greensleeve

I know what you mean about doctors! I am going to be so happy when I can just have a medical issue and my weight isn't the first thing they go to.

I lost thirty pounds with WW three years ago and gained it all back plus 35 pounds. I know how it feels.
We know how to lose but we can't keep it off. It's why we need surgery. Our hunger hormones go into high gear after we lose weight.
Try not to beat yourself up.

I am switching to DePaul, I filled out the paperwork and sent it in today.
I also filed a complaint with Joint Commission.

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Hi!
I am a 23 year old female living in West Virginia. Recently, I got to my highest weight, 230 lbs. I am 5'4 and my BMI is 39.5. I am scared and embarrassed and humiliated and nervous for the trajectory my life could be on.
My main problem is compulsive eating. I have a NEED to eat, and if I don't I feel off, like I can't concentrate on anything else. I also tend to choose awful foods like fast food. Sometimes I think I'm doing it on purpose because I hate myself and who I've become and the unhealthy food is a punishment. I'm currently in therapy for binge eating and anxiety to hopefully deal with that.
Because of those issues, I'm worried if gastric sleeve will be able to help me. Certainly it'll help my physical self, but I'm afraid my mental food blocks could be too much. Can anyone else speak to this and relate?
Thank you so much!
Kelsey

Plus soda leaches nutrients out of your body and we need all the nutrients we can get.

I was told no carbonated drinks ever. It stretches out your sleeve.

She's just jealous.

yesterday i wrote a longish reply to this and before i could send, the app crashed!
just going to say, i belong here and we should ask alex to let us have our own forum. i am a stranger in a strange land here and in my surgery date club.
will try to recreate my reply later!

Apparently it was in my stomach. I used to be very high libido. We have had sex once in five weeks! And I don't miss it! I don't feel like I have any drive at all.
We used to do it two or three times a week. My husband is very patient thankfully. I am scared it's never going to come back!

I have to confess I miss alcohol.

The problem with telling a few select people about WLS is that they never keep it to themselves. They will tell one or two people who tell one or two people more and then they tell one or more people. You then have people watching every bite you eat, watching every pound you lose or gain, and many of them secretly hope that you fail. A few years out if you gain a few pounds they secretly feel elated that you had surgery for weight loss and can't keep it off. Who needs that additional pressure? I am not a big social media person as far as sharing my life for all to see so the thought process of sharing personal medical details with people who don't have a need to know is just silly. I do share on this forum because we are all in the same boat and offer the same support without fear of judgment or betrayal. On the outside...it's not that safe.

Oh I would hope people wouldn't be rude enough to ask why you are getting a divorce! Id probably just say "ask him."
Just because people ask doesn't mean they have a right to know. We live in a society where everyone wants to share every minute of their exciting lives on social media, where people want to document their entire WLS experience on YouTube: that is fine for them. Great.
But whatever happened to discretion and privacy?
I am not telling anyone at work. Some of them think I had a hysterectomy with complications. Whatever. I lost twenty pounds in a month and not one person has mentioned it which is awesome.
The last time I announced I was trying to lose weight by going to WW meetings at work I just felt under the microscope and like some people wanted me to fail, others were jealous. I am not a circus act or a form of entertainment.
Just because everyone wants to be on TV talking about the intimate details of their lives doesn't mean we are required to disclose the details of ours to our acquaintances.

Oh I would hope people wouldn't be rude enough to ask why you are getting a divorce! Id probably just say "ask him."
Just because people ask doesn't mean they have a right to know. We live in a society where everyone wants to share every minute of their exciting lives on social media, where people want to document their entire WLS experience on YouTube: that is fine for them. Great.
But whatever happened to discretion and privacy?
I am not telling anyone at work. Some of them think I had a hysterectomy with complications. Whatever. I lost twenty pounds in a month and not one person has mentioned it which is awesome.
The last time I announced I was trying to lose weight by going to WW meetings at work I just felt under the microscope and like some people wanted me to fail, others were jealous. I am not a circus act or a form of entertainment.
Just because everyone wants to be on TV talking about the intimate details of their lives doesn't mean we are required to disclose the details of ours to our acquaintances.

Oh I would hope people wouldn't be rude enough to ask why you are getting a divorce! Id probably just say "ask him."
Just because people ask doesn't mean they have a right to know. We live in a society where everyone wants to share every minute of their exciting lives on social media, where people want to document their entire WLS experience on YouTube: that is fine for them. Great.
But whatever happened to discretion and privacy?
I am not telling anyone at work. Some of them think I had a hysterectomy with complications. Whatever. I lost twenty pounds in a month and not one person has mentioned it which is awesome.
The last time I announced I was trying to lose weight by going to WW meetings at work I just felt under the microscope and like some people wanted me to fail, others were jealous. I am not a circus act or a form of entertainment.
Just because everyone wants to be on TV talking about the intimate details of their lives doesn't mean we are required to disclose the details of ours to our acquaintances.

I have 2 weeks to decide what to tell people when I return from work. My boss knows, but no one else does.
My first instinct is to lie and justify that lie by telling myself this is a personal journey and none of anyone's business. But I keep coming back to honesty. I feel that my over eating had/has a lot to do with lying to myself. And I don't know if covering up my success here is a continuation of dishonesty.
for what it's worth I don't know what I will do in the end. I may give a false truth because I do believe my successes are no one else's business. Or I may tell the truth. The only thing I am certain of, is my psychiatrist is going to get $275 to help me make that decision. ☺

My opinion is that once those people start paying my medical bills and fixing my meals they can be told about my surgery but until that time its none of their da** business so they don't need to know anything. Yes I'm on a diet and if you want to know how I'm losing weight... watch me eat and do what I do. Otherwise stand back and watch the transformation!!!

I think for me being on liquids for four weeks reset my brain. Just not eating anything was beyond difficult, but now I appreciate every little thing I can eat. I'm only a month out so maybe that will change.
But today I went to a party. Normally I would have tried all the dip, had a hamburger, maybe two, then had more dip, then had dessert. Today all I had was a few ounces of fruit. And it was really good. I didn't feel deprived. I just was so happy that I had control over food instead of it having control over me.
When you can only eat a little at a time you just make damn sure what you do eat is really healthy and tastes good.
Hopefully I can keep that up. I thought I would miss having big meals but I just don't. I feel like I have a super power now.

I think for me being on liquids for four weeks reset my brain. Just not eating anything was beyond difficult, but now I appreciate every little thing I can eat. I'm only a month out so maybe that will change.
But today I went to a party. Normally I would have tried all the dip, had a hamburger, maybe two, then had more dip, then had dessert. Today all I had was a few ounces of fruit. And it was really good. I didn't feel deprived. I just was so happy that I had control over food instead of it having control over me.
When you can only eat a little at a time you just make damn sure what you do eat is really healthy and tastes good.
Hopefully I can keep that up. I thought I would miss having big meals but I just don't. I feel like I have a super power now.

I would call your surgeon or speak to a nurse. At 8 weeks out I would think you shouldn't have any pain anymore. Are you on a daily antacid? If not, the rumbling and hurting could be from heartburn. Even on a daily dose antacid, I still get the burning and rumbling in my stomach in the evening.

Good for you!
I had my month appointment today. I'm ok to eat soft solids. I have lost 22 pounds since surgery, 15 before surgery.
I ate an actual real meal today with my family. It was very nice. I couldn't believe the small amount of food satisfied me.
I feel better being able to eat real food!

Thanks, I'm researching herbal alternatives. (Not MJ LOL)

Is this his requirement or the insurance company?
Honestly I would change surgeons if it's his requirement.

That is awesome! Love it!
How about "Hey judgemental bitch, I hate to tell you this, but I used to be you. So pat yourself on the back for being so cool as to praise my fat ass for working out, but remember you are one car accident, one fall, one major trauma away from being me.
The sad thing is I can lose the weight but you will probably always be an as$."

Hi! I have always been a fan of alternative health and eastern medicine.
I was actually really really mourning the fact that my last resort was using western medicine! Like I seriously was depressed that none of the other things I did worked.
I used to do yoga a lot but my belly was so in my way I was uncomfortable. I think I'm going to try again with gentle yoga.
I also work with a hypnotherapist who does Reiki and energy work for me.
I want to get a meditation practice going. I know I need to rebuild my spiritual life if I'm going to keep this weight off.