losinginNJ

I'm getting married next Saturday and my wedding dress is a size 10! I have never been so happy in my life with the decision.

Just tried on a size 12 jean and they fit...comfortably....before surgery I was a size 24 jean.....holy crap....doing my happy dance!!!!!! My goal is a size 10....maybe 8....going for my final bridesmaids dress fitting tonight (they had to take it in) and the only thing I am dreading is putting on the 4 inch heels

I too was shy but since losing the weight I have gained confidence. My one friend told me to just be myself and to put myself out there. I have met some guys and am doing stuff I would have never had the guts to do before. Here are some of my tips
When I go out with friends I always look my best and have a blast with them Giggle, smile, dance, sing...and if a guy makes eye contact smile at him, look away for a second, then look back and smile...if he is interested he will approach.
If you are dancing and a guy comes up to you to dance have a series of hand gestures with your friends...one that says help get me out of here another that says I am ok.
The one that I found most useful was to just let go and have fun. Don't read too much into it. Don't think too much. You don't have to say much. Listen, maybe touch his arm or hand. Smile, play with your hair. Respond to his questions. If you blush that is ok too. Remember guys get shy and nervous too. If a guy is really interested in you he will be very obvious. Also I am pretty oblivious when it comes to guys flirting. My friends had to point out to me that guys were checking me out, so chances are you are being checked out. Have fun

I too was shy but since losing the weight I have gained confidence. My one friend told me to just be myself and to put myself out there. I have met some guys and am doing stuff I would have never had the guts to do before. Here are some of my tips
When I go out with friends I always look my best and have a blast with them Giggle, smile, dance, sing...and if a guy makes eye contact smile at him, look away for a second, then look back and smile...if he is interested he will approach.
If you are dancing and a guy comes up to you to dance have a series of hand gestures with your friends...one that says help get me out of here another that says I am ok.
The one that I found most useful was to just let go and have fun. Don't read too much into it. Don't think too much. You don't have to say much. Listen, maybe touch his arm or hand. Smile, play with your hair. Respond to his questions. If you blush that is ok too. Remember guys get shy and nervous too. If a guy is really interested in you he will be very obvious. Also I am pretty oblivious when it comes to guys flirting. My friends had to point out to me that guys were checking me out, so chances are you are being checked out. Have fun

Alright my fellow Singletons...Ya know that thing we all dread? Just happened to me....about an hour ago...Now I have only talked to this guy for two weeks or so (so it's not like heavy emotions were involved) and he made the comment that this one girl wouldn't leave him alone and when I asked what was wrong with her, he said it was that she was too big. Like 280 pounds....I asked him "Would you totally freak out if I told you I used to be that big?" and he said "No, "used to be" is used to be." I should have known this was too good to be true. Today, he saw some pictures of me when I was at my heaviest and he FREAKED OUT! He even told me "I'm freaking out, you were really large." and I told him "If you can't handle it, I understand, but you had better let me know becuase there are plenty of people that can handle it." well...we went back and forth and I was (admittedly) a little on the defensive... he asked me "How big are you now?" and I told him I was 208 lbs (77 lbs down in 4 months *woot* *woot*) and what my goal weight was and all this stuff but I just felt like he was patronizing me at this point. It was humiliating, and I have to tell you, it made me HOPPIN' MAD! I could chew ten-penny nails right now. I told him I was done with the conversation and he said "I think someone is being a little oversensetive." and I told him "well, I told you before that I had issues with this type of thing, so how do you think I should act?" and the HE said "I don't know, maybe I should just quit talking to you because I don't want to keep hurting your feelings." A real peach isn't he? I told him "No, don't you use my feelings as a scapegoat. If you can't handle how big I was, then you tell me the truth!" (like seriously...grow some balls) well he didn't say anything and I said "nevermind...whatever makes you feel better", and that was the end of it.
Listen, I am a very emotional person and I am totally a cryer. But even though my feelings were hurt, the biggest thing I feel is anger! I went back to my Facebook and almost deleted every fat picture of me I could find...but then I stopped...there are memories in those pictures, and even though I was very large, I still love myself...I love myself NOW and I love myself THEN too! That large person is a part of what made me who I am. I know it sounds silly, but to someone that really cares, it won't matter all that much!
This is just my little testimonial...Y'all, if I can survive that, ANYONE can! So if anything like this ever happens to you, DO NOT LET SOMEONE MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF!!

I bought a couple of dresses at Old Navy in the clearance section and have been living in them this summer

I bought a couple of dresses at Old Navy in the clearance section and have been living in them this summer

Hi everyone, I'm really glad that they have this app for sleevers to be each others support system. I was sleeved nov1st so almost 8 months out & My highest weight & surgery day was 328 & now I'm 220 so that's 108 down so far. Also I've attached my before picture & afters along the way to show.

Me at prior surgery on left & the right photo is at a little over 3months post op.

Me at prior surgery on left the right photo is at a little over 6 months post

Me at 7 1/2 months
Also having my 9month check up on July 9th mean while my 9 months isn't Til August 1st. At that time or the next day I will post newer pics

Well...my sleeve date was nov.27 2012...here it is june 25 2013...and im am so proud to say I started at 470lbs...and I am down to 310lbs...I went for my cjeck up yesterday and was so geeked about my numbers...im hold true to a lil less than 1500 calories a day..im getting my Protein in everyday...and im working out everyday...life is so different now...I looked at my pre-op pic vs. Yesterday's pic..and to be honest...it was a real moment for me...I cant..wont mess up this second chance at life...

I am stalled but I am retaining Water cause I am very close to my time of the.month...went shopping tonight and put on size 14 shorts didn't get them cause they were a bit baggy and I am very close to being in a 12!!!! Also got a swim suit...size 14 bottoms had to do a size 16 top because of the girls but I was happy. As soon as I am done with school this week (I am a teacher) I am making it my goal to go to the gym every morning, trying to tone my upper thighs and tummy

Highest weight. 225.5surgery 11/12/12. Now 152.2. Will be wearing a size 14 skirt golfing this week. Still have a stomach so don't know what size I can get to in future. Started at 22/24 or size 2x!!!

Size 16 for some stores is the highest they go, some 18.

A month after surgery I went shopping for and saw I went down a size in shirts not pants...3 month post op I got to shop at NY and Company and I could fit in a xl and l....now almost 7 months post op I can almost get in a size 12...so before you know it your clothes will be falling off of you

A month after surgery I went shopping for and saw I went down a size in shirts not pants...3 month post op I got to shop at NY and Company and I could fit in a xl and l....now almost 7 months post op I can almost get in a size 12...so before you know it your clothes will be falling off of you

For me it is a combination of both. Physically I am able to do more, go longer, have better flexibility..but my self confidence is through the roof. Especially seeing the effect I have on my boyfriend with a pair of sexy panties or a pretty bra. My body is my body..he loved it before I had the surgery and he loves it after. He actually makes a point of kissing and rubbing my scars to let me know that he loves them as part of me. Don't hide it..they are your reminder that you will not go back to the way you were.
Ancient warriors used to mark themselves before going into battle or after battle with the number of kills they made..yes I know this is a bit of an extreme reference but this is a battle for me everyday..pound for pound..all the blood, sweat and tears I go through. I wear my scars like that...

You need to get out of your own head girlie!!!! We are our own worst critics..every day our bodies are undergoing such an amazing transformation and yes I know sometimes it is hard to think of yourself as "being thin" or "looking good" but you have to start somewhere!!!
This is going to sound so freaking off the wall but I have been building myself a positive reinforcement fortress...so like I have sticky notes on my mirror saying things like "You are beautiful" or "Keep up the great work" or on my fridge that say.."Do you really want that crap you are about to put in your mouth". I also do a mental kind of exercise in bed before I go to sleep..where I visualize a part of my body and like mentally admire it..
Before you go running to call the white coat guys..just try it..we are are own worst critics but something a therapist taught me is that we are also our best and most awesome cheerleaders. It is all perspective.

Good idea holding off. I do alot of clearance shopping or sales rack cause one month you are one size the next another. As for mindset it was hard for me. I was a size 22/24 now a size 14 almost 12. Lane Bryant is now too big for me but I still look there. When I went to try on dresses I got an XL and my mom was like you aren't in that size any more you are a M. It is hard to wrap my head around it till I look in a mirror. The worst is when you are between sizes. Where 16s are too big but 14s are too tight. I invested in a belt. Also I purged my closet of all my old clothes. It was upsetting because I loved those clothes but it was hard to let go of my wardrobe. I think cause I am still transitioning and haven't been able to build my own yet. But wait till you are in dressing room trying on a size you thought you would never be in. Or a store you always wanted to shop at and you can finally shop there...it is a great feeling

Uhm, when I started I was a 24/26 pants and 2x top. After surgery the the sizes kinda just flew downward.. but let me tell ya it's great not to have to pay $50 bucks for a pair of pants in Lane Bryant!
I can shop anywhere! Clearance racks here I come!
I am currently a 12 pants m/L top and I have 30lbs to go!

Good idea holding off. I do alot of clearance shopping or sales rack cause one month you are one size the next another. As for mindset it was hard for me. I was a size 22/24 now a size 14 almost 12. Lane Bryant is now too big for me but I still look there. When I went to try on dresses I got an XL and my mom was like you aren't in that size any more you are a M. It is hard to wrap my head around it till I look in a mirror. The worst is when you are between sizes. Where 16s are too big but 14s are too tight. I invested in a belt. Also I purged my closet of all my old clothes. It was upsetting because I loved those clothes but it was hard to let go of my wardrobe. I think cause I am still transitioning and haven't been able to build my own yet. But wait till you are in dressing room trying on a size you thought you would never be in. Or a store you always wanted to shop at and you can finally shop there...it is a great feeling

I went down 2 cup sizes, making me a C which I don't think I ever was. I was 289lbs at 5ft3. I was a size 22/24 now I am a 14 and 184lbs. I wasn't happy about losing it in my bust but I am getting more hourglass like. My stomach is flabby as are my thighs but I am working to tone those. I don't regret this at all...wait till more comes off and when you go down a size or two. I literally jumped for joy in the dressing room when I fit into a medium. Confidence will comr

I went down 2 cup sizes, making me a C which I don't think I ever was. I was 289lbs at 5ft3. I was a size 22/24 now I am a 14 and 184lbs. I wasn't happy about losing it in my bust but I am getting more hourglass like. My stomach is flabby as are my thighs but I am working to tone those. I don't regret this at all...wait till more comes off and when you go down a size or two. I literally jumped for joy in the dressing room when I fit into a medium. Confidence will comr

I went down 2 cup sizes, making me a C which I don't think I ever was. I was 289lbs at 5ft3. I was a size 22/24 now I am a 14 and 184lbs. I wasn't happy about losing it in my bust but I am getting more hourglass like. My stomach is flabby as are my thighs but I am working to tone those. I don't regret this at all...wait till more comes off and when you go down a size or two. I literally jumped for joy in the dressing room when I fit into a medium. Confidence will comr

I said this on another page but I will say it again. Before the sleeve I had low self esteem and a guy I was with treated me like crap, so I believed I wasn't sexually appealing to guys. Well it has been almost 7 months and I am down 105lbs. I have been seeing a guy and wow. I never had sex like this. I wasn't afraid to be naked in front of him (even though I am a bit wobbley) he really loves my body, multiple positions and orgasms, and it goes on for hours. So yes sex after being sleeved has been amazing for me so far. I am no longer shy about my body

Woke up in ONE-DERLAND today! Finally

Ok so I had to share this with some people who would understand. I haven't had sex in a VERY long time partly because I was just too shy because of how big I was. I had very low self esteem made worse by one a*****e who did a real number on me, told me I was lucky that someone would ever want me sexually and other terrible things...
So I was sleeved in November and I have been going out meeting guys. I am now down 102 lbs and I have been noticing guys checking me out which is freakin awesome and I am no longer shy...well I have been seeing this one guy casually, nothing too serious and long story short last night we had sex. First time I didn't feel the need to cover up my body before, during, or after. He was very good and kept saying how much he loved my body (seriously almost cried but held it together). It was great, but I am gonna keep it casual, don't want to be tied down(metaphorically anyway) yet. I want to date around a bit (I was very safe last night). This is going to be an awesome summer. For the first time I am feeling empowered and I love it