greensleeve

I really don't care what a bunch of gym rats who are obsessed with their looks think of the surgery. For gods sake, one of the guys has his penis size listed in his signature.
Many of them take steroids or other supplements that aren't good for you. Is that the easy way out?
They just don't get that some people are hungry all the time, that once you have yo yo dieted for ten years your body won't let you lose weight.
Guys who hang out online talking about how big their muscles are aren't usually the brightest. Why cares?
One of them even said he will still look better than anyone who has the surgery so it doesn't bother him. Clearly much of the focus is on looks and not health.

I think some women like big men because it makes them feel smaller.

have you considered acupuncture? I know two ppl who quit that way. Worth looking into.

I've just never thought of food that way. I think I'm already over grieving certain foods. I feel somewhat better now. I just want to start a new life!

Is your husband overweight?

There's nothing worse than guys in college. I'm so sorry that happened to you. They are idiots.
I lived in a college town for a long time and was often hooted and hollered at for various reasons. One time I was literally wearing a huge long coat, boots, a huge hat and scarf. I could have been a man. It was freezing and these idiots still honked the horn and screamed and hollered at me.
It's a stupid thing that young men do to feel better about themselves, whether they are dying you are fat or are whistling at women both are meant to make you feel like you are less than human and just an object.
So what you are fat? That's like them saying "you are blonde! Hey you are blonde!" Um ok???? As you know you can lose weight but they can't grow their tiny penises any bigger.
It's easy to scream at people from behind the wheel of a car if you are an insecure idiot.
Honestly after your surgery you will probably have boys hooting at you for being hot. That's what they do. I would keep a phone and next time that happens start videoing them and tell then you will put it on YouTube and Facebook.

Just tell them due to Hippa laws you weren't allowed to share!
I think if someone I worked with was off and started losing weight I wouldn't want to pester them and honestly it's none of my business.
If they don't have anything better to worry about than your surgery then their lives must be really boring.

I've noticed those of us who need the surgery tend to have bad boundaries and want to please people.
Honestly I'm not going to tell many people because I have enough to think about and worry about. I don't need to have other people questioning every thing I eat and do. Or keeping track of how much I lose; or asking a ton of questions.
You don't owe it to anyone to reveal your medical history, just like your coworkers don't owe it to you to tell you that they had their tubes tied or their gall bladder out. It's none of their business!

I've noticed those of us who need the surgery tend to have bad boundaries and want to please people.
Honestly I'm not going to tell many people because I have enough to think about and worry about. I don't need to have other people questioning every thing I eat and do. Or keeping track of how much I lose; or asking a ton of questions.
You don't owe it to anyone to reveal your medical history, just like your coworkers don't owe it to you to tell you that they had their tubes tied or their gall bladder out. It's none of their business!

I'll take as long as I can get. I have paid short term disability. I plan on at least three if not four weeks.
One thing is I really want to get into my routine and also where I work people bring in Bagels and donuts and stuff almost every day. I just want to be further along so I don't have to see all that right after surgery.

Honestly when I lose weight it makes me uncomfortable when people comment.
And I don't say anything to other people who lose weight because I think it's rude. Because seriously what if the reason they are losing weight is because they have cancer?
I think a lot if people take it like "oh so I didn't look good before huh?"

Ha! Yes I'm sure it will get a lot!!!

Honestly when I lose weight it makes me uncomfortable when people comment.
And I don't say anything to other people who lose weight because I think it's rude. Because seriously what if the reason they are losing weight is because they have cancer?
I think a lot if people take it like "oh so I didn't look good before huh?"

Good for you!

I saw one of your pics and I think you might have some body image issues. Don't we all?
You look beautiful even with blurred out eyes.
You realize even Demi Moore doesn't look like Demi Moore right? She has had so much plastic surgery and Botox, and then there's photoshop to help her look shiny and new.
I think the deal is it's in your head and you thought losing weight would make your head issues go away. But I think Demi Moore probably frets about aging and her body, or else she wouldn't have plastic surgery and Botox.
Before and after pics:
http://www.slideshare.net/techblogshare/demi-moore-plastic-surgery-before-and-after-photos

I have noticed that a lot of surgery candidates just don't do anything with their hair, make up or try to wear nice clothes. So they go from wearing t shirts, with blah hair, no make up and a look on their face like "please don't take my picture" to wearing hot clothes, cute jewelry, great stylish hair, great make up, getting teeth whitened, tanning, and smiling hugely. You sound like you already took pains to look polished and hot so you aren't going to have that same difference in the after pics.

I think it might be like having a baby. You can research and read and talk about it until you are blue in the face but until you actually have the baby you don't know how you are going to feel. And you are glad you had her but it sucks too!!
That's how I'm seeing it preop.
I'm curious though, I thought pizza would be a no no because it's not enough Protein?

Another reason not to tell, at least for me is this. The one time in my life I was open about losing weight I was on Weight Watchers and the meetings were at work.
We tend to have a lot of good days here with really tempting food. One day I just really felt like I couldn't stay away and so I declined going to the food day lunch they had.
My boss asked me and I said I was just not in the mood to be around a lot of food I couldn't have. She tried to argue jokingly.
She is overweight.
So almost everyone went to the room on their lunch breaks except me. She called me at my desk and told me to go up there.
It's sabotaging stuff like that and all jealousy and cattiness that I want to avoid.
You have every right not to share this and it's not lying.

I've noticed those of us who need the surgery tend to have bad boundaries and want to please people.
Honestly I'm not going to tell many people because I have enough to think about and worry about. I don't need to have other people questioning every thing I eat and do. Or keeping track of how much I lose; or asking a ton of questions.
You don't owe it to anyone to reveal your medical history, just like your coworkers don't owe it to you to tell you that they had their tubes tied or their gall bladder out. It's none of their business!

I really don't care what a bunch of gym rats who are obsessed with their looks think of the surgery. For gods sake, one of the guys has his penis size listed in his signature.
Many of them take steroids or other supplements that aren't good for you. Is that the easy way out?
They just don't get that some people are hungry all the time, that once you have yo yo dieted for ten years your body won't let you lose weight.
Guys who hang out online talking about how big their muscles are aren't usually the brightest. Why cares?
One of them even said he will still look better than anyone who has the surgery so it doesn't bother him. Clearly much of the focus is on looks and not health.

Another reason not to tell, at least for me is this. The one time in my life I was open about losing weight I was on Weight Watchers and the meetings were at work.
We tend to have a lot of good days here with really tempting food. One day I just really felt like I couldn't stay away and so I declined going to the food day lunch they had.
My boss asked me and I said I was just not in the mood to be around a lot of food I couldn't have. She tried to argue jokingly.
She is overweight.
So almost everyone went to the room on their lunch breaks except me. She called me at my desk and told me to go up there.
It's sabotaging stuff like that and all jealousy and cattiness that I want to avoid.
You have every right not to share this and it's not lying.

I've noticed those of us who need the surgery tend to have bad boundaries and want to please people.
Honestly I'm not going to tell many people because I have enough to think about and worry about. I don't need to have other people questioning every thing I eat and do. Or keeping track of how much I lose; or asking a ton of questions.
You don't owe it to anyone to reveal your medical history, just like your coworkers don't owe it to you to tell you that they had their tubes tied or their gall bladder out. It's none of their business!

Another reason not to tell, at least for me is this. The one time in my life I was open about losing weight I was on Weight Watchers and the meetings were at work.
We tend to have a lot of good days here with really tempting food. One day I just really felt like I couldn't stay away and so I declined going to the food day lunch they had.
My boss asked me and I said I was just not in the mood to be around a lot of food I couldn't have. She tried to argue jokingly.
She is overweight.
So almost everyone went to the room on their lunch breaks except me. She called me at my desk and told me to go up there.
It's sabotaging stuff like that and all jealousy and cattiness that I want to avoid.
You have every right not to share this and it's not lying.

I've noticed those of us who need the surgery tend to have bad boundaries and want to please people.
Honestly I'm not going to tell many people because I have enough to think about and worry about. I don't need to have other people questioning every thing I eat and do. Or keeping track of how much I lose; or asking a ton of questions.
You don't owe it to anyone to reveal your medical history, just like your coworkers don't owe it to you to tell you that they had their tubes tied or their gall bladder out. It's none of their business!

I really don't care what a bunch of gym rats who are obsessed with their looks think of the surgery. For gods sake, one of the guys has his penis size listed in his signature.
Many of them take steroids or other supplements that aren't good for you. Is that the easy way out?
They just don't get that some people are hungry all the time, that once you have yo yo dieted for ten years your body won't let you lose weight.
Guys who hang out online talking about how big their muscles are aren't usually the brightest. Why cares?
One of them even said he will still look better than anyone who has the surgery so it doesn't bother him. Clearly much of the focus is on looks and not health.