losinginNJ

Hey all, well I am 3 months post op and have lost 67lbs and I am very happy. For the ones waiting for surgery or just had it done it is totally worth it...here are my before and now pictures
Before

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Today 3 months later

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It was great. The staff there is wonderful. Had a great experience. I had my own room. Dr Prokurat is great. I saw him before the surgery, then after...I was semi with it, then saw him the next 2 days. I was in the hospital for 2 days because my white blood cell count was high so they wanted to be safe. Also there was a harpist going around playing for everyone and other musicians....you will have a great experience

Hello Nov sleevers ...4 days post opt doing well...I had to stay in hospital for 2 days because my white blood cell count was up but better safe then sorry....I didn't even crave any thanksgiving stuff yesterday...my goal today is trying to get more Protein in today...probably more broth cause although I am getting it in the Isopure has a weird filmy after taste...everything is trial and error right now and I am getting better once I figured it out...my mom took me out for a drive today, I was starting to get cabin fever....
.btw warning for all pre opts the worse time of this experience for me was the the liquid you have to drink with the leak test...I have no words to describe the awfulness of this liquid...I had difficulty holding it down but I did until the test was over and it all came up...worse experience ever

Congrats!!!!

A year today! Not quite at my goal...like 25lbs away but it will happen
11/19/12 weighed 289lbs
11/19/13 weigh 173lbs
11/19/12 size 24
11/19/13 size 10
It wasn't easy but I am so glad I did it

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I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

I said this on another page but I will say it again. Before the sleeve I had low self esteem and a guy I was with treated me like crap, so I believed I wasn't sexually appealing to guys. Well it has been almost 7 months and I am down 105lbs. I have been seeing a guy and wow. I never had sex like this. I wasn't afraid to be naked in front of him (even though I am a bit wobbley) he really loves my body, multiple positions and orgasms, and it goes on for hours. So yes sex after being sleeved has been amazing for me so far. I am no longer shy about my body

I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

Had my first date in 33 years (eeek!!!), 3 months post surgery. It wasn't a success because I hadn't really shifted my thinking about my worth at that time, although how I looked had altered a lot.
I wasn't desperate, probably just grateful to be noticed. But looking back 2 months later, I am wondering what the heck I was thinking lol.
He wasn't right for me from the outset but I agreed to go on a couple of dates just because he was interested in me.... Not good, eh?
But it gave me a chance to take a long hard look at me and decide I was worth more than settling for second best cos I didn't feel worthy. Since those dates, my confidence has come on leaps and bounds with the compliments I have had about my new look.
Last weekend bumped into someone who was on the periphery of my life 35 years ago. Got chatting, he took my number and called me today :-) He was interesting and funny, seemed well balanced and laid back- so I have agreed to meet up. Watch this space as I wind myself into a state as it approaches, lol.
For me, dating post sleeve continues to evolve slowly. But I won't be settling for anything less than I deserve this time...

I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

Thanks ladies. Turns out, I was worried about nothing. I'm still not 100% comfortable with myself like I was before but he didn't burn out his eyes with a red hot fire poker after gazing upon my nekkidness so it's all good.

Thanks ladies and yes I was happy to meet him for round 2. I think I got him a little worked up over our texting this week cause he jumped me as soon as I sat down on the couch. I do like him. Before we had sex I did tell him about being sleeved, he asked if I was on the pill and I told him we still needed to be EXTRA safe, he was totally understanding, still haven't shown him my before pictures. He is a little older then me (by 6 yrs) and he is very different then the jerk (he was wham bam done while this guy is like a marathon, seriously 2 hours last time, it is better then the 30 day squat challenge) He is very giving and he loves to touch me. I thought I would be more shy about my wobbily thighs but he has no problems. My one girlfriend said it cause he is a guy and you are naked and that is all he cares about. I don't know if this is just a sex thing but I am having fun and so is he

Ok so I had to share this with some people who would understand. I haven't had sex in a VERY long time partly because I was just too shy because of how big I was. I had very low self esteem made worse by one a*****e who did a real number on me, told me I was lucky that someone would ever want me sexually and other terrible things...
So I was sleeved in November and I have been going out meeting guys. I am now down 102 lbs and I have been noticing guys checking me out which is freakin awesome and I am no longer shy...well I have been seeing this one guy casually, nothing too serious and long story short last night we had sex. First time I didn't feel the need to cover up my body before, during, or after. He was very good and kept saying how much he loved my body (seriously almost cried but held it together). It was great, but I am gonna keep it casual, don't want to be tied down(metaphorically anyway) yet. I want to date around a bit (I was very safe last night). This is going to be an awesome summer. For the first time I am feeling empowered and I love it

I am 35 soon to be 36 and I have never
- been in a serious relationship
- been in love (lust yes)
- felt sexy
- had high self esteem
- been called beautiful by anyone else but my family members and friends
- wore a bikini
- gone skinny dipping
I plan to fix all of these this year (hoping to fix #1)

Good idea holding off. I do alot of clearance shopping or sales rack cause one month you are one size the next another. As for mindset it was hard for me. I was a size 22/24 now a size 14 almost 12. Lane Bryant is now too big for me but I still look there. When I went to try on dresses I got an XL and my mom was like you aren't in that size any more you are a M. It is hard to wrap my head around it till I look in a mirror. The worst is when you are between sizes. Where 16s are too big but 14s are too tight. I invested in a belt. Also I purged my closet of all my old clothes. It was upsetting because I loved those clothes but it was hard to let go of my wardrobe. I think cause I am still transitioning and haven't been able to build my own yet. But wait till you are in dressing room trying on a size you thought you would never be in. Or a store you always wanted to shop at and you can finally shop there...it is a great feeling

Just tried on a size 12 jean and they fit...comfortably....before surgery I was a size 24 jean.....holy crap....doing my happy dance!!!!!! My goal is a size 10....maybe 8....going for my final bridesmaids dress fitting tonight (they had to take it in) and the only thing I am dreading is putting on the 4 inch heels

Just tried on a size 12 jean and they fit...comfortably....before surgery I was a size 24 jean.....holy crap....doing my happy dance!!!!!! My goal is a size 10....maybe 8....going for my final bridesmaids dress fitting tonight (they had to take it in) and the only thing I am dreading is putting on the 4 inch heels

I too was shy but since losing the weight I have gained confidence. My one friend told me to just be myself and to put myself out there. I have met some guys and am doing stuff I would have never had the guts to do before. Here are some of my tips
When I go out with friends I always look my best and have a blast with them Giggle, smile, dance, sing...and if a guy makes eye contact smile at him, look away for a second, then look back and smile...if he is interested he will approach.
If you are dancing and a guy comes up to you to dance have a series of hand gestures with your friends...one that says help get me out of here another that says I am ok.
The one that I found most useful was to just let go and have fun. Don't read too much into it. Don't think too much. You don't have to say much. Listen, maybe touch his arm or hand. Smile, play with your hair. Respond to his questions. If you blush that is ok too. Remember guys get shy and nervous too. If a guy is really interested in you he will be very obvious. Also I am pretty oblivious when it comes to guys flirting. My friends had to point out to me that guys were checking me out, so chances are you are being checked out. Have fun

Just tried on a size 12 jean and they fit...comfortably....before surgery I was a size 24 jean.....holy crap....doing my happy dance!!!!!! My goal is a size 10....maybe 8....going for my final bridesmaids dress fitting tonight (they had to take it in) and the only thing I am dreading is putting on the 4 inch heels