TwinsMama

Osa is 100% right. It's hard to be committed to the process when you are feeling let down or disappointed in the therapist.

Yes, they are much better. Sad that I know that (been dieting that long). Good that we have better options these days.

My goal is to go back to NY & Co. I love that their stuff looks good but is not that expensive. Plus I miss shopping clearance in the expensive stores like Nordies and getting nice quality for what I'd pay for poorer quality plus size clothes. Also, we have loads of boutiques in the city that only go up to like a size 10/12. I would love to get some custom pieces that no one else has!

My first time out with my friends post-op I told them, look I can't eat alot so be ready to be amazed. They were and no one made me feel bad about it. When we go out, I get Soup, seafood, or an appetizer. I never finish my food so once I'm done I just chat while others finish eating. My friends and family are loving that I can't finish my food because they know they get my leftovers. They literally sit and watch me eat so they can get dibs once I'm done. The only thing that has been an adjustment has been not getting a drink of any kind. Knowing myself if I order a drink I'll want to drink and eat too close together. So I constantly remind myself not to order one...once I get past that, I'll be golden.

I'm not far enough out to see anything sagging (due to the sleeve at least) yet. However this was and is a concern for me. I thought about this a lot pre-op. What kind of sealed the deal for me was when one of the Vets told another newbie (parapharasing) "No one ever sees someone walking down the street and says WOW, that's a lot of sagging skin, but they do say WOW that's a lot of weight/fat". That got me to thinking, better to have sagging skin than 100s of lbs of extra weight.

Yes, perfectly normal. Many sleevers discover their tastes change. Before surgery I loved cheese, milk, and most any kind of Protein Drink. Post-op I can't do any Protein Shakes (they make me throw up), milk makes me throw up, and I can only tolerate mild cheeses (like a small pinch). On the other hand I was not a fan of eggs pre-op but I've been able to at least keep egg whites down.

Could be your body's way of dumping. I have a friend who had RnY and she described similiar symptoms during a dumping episode. I dump with the sleeve but have not had the crash (sleepiness). Normally when I dump I am WIDE awake.

Oh we don't doubt he's a good hubby/Dad. All we're saying is that just as Moms go crazy and need extra help sometimes, Dads do too. He may go crazy and that's fine for a bit. Right now you can only worry about your health and well being. Better to do that now so that you'll recover faster/better. Once you're over the initial hump, you'll both be able to look back and breathe a sigh of relief.

Hope you feel better...hugs to you!

Listen to clk. I'm finding out (even with 150+ lbs to lose) I'm a slow loser. 11 in 6 weeks. That sucks but the more I read about people's journeys on this site, the more I realize it is not that rare to be a slow loser. The only thing I would add is get off the pills. The last thing you'd want is to be ready to be cleared and then because of some toxin in your system they push your approval back until it's out of you. My surgeon made it clear that she (part of the group practice) would not operate on anyone with any diet drugs in their system for at least 6 months. This was to ensure there were no lingering side effects or other adverse problems prior to going into surgery. She may be extreme but she is from the better safe than sorry camp.

You may have to make a little noise. I would most certainly let the Dr. know this is not acceptable and I would start by saying it to the staff behind the desk. Then make sure you follow up with a letter to whoever is in management with the center where you usually go. Drs have to answer to authority too and the fact that you had to do so much just to get there, outrageous.

My period ended a few days before surgery and then I woke up the day after surgery with it again. Stayed for another 2 weeks. The only upside is that I hurt so bad from my complications that I never noticed any cramps. That was my silver lining.

Don't stress, the last thing you want to do is raise your blood pressure and get sent home without surgery. I can tell you, even with complications, I was still able to do basic things (slowly and carefully) after 1.5 weeks. Of course everyone is different. Since your hubby stresses handling your child, can you line up another support system? If you have friends or family that can come and give him a break for a few hours each day the first week or 2 that would be great. Also, you and hubby prepare meals and freeze them ahead of time. The more you can do to be prepared the better off you'll be when the day gets here.

I told my coworker that I was a cheap date. She laughed until we went to lunch. Now she doesn't want to take turns treating because she said I'm getting the raw deal. I had to tell her that if I invite you out, I still expect you to eat what you want. Funny thing is that she only orders the same thing so I always know what to expect. She's a cheap date too.

Oh wow I can't do salad until I'm at least 2 months (maybe 3) out. My Dr. told me to avoid raw veggies for a few months. How did the salad go down? That is one of the only foods I miss. I love salads!

Disco I'm with you. I'm apparently a slowwwwwww loser. At six weeks I'm only 11 lbs down. My clothes feel no looser either. So yeah I feel your frustration. One thing I did that has helped me is to buy the mini muffin tins. I now make a crust less mini quiche (finally something I don't throw up). I've found 3 of these keeps me full and I'm finally getting close to my Protein goal. I also bought the mini bread loaves so I hope once I can keep more things down I'll make mini veggie/meat lasagna. Using the mini tins makes my life easier and I'm not so frustrated because the servings are perfect.

Everyone is different. I had complications so I was literally in the hospital for almost a week. Normally the hospital stay is only 1-2 nights. So I'm a bit out of the norm. However, I will say that if you do get help try and get help for the evenings (baths, meal prep, etc.). My Dr. didn't clear me to drive until I was 3 weeks almost 4 (and that's with me not on any pain meds past the 7th day post-op). So try to get someone to do the driving for your kids for at least the first 2 weeks. If you don't do pain well and could possibly need your pain meds for longer than 2 weeks, plan to have someone drive as long as you're taking those. You're not supposed to drive on those and it is not worth the risk to everyone's safety. As for other help, if you could get someone to prepare meals for your kids (unless you can cook and freeze) that would be helpful for maybe the first week you're back home. The good thing is that your kids are a bit older. So the older ones can hopefully help with the younger ones. Daytime help probably won't be needed much once you get back home. With the kids in school, you can sleep during the day as needed.

I'm 6 weeks and was told that you will be able to eat about a 1 - 1.5 cups after about a year. But most Vets that I know said they still have probs when they try and drink with a meal. I do wonder if it really bothers them or if they are so used to not doing it that it feels weird.

Very good, that you have the option. It is very helpful to have a good Nut that you connect with.

I'm on the other coast so I don't have a referral for you. But I didn't like the Nut during my 6 month pre-qual phase. She too was no bigger than a size 2 and never had weight issues. In fact, most of us couldn't stand her because she was so judgemental and rude to those of us seeing her for WLS. After a while I decided I'd do the best I could and follow all the rules just because she seemed like she was looking for all of us to fail. Some people eventually did leave the process and waited for an opening with another Nut. I was determined to stay the course and not start all over. In the long run, I actually am glad I had her. It took me months to feel this way. I used my dislike of her to prove her wrong that I couldn't stay the course. The smug look on her face each time I showed up and had followed my plan...priceless!

I'm at 6 weeks today and still feel exhausted. I went back to work at a month and have a long commute so that is part of it. By the end of the day I am literally falling into the bed. I read a couple of Vets say it took them 8 weeks or more to feel any sense of normal again. Good luck to you!

You know what, regardless of what you may feel about yourself, looking from the outside in...you've made MAJOR accomplishments. These are things only YOU could do. You decided to work your butt off and graduate, you applied for the jobs, you showed up for the interviews, you you you! Not to mention you also have a husband which alone takes lots of time and effort (even the best of them). So you've done great things with your life and it is a shame you're not able to enjoy/see how really strong and capable you are. Changing self-defeating thinking is tough but it can be done. Have you tried talking to a counselor? Even if you can't pay for one, you can usually find one through community services. We all get down on ourselves at times so we can all relate. One thing I do want to know...do you ever do anything just for you? I mean outside of looking for work and going to school? It may be that you're stressed even beyond what you think. Sometimes taking a few minutes each day to be alone and do something you enjoy, can work wonders. Try that a few days this week and see if you're feeling better about things.

You look fab! Good for you. It amazes me when I hear that people are so judgemental about the surgery. While that has not been my experience it breaks my heart to hear others going through that. Good for you for thinking of your health. The sad reality is that people get used to us the way we are. They worry, get jealous, etc. and that comes out in their hurtful comments. You've gained your life back and that is exactly what you wanted!

My husband did this pre-op. He's always been supportive of the surgery. At first I thought he was trying to sabotage me. Then I realized, food has been literally the 3rd member of our marriage since day 1. He would literally forget that I could no longer indulge. After a few conversations about it, I got him to realize he had to think about my food choices before buying me treats. That seemed to help him (not be frustred when I threw items out) and I.

I was switched to Om. this week. I was taking a liquid version and it was HORRIBLE. At 1 week I would not have been able to swallow it. I noticed that the pharmacy said to not break it. As an FYI, my Dr. didn't clear me to start taking any ppi's until 2 weeks post-op.