me with the partnership.. I understand what I have to do - but balancing has been a chore - going to leave it alone for a day or 2 then go back and see if I can get it done - I will get paid but not till a trustee is assigned - that's a 2 edge sword - we are afraid that once a trustee is assigned that they are going to petition the court to sell the land that's left - well we don't want to sell in this market - so as long as there is no trustee we ok. But again I have paid $9000 for 3 yrs bonding - that's just that much less that they are going to get - by the time we pay attorney/me & sis - there won't be much $$... I talked to Candice last night - then Joan - didn't get off the phone till 9 p.m. - make eggs for dinner and was in bed by 10:30.. I still need to go to FB to see pictures. Karla - Hugs on your Mom - Yep you can't help much right now - other will have to step up to the plate. How are you feeling.. Candice - I bet you are so glad to be home LOL trip sounds wonderfull but there is nothing better than your own bed and home cooked food - I don't eat out often - enjoy it when I do - but I LOVE home cooked food - my own coffee - my bed and my doggies. Hugs on GF - that's the freaking pits - Cancer is terrible. Phyl - Sorry your Seahawks lost - My boss is Bear fan - he was happy - I'm not for any of the teams playing - I don't like Steelers - cuz I'm a Dallas fan and they have history ;0) so don't want them to win. The weather is so beautiful - I really wanted to stay home and clean out the garage and patio - spring is in the air - For us here in the Desert spring is Feb/March ;0) Sometime April can be too hot.. Well, I gotta get my butt in gear - this is my short week - FF my gf Candy and I are doing something - then Saturday - Jodi from NY and my mentor thread will be in town - so Phyl - Earl - Her & her DD are coming for dinner on Saturday - She's Jewish and her DD only eats kosher - Thanks Candice for the Paper Plate & plastic forks idea - that's how I will serve the DD - Jodi isn't as particular - but will give her the option too.. Well, gotta get my desk cleaned up... CBL

OMG Linda - Hugs Hugs Hugs..... I sent you message on fb a while back ... Hugs Hugs Hugs .... Is she still involved w/that stupid man... Well only 8 weeks and you will be here !!!!! Well at least you have the 2 grandbabies to help you get through this - Hugs on AH DH ;0) - Men you see why I am single LOL - sometime want one to do things with - but don't want to put up w/the other stuff.. Well we'll get Phyl's scooter for you.. You guys can share ;0).... You gotta get that hip fixed - How's your tummy.. Candice - LOL on bar bill - That happen on 1 or 2 cruise - but not anymore - the last couple I really didn't drink that much - but they get you on the booze - Phyl know's how to sneak it on the ship - Never heard of that cruise line ... I bet you are ready to come home - I don't care how much you like someone - 14 day - omw - I would be ready to come home.. We are going to have to have a skypes conference call ;0) Glad your Mom is ok.. Phyl - LOL watching football and me telling you to go for a walk LOL Well - I never got out of p.j.s - I spent most of last night and ALL DAY trying to get this crap figured out - right now I think I owe estate $3800 but don't know why - lost a spread sheet - when keyboard locked up.. I never went to the baby shower - gift is on my desk - hope fully she's still working (down the street from me) or will have to drop it off when in PS.. I'm brain dead - so I will wait till tomorrow to double ck my #'s but by then I will be confused on how I arrived at what I have right now. Phyl - all those things sound good.. Karla - Hugs on the pain hitting you - rest please xoxox Janet

LOL Karla - I left bed unmade and stuff in the sink cuz he was suppose to come to clean today- hasn't been since before Christmas and since I cleaned last week - house isn't bad at all - but he called and said they called me in should I go - I said yes - no now I gotta clean up what I didn't last night and this morning Oh it's not cutting into my furlough LOL that's next friday :0) but I have plans w/my gf candy - It's going to cut into my night tonite or my weekend - I'm not an accountant and it will take me a long time to get it in a format that's understandable ;0) - I know what needs to be done - but there are diff ways to add 2+2 - you still come up w/4 but in a diff way - I know when I try and do budgets - I make them more complicated than they should be - and I get confused easily lol I'm at work right now - but got call that rent ck's need to be picked up and it got me to thinking that I gotta write ck to bro's estate - so called the sec and we got talking and figured they haven't done the account correctly at all - so she and I are going to do it - I think I will be asking for some $$$ back from the accountant - Well got 1/2 hr - need to get a couple things done - will cbl

Karla i was wondering if your town had them (taxis) LOL Glad the pain isn't bad... Fingers crossed it stays that way.. Might not be on tonite - talked to lawyer secretary today about bro's accounting - and the stupid accountant has it all f'd up they haven't taken into consideration the bills I pay from the ranches - so it's all messed up - I am going to have to get the ranch ck book out and do a spread sheet - then make sure it balances w/his stuff - Have a baby shower tomorrow- need to stop by the store on the way home - need nails done - and something for dinner - Andrew got called into work - so house didn't get cleaned.. Well it will all get done - may just be drive by tonite when I get home depend on if I get involved in bookkeeping or not ;0)

WTG KAREN - GOAL !!!!!!!!

Good Morning Gang... Phyl - The combination of wine & cheese - cut the cheese (pun not intended lol we done want that lol) and keep the wine - that might help some.. Cheese has tons of salt & fat.. But sounds like you have a plan - I don't like Winco brand veggie they are always full of ice - but stater bro & target brand are ok - but on broc I like fresh - Steph - You are such a sweetheart w/your pink ribbon stuff - Have fun and be safe.. Karla - How you doing today- rest and don't over do it ok.. Yep Phyl sometimes the computer is just too much - I hear you on that on ..

OMG Karla - how scary to wake up w/that tube - I have only had 2 surgeries - and neither time did I even know they intubated me and my throat never hurt.. Sure glad you are home safe and sound - yep being taken care of is nice and ya I bet you would doze.. the only pill I take on a full tummy is my blood pressure pill.. How nice of your sister - you better go !!! You can afford it and you need a break ... LOL 15 yrs - you got be beat - I think mines like 9 or 10 - I would have never beleived that I would have gone this long w/o some hanky panky ;0) - My hormones must have died.. Yep had gym - going to eat dinner and watch tv - yep friday tomorrow !!! Next Friday is my FF - My gf Candy and I are going to get in the car and see where it takes us for the day.. Phyl - Am I going to have to hunt you down - I see you posted on FB but havent made it here... Did you get your veggies - How's your Mom.. Candice - Aren't you home yet....

Drive by - have gym in 10 ... Karla is fine - sounded great - she left message on my house phone around 12:45 - surgery earlier than expected - she's just waiting for DD to pick her up at 5:30 p.m. Poor thing had to wait that long - I would have called a taxi LOL Karla - So glad you are ok - was thinking of you this morning - Phyl - where in the hell are you - you need 4 corners to upd lbt LOL - I know you went to Costco today ;0)

IMHO - you don't need a fill - what are you eating?? how many calories - if you are working out a lot you may need to up your calories a couple times a week Plus your weight loss is going to slow as the weight comes off - you have done EXCELLENT 10-14 lbs - average is 1 - 2 lbs a week - so you are doing better than average. Remember it didn't come on over night it's not going to come off over night.. Eat healthy - vary your calories and keep up the exercise - it will come off.. Oh ya - it's normal to get hungry - heck I'm hungry often - mostly an hour before my next meal - and in between - That's where healthy Snacks come in - or Water - crystal lite ..